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Yes, that's a very callous user. If you don't trust them then why are you going to them for favours?

maasoap:
That's a very bad idea and act. It is not good at all not trusting anyone in your family but still keep asking them for favours.

Building her house in secret - YES (Wise decision)
Pretending to be broke - YES (Wise decision)
Pretending to be broke to extort money from loved ones - NO (Very callous of her)

Bros how body?

I will move a motion to amend your post here . I don't think it's about agreeing to all your husband says but agreeing with the final decision. The wife can actually debate with the husband, present facts for better insight into the issue, and offer better suggestions. The submission part, I believe, is in the final decision. Same way people operate in every organization. You push your position but submit to the final decision to avoid anarchy.

In a marriage, the natural skills for a smooth process is already within both parties. They are in the same team and just have to watch out so they don't allow ego or build up of resentment. That is where wisdom comes in.

Hope I did not misinterpret your position.

ednut1:
By agreeing to all your husband says or all his decisions without pushback. A recipe for disaster in today’s society.

Absolutely!

BananaPeel:
You are correct. The thing is, once you are married, situations where spouses argue over whose opinion is correct hardly happens. Ñaturally, there's a flow of mutual respect. The word, submission is not enforced or not even noticed due to high level of understanding between both of them.

In that case, separation or full divorce is the best option. They should stop deceiving each other that they are married. Simple

Jozilinn:
Some men don't deserve respect, respect is one of the key factor of submission, the way you talk Will determine how the other one reacts... entitlement mentality of men in Nigeria and na me own you nahim make marriage dey spoil most times, you don't expect to undervalue your wife and then expect her to be submissive.

Work together as a couple but if there is a conflict on a decision and he feels strongly about it without shifting then you defer to him.

How you see this is up to you and how you ensure that he sees reason if your position seems to be the best choice is also up to you. You have been empowered with many natural skills as a woman to help him see reason and if he still says no then you defer.

If you can't do that then maybe marriage is simply not for you. You are better off by yourself and you won't have to submit to anybody. Marriage is not by fire by force contrary to the mindset of many of our people who can't think for themselves.

How does that affect you? Anybody can be anything on the internet! See example below

ObidenceNeckpre:
But according to these ediots called obidients every igbo family is a billionaire na

That was my thought for several years until I witnessed the production chain across many locations. Some of our people don't have any conscience at all when money is involved.

Dogalmighty17:
Wetin be dis one problem? Our foods are all organic, natural and healthy. Besides right now na to chop any thing wey you see. Na person wey dey comfortable na him dey select.

Looks like the owners of Nairaland never learn. This is a Nigerian discussion forum, you don't have to push Israel-Palestinian or Russian-Ukraine war to your front page. You already have more than enough to discuss about your own country or the continent of Africa. Topics like this could be created but you don't have to push them to the front page. Jeez!

Kudos to the Jagaban of Africa and his predecessor for this wonderful and heartwarming development .

On his part, the Senior Manager Sales, MTN, Emmanuel Okereke, said the organisation is excited to partner with the Federal Government on a road infrastructure tax credit scheme to complete the rehabilitation of the Enugu-Onitsha Expressway.

Okereke said, “This road does not only connect Enugu and Anambra states; it is a gateway to the rest of the country and Africa. Our commitment is to deliver an expressway that will be the pride of the South-East people and Nigerians in general.”

Professor Dele Momodu OOBO (Omo Omo B O) has spoken on the theory of legal absurdity.

KWEZIENU OO

OGwales:
IGBOKWENU

May not be fully related to this story but Nigerians japaing to the US and other places should make sure they fully leverage the system.

Many of our people carry their cheap and myopic mindset abroad. I know many that opted for "higher pay" contract jobs against full-time jobs with all sorts of employee benefits, all sorts of employee insurance & retirement plans but lower take home pay.

Some are hustlers and business owners but gaming the system for higher income and losing out on social security & other benefits to secure their future. There are investment options available for them but they ignore.

For example, past data shows just $6,500 from your paycheck a year invested in Roth IRA, i think, has yielded $60,000 a year average in retirement. Many also get substantial social security monthly paychecks, e.g. $2000 a month SSN check goes a long way but you have to contribute well while active.

We love the bling bling of today, which is good but tomorrow is unknown and our plans must accommodate that. We need to move away from seeing children as retirement plan to leaving generational investment plans to children as beneficiaries.

Too late Mr Hater

Just leave the poor man wey dey fool himself.

Pristine664:
Clowns

If you check very well, it's those Yorubas that are feeding the op sorry ass.

