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@ mamagee

lgboks:
@ poster:it means alot. i 4 one luv to stare cus it makes girls nervous and self consios.

lgboks IS ABSOLUTELY CORRECT

Thank you soo much - I just needed you to tell me this, I will take your comments to heart. Again, thank you very much. I just wasn't sure what you are trying to say.

@ kokoye

please clarify which one of us are you referring to?

Well, I am soon to be married in a few months.

I work long, long hours and we talked about this because he (Nigerian) is on a "set schedule" and sleeps at the same time, wakes at the same time.

My hours could start at 6a and end at 1a the next day - I work for myself - self-employed

Or I might be really slow and unoccupied for 1-2 days per week depending on project demand by clients

He and I were a bit concerned that he would want me in the bedroom when it is time for him to retire as I am sure that I will need to continue to work an additional 4-5 hours after he goes to bed on some nights (possibly at least 2-3 nights per week).

So we have already agreed to engage in our "conjugal time" together at the time of his retiring and if I need to continue working I would return to work via our "home office space" versus my leaving to return to the "offsite business office" that late in the evening

Also, for any early morning "conjugal time" such as 4am since he is a very early riser and many times I am the same, we would just satisfy each other.  If there would be times that because of late night work, I would be exhausted - we would have to communicate with each other for harmony sake.

I realize that alot of couples struggle with that area of "early morning conjugal time - trying to find it because of schedules."  A big priority has to be the relationship and making "couple time."  Should be very important even when the years start to go by, finding that newness again and being resourceful and creative in the bedroom encourages youth, joy and satisfaction.

I am glad you started this thread - as he and I have been in discussion many times in this regard as "conjugal time" is very important to him and to myself as well.

Thank you for your GOOD SENSE - D-SENSE.

[quote author=Okija_juju link=topic=534254.msg6976029#msg6976029 date=1287545417]Kini big deal?! Even I, will do it!!


Doin dishes with a kid strapped to your back dosent make you less of a Man!![/quote]I totally AGREE and I am so glad you were brave enough to say this, thank you.

ZIM DRILL:
i think every is who faithful and committed to a relationship would be pissed, on your side you would be telling yourself that there is nothing you are ashamed of to tell people that s/he is boyfriend

then him/her introduces you as friend you start to question yourself am being taken for a ride, do this people know the other person who might have been introduced as the girlfriend/boyfriend

I agree

denony:
the tie and seriousness in his face
shows that the wife/husbandwife is in the sitting room
watching oprah show while painting her nails  

lolololololol - [trying to catch breath, but CANNOT] hahahahahahahaaha

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ifyalways:
ROFL.
Weak black man dealt by the strong black woman. . . When hes done he shld not forget the most important work waiting for him at the bedroom,and please no sweats or BO,come clean!
Rofl @MOBO/DOBODOBO/DR. CORK  

ahhhhhhh, ahhhhhh, hahahahahahah, lrlrlrlrlrlrlrlrlrlrlrlrl (laugh real loud)

I'm sorry Mobo, but you even know that this is toooo funny, it is hilarious you have to admit so yourself.

Zim Drill is on point = I agree completely with his last statement

1) How do you know THAT SHE DOESN'T KNOW IT IS YOU THAT SHE IS TALKING TO? She might already know that you are that fictitious person and is seeing just how far you will take it.

2) Do EXACTLY WHAT Mrbrownjay just said - IT WILL WORK - FIND OUT HOW FAR SHE WILL GO WITH THE FICTITIOUS PERSON.

? Why is she upset?
? What is her relationship with the MD?
? Is she afraid that others will find out?

I am unsure as to why she is upset. Are you having sex w/her and she is afraid of discovery? I guess I'm not sure of why she is upset. It seems silly to me, but fear of discovery would be my guesstimate - so if it is fear, my next thought is what area is she fearing and discovery by whom is she fearing?

I DEFINITELY TAKE CASH FROM MY MAN AND HE DEFINITELY WIRES ME MONEY

He sends me money and I send him money.

LET THE MAN BE THE MAN - a happy and wonderful relationship

I let my guy do what makes him happy and I also work as well

I take care of him and he takes care of me - we are a team

I LOVE IT WHEN he shows me what he's working with because he has convinced me that he can handle OUR SHIP.  Now I can fully rest assured that he is in charge and I need no longer worry about our fiduciary stability.

To me the saying, "black is beautiful"

Actually is just a refusal ON MY PART to act on the widely-held, ignorant, misbelief that "black is ugly."

So it isn't even about the color "black.' The fact is that GOD CREATED ALL AND ALL IS GOOD AND BEAUTIFUL

Man has tried and is continuing to try to pollute that fact.

And guess what, "Just cause it's white DON'T MAKE IT RIGHT."

The reigning white population many eons ago and up to today - have pushed the idiotic thought process amongst ALL that all NOT WHITE is "beneath" those that are white, and many nations have bought into that belief.

