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If TRUE LOVE - really existed from both partners

There wouldn't be infidelity to forgive.  Because both partners would be the only ones with the key to the other partner's secret place.  They wouldn't be cheating on each other.

THAT "True Love" that you speak of @ 49cents - would have brought that other partner home.  True Love is not a one way street and it also puts the brakes on acts of infidelity BEFORE THEY OCCUR.

so ONE PARTNER is suppose to "truly love" the other partner who is cheating?  smh

I do definitely agree that "true love" is stronger than "infidelity" as long as true love stops one being unfaithful to the other

I read these comments and smh

Forgiveness is owed to ACCIDENTS - that's what I forgive

INFIDELITY is not AN ACCIDENT - that is an intentional act that the sinner needs GOD TO FORGIVE - NOT ME.

I can't forgive it - for me it is UNFORGIVEABLE - if you cannot pledge your loyalty to my camp - we aren't evenly mated and YOU AND I NEED TO MOVE ON.

This i say with a very clear conscience.

People - I tell you - if you don't stand for something you will FALL FOR ANYTHING. You serve God OR YOU DON'T - there is no gray shaded area - it is black and white.

If you are sexing more than one person why are you in a relationship? I had a female friend who loved to sex different men and used me as an alibi - telling people she was spending the evening at my home or was with me at different events and she actually was with the different men. I had to disengage and cut my ties with her. I don't date or befriend cheaters - neither MALE OR FEMALE.

Ok - I just opened an account on the site and will order from you for Father's Day on June 19 to be delivered in Lagos. yayyyy! I finally found a place and I can now surprise him.

thank you sooo much for responding.

i just went to that site - how do I pay? I am in the U.S. - my credit card doesn't pay in Naira? How can I order online? I pay U.S. dollars on my credit card

J12:
^^ Is that necessary?

yes - you're right - that's the native in me - sometimes I let her out of her cage to air her grievances. hahahahahahaha

sorry - I got a bit irritated reading this thread - my apologies to the OP

Guy - I don't know what to tell you - smh, smh, smh

You actually have me at a loss.

@ OP

HOW DARE YOU!!!

You rotten, low down scum! I order you OUT OF NL - DON'T YOU EVER RETURN!!!

Shy-One spits on the thread and walks out!

Na-Na-Na-Na-Na

ha ha ha

@ GenBuhari

So sorry - I will try - I have never in my  life listed anything in any measurements except pounds and ounces.  I don't know how to convert into metric units such as kg - when we speak here in the U.S. - we don't speak in those terms unless we are in a scientific field - the average person doesn't talk like that - and that's any race in the U.S. if they are a U.S. citizen.  SO this will be a learning lesson for me because I promise I will try to figure it out and try to post in this manner for the group - I will find a converter.

@  babs2011 - thank  you for the encouragement and the shout out.

@ Romeo

5'10"
170 pounds - I think that is 77 kg

I don't diet - I eat what my body craves - I used to drink coffee - NOT ANYMORE - just green tea(hot) - every blue moon I will drink a soda but drink water regularly and daily, I have ALWAYS LOVED WATER - drink 2% milk when eating cereal - I eat cold cereal - 2-3 times a week.  Eat lots of fresh fruit and any vegetable I can get my hand on EVERY SINGLE DAY OR AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE- I crave fruits and vegetables.  Meat and Seafood.  Grilled, Boiiled or Fried - I eat all 3.  Every now and then i want chocolate and will kill anyone that gets in my way.  I will eat my chocolate.  That's usually around the first of the month - I go on a 2 day binge and you might find me sitting in a corner eating about 5 bars of chocolate.  I dare you to say one word.

I don't exercise everyday - the norm is 6 days a week.  When overworked I cut down out of necessity because of workloads.  When I exercise (I think and purge and cry and laugh and sing to God - because for me it is more therapeutic than it is exercise) when I exercise: I either walk twice a day or walk once and bike once - in the wee morning hours upon rising and late at night before bed. 

