₦airaland Forum

Maxxim:
op shey na ur own redpill be dis

Yes o, izz a purple pill joor

sladimeji:
although I agree with you that a woman should work on herself to become a better person but you are wrong about the thread... he's not ready to marry her because he is financially unstable and doesn't want to pull himself and the young lady in an uncomfortable marriage

He should have stayed away from her.
When he was drilling raw, he forgot his financial status ba?
Mtchew
I blame the girl sha.

PrimadonnaO:
I’m creating this thread because I’m so upset! When I read certain stories on Nairaland, I can’t bring myself to believe it’s real... like how can people be so stupid... and then so wicked?

Right now, I’m referring to the thread on front page about the 29 year old man who’s got his girlfriend pregnant and doesn’t want to marry her.

If you’re a young girl reading this, you’re meant to learn from the stories and experiences of other people and be wise! Don’t make foolish mistakes!

So many people do silly things because they didn’t know better, and they never had anyone to advise them.
Let me tell you this for free today! Abstain by all means! Life is safer that way! But if you must have premarital sex, don’t you freaking sleep with a broke man! Don’t! Work on yourself so you can attract better people to your life biko! Don’t sleep with a person you can’t marry! Don’t sleep with a person who lacks a sense of responsibility! My dear, it will end in tears! Because it’s either you end up having (an)abortion at some point in your life, and run the risk of ruining your chances of having a baby ever again... contracting STDs, or you have a child out of wedlock! Having a child out of wedlock is double trauma... your chances of marrying a single responsible man reduces, you’ll be saddled with expenses you didn’t prepare for. An irresponsible father will still fail to cater for his child!

How has a girl of just 22 had multiple abortions in just a space of two years? Ah ah! Some people will just learn their lessons the hard way in this life!

Be wise o! This life is not balanced at all! You have to look out for yourself and do what’s in your best interest per time! Just look at the man she probably thought loved her! What manner of human being who loves a woman would make her abort babies after babies? At 29 his father still sends him money steadily! Mtcheww!

My sister the matter tie gele ooooo

Ishilove
Cococandy
Pocohantas
Bukatyne
Ujujoan
Lavvylily
Smartchoice
Mymynd4u
Abeg help me reason the matter.

Adunny07:
I think I will do that

Na so, you will do the same amount of house chores at home, so what's the biggie?

zexy2030:
I no kon understand women on this thread wey dey like their fathers more than their mum. I hope u r not thinking what I'm thinking.

These ladies were just fortunate enough to be sired by responsible men.
And who told you they don't like their moms, this thread is for fathers.

My Dad is awesome, and he will forever be my hero. He's human of course and he has flaws, but he showed me the meaning of .

Ohhhhh, Nairaland guys have started o.
Don't advice him to stay naw, let him clear road make another man see the girl naw.
Haba.
Shebi one man's food is another man's poison.

Mariangeles:
Living with a man in that condition does not necessarily make one a good person, aka "God sent"
It is never God's will for anyone to live in poverty.
Enough with the emotional blackmail and trickery.
You can only know the true character of a man when he's at least, comfortable, if not rich.
Most men pretend to be humble and faithful to their wives when they've got nothing.

Tell them

Oluromantic:
Poor men wives are usually very fertile

Lots of women can conceive easily, rich or not. If you see few kids in their house, its because they are applying sense.
@topic, they probably started well but things turned south.
In all, it's a bad condition to be in.

To all hard working good hearted women and girls out there

I just dey look you NaeChris
Btw, people spend millions on weddings in SouthWest Nigeria only if they want to show off. Haven't you heard of fathers-in law who bankroll weddings?
Did anyone force you to spend sef?

pocohantas:
A married man that has been hitting on me just named his newborn child after me.

I guess he wants me to know how much he “loves” me, but I am very concerned and worried about the number of women calling their daughters the name of their husband’s sidechick.

May God help us in this marriage something.

They keep taking this thing to the next level.

What?!!!

