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DoubleFingers:
Hmm!

Sure, we won't live for ever. But nobody wants to die young.

Thanks for your input, though.

You think the die will only apply when she is married to you?
Or you think you must be married to someone before their can have revelation about what the devil is planning for you ?

Pray Sir.
This has nothing to do with your marriage plans

For years I looked for that loud voice to speak and give me direction like the Samuel experience . But I never did.

But I now know how he speaks to me. Discernment. Through the scripture(it drops occasionally in my subconscious but often very clear) I always had it But never took it serious or just ignored to believe what I wanted to believe at a particular time


You have it too. Peace in a relationship means your spirit approves of it.
People will generally have bad dream. Your response to it should be Prayer. For surely they must gather, but the both of you can stand in agreement to dislodge it. Whatever be the meaning of the dream, Christ has paid it all on the cross. Just apply it.. Pray for one another. That's what the body of Christ stands for. You don't just walk away because he or she has a not so clear future. You have the authority, you can change it because Christ has paid in full.

The decision to marry is strictly on you . Don't expect anyone to see anything for you. If your heart is at peace then that is where it wants to be.

Look for Josh Bamiloye's proposal story on YouTube. Let it guide you.

Cc; DoubleFingers

It's not always the job but what are you spending the money on?.
Spend according to your earning

Provided it is Nigerian that will work there and they know it is government that employed them.

You will still be wasting your time

Op
May God give you the grace to travel.
That's all I can say.


BTW
I was in Kano 2016. I love how solid northern roads were. I love the affordability. But your waters are terrible. Made me break out terribly.

Mentioning Dubai and kano in the same sentence is an insult to human reasoning. You need to step up your game. You can still play politics but pls be intelligent about it.

I am more worried about your wife.

Her own topic will be

'I regret marrying the father of my triplets"

And then she will go on to narrate what it looks like raising 3 babies all by oneself, no help, no family with a husband that nags and won't still provide enough money for children's upkeep or even provide food for the family but prefers to send money home and keep more to himself.


That girl go don dey think of sucide sef
I had post partum depression haggling one baby and hubby with no help. I can imagine what life feels like for her now


Pls save this woman.
Help her

Sit her down and explain your finance to her, your goals , your plan.
.Let her think of how she can help the family.
How she can contribution and how you can both make money as a family.

3 babies is a lot of expenses and she not knowing your full financial capabilities is why she is demanding more or saying you are stingy.

Build your home together
That's what marriage is
I know you were not ready but now that you are in it, you have to make yourself ready to raise this kids well and give them the best.

I just hope she is on family planning o, this one you are more interested in sex than any other thing. Pls don't bring more children to this world in this condition. Plan. Sit her down and plan together. Women are happier when involved in planning family and her happiness can change your finances. Most men don't know this.

HBB1:
I had horrible side effects after the 1st dose... really horrible!

Some people however don't have the minutest problems.
They are up and about the very next moment.

To take 2nd dose sef, na to start paracetamol 2 days before the shot.

So you will go take the 2nd?

I know you think your wife's abortion is the reason she is finding it hard to conceive.
But it is not.
She did conceive before.

I will advice to seek the face of God.
If you don't address these spiritually, even the surrogacy won't work. Even a second virgin wife will still not work

In addition to what you have been advised to do, add prayer.
Miracle can change everything

Sorry
You can't change who you are.
Learn to understand what makes you happy and stick to it.
Wanting to be extroverted won't satisfy you either

Hopefulnenye:
with herbs or antibiotics?

Which ever he accepts.

mumchristine:
Thank you so much for your reply, I just did the TVS today, and it reveals that there is a mass in the cervix and fluid in POD meaning there is PID. I did it today cycle day 15. The sonographer is suggesting I go for pap smear to rule out cervical cancer . Honestly I have never cried the way I cried today. Am just tired. I will be seeing my gynae on Thursday. I'll just take all the test to him . I just hope I can get someone that will give me a very strong herbs for infection. Like the agbo women, but I don't know anyone. I feel it's just serious infection causing all these.

Yes treat infection well and go back to check.
Why not mention your location to help with herbal remedy solution

Adeoma:
Since 2018, I have been doing scan. When I take it to the hospital, they tell me it's small and I should get married then TTC.
I did the last scan last year February.
Now, I decided to change the place the hospital recommended for me just yesterday. And I got that result.

My major problem with medical doctors.
Why fold hands and watch fibroid grow when you can advise the person to adjust diet so it doesn't grow.