I love toning and do it to music (ipod) or mindlessly while watching television with a ballet bar - doing precision leg lifts that work thighs, calves and buttocks and work on arms and abs a few minutes every day - 7 days a week.  I primarily walk and jog alot and bike alot to hold down stress - I have VERY HIGH STRESS LEVELS.  My work as well as personal life moves very, very fast.  So I walk alot to maintain a balanced peace of mind versus a physical body weight.  When I walk I focus on "what am I suppose to do next, nature and music" - I avoid people and am in my own world.  I block out noise, traffic and people when outside and get irritated if someone tries to engage me in a verbal exchange.

Also about 7 months of the year no outside activity can be done because of the freezing harsh weather here.  So I have an inside bike and treadmill - to use during those months and if the heat is too oppressive, I walk inside.

I am not hungry in the morning or at lunch time and usually eat around 2-3pm for the first time - it has been my normal routine for quite a while.

Today's Log:

1 whole cucumber - uncooked, uncut - just washed

1 whole hot sandwich on toasted ciabatta bread made with half a tomato sliced and warmed with melted mozzarellla cheese, mushrooms and cooked spinach (Vegetarian Sandwich)
10 baked lays chips

1 whole hot sandwich:
roast beef and cheese - melted on a sandwich bun

5 bottles of water - 20 ounces each = 2.9574 litres

Did not walk today.  Work overload - could not leave office - 16 hour workday.

Surprisingly - I agree with 190

Stay away

What is the point?  Why would you go?  Why would you think twice about this on ANY LEVEL?

Me, personally - the day would come and go and a week or two after the wedding is over - would I even remember the occasion was coming up.  He would have been married  before I even recalled that he was GETTING MARRIED.

My pedicure and manicure, teeth whitening, book reading, swimming, shopping, short and long term goals would have crowded out anything on an event level that involved him and anyone he knows.

DO you - he shouldn't be a thought or a memory.

A BIG FAT NO - TO ARNOLD SCHWARZA-SEX-ADDICT

I hate muscular men - I HAVE NEVER DATED THEM and I DESPISE CHEATERS - SO HE LOSES HANDS DOWN IN MY BOOK.  His money means NOTHING TO ME.  There are more men out there who also have money too and they aren't ugly overlarge in muscle and they have a bit more control over their 3rd leg then Arnie-Boy.

I turn my back on basketball players, soccer players, football players, power weight builders with gross looking veins bulging - ewwwww

Never liked them - ever

I have never met one that didn't have an ego problem here in the U.S. 

I dislike men who think they look better then I do.  I'm the woman - get out of my way and get out of the mirror.  If you spend more time in the mirror than I do.  We are not evenly mated.

All American sports guys think they are God's gift to Women - Well - NOT THIS WOMAN.  I'm not kissing their a.zz - I am not their groupie, I'm not running behind them.  I'm not going to tell them what they want to hear to stroke their over large egos.

I'm not into the yuppie, buppie or jock.

@ Poster

Language regardless of where it originates is ONLY a form of communication.

When your mate - male or female - starts pulling that Foreign Language BS - just start making up words that he/she doesn't understand either and vomit those words at him/her.

That's what I would do.  My guy is Yoruba - if he and I have a disagreement and if he EVER starts speaking Yoruba intentionally after a disagreement (which to this date he has never done) - if he EVER does it - I will give him back what he gives me. 

I find that if a mate starts speaking a foreign language and won't translate it - 9 times out of 10 it is negative and they are A COWARD.

So start making up words and adding it to half words that they know what it means and SPIT IT AT THEM.  Show them that ANYBODY, ANYWHERE ON THE PLANET can do the same thing.  That foreign language crap means nothing.  They ain't slick.  It's done in a manner to hurt you and it's done in a tone of pure disrespect.  It's irrelevant what it means - THE INTENT is the only relevancy.

So to wind the long story short - POSTER SPIT SOME SHYT back at his IGNORANT a.zz.  Then dust your feet and walk away.