Read all you wrote again and ask yourself if you are normal?

Bigkoko:
Person wey never chop three square balance diet, wan help another person. Talk say my refusal really pain you....na laugh we go only laugh, nothing more other than you go get sense next time to make good decisions, since decisions have consequences.

Comparison between a corrupt, fake life, sanctioned drug dealer, a squeaky clean man and a well spread business & political money bag? Your head correct so? This is the real reason I feel it's a patriotic act to de-radicalize you guys. I believe strongly every sane Nigeria should adopt Western Govt approach at de-radicalizing miscreants. Which is Full Sanctions to aids, helps, assistance or the likes until una brain reset fully.

For now pray you no be like that Ronu guy wey meet me for Amsterdam.

Not believing your story and helping you make better sense of the comparison between Tinubu, Peter Obi and Atiku are not mutually exclusive

We both know this is just you measuring your dick against your imaginary Ronus to hit back at them for your candidate's electoral defeat

Bigkoko:
Hahahaha 🤣🤣🤣🤣. Na you no believe. Na same you dey explain. You lots need to be de-radicalize from Ronuism, APCism and Agberoism.
Forget it for a Ronu wey never de-radicalize. I won't move one finger to help them.

I didn't ask for your explanation either and I don't believe it happened. Simple

Bigkoko:
Figment of imagination. Why you dey explain ni? Who ask you? While you think it's imagination, the baba wey he happen to, get the full breakfast!!! Next time he go remember my words before he make decisions wey get consequences.

All of the Ronu UK branch, go hear am hot. As the housing, inflation and job market squeeze tighter in the UK, I hope they will finally relocate to the New Nigeria built by capo Asiwaju! Lol

My Oga at the top is now The Oga at the top!!! Wonderful world

Mere figments of someone's vivid imagination

On what basis would Peter Obi or Atiku be placed ahead of Tinubu considering that all three have been in power (Anambra Gov, Vice President, Lagos Gov) and we have seen their output? The only tangible thing that could have counted against Tinubu was his health, and it's so far proven to be an exaggerated concern.

Bigkoko:
I then asked him why, someone like him who have had the privilege of living in a sane country would choose Asiwaju when there's a Peter Obi and even Atiku.....baba open mouth dey look me like Ewedu soup whey red oil catch too much.

Very nice. Almost as beautiful as Akure.

Different culture. Live and let live!

Virgin boy with vivid imagination enjoying his online life

GO0DHardDick:
I have chopped and rechopped all my exes. I even chopped one this afternoon till evening. Her breasts and Yansh come big and hence I invited her over, na speed she take come over. Of course she'll be coming over again tomorrow for another rounds.

Men must always learn to end and dump a girl first during relationships. You're instantly seen as a hot Dude with so much options available at your disposal. If she dumps you, it means you'll keep thinking about her, but when reverse becomes the case, you're seen as a KING with multiple options because you go bang her again and again. As a guy, you should be in command and control of your relationship

In Kanu's voice: There is no Tinubu in Aso Rock. What you have there is a clone. His real name is Moutairou from Togo.

You should be learning about the financial market, passive income, professional skills and other useful things in life that will be relevant to you and your family at any age.

Spot on!

finallybusy:
Nothing new. The internet is full of unemployed people with too much time on their hands. The Future, sef, how does he produce sperm when he’s always under the influence? Tems may have gotten pregnant before, but it surely wasn’t from the guy. It was obvious both never crossed paths.

My apologies for my reaction. I thought this was one of those kids here mocking people that opted for IVF option.

Bliss62:
I promoted IVF, you don't have to like it but it's better promoted to help barren women seeking miracles about

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I don't have any issue with IVF and I encourage IVF, that is not the issue with your post.

Bliss62:
I promoted IVF, you don't have to like it but it's better promoted to help barren women seeking miracles about

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... and you need more knowledge or awareness on emotional intelligence. This is Nairaland and you are not new here so you know exactly what you did with that first line of your comment.

To cut the long winding back and forth short, IVF pikin, or not, have nothing to do with what the kids did. You need to know that.

Bliss62:
I think you need to respect others opinion and be civil

You need a refund then.

Bliss62:
And with my Masters degree, I am 100% certain mentioning IVF in the post is genuine and relevant

And I will keep promoting IVF any oppurtunity I get

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To the topic of discussion.

There is a reason why you are made to pass through primary, secondary and higher schools to learn what is relevant or not on any topic, issue or decision-making.

Bliss62:
To you perhaps

It is irrelevant.

Bliss62:
Is it a lie, or is IVF demeaning