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Anigreat:
I'm sorry to bother you all this early morning with this my story.

Apologies for any blunders spotted, and sorry for the lengthy post.

A have a niece who unfortunately the mother died when she was barely a month old, and her mother was my only sibling as my mother gave birth to two of us, remaining only me now. Her death was really painful to us, but i thank God for consoling us especially my mother.

During her pregnancy, she never made mentioned of the person responsible for her pregnancy inspite of my mother's threat. When the inevitable happened we had no other option than to adopt the child. We were praying earnestly that the child should survive, and glory to God she did survive as at now she's 14years old and currently in SSS1.

Last week my mum called me that my niece says she's coming to Uyo were i am staying to stay with me since there's no school for now, which i obliged to it immediately. Prior before this call, my girlfriend whom i intended to marry was staying with me. I informed her immediately that my niece is coming to stay with us for a short period of time, immediately i told her this, her countenance change through out that day. I keep on asking her what the matter was but she keep on saying nothing.

Monday last weekmy niece arrived my place.

My dears ever since my niece set her foot in my house, this girlfriend of mine whom i intended to marry turned to something else. She stop cooking, washing and sweeping, all she does is to ordered my niece around as her house help. I was so hurt seeing this that i confronted her thinking that she will change, but she went from bad to worst.

Yesterday morning i overheard her telling my niece to wash the toilet and mop the floor before thinking of eating. My niece replied that she's too tired that she won't be able to do it. (I was actually happy inside when i hear this)

What follows next was a sounding knocked she gave to my niece and the poor girl scream and started crying.

Truth be said, i was so furious that came out of the room. I didn't asked her anything i just told her your cup is full today. I dealt with her seriously. The beating i gave to her was out of this world, that she was bleeding, though later in the day i took her to a nearby clinic for treatment.

I have learnt alot this few days. Men should be careful of the type of women they intend to settle down with.
As some of them will manipulate you that you start hating your family members or stop them from coming to your house if you're not strong. Yes, this is what is going on in our society.


I want her to get well after that i will put an end to the relationship, all marriage plan cancel. Imagine if I've gone ahead to marry her. I will forever live in regret. I can't imagine my niece being maltreated in my own house by my own wife.


If you ask me if i feel sorry for beating her, truth is, there's no atom of regret in me, i feel happy.

Insults are welcome.

Your matter is like putting salt in my mouth after farting in it.
I don't condone domestic violence.
But you're right to end that relationship. She's pretending
Anybody that beats my relative should kukuma beat all of us o.
"Nobody mess with my familia"

kestolove95:
her name is not sinach

I'm sure you know the person I'm referring to.

kestolove95:
At 40, she can't give birth again na, if she want sex mate fine ND if she get pregnant during dia sexting fine...email me if u ok with it so we talk privately

Sinach married at 41, and had her first baby at 45-46, so, what are you talking about?

Unnerve:
Barring the traveling part because he has a job to go to, I think you've got a realistic solution. Although I feel it's best to employ the tactic of choking her out with limited allowances when she is not pregnant.

It's a pragmatic solution. As long as she is well monitored, with God's help, she will put to bed successfully.

lilyheaven:
I hope you will like it, if you are treated same as you have typed.

I won't get pregnant without thoroughly checking my family finances.
It's insensitive.

Toks2008:
Sis. There are sexually timid ladies so your assertion does not hold for all women, some ladies don't like sexing under stress regardless of the serotonin they get after sex.

These "timid ladies" are the exception.

UjuJoan2:
I can't believe I'm actually reading this from a woman. OMG!

You want her to face such pressure in her condition? What about pre-eclemsia? Or is her life expendable because she's broke?

Na wah oh!

She's not broke, she's just not responding to her husband's situation. And she will be monitored.
Don't hyperventilate madam.
How can a few weeks trip kill a pregnant woman?
Long term partners find it hard to listen to each other because of familiarity unless drastic measures are taken.
Like I said, if he is smart about it, it will bring desired results. Everything will be done before her third trimester.