Last night - 3 mile walk

This morning - 3 mile walk

This evening - 3 mile walk

Food Log Today:

8  - 20 ounce bottles of water
3 - 16 ounce glasses of orange juice
1 - 16 ounce cup of chili -  made wit beef, cheese, purple onions and beans
6 - crackers (Saltines)
2 - 3 ounce cans of white chicken b.reast with water
10 - crackers (wheat)

late night snack @ 9pm: An unsliced whole cucumber and 2 - 20 ounce bottles of water

@ omo - wow, you are good - great investigative work.

@ Poster

Thank you for opening this thread.

I completely agree with you - she is gorgeous.

And you are commendable for celebrating her in this manner and for giving our people as a race a shout out.

There are times when we need to put "work aside" and take time to breathe, to smell the flowers, to relax and celebrate the good given to us by God.

There are times for forgiveness and there are times when washing your hands and walking away and never looking back for fear of turning into a pillar of salt - Arnold needs forgiveness from God and REAL EFFORT ON HIS PART to learn about being humble, full of humility. He believes his money, movie career and popularity can allow him to do anything and do anybody. Many times "It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle, than for a rich man to enter into the kingdom of God.",

http://www.thedailybeast.com/blogs-and-stories/2011-05-18/arnold-schwarzeneggers-battle-to-keep-his-private-affairs-private/ - See Newspaper article - below are a few excerpts.

If there was anything really shocking about the revelation that Arnold Schwarzenegger had fathered a love child, it's that the revelation was a revelation at all.

Schwarzenegger's reputation as a womanizer was well known before the Los Angeles Times broke the news Monday night that he had fathered a child with a household staffer more than a decade ago. Over the years, scores of women had come forward claiming that Schwarzenegger had behaved in a way that was predatory to them. From time to time, rumors of an out-of-wedlock child made their way into print. But no one could really prove the allegations, and his wife Maria Shriver was a beacon of support for her husband.

Meanwhile, Schwarzenegger apparently went to great lengths to minimize the damage his sexual behavior could cost his career and his marriage. And, it seems, there was much to hide. A well-placed source who worked with Schwarzenegger during the filming of 1999's End of Days told The Daily Beast that two different women on the film were talked out of filing charges against Schwarzenegger for groping them in a rough manner. Reached Tuesday night, a spokesman for Schwarzenegger declined to comment, saying he wanted to be respectful of the family's request for privacy. A message requesting comment from Shriver's rep wasn't returned.

Still, some reporters did occasionally venture where others dared not tread. In 2001, Premiere Magazine published an extensive article documenting Schwarzenegger's peccadilloes. It was a doozey. Among the most damning anecdotes: that during the shoot of Terminator II: Judgment Day, Arnold came out from his trailer one day, walked up to a woman on the crew and "put his hands inside her blouse … and proceeded to pull her breasts out of her bra."

Another time, the magazine reported, a woman producer on one of the star's films got a visit from her then-husband. Upon being introduced to the man, Schwarzenegger reportedly said, "Is this guy the reason why you didn't come up to my hotel room last night and suck my cock?" Schwarzenegger "declined repeated requests from Premiere to be interviewed for this article," the magazine reported.

As the 2003 election wound towards the home stretch, a slew of those women reemerged,

Noooo

many heterosexual men are particular about their looks and they aren't gay.  There are also Gay men who don't have feminine gestures. 

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Gay men are easy to spot - but that isn't what you the poster are asking.  There are Gay men and there are straight men who are on the down low.

What it sounds like you are asking is - it sounds like you are wondering if your man is actually on the down low.  A down low man is bisexual - NOT GAY.  A man such as your boyfriend - IF HE LIKES MEN HE ISN'T GAY - he is considered to be bisexual - IF he likes men and women.  He dates you in the day and secretly and/or in a hidden manner he likes men too.

