₦airaland Forum

yanabasee:
The bum is flat and unattractive.... Whether plastic or natural... She's got nothing behind her....

Old Baba likes it like that.
None of my biz thou

stabillini:
My wife is a born-again Christian, we have been married for 20years and I have absolute trust in her until recently when she found her ex-boyfriend 4 years ago when she lost her father, the ex got to know about it and sent her 50k to cover some burial expenses. Since then they have been having prolonged chatting on whatsapp every day, I have been reading the chats.
Initially it seemed like normal chats like "how was your day?", "good morning, how was your night?" these chats always lead to other small talks.
But recently the chats have taken another turn. Now we have chats like "I couldn't sleep last night, I kept thinking of you" to which my wife would reply "same here". Last night the chat went like this.
Wife: "now that we have found each other, what next?"
Ex: "I am here to reclaim what rightfully belongs to me but was taken away from me 20years ago".
Wife: "don't you think that would be difficult? I'd like to see how you would do that".
Physically I know they have not been seeing each other because we are living in Abeokuta and the ex-boyfriend is living in Kaduna. But these chats are giving me so much worry. I don't know where it's leading to. They might plan to kill me. I have not confronted my wife knowing that the chats will stop and they might go underground. Pls, I need advices of fellow nairalanders

Screenshot those chats, send them to your phone, then delete them on your wife's phone, show them to her pastor, show them to your family when you have called a family meeting comprising of your family, her family, your pastor and hers. Don't be surprised if she opens your own can of worms too.
This is what happens when a couple refuses to undergo couples mentoring and remain teachable even after marriage.
Born again wife my foot

chriskosherbal:
I think the above should also be considered but not an excuse not to care for herself, although conditions/environment/financial power play a role here, cos my sister did the above gave birth to 4 children in 5 years in UK, and she is still looking more like a babe than before, as I said above the conditions/environment BTW UK & naija are different as well as financial power and husband support...

Men should support thier wives at homes, in the kitchen, chores and the likes cos the home is everybody's but women should not take it for granted by mistaken an arm shake for handshake.

Op nice nice nice write up .

You have said it, UK is worlds apart from Nigeria when it comes to postnatal care and partners' understanding.

dominique:
Rolls eyes
When are they going to write lengthy rules and regulations for husbands to abide by or is it only wives that must be guided by rules?

That is why a lot of marriages are having issues, a lot of men have no other template than what they saw their parents model, no guide for men except their friends' advice, which is mostly erroneous.
All will be well.

When a husband and wife refuse to plan their family and pop 4 kids in 5 years. Whereas they got married based on people's advice "get married naw, God will provide for you".
The husband is a traditional man who lifts no finger in the house yet believes a woman must bring something to the table.
So, the poor woman, whose body has not recovered from incessant childbirths, is doing every house chore, tending the kids alone, working a job and dealing with possibly nasty in laws, Uncle only drops money, how will she not look like his mother, how will she get time to take care of her looks, out of 24 hours?

marimaar:
Mine isn't up to 4 years even and It's dead already. Don't even feel any sexual urge for him any longer.
So many things contributed to it to get to this stage it is now and he seems not to bother. It's okay by me sef cos I'm tired of the whole thing.

Really? madam, don't come and post any stories that touch here when yawa gas o, na so e dey take start o, please try to revive the spark o, those girls out there are not smiling. Have you not heard of husbands who went and got it outside, when the woman complains to elders, she gets the blame.

Marriage is a perfect institution being attempted by imperfect people

Takeit2017:
Good advice it all happened last year
Am a type of guy that does not like anything called trouble I always mind my own business and I don't have time for girls just decided to give it a try last year and it ended in tears am done thank God have moved on
Note I don't carry women up And down infant some of my friends are waving calling me gay
That they have never seen me with girl so just to avoid all this I decided to go get a girl

All these guys "getting girls" to prove a point please change this new year.
That is a wrong reason for relationships and marriage.
Sorry OP

Very creepy (Cersei and Jamie Lannister comes to mind)

Thanks for the info

Thank you for the information

Embarrassing

I have decided ignore silly comments this new year, not everyone will be wise.

