₦airaland Forum

Lucyspa:
Babe, u re a girl, so u have inner instincts that speak to you in times of troubles. The main reason you even came here to talk about this issue is because it is bothering you already and that is not a good sign. A man who loves will willingly do things for you without you having to ask. I don't think that man loves you to be honest. I've been in this sort of situation before and it didn't take long before i broke up with him. That relationship made me unhappy and constantly tired. Infact, before i broke up with him, i started dating this guy that spoilt me silly and i became happy. The greatest need of an average Nigerian guy in a relationship is SEX while that of a woman is constant care and money. If you constantly give a man sex while he doesn't give u care and money, u will be unhappy like u are now. U can talk to him and see his reply. If he doesn't give you a reasonable reply, prepare ur mind for a breakup

What of those that can't give sex

One complain most independent women have.

My dear, just start asking.
You have babied him into thinking you can handle it all. It's time to speak up. How he handles it when you speak up is what will determine the next action you will take.

I have been in this kinda situation and I took the walk away route because I couldnt bring myself to ask. I just felt he should know without me saying anything. But he insisted I could have just spoken to him about It, instead of walking away. We all learn everyday. We got back together. It's been 6yrs friendship and 4yrs in marriage and I don't lack anything except the things I don't ask for.

Learn to speak up just like I did. Forget all these "he is not my father talk" .He is your friend. Share your financial issues just as you would share with a friend. Simple

Mummymahdi:
Financial stability doesn't guarantee peaceful marriage, if ii were u I will see is this my love having good view just that no money? This is my 21yrs in marriage I choose love over rich guy then and till date that love bond us back whenever there s rift, though am sure am just lucky my man does t drink, keep or hangout with friends nor womanize publicly. Love is the key t o long lasting union especially if u are independent or working class. Think well don't pay much attention to material things nor others view. Pray about it and follow ur mind. May God guide u

He pays the basic family bills . Atleast he did wedding with his money not yours.
Thats why you chose him. Leave this your love talk

Help him set up a financial system that will work for him.
Help him job hunt or start up a business that can help him. Pray for him. Money is more spiritual than physical

But pls do this with an open mind just as you will do for a girlfriend that your appreciate spending time around. Don't tie marriage to it. Just see it as helping a friend stand in life. If marriage comes, ok and fine. If it doesn't, no problem.

Your last statement /question makes it look like your aunty is pushing you to marry for money. No she is not.
You can still get a financially stable man who makes you feel at home and be yourself around him. When you do, its a win win for you.

Just make sure you settle with that one that makes you feel at home but also is financially ready to bear family responsibility. Marriage requires finance. You don't need to have it all but a man must be able to feed himself and 2 extra mouths before he enters. If not, wahala go dey o. Sister , you will carry family load tire and women are not wired naturally to carry that wholeheartedly_plenty fight must follow it.

Be wise

cybug:
She didn't know any history... It was later he got to know they were friends.

The OP easily falls for pretty girls.

His weak point

It's simple.
Now that she knows, let her simply walk away

I no blame you. I blame lady B.
No girlcode.
I know Lady A kinda personality, she will rather die than see you marry B. B no try. You don't go dating your friend's ex knowing fully well their history.

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mrex911:
Hi Nairalanders, ur advice is seriously needed here. No insults pls.
I've been struggling with Masturbation and pornography addiction for the past 15 years.
I've tried all I could to stop but all to no avail.
I've prayed and fasted so many times with no tangible result. What happens is that;
I'll stop for like six(6) months without endulging in it. But once am down I see myself in the act again.
It has been filled with ups and downs all dis years.
Anytime I endulge in it the aftermath is filled with regrets, guilt, shame and loss of inner power.
I always fill sad and empty afterwards.
I really don't know what to do again, I seriously need help. My relationship with God is as take here.
Pls help a brother.
U advice will be appreciated.

SomeAddiction may require impactation when you keep falling back to it. There are spirits behind them. Firstly speak to the spirit to leave you.
If you know someone with the gift of miracle, share your struggle and Hold hands with them in agreement.
It's not everything you can achieve as an individual in Christianity. The body of Christ work together for mutual edification.

Once the spirit behind it is cast out, everything about this struggle ends, except you personally gave it room to get a hold of you again.

Taa
Your network has nothing to do with male or female. It's all about you , your circle and how much you show up for others too.

quaintbloke:
Dreadlock69, you would do well not to listen to those here who are saying its spiritual or whatever.
Sleep paralysis does happen to many people and its really not an issue. Nearly everyone would have experienced some form of it in their lifetime.
It could be as subtle as feeling of being pressed in your sleep or feeling of being tied down.
Some experience it while falling asleep (hypnagogic) or just before waking (hypnapompic)
What you could do is have a regular sleep pattern, avoid late heavy meals, bedtime smoking or alcohol or caffeine. You can also manage stress and anxiety if you have one or speak to your doctor if you have ptsd.

cc roseey0

I am more stressed now than ever. I have never and will never have that experience ever again. I know what am saying.