Gay men like ONLY MEN  - they aren't dating you in public and a man in private.  Gay men are like sister material to their female friends and female family and females period.  They are more familiar with women issues than straight men.  The majority of them do walk, talk and act like women and are feminine in their mannerisms.

You should know the difference.

@ Poster

You know you are a man - you are not a woman - women don't talk like you do. Admit it - you are a man and you made this entire post up. It is fabrication.

Also - FACT: Most Americans give their virginity away for free - they don't think to sell it or to buy it. A large majority of them actually view virginity as a curse and not a blessing. Talk to American teenagers who can't wait "NOT TO BE A VIRGIN."

Hi - I want to join

My name is Shy-One

I don't want to lose any weight

I want to continue to maintain my weight and continue toning on a forum setting such as this - I workout solo and have been for quite some time

I will log later (tomorrow)

I really like what I am seeing here.

@ OP

This is what you do - you get involved in YOUR VIDEO and stop standing on the sidelines listening to the storm of the crowd (him)

IMMEDIATELY focus on you - MENTALLY ban HIM (like NL does us) or you will be miserable and only mentally unban him when he is saying things that are positive and pleasant that work well for the 2 of you.  As soon as you focus on you and your relationship with God - everything will change.

Here is some  Personal Self Development that is Fun and Beneficial for you:
♦  Google English Audio Tapes for free that assist in proper pronunciations
♦  Increase your culinary skills - NL cooking section can help you - shove something in his big mouth when he starts complaining
♦  There are classes you can take online for free that teach all different subjects - http://www.openculture.com/freeonlinecourses
♦  Join the YMCA near you - (swimming, gymnastics, exercise, self-development classes) http://www.cityymca.org/
♦  Find an African Group of women similar that have been imported as well - pull your pastor to the side and ask him - if you don't attend church
push your mate to take you to church where you will meet others like you - push him to do this

Start dressing yourself in pretty colors, put on smell good (perfume) - stop answering him, stay quiet - let him wonder what is going on with you.  Especially stop talking to him when he constantly complains - give him silent treatment - he will figure it out and complain less when you start becoming unresponsive for fear that you will wander.

Keep focusing on you and your development - the more you focus on you the less you will have time to listen to  him and his complaints and he will see your transformation and want to be loving because he will want your attention.  Your self-development will also build your skills which will make you marketable in many areas of your life.

When you build you - it removes power from him to have the ability to crush you mentally.  You will also care less and less about how he feels about you when he goes on his negative rants and when he directs those caustic remarks your way.

Do you boo boo - DO YOU

shy-one tip toes out of thread - tripping 190 on the way out.

@ OP

smh

Even Hell has taken out a restraining order against you.

You are an accountant who cannot even account for your own actions.

A kite flying f.ool.

MzDarkSkin:


[color=indigo]Snap. has a point tho in regards to the light marrying light line.
The American Creoles definitely look like mutations [/color]

Are you mistaking the American Creole with Albino? my mom is Creole - mix of French, Indian, European and black. She is a beautiful mix. Creoles originated from the Louisiana area predominantly here in the U.S.

Most creoles I have ever seen - and I have seen a lot tend to be "beautiful and handsome" - and such a "melting pot" of colors - especially those mixed with black and Indian. There are very big Creole communities in the Louisiana area.

Look at her mother - if her mom battles the bulge most likely the daughter will as well. Not all cases but majority - this is true.

Also, most women - give birth like their mothers as well.

If their mom is in labor for long or for short - generally the daughter follows suite and that is in most cases.

When you meet her - ask to meet her mom. It's like you will be looking in a mirror 20 years up the road.

Maria is going to walk all over him until her feet BLEED!  She is not only enraged for herself, but also for her children and their reputations, for her family name that has been smeared again in 2011 via the man she brought on board. These male and female whores, don't stop long enough to foresee the landslide damage they cause to hundreds of people when they cheat. Maria is also a wealthy, white Kennedy who believes and preaches to the masses about EQUALITY of men and women.  SO the BS that alot of men think that "it is their right to cheat," on no level DOES THAT FLY WITH HER - watch and see if she agrees that he has a right to cheat because he is male. lololololol

The relationship didn't end between the housekeeper and Arnold - how could it end?  They both shared a naughty secret and a child between them, he paid for her silence (you can believe that) - they were probably f, ing for the past 20 years off and on.  He would probably be afraid NOT TO F, K her for fear that she will tell - what came out anyway.