PrimadonnaO:
A very simple word of advice to young girls.

If you’re not at a marriageable age, forget about dating way older guys. Most of them are only looking to catch fun, and already have a serious relationship going on somewhere.

Generally, avoid guys who are too old to be single. They are either married... or deeply involved in a relationship. If they are absolutely single, chances that something’s inherently wrong with them. Let them just remain single forever.

But of course, with every rule, there’s an exception. Just be very discerning.

Thanks

Incel:
Hahahaha
From the comments so far, most ladies found out through social media.
Me I'm deactivating my Facebook immediately after wedding.

Okay o, girls don dey wise up sha

olaniyilukman:
Which love exactly are you people shouting up and down, love doesn't exist and the same thing goes for religion.. Stop being deceive with these unrealistic concept

So, would you rather have her get pregnant and breed kids like a common dog just because of your bro code.
Not all men are crude and badly trained like the lots of you.
Confusedgirl869, if you believe it, you will be properly married and honored by a quality man. Love, between a man and a woman is called Eros, and it is possible for you to find a good man who will demonstrate genuine Eros to you. You just have to believe.

Confusedgirl869:
It's not uyail. My main is quite popular, I don't want this nairaland boys trolling me with my problem, you know how they are.

Sorry darling, just want you to know that some people care about you.
Please don't allow one selfish guy to rob you of long term happiness. At least, you have a chance of finding love if you're single and without this guy on your neck.
Cheers.

KenBen217:
so I'm not the only one who doesn't want to marry and just want kids

Get them from an orphanage. Is a simple sturvs

Stop rape
Do not rape
Women are not things
Women are not property
Raise your sons better
Be better
Be human
Human not beasts

oyewale0001:
It is well.

Unserious, show of shame protest.

You have a better idea?

All PCMs please remember as you get to camp, Corona virus may be sexually transmitted.

Sermwell:
We had to settle a serious quarrel in my compound today between a lady and the guy she's dating! It's actually a serious relationship because if not for the covid-19 pandemic, they would have been married!

The guy claimed that his woman came to visit him without pre-informing him and the lady was screaming at the top of her voice that she doesn't have to call him before coming.

Some of my neighbors were in support of the guy and I feel it's not right because I'm also dating someone, and we visit each other anytime we like without prior notice!!

Some of my neighbors think otherwise!!
please I need your opinion. Do you think it's wrong to visit someone you are dating without prior notice??

Ladies' FBI tactic 101
Its a must for both parties to do it occasionally

incogni2o:
You are not religious but you shouted Blood of Jesus.

That name have saved me from an Accident in the past and one of my agnostic Friends even testified to how powerful that name is.

after being saved now, instead of being more spiritual, you are still saying you aren't religious.

Next time I'll advice you to make your ways right with God.

The name of the Lord is a strong tower, The Righteous runneth into it and his saved.

The Lord hath no Pleasure in the Death of a Sinner, but that the Dinner may come to repentance.

Everyday is another chance for everyone for making our ways right and be more prepared.

Congratulations for the now good Health.

God bless you for this

Justbehave:
I hate incomplete stories. It keeps me in suspense my dear.

Shall we invite the men in question to defend themselves?
Oga don't derail the thread.

Justbehave:
All lies. Talking trash after dem don bang Una.

How did that become your headache?

Stop stringing women along when you haven't got your life in good order.
Be a good man.

Sometime in February, I asked my son to dress up properly coz we were going out. He asks if he should tell his sisters to dress up too and I say no - We are going out on a date! Just two of us!

His emotions were mixed I guess. The excitement of going out for a meal and the embarrassment of being seen with your mum at 15. �
Going out with me of course also meant dressing properly, no falling trousers, proper shoes, proper hair, smelling good etc etc �

It was shortly after Valentine's day and I had had a little skit with Mr Man. I also had seen some stories re domestic violence and abuse by some men on their women and I realised that a lot of effort goes to training women on how they should act but never the men.