My dear, since you are TTC, opt for surgery. That size and considering it's been there growing since 2018, it may have even calcified,making it had to disintegrate. Removal is your best bet

Hopefulnenye:
Good day mamas. Please check out this SFA result. What is d best way to treat staph. What do you guys think of the result

Let him treat Staphylococcus comprehensive with spouse.
His parameters are fair. Just the infection and small boosting of motility.

Staph is very stubborn. He must declare full blown war to win it. I believe motility right after he conquers staph will come up

1m

RichAbujaGuy:
Easy fix op, keep dem legs closed and go totally celibate until he finds a new babe.

modify... i re-read the op.

you have butterflies in your stomach for the guy but you then go on to say you don't like him.


i won't insult you by saying seek psychiatric help, just clear up the confusion in your mind and heart on which way you really want to go. And don't let these guys yahoo with a promise of a contract. that's a very unsavory and disrespectful start!

Like seriously?
Every butterfly feeling means love
Wow
Una go love tire o
So you jump on anything that gives you butterflies because you think it's love?
You go feel butterfly tire o

Let me teach you my scope then.

Just avoid communication or seeing him as much as possible .
He should get the msg. But if he insist, like some of then . Sit him down and be as diplomatic as ever. Tell him your heart is somewhere else (we know its not true for now )and you don't want to keep him waiting or deceiving him. Tell him he deserves to be loved and not to be played with
Don't be rude o. Just be as soft as possible.


Except he is the devil incarnate himself. He will move on without plenty drama.

Las las na still heart break. But don't be bitchy about it to save your contract.
I don't understand why people don't believe one will just love to be single and not in a relationship.
It's only the imaginary boyfriend talk that saves me then. Smooth move on. No plenty Drama. It's always work for me

Pls HIV aids is real
Herpes virus
Hepatitis
STDs— particularly chlamydia and gonorrhea. If untreated(many infected women have no symptoms) causes scarring or damage of the fallopian tubes.

Be carefull

If cheating is a deal breaker for you
My dear
Walk away.
'If because it's not a deal breaker for many.
He is even taking permission ahead for the many more to come It's still very early. Better a broken relationship than a broken marriage where vow is now involved.

I can't stand a cheat.
Never lasted with one( that means I saw plenty but i kept runing) and will never be with one.

This is my covenant with God o..
I don't look to the world for validation.

The only solution is the holy spirit and a concrete plan to top up once in a while .


We do 6months top up plan but covid messed our plan small. But we still made it.
It takes 2 people who are willing and ready to make this work.
But it's very possible

Peace of mind is what makes the difference...

If I dash you visa no go o. Be claiming nonsense

I remember my first job offer 20k
Relocated to even take the terrible offer all in the name of humble beginnings. Then oga sent me msg not to resume that I didn't show ethusiasm enough that I want the job. Ethusiasm on top 20k.
I blamed my village people. But we move because I did not top my class for peanuts. Naija is hard o.
But i got 40k next, 60 then 75 at some point before I told myself no more.


Lean on God
Just make sure you are not limiting yourself and mind on top 15k. I would rather handle it as a volunteer job while consistently pushing for the best which I know I deserve. It's more about you and how much you have developed yourself to add value.

I have an nce holder and a bsc graduate under my payrole now. Guess who earns more? The one who gives me value_ the nce holder.

Add value
Be the value. Demand to be be compensated as per value and see the world run to you.

Why you no carry transport fare commot for house ni

bwambasolomon:
In my own case she doesn't earn more than me. We earn same amount, yet she leaves me to bear about 90% to the well being of our Union.
The only reason why this issues came up is because she was asked to contibute a more reasonable amount. So her plans was just to be depending on my money and not doing anything, because according to her that's what her dad does.

Go to married folks and ask them how marriage work. Real marriages. Not the one you read off romance section. You are far from ready

Layormiii:
I honestly think 60/40 is fair enough.

For real
Come down from that horse .
You can't start like this.

A man should be able to take care of himself plus extra 2 people before he can start planning on settling down. Don't go and drag somebody's daughter into a sharing formulae. Batch me till tomorrow; this is what is obtainable and not the fantasy lands most of you live in your heads.

When he has enough and you add yours as a working woman, life becomes good.

But you see these once that have not even married you and is pressing calculator for You, one chance.
Wait till you are married, you will understand that being a wife and a mother is a job role entirely and you deserve every pampering you need to keep your head high and continue to function.

Part of Op issue is konji

I can't imagine a guy I am supposedly dating pressing all this calculator for me.
60/40 nawah o

It's not working ni.
Just move on.
The 2 of you are not compatible.
And stop dating girls that earn exactly 2what you earn. All this calculation is not necessary.

To love is a decision not a feeling