Toks2008:
Its like you think every lady has high libido.

Cheers.

I wasn't talking about libido, Mr.
I can't start explaining stuff here when we are not on sexuality section.
You are matured naw

Unnerve:
Tiresome thread, tiresome responses.

Does anyone actually have a real solution on how to make the wife more driven to earn money for herself, or is it a fool's errand and there's no hope anymore?

Let him travel for a few weeks, and take the kids with him. (Probably travel to see Grandma or some relatives)
Let him leave an allowance behind.
She will sit up once she sees that the money can't cover her needs.
Do it about twice before her third trimester and call her sibling to come stay with her. Monitor things from a distance.
Ask her to chip in money for baby things.
She will sit up.

Toks2008:
Not when she is too tired. I know what im implying.

That's old time mentality.
Update and upgrade Mr.
A woman whose love for you is untainted by resentment over your insensitivity will always be ready anytime.

Toks2008:
At least she won't have the man on her to do list and that alone is a big burden off her neck.

You have no idea how sex drains ladies after a hectic day...

Ehn, bros, no even near that side.
One or two orgasms after a productive day's work is bae to women o.
Do you even talk to married women?
The problem is sex without orgasm!

Timothy6:
Bro so u expect some body like me to read all this Becus of love? Who love epp? Omo 9ja girls ae 3 for 5naira abeg.

Plenty girls is not equal to love

Change your topic to:
"Men want to be like this"

EastanPower:
We vowed not to have sex before marriage and we kept to it.

How were you able to discipline yourselves before marriage?
You guys should meet in the middle. That's what marriage is all about.

Tajbol4splend:
Unless you don't want to talk about it, yes there is

Out with it then, if you have something to say.

Tajbol4splend:
What

Nothing o

Tajbol4splend:
Ok like the one I'm having right now

Hmmmmm

Nukubib:
this made me burst out in laughter. You are not nice o.

Never mind jare.
A lot of these girls will stay with their boyfriends for years, even with the horrible treatment they are getting, waiting for their reward for a meritorious service, proposal.

abdeiz:
Apparently she also runs her own business too.

Tell her to chin up, and walk away.
Plenty fish in the ocean.

Tajbol4splend:
3-day stubble, what's that?

It's the small hairs growing back after shaving. 3- day means three days after shaving. You can call the short hair 5-day, 4- day, etc.

Tajbol4splend:
Bush, na hin you dey call beard, you are being disrespectful to men

Sorry
I like 3-day stubble, plus a nicely trimmed moustache.
No offense to the beard gang.

abdeiz:
A friend of mine poured out her heart to me and I am at a loss on what to tell her.

Her long term boyfriend isn't treating her right and she is not happy in the relationship despite being in love with him. She has been with him when he had nothing, now he owns his house, two cars and a business and job. He is also handsome so I guess that gets into his head.

Ever since he became financially stable his attitude changed. Video calling girls in her presence, not respecting her, emotionally abusive and stingy (according to her). He still stocks up his house with food so she never lacks but whenever the topic of marriage comes up. She gets shouted down on and tells her she's in his plans.

I guess love is really blind. But the fact that she isn't financially independent is more reason why she is still with him IMO.

Should she leave him or wait it out incase he changes?.. Love is really wierd asf.

While he was building his businesses, house and jobs, what was she doing with her life.
Set awon useless girls.

Austeeenxx:
Amen.

Awon weyrey

NaijaCoverBlog:
Where have you been na

I dey try some sturvs jare. What's up.

Tajbol4splend:
That one no clear reach?

E no clear. He was cute without the bush anyway

Mad people everywhere

If anybody tries this with my body ehn,
I will haunt them.

ibkonekt:
evening newspaper

No naw, evening newspaper would have gathered energy to handle you lots, abeg find me something else jare

Hehehe

Tajbol4splend:
Would it matter to you? Check the picture below out

I want to see his real face na

greatiyk4u:
Simpette......

Chaii