If I recall Arnold was a weight builder immigrant who came from sparse startings who started out as an extra in movies back in the day.  He did everything to work his way up in the movie industry and in the Republican party.

If anyone on NL thinks for half a second that Maria Shriver - a golden Kennedy, is going to sit still and back her husband in this 20 year betrayal - YOU ARE ALL IN DENIAL.  Why should she?  She is from generations of MONEY.  She is used to being revered, cuddled, spoiled, taken care of on many different levels by family and by society.

It's a fact that Arnold kissed her butt to become a part of that family.  Dating her skyrocketed him much further than the movie industry.  She gave him legitimacy, respect in worlds that acting could never do.  People of means took him seriously when he married that Kennedy.  Doors slammed open for him politically and that is fact.

He couldn't have chosen a WORST WAY to fall from grace.  There will be soo many that will turn on him because of her and her family.  They will dust him like the complete i.diot he is, I never understand people who "have it all" and f, k up on this MASSIVE LEVEL ----- Womanliness walking and throwing itself at him and he sticks it to the housekeeper, up close and personal.  But I can promise that he has been sticking it to hundreds of women.  If he chose his own wife's housekeeper - you can bet - he has been doing other women during the entire marriage.

Such a disgrace, humiliation and slap in Maria's face and the horror that his 4 children are now going through and the horror his love child is also experiencing.  Arnold (I'll be back--give me your hand if you want to live) What a big azzzz dummy.  Some people think they are entitled to do whatever they want, when ever they want.  SUPREMELY SELFISH on soooo many different levels.  He has crushed many innocent people. 

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To hold yourself superior to sin, because God made you superior to it and governs man, is true wisdom.

Infidelity to the marriage covenant is the social scourge of all races, "the pestilence that walketh in darkness,, the destruction that wasteth at noonday."

God has endowed man with inalienable rights, among which are self-government, reason, and conscience.  Man is properly self-governed only when he is guided rightly and governed by his Maker, God.

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Ladies - make sure you "choose right" - I pity Maria Shriver and her future generations.  Look at this mishlebach!!!  This will be written in the history books for billions to read now and in the future.  This  has set the stage for his children and children's children.   Maria is now wondering about her own judgment in choosing this bastardo---as this is now a NIGHTMARE OF MAXIMUM PROPORTION that has ended the day she said "I do to the wrong man."  Screw his money, his fame and his family - NONE OF THAT MEANS ANYTHING NOW.

Both Arnold Schwarzenegger and Steven Segal have both had many complaints from women of their loose hands;  Arnold was known to be a womanizer BEFORE HE MARRIED MARIA - that was her warning that she didn't heed before she married him , maybe her money and her isolation from ordinary people prevented her from hearing about him, she should have hired an investigator on him before she said "I do," ----- look at this mess now.

Ladies - you better listen and tread very carefully if you have a boyfriend that is loose before the marriage - think 1000 times before you tie the knot.  If you marry anyway - you only have yourself to blame when you look crazy, wounded, devastated up the road when it blows up in your face IN FRONT OF EVERYONE YOU DO AND DON'T KNOW.

ahahahahahahah - i love this you say - lololololol - yes, this started my Friday night off on the right foot. You are so funny even when you spit truth very strongly.

i completely agree with you

whoever is with you is extremely lucky to have you - you are evolved - you should start teaching men - how to be men

[quote author=omo_to_dun link=topic=671874.msg8363762#msg8363762 date=1305945196]Why do blacks always have to assert ourselves? I have never heard other races calling themselves kings or queens or saying that they are proud to be from that race. They just act it! Words are cheap. Blacks need to work together, stop tribalism, and stop gangsterism. Instead of deceiving ourselves with titles, let us act it!

