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midnighter:
Im sorry to insult you like this but you must be crazy.

So her husband has the right to age her like wine?

He wants to waste her and mess her up in the house until he thinks nobody will come near her before he allows her to get a life or what?

a la destiny confiscation
smh

healthserve:
It's now becoming a norm now for men in the name of marriages to deliberately ruin women lives. They don't know. They do this deliberately. That's what surprises me.

O ga o

culf:
she is not covering anything, what she did is not for the husband my dear, its for herself. some ladies are too desperate.

I heard of a lady that got pregnant from outside and gave birth, now she is disturbing the guy to get her pregnant again but the guy is dodging her.

There is no reason for such, some couples wait for years before having their kids while others adopt.

Did you think I was supporting such actions?
I was just stating what happens in this society.
Their marriage and its peculiarities is of little concern to me.

Ariza:
Oh well, in this part of the world, a woman is expected to "suffer" with her man as a proof of love.

We no longer have to tailor our lives to their expectations. We are pushing our own dreams now

chriskosherbal:
That reason is just as stupid as the woman who committed the act..what nonsense, except both couples come to that agreement, even at that I will definitely call the Man a big fool for allowing another shag your wife, and the woman a small fool and big Ashawo for sleeping with another man..the end result I swear will still be disastrous.

What happen to adopting a child if they are so desperate to have one.

Mr Man, their family, their children, their business.

referandum:
Hehehehe... Allow him to explain nah. It may not really be what it looks like.

Na so

Djbond:
My 1 and half year old cries a lot. I don't know why. Please is there any drugs I can buy for her

If it were a baby under 6 months it would have been almost normal, but a child over one year crying nonstop, something is afoot. Observe him/her for signs of injury for a few hours. If he/she doesn't stop, take her to the hospital for checks.

The man composed the post for the wife

culf:
is that enough reason?

Have you not heard of cases where a woman got another man to impregnate her so she can cover her husband's secret of impotence?

AnalQueenluci:
Don't hide my gender for me pls , .......Dat i use hard terms dosent make me a male ,
_You shud know am in d military ( kameroum)

Are you sure its safe for you to reveal information about yourself on social media?

Na wa

referandum:
Women and jumping into conclusion is like garri and groundnut.
-Martin Luther 1962.

Johnny on top of a woman doing his business
Chinyere opens door: "What is this?!!, she exclaims
Johnny says: "babe, its not what it looks like, I can explain!"

Emary:
Na lie, jare! It's just to instil fear in their community.

Not a lie, she must have eaten some things upon his coronation.
If you don't want trouble, don't walk away from a Yoruba king.
Don't cheat on him.
Better not to marry him than to have to deal with this mess.

Where are the bridesmaids?

Very simple case, the man is impotent.


A word of advice for couples preparing for marriage: do every test possible,
Medical history
Infections
Blood group
Rhesus factor
Fertility
Birth certificate
All academic qualifications
Previous convictions or if not, thank God
Family sicknesses
Leave no stone unturned
If he/she is not okay with it, japa.

dannyla:
I pray for wisdom because when you're in a predicament, you find it hard to think well so I appreciate everyone who helped/is helping me think. Thanks for the contributions and advices, both the kind and angry sounding ones. I appreciate the time and effort.

I'll find a way to quietly walk away from him.

Yes o, leave him immediately, never stop your business for any man, never never in your life.
Just stop picking up his calls, don't call him, and stay at home if you find yourself itching for him.
Go online and browse, how to get over someone, you'll find so many resources.
Stay away from Grace, she is the kind of friend who will sleep with your husband.
You are better off alone than hanging around bad people.
Start saving up for your own car so that you won't be wowed because of 650,000 naira car.
That man is not special, I repeat, he is not special.

Yummymummy07:
I swear on my father grave my story is 100% true . I had to create this new account just for security protection of me and my daughter

I was mad at you, really mad.
But you are human, and I have to hold my anger in check so I can help you in the little way I can.
You need help, send me a dm so I can find a way to communicate with you (I usually don't communicate with anyone on this website)
If you are real

sassysure:
How do u know it's an old moniker?

I don't even know what to say.

At least pity the sisters. They are innocent

The sisters are not innocent, they are fools!
Oh my God!!!!!!!!
I don't like bashing women but how can your boyfriend be having sex with your sister for years without you finding out.
What kind of a sister is this one, she doesn't even see anything wrong with sleeping with her sisters' men.
I'm typing out of shock
These are sisters from hell!!!
Devilish men smashing their in laws.
Disgusting family!!!!!!

havilla:
Maybe am strange but I see nothing wrong in a man going out with his friends once in a while and coming back at 2am, if you have a close relationship and you trust him what's the big deal? Men love their freedom and sometimes we should respect that.