So the coined phrase that "black is beautiful," is one of the many self-affirmations needed so that OUR DUMB AZZES would SNAP OUT OF the FALSE mindset that the only thing "right is WHITE."

We needed to snap out to be able to latch on to how valuable we are AND START TO appreciate who we are - by loving ourselves, our blackness in particular,

@ Omolola - we are all here for you. Stay strong. we like you very, very much

@190 - I hope for her sake and for your sake that you are a man of your word - she is precious - don't let her down - you are also very intelligent, especially these past few weeks I have read your statements they are mature and responsible - continue to be an upstanding honorable man.

I life Mobo444 - you are with him now - BUT YOU ARE NOT HIM - You have Omolola to think about and care for, Mobo don't influence him in the wrong way. He IS NOT YOU. Be your own person and let him be his own person.

hahahahahaha

lololololololol

hahahahaha

Congratulations and Good Luck to you 190

Learn alot and be careful

Don't forget Omolola1

You and She made a very cute couple

Mobo, don't hurt Omolola with those comments.

Be a bit more sensitive

How was your birthday?

@ Mr. Cork:

The photo that you have chosen to display on your profile, forget it, i have no words,

Ok

There are such things as "boyfriend snatchers"

Your friend needs to move on,

I don't want someone that nobody else wants

And equally I am have never understood the behavior of weak men and women

When you don't stand for anything, you fall for everything

Tell your friend to think of it like this, had she married him, she would be one of many

I realize that dating and marriage are different levels of commitment

But practice starts during the dating phase and if he can' t be loyal in that phase, his lack of strength and stability will generally magnify in a marriage.

She should count her blessings.

I'm with Mrbrownjay.  My sentiments exactly.

I am SLOW.

It takes a VERY LONG TIME for me to start dating because I research that person first.  The only time I increase my speed to decide to date is if the object of my affection "that person" increases it by "revealing their worthiness and availability" to my awareness in a totally convincing manner.

They have to be "legit" - I have too much to lose if they aren't - my heart, body and possessions are invaluable to more than just myself.

@ Mr. Cork

I have a mate - but thank you for asking.

The color of skin is irrelevant to me. But in response to your question. I am light skinned - my mate is dark. Black is beautiful.

In a relationship:

It is very important to my VERY SURVIVAL that my mate hear me, value my thought process, integrate both our ideas in the decisions that are made for our lives both current and future.

I intentionally TEMPER MY WORDS, TONE OF VOICE AND MANNERISMS when any onlookers are in our presence.  As it is important to me that HE is always viewed as the head.  I have yet to meet a man that has a loud mate that onlookers admire or want to copy in their own relationship - Even more so in public.

To the world outside of the home:

Whether true or not, many times people confuse someone who speaks alot as being a type of 'authority figure' and/or 'head over a certain area'. I work incessantly so when I am with my mate it is my "downtime to unwind,", and when we are in public together, I don't want to take the lead or be seen as knowledgeable about this or that because I am not going to give out "Free Information in my areas of expertise."  So remaining quiet works VERY WELL for me and it places my mate in the position that he is most comfortable as well as his comfort mode is that of a person who is more sociable than myself - he is well known, outgoing and I am happy for him to do the talking for the both of us, I chip in when needed but he reigns in that area.

As far as the feminine aspect of being heard, I admire and appreciate females who present themselves in an "assertive manner" because IT IS A KNOWN FACT that "assertion" wins hands down over "aggression."  I love being more so "assertive" in my approach and enjoy seeing women who are "assertive with their ideas, responses" because "AGGRESSION 9 times out of 10 kills and deletes the message that needs to be revealed to all."  Assertion also encourages admiration from all.  The only time I like seeing Aggression from a Woman is in the area of sports - Women who display too much aggression risk being viewed as repulsive by many as most societies can be quite harsh and shallow.  Aggression in soccer, basketball, track, table tennis, tennis, swimming and self-defense are the only times I admire that action when coming from a woman.  But that's just my personal opinion and I am only one person.

@ Queeneve:

I am completely enjoying your threads and the manner in which you are presenting these thoughts because it allows others to verbalize on ideas that we all wonder about but few mention.

Thank you

@ Mobo444

First, let me take this opportunity to wish you a Happy Birthday Today!!

If you drink alcohol, do it in moderation
Take time to Enjoy the Flowers, the scenery and good friends and family
Allow Yourself to be Entertained and Spoiled Today
Accept Compliments and Good Wishes Graciously

Again, Happy Birthday To You Today.

Yes.

Love

Then We make money together

He's not marrying me for my cooking.

queeneve:
(driving in and throw a sign ANOTHER BULLCHIT THREAD in the ground and drive  off)

hahahahahahaha, lolololol, hahahahahaha

queeneve:
This is an elegant event, EBA AND ENGUSI?!!!

(throws a dish on ground and look at Firearm with an evil eye)

hahahahahaha, my side, it hurts, hahahahaha

You are hilarious. You and Mobo - I love you guys you BOTH, crack me UP!!!!

Thank you.

Yayyyyy!! Firearm and Tjskii.