This makes no sense. People redefine themselves at different times in their lives and they are free to identify with whatever they want to. It is a free world.
Now this is complete bullshit. We don't intend to be rude when we speak our mind. Seriously? Those women bashing threads are unequivocally meant to be biting and rude.
You cannot demand that someone be "the best" when you are not! You actually have no right to demand that of anyone. If the women that you are messing with are sub-par, then the problem is you, not them! Birds of a feather flock together.
The state of a black woman's hair has no correlation with her authenticity as black. If you don't like a woman with wig or a weave on, kindly move on to another woman who braids her hair. There are lots of fishes in the ocean. Please, don't stress yourself over one woman.
Now this tells me that the poster is a complete bush man. If you are hungry, take your whiny [i]a[/i]ss to the kitchen and make yourself something to eat. Cooking for a man is a luxury, not a necessity. Some of us can cook.
I agree.[/quote]

Height does NOT A MAN MAKE - I adore my 5'7 Superman - he is my hero and without question I will take him any time, any day, any hour over ANY MAN.

My babe is large and in charge and I am tickled pink to be in his presence.

Kgdavid:
in truth my opinion expressed on this thread is more of a theoretical analysis but in practice i have never been in a situation where i would have cause to answer the question of whether or not to hit a woman so i really dont know what i would do if say i was slapped by one but i dont think i really fancy the prospect of it(hitting a lady), i would find find it a bit shameful and probably not as satisfying as vengeance should feel, just the same way u would find it a bit shameful to exert yourself playing football against a 5 year old, the ladies i know dont deserve that kinda treatment and if i find that at some point they do deserve that kinda treatment then i guess that would mean they dont deserve my company anymore.

thank you

Hair on Women

I just hate it! Especially in certain places to see it - is gross.

Here in America - to see an attractive AA female walk past with nice clothes - well cared for hair on her head and good skin and then to see hair peeking out from under her arm impacted with little white balls - little round white balls - grosses me out. Those little white balls is the deodorant and powder that many women use here that rolls up like dirt and gets stuck in the hair and when they lift their arms it's dense like a forest, you wonder if anything is going to break free and run out of the thicket - it completely RUINS her look and I just can't tell her for fear I will offend and have to deal with her more than likely crazy response.

Also - I see alot of older women with hair on their face - looking like man. uuggghh. Most of those women also have gained weight as they got older plus have facial hair like a linebacker. ahahahahahah - geezzzz please ladies, please - just put the sandwich down and back away - grab an indoor while watching tv.

Also - on me personally - NO HAIR BUT ON TOP OF THE HEAD. I hate hair on legs - it itches, it gets long - if you wear a dress - I just love smooth soft skin - that is hairless - it is just clean - no odor - less sweat and i also really gives a woman a feminine feeling that is pampering in nature.

violent:
^^

You re making a big mistake!. . Men don't think of the vajayjay when they sight a chic, yes they'd like to hit the vajayjay but it's almost always the case that the shape, depth, tightness or brightness of the vajayjay is the last thing that comes to the mind.
I am more likely to think of her bóobs, her árse, her long legs, her slim waist, supple lips, perfect skin, swag, how she sounds when she talks, how easy it is to flip her 360, . . .etc etc.

@OP

I think there is another perspective on this that needs exploration. While growing up, boys/men were given a pass by society. We were celebrated when we cheated, while the women were condemned. A man who has multiple women is a gigolo, but a woman with many men was a hoe. The example given by many grown men to the young men coming up, was that to be a real man, you had to have a lots of women. Looking back at it now, it is sad. Cause it forced young men to be dishonest learning to tell lies and that killed their conviction and credibility.

I'm not make a mistake big or small - as I didn't address what a man thinks of when he sights a chic - as I know that men see the overall package first - I'm not sure how you got that out of my post