You go out with your boys, I go out with my girls, baby stays with grandma. Nobody will come and kill my shine.
If she had gone out partying as well, she won't be screaming her lungs off because the man went out. Coming home late would have been a smaller issue.

maryjames9:
Mr Mike Tyson. How many slaps you dey give your own wife and sisters and mother? You sounded like you are very experienced at beating up women. Bravo Hulk Hugan.

Abeg oo, Hulk Hugan is a gentleman. He's not a woman beater.

babestell:
Pack your load and go to your inlaw house too. Tell them you came for vacation too after all her mother is now your mother and her brother is your brother.

They will sharpally arrange family meeting

Now , that's feminism

kulobyno:
So the OP should kill himself for a mistake he has apologized for or allow himself to be manipulated by following her the way house fly follows poo. Over wetin. There's no bed anymore. Such wife would kill her husband with wicked manipulations.

Like I said, its his marriage.

kulobyno:
Well as for me:
1. Hitting you wife is a sign of weakness.
2. Apologizing is a sign of strength and love.
But rubbishing my effort to make amends by involving her parents is a NO NO.
I WILL NEVER apologise further because she has made things even.
Whether she decides to stay or leave is her business but trust me I won't care anymore.

This is meant for the OP
See woman beater in training.
So, since you have apologized, and she is adamant, you will kuku build for yourself a broken home.
You better go and restore your home and prevent further stories that touch.
Or you think Nairalanders will live in your marriage with you.
However you make your bed, you, your wife and your baby will lie in it.

Y'all are just beefing, you know you don't have it, and you know you might not be able to achieve such level of success

DenreleDave:
I think doing wedding is a bad idea. How can you spend your life savings on a woman when then end result is children and responsibilities. As in, I have seen many ladies that have been bleeped and bleeped several times, several body counts. So one man will come and spend his life saving on such woman.

How can a man spend all the money he has saved on a lady who is a virgin or not a virgin sef when he will still have to cater for responsibilities after wedding?

As in, my guys for there carry lady come sleep anyhow and later later, another man go carry this lady, wan kill himself untop her, they run helter skelter on top her. What do we guys tend to benefit in marriage, is it not just sex and probably kids (kids is both advantage for men n women) but again you get to carry responsibilities upandan.

I'm beginning wedding or even marriage is a scam sef, it's way of bringing a man into slavery.

Maybe baby mama is the way out, I'm beginning to reason with some guys Here on nairaland oooo.. Baby mama things

Guys wake up, I think this marriage and wedding only favors women, we men are at big disadvantage aswear


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I will either show you here the reason why marriage is bad for women, or make a counter thread. I'll be back.

Congratulations Darling




*don't say it, don't say it, don't say it*
Damn, those bones.
God, I don't like bodyshaming.
She's got the title anyways, so, staying slim was worth it.

ebyjoyken:
I spend more time with the kids than he does. When we got married, he asked me to live in the village with his mum and sister my parents refused and asked him to get an apartment for me in the city. Which he later did. Since then he hated my family for challenging him.

What kind of a man wants his wife to live in the village? What kind of family butts into their daughter's marriage?
Madam, are you a full housewife? I doubt if your husband will ask you to leave your job or pack up your business so you can live with his family in the village.
So far you have given us little information to go on, and mature people need more information so they can better understand your situation and give you sound advice.

A man who has money but is stingy to his own family, tufiakwa

alphaNomega:
1. He is building a house somewhere

2. A long term strategy to get his daughters married off as early as possible. Trying not to make the house too comfortable for his daughters.

That is a savage Dad, no wonder girls are clamoring to get married so they can get away from their own families.

REST ON MAN OF GOD

I've been wondering, you just met your dream kind of man/woman, first few days you both fond of each other, chatting, calling and texting each other, as a guy everything you say is funny, as a woman you re washed with compliments, sweet talks, you guys hang out and all that. Next thing he invites you over or as a guy you invite her over.
Then the real deal happens, sex!!!!!!!

Then next thing no more calls, even as a lady you no more find him funny, then wide communication gap sets in, next thing is just hello, hi and it ends there.

What exactly could be responsible for this my country men and women??

Promiscuity