The man is the problem

enawt:
proffer advice or get off my mention saintmary

Face her and get out of her life, she deserves better.

enawt:
proffer advice or get off my mention saintmary

Face her and get off of her life, she deserves better.

enawt:
Aswear, i dey use B, still dis girl no wan leave oo

Suggestions apart from the ones above and excluding facial confrontation pls anyone

Coward

1mrprolific7:
You ..yes..you reading this .. why aren't you making plans to leave this hellhole? Is this the news you want your kids to read everyday? Tanker explosions are no longer strange to Nigerians anymore because it's a daily occurrence.
Is this life you want your kids to become accustomed to?

Why aren't you making good plans to leave this doomed nation? You probably love it here but I demand a concrete reason for why you want your kids to go through the same desensitization to what a good life actually should be like? They don't deserve this and I'm pleading on their behalf

What are you doing here?
Leave first na

thecloak:
About 10months ago, I met this girl and we connected well like never before and the chemistry Btwn us was intense, we knew we really liked each other so much, we couldn’t go a day without talking to each other, I am in my middle 30’s and into real estate and the business hasn’t really been good nor bad and she is in her late 20’s and in medical school and will be graduating next year.
when I met her i made my intentions known to her bcs she’s the kind of girl I want to be with for a long time, prior b4 we met she told me that her prophet prophesied to her that she will meet someone she really likes but if the guy asked her to marry him she should say NO that she should wait. I told her I’m not asking for her hand in marriage now that I want something serious that will lead somewhere, she said okay let’s see how things progresses, we talked about anything and everything and she was very happy meeting someone like me and she said I was man enough for her.
As time progresses we became so close we had a one time thing but the experience was awkward.
And after that day her mood about everything changed, she didn’t want to talk to me so I had to beg her to forgive me that it won’t happen again, it took about a week before we reconciled and we kept the communication as effective as ever, at a time she said she doesn’t want me to do anything for her so she doesn’t feel indebted to me I said no problem, then problem started last month when they left school for there 3months program in a hospital in the same state which I reside, we do see twice or three times in a week so one of those days, we were in my house and we’re talking and something led to another we kissed and romanced but I didn’t go further I had to stop and boom the next morning she sent me text that she’s not happy and when ever she’s around me she’s not at peace and she’s troubled within her and doesn’t want to be with me so I ignored her, I had to let her be for a while, then we later met and she told me she doesn’t feel her self when ever she’s around me and it takes her days before she can pray and all that and she doesn’t want us to be talking anymore so I was already fed up with her attitude meted towards me and I decided to let her be.

fast forward to 2 weeks ago, my sister was sick and I took her to the same hospital she’s doing her program and accidentally we met and got talking and after my sister was discharged from the hospital she called me that she wants to check on my sis and know how she’s doing so I took her to my family house and after the visit I drove her back to there hostel and when we’re bout saying our goodbyes I told her can I get a peck but she refused and I let her be, and later she texted me that she just wants us to be normal friends and nothing more than that, this was a girl I dedicated 10months of my time to when I already met beautiful and good women I had to let them go because of her.

We were so good to each other but all of a sudden everything changed I’m tired of her flimsy excuses towards everything and from my observation I feel she’s already admiring someone else that’s why she’s giving me this kind of attitude, we have not communicated in about a week so I’ve made my decision already and moved on
I am suspecting 95% she might be the one that wrote a topic few days back that hit the front page with the subject (
I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? ) because it sounds very similar, but niaralanders, ur candid opinions would be of help

Love is not by force. Move on.

safarigirl:
All these tacky men that must wear sunshades indoors, as if they suffer from photosensitive epilepsy

Savage

ArticleBeast:
It is not easy especially for guys. For me, the love will die at once.

To be honest with you, its not easy for females either, though, I will advise the poster to show the lady the picture and evidence, like someone said up there, then a sensible lady will jejely walk away if it is true. How can a woman sleep with two brothers in the name of love and marriage. But wait o, didn't she see their surname before?

morireoluwagba:
I just lost my husband on Sunday..
The News was all over Nairaland and Blogs!

Am so devastated,So Directionless and So Hopeless

May God comfort you madam

God is your strength madam, you will overcome this, hang in there.

Jewessgratitude:
Did you not say you deleted the social media app in your second post? I said it that you're not a straight forward person.

He even tried and bought you another phone, you're complaining that it doesn't browse. By the way, why is a married woman so crazy about browsing? Don't you have other important family stuffs to attend to? And then you're saying you're tired of the marriage because of phone?
It shows you never really loved your Husband in the first place otherwise your attention will be on him, not social media.