See eh
If I share my "sleep paralysis" experience , Nairaland will not contain it. Or is it the broad day trance that you feel like you are falling into a deep dark hole and then you suddenly jerk up consciously.
I have had those in the past. But never again.
I know where I stand now.

Op should better pray o
That's my own.

I know they will say its a medical condition but pls pray.
Devil is feeding off on those calling it ordinary.

Ever since I started engaging the supernatural I have never had those nonsense.
This is me that can't go a full week without it in the past when I was younger.

Tell your cousin to stop looking for excuse and break up already.

I dey pity the girl because she is the only one in luv here.I hope she moves on fast.

When did relocation become a reason to breakup with someone. Oga just wants to be free. Let him free the babe biko

I don pack shit shaa

Will send a mail soon�

surebona:
Sincerely speaking I caused it all... Please don't criticize me, I am human, I cheated on her, and could not hold myself but to tell her...

But Oga you go dey alright last last.
Just count it as loss for your sin and try and move on. We all lose things from time to time. Just remember that in life some doors are destined to close so that some others door will open for us.

Lastly, delete everything that remind you about the other party for now. You can reconnect when you are over it.
You think you are the heartbroken here but she is worse broken than you. You threw away 6yrs because of 10mins pleasure. Epele

Pls come home Sir.
Come home to the people who love you.
I don't know how people take up army Jobs in this country o.

Perfectsouth:
even till this morning, I still prayed for her

Bring her to personal knowledge of God. Don't give up on her. We often try to do it ourselves thats why we fail. Believe in the revolutional power of God and go deeper in him. Desperate situations requires desperate measures. It's demons that posses people to do these things. Casting it it out and restoring her requires a deeper walk with God.

Except your didn't take your marriage vows. Your souls are still tied together. You will always go back to her

Asides praying for yourself.
Have you prayed for her ?
All she needs is a one on one with God.

Charlotte911:
thanka MA I will follow the tips, what is BSM

Blackstrap molasses.
Apple cider vinegar with mother

Charlotte911:
Hi mamas how can one treat ovarian cyst and a small myoma in the womb, the results reads left functional ovarian cyst and interal mural uterine myoma , either drugs or herb, and what kind of diet can I go on , to avoid making y
Them grow bigger

Do BSM and AcV.
Use it along with clean point yoni detox pearl. Eat a garlic clove daily.
Keep away all processed food, sugars and execise often to enhance blood flow.
Get liver supplements or Google home liver detox and do it often. If your fibroid is less than 2 cm, it will go off within 2-3months.

Pls pray o.
I have seen things in this journey. Some things are just what the devil puts up there to divert our attention and make us spend money. Make sure your spiritual alter is blazing with fire.

Acidosis:
It's not always about political affiliations. The government may be bad but I always tell people to take advantage of any opportunity as most of these applications don't cost a thing.

Although application for the MSME arm of the programme is closed, this should serve as lessons to future opportunities. Over the past 6 months, not less than 7 empowerment opportunities have emerged under the same Buhari government.

All that was required for the MSME survival fund are: details of the business, CAC number, BVN of the business owner, and bank details of 3-10 employees. Mind you, majority used their relative/family details as employees. Now, alerts have started coming in.

CBN Covid19 fund was even easier as all that was required was BVN, phone number, and other household details.

Make God no allow us pay debt we no owe. CBN has distributed not less 75 billion to Nigerians in the past 6 months (these are facts as many Nairalanders have even benefited on various threads). Imagine sharing all these monies without getting a kobo because while announcements were being made, we were castigating Buhari.

At the end of the day, both the beneficiaries and non beneficiaries will pay these debts via tax, increase fuel price, VAT,
increased electricity tarriff, etc.

Pls is anyone still ongong

Port harcourt didn't witness any vandalism.
Most people predicted doom but mercy said no.

Go to Obigbo and tour

Good stuff
May their souls continue to rest in peace

This country nawah.

Mannnez:
In my case, I didn't even know till the crisis started. Her closest friends didn't know either.

Going by hers.
It happens in her previous pregnancies. So it's not new. I will be very worried if her family doesnt know.

Mannnez:
She might be saying the truth. I once dated a lady with bipolar disorder, she called off the relationship 4 times in a space of 2 weeks during her crisis cos she refused to take her drugs. She tried commiting suicide on more than 3 occasions. They become so irrational and act strange without their medication.
Bipolar disorder is such a terrible thing if not attended to properly. I'm speaking from experience.

And her family doesnt know?

My only question.
Chacha why does your family not like your husband evn after how many years of marriage?


You go still talk o.
Tonto talked after plenty all the MrX hype.
You will some day.
Maybe not now.

Get well soon.

Grateful for the back to back zero deaths Lord. Thank you Lord