Before getting into the car, i stood by the door and asked him to open my door for me.
"Why?" He asked

"Because it is what a gentleman would do" I say. "Don't you see your father open doors for me when we go out?" He affirms.

After some eye rolling, he comes and opens the door for me and goes to his seat. I drive us to a restaurant and when he gets there, opens the door, and goes out. I honk and motion for him to come to my side. More eyes rolling. He opens the door for me while staring into space.

"Please take my arm and help me out of the car" I say. He looks at me like i am out of my mind. He obliges and grabs my hand with a sigh.

"When you open the door for me, you have to watch that i do not miss my step" I say. "Do you understand why you must pay attention?" He nods

"Will you hold my handbag and hold my arm as we walk?" I ask.

There I got a categoric "NO". ��

I decide not to push it.

When we get to the restaurant, he walks to his table and sits.

I clear my throat.

"What now?" He asks looking exasperated.

"Please pull out my chair" I say.

More rolling of eyes. He gets up pulls out my chair. I sit and he adjusts it for me.

His meal arrives before mine and before he digs in even forgetting to say Grace ��‍♀️ No sir you can't wolf down your food. You have to wait for mine to get here so we eat together. Frustration but hey...you are with mum.

...and then we talked. We really talked. I told him as a man, it is his responsibility to treat a woman right. To take care of and protect his sisters and in same way protect any future woman he will marry.

You see, everyday we "educate" the girl child. We teach them how to talk, walk, how to avoid being victims but we never teach the boys how not to be perpetrators of such crimes.

It is time that we as parents start educating our boys on what it means to be a man and possibly a future father.
It is time we start talking to them and understanding their frustrations rather than leaving them to take it out on defenseless females.

The men who rape are our children.
The men who harass are our children.
The men who beat up women are our children.

The grown ups may have failed but we have a chance to save the next generation.
#WOMEN LETS EDUCATE OUR BOYS

#WE SAY NO TO RAPE��❌

WHO IS GROOMING THE BOYS?

Right from when I can remember being a girl, I was bombarded with subtle, Covert, overt trainings and awareness of my feminity and responsibilities as a female.

I had baby toys.
I bathed them.
Fed them.
Backed them.
Put them to sleep when they 'fretted'
I recall putting my dolls to my flat chest to give them suck.
I was grooming for my role later in life.

I was made to help out in the kitchen. Taught to set the table.
Taught to keep the house clean.
Tidy up the bed.
Sweep.
Wash.
And I was always told "when you get to your husband's house.." "When you marry.. In your husband's house..."
"When you have your children..."
We watched our mothers practicalize what they taught us, so, it wasn't just empty lectures.

Today, we are where our mothers used to be and we are repeating history. Teaching our girls to be ladies, wives, mothers.

But who is teaching the boys
Who is teaching them to be good men, gentlemen, husbands, fathers?

Well, I think I need to post this story here.
I'm coming.

yazga:
I saw some signs but he denied and gave me a 100 reasons why he is not married.

My sis fear men! He would follow me to church and everywhere, we do prayers together sef, this guy can call me 10 times a day. He almost followed me to my elder sisters wedding then so he could use the opportunity to introduce himself to my family. It was his friend who was jealous of our relationship that revealed the truth to me. Fear men!

Many years after the damage, this guy still contacted me to tell me he loves me. I told him I don't know him and his name doesn't ring a bell. He sounded very sad and since then never contacted me again....this life!

Chai

QuinModah:
It was back then in 2013 while I was still in school. I asked this guy if he was married, he said no but my spirit kept telling me he's married.

So one day, I used my lodge mate's phone number to put a call across to him telling him am mama Ada that I want to speak with his wife that her line isn't reachable and I really need to repay the loan she gave me before I squander the money, on hearing that he started screaming ''Mummy mummy bia onwere Onye na akpo gi'' (mummy mummy come someone is calling u). I quietly switched off the phone . I later asked him if it was worth denying your wife and kids because you want what you may never get, and he couldn't answer.

Liars and pretenders, may God protect us from them