A quick on for girls who are not married.
Please dont rush and marry because all your mates are married and then you now settle for any man for the sake of it cos you'll will tire out easily.
If you truly love a man, even if he says lick my ass, youll do it without complain. Girls you and I know this. Its only when you marry a man you dont love, you'll be "beraving" (my little nephew will say beraving. hehehe) like this woman here.

Please wait for that man! That man that you wanna browse life and direct 24/7 without getting tired.
That man you wanna be in his arms through thick and thin
That man you wanna say, "see your big head" and laugh it off when he upsets you. Marry that man.
Dont tie an innocent man down and be punishing him for not being able to find true love hence trying to mange him. If you dont want him, quickly let him go now to avoid stories that touch.

May true love find us and may we find true love.
True love still exist.

Op suit yourself. The same marriage that shacking you that year is turning sour now because of another guy. SMH. Some ladies sha.

You make sense die

In a nutshell, you are dealing with infidelity in your marriage. Get counseling. And build your own life.
Do not allow your husband's behavior to determine your happiness, so, when he does bad things, you will not be affected. It's Christmas o, try to enjoy yourself.

KennyAyodeji:
Good morning great people.

Pls, I need ur advise and no abuse pls.

My hubby from day 1 we no ourselves, he gives me his phone. Even if he put password on phone, and I ask, he tells me straight away.

Last 3 days now, I discovered he called one no often, so I saved d no and asked him who's so so so, but didn't ans me and I left him.
3rd day, I told him if u don't tell me, I won't give u d phone, so I hold d phone, d same no called him, and can't pick d call b4 it end, and she didn't call back. So, I decided to call back with my phone.
Immediately she picked my call, she decided to call me back, so wen she called back, I end d call and call her back and asked her, maybe she has any msg she wanted to pass to him.

So she z is dis so so so wife, I z no. And continued, z her name is so so so, but my hubby came to tell her about me, that they were both even laughing and gisting, that I should not panic, that she just like my hubby bla bla bla... So I asked her, I don't ask u all dis, tell me y u are calling him, but refused and I end d call...

Now my question is dis; my hubby refused to give me his password, which has never happened before for 6yrs ago in my marriage, so I decided to give him his phone. Am I wrong

But not just happy with him at all.
Ur advise pls

Nice

jesusjnr:
I'm sure for you, the disciples of Jesus also had to read Kenneth Hagin's books to understand what it means to speak in tongues.

Trust me, you don't have any idea about speaking in first grade tongues, if not you wouldn't be saying this.

So talk about what you know, if you haven't gotten to this level of tongue speaking yet.

But it seems you're just using that to cover up for your disapproval of the Op.

High level spiritual somborry.
I hail

TrendyNwendy:
Please everyone, I need your suggestions. I had a baby last year, and another this year. I just discovered I'm pregnant again. And I feel visiting the favour room for three consecutive years in a row isn't good health wise. Hubby is suggesting D&C but I'm very scared something might go wrong.

You are calling labor room "favour room". No wonder you find yourself going back there.
Please cooperate with your husband on whatever he wants. I can't say more than this because you should have listened to the nurses at antenatal classes when they were advising you on birth control methods.
I have no position on abortion, live your life however you want is one of my policies, but don't disturb me with it.

LoveElfrida:
Guys I'm not sir abeg, is any of you highly grounded in server-side and client-side scripting?

If yes, which language/s are you proficient with their respect?

To you guys mocking me, y'all don't really know how I feel. I'm really heartbroken guys. A woman of my dream is slipping away from my fingers, I thought that I'd find help here on how to possibly change her mind, I want to build my future with her.

True love is not obsessive, if she doesn't want you for a partner, then let her be.

Preshy561:
I hate it when you guys misspell Igbo language.

Like bringing "m and n" together. This thing doesnt exist in Igbo language.

Its mmebi, mma, mmiri etc
And not nmebi, nma, nmiri.
Thanks for understanding.

Sorry madam, a lot of people love your language but una no gree teach.

AFONAMARO:
This ain't about pretence, but a lady seeing a man as her money bag.

You obviously read were he said he's been giving her some cash whenever she visits, but explained to her this one time about being hard on cash after investing and all.

Was thinking we're looking at the issue logically. Don't tell me you feel a woman is entitled to a man's money once she allows him access to her thighs.

Five thousand naira moneybag

Ladies hustle o, make one guy no con dey do you shakara.