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efficiencie:
Does it matter what "you people" call a lady? Does it matter for how long she will last in her marriage? Does it matter whether she will be married at all? I strongly believe one thing. No hardworking, sincere and godly man will put anything but character, purpose and destiny ahead as a criteria for choosing a spouse. Why will I pay bride price, dole out money for wedding and drain my finance on setting up for family all for a lady who will spread her legs for a neighbor who didn't even buy her bottle water as a gift during her wedding... If you are a good thing, an asset, a blessing as a lady, men will fall over themselves to marry you and you would sieve the chaff from the wheat and get into a blissful marriage!

ZionMyWorld:
We are gentlemen, we are not violent regardless of public perception.... lol

Thanks for your advice.

coker007:
So last night my younger brother and I got talking about life, religion and progress,
Most times I'm the one leading the conversations; we'll talk about some of the things listed above and i'll share my ideas ( I'm an introvert I don't enjoy talking)
So yesterday he (my younger brother) struck a topic on the parable of the workers in the vineyard ( it's in Mathew chapter 20) and our convo took off from there, we got talking about our belief our hopes our loss and our aspirations
Like I said earlier I'm usually the one speaking most times but it turned out my brother had a lot to say
He was talking about he's aspirations and how he would like to find his passion and all when the topic turned changed and we got talking about ideas and he started talking about this big business plan that may a may it may not be the future but you could sutrly tell it's huge he was talking when suddenly he was like ' I can't be telling you my plans' and he stood up and left me there....I was heart broken and confused
My younger brother and I both Live together we both work and I'm mostly the one offering things up for our benefit, I share everything I'm able to lay my grasp on equally with him I fancy myself as fair and loyal
But it turns out my brother is keeping things from me when we are at a time when we need each other the most, he's being discreet while I lay all my cards on the table for both of us
I've come to the conclusion that he's selfish and he'll betray me when the time comes
But what i'm hurting about is my feelings itsi making me very indecisive and anxious I really don't know what to do or how to react
I need opinions, advice and instructions

P.S: I purposely didn't talk about my parents and other siblings we are detached from them on purpose. We took the train pass for ride or die, but it turns out my younger brother isn't really on board he's tryna pull a front here �

sweetiliciouz:
please do not ever say women are at fault ,how about men ? my mom divorced my dad and yes am in support of her divorcing him after 23 years ,imagine a man telling a lie to a 20 year old lady that he has certificates (studied architecture ,lied about his age and so many other things ) ,just for my mom to discover after bn married to him that they were all lies ,if not that she is a graduate of chem eng which has been helping her ,I swear life will be difficult.
my dad right from when I was born till date and that of my siblings he has never paid a dime on us (school fess ,food upkeep ,any other thing ) all he does is to fold his legs. mom paid her labour bills for I and my siblings ,d house we live in mom built it and all d furnitures in it she bought them ,she gives him money for different business (huge sums and all he does is to bet naija or sell some furnitures in the house or fold his legs ) I can't even state all what he has done but please do not say women are the issue .....if not for my mom I wouldn't be a graduate ,I and my siblings won't go to school , father doesn't call ,if I ask him he will say borrow from your friends na, ... can u imagine that!!?

odisman:
Sex before marriage is wrong. God's opinion so respect that. Keep your body holy, and wait for the right man. Who did this to us as a society? Moral decadence is alarming.

efficiencie:
My question is: why are women so unfortunate to ever agree to marry such a person? why do women almost never focus on the content of character in their choice of a spouse? why do women fall for very frivolous things and not the core aspects of a persons psyche? This is the question ladies need to answer sincerely. Yes, there are young males raised in terrible environments (so are most young females today) but why do ladies settle to marry without considering character as the foremost criterion?

bukatyne:
What does the bolded mean?

Why should a lady want to suffer like your mother?

What makes you think a mother wants her daughter to suffer what she did?

RisenPhoenix:
When you wait too long before you marry, you get comfortable in the self-centred bachelor lifestyle. Any wife after that will be seen as an intruder in your home, eating your food and destroying your appliances. It won't last before you vex pack the 'guest' commot.

shogsman:
If you live in Ondo state ,you’ll understand that the man is the best since the days of ajasin.

midnighter:
Lol smh. I hope he doesnt get to hear about it and sue the site

1Sharon:
I googled the man there isnt really a resemblance

toronto10:
boss you can lie. i don't even believe your story. the man whose picture you posted is a politician in sierra Leone. his name is alhaji apha khan. u can google
him.

EmptyCoconutHead:
ode are u not the one that mentioned me first?
corrupt pdp agent

EmptyCoconutHead:
another pdp looter spotted.
game over for u guys.
Buhari's government will show u pepper till u wail your eyes out.
the era of free money, looting and corruption is over..
go and hustle.

EmptyCoconutHead:
the good luck was for himself and his generations.
but he was a badluck to we nigerians

IgbosNIGHTMARE:
Don't be silly and insensitive...
You are existing because a marriage or coupling worked out, be grateful for that!

tejiri4:
Are you married is usually unmarried ladies that talk like this for consolation of no love