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CHAVINCI:
i know it jesus,cos he is in my heart too.

My baby is here on Nairaland.

CHAVINCI:
dis one fine o,can i toast u?

Sorry dear, Nope. I have someone in my heart .

You can buy my soaps.Thanks.

derachokolate:
Hello you all, a friend is pregnant and want to get rid of it, she cant keep the pregnant due reasons beyond considerations . She
needs help on kind of medication to take without going to the clinic or hospital. She needs the help of nairaland users as soon as possible. Thanks

While in school, a friend took a drug and I started perceiving a funny fish smell around her. She kept saying she had menstrual cramps. Long story short, she opened up that she had an abortion with a drug. She was dying.

We rushed her to the hospital where it was discovered that the drug only removed half of the fetus. She had to go through the whole procedure again.

She was so traumatized that she got an extra year.

I once used whitening strips. They were cool and gave me a white smile. Sadly, they made my teeth extra sensitive.

Oh My God! I don't know how I will feel if I ever get to be in your shoes but I'm not sure I can ever go through with a D and C. I will birth my baby.

IgbosAreOsus:
shut up
Birds of the same...

Joke is on you, man! It is "Birds of a feather". Thank me later!

Michael781:
abi...e abandon m wait 4 anoda man!!... mehn..we really need to pray for our future wives oh........

Lol. Guy shift abeg. Hahahaha.

They look nice. I love to match undies. Where are you located?

Mira200:
Dear nairalanders, plz help and advice me, am in a state of dilemma and very very confused, I don't want to hurt the feelings of my husband to be...my boyfriend proposed to me and we are getting married by June this year, we agreed that I will get pregnant for him, and am now pregnant ,but I don't know who is the father, a week after he proposed to me, I met my ex and mistakenly slept with him unprotected and a similar thing still took place between me and my old friend when we met around that time. Am confuse now, I don't knw btwn my boyfriend, ex and my old friend who is the father of my unborn child. Plz hlp, I love my boyfriend, I don't want to loose him because he might find out.


Please no insult, just advice me what to do,plz

Why are some ladies like this nau? Why put that innocent husband to be of yours through this? People are too heartless. If you had fears of loosing him, you would have cut all forms of communication with your ex.

I pray that your boyfriend finds out so that he can dump you. Selfish, wicked woman like you.

Michael781:
Madam I no understand.. Ma still go jump enter fire after I don escape hellfire

Na guy man like you still cause am o.

A lawyer writing like this? Your use of English is worse than Cee-C's eyelashes.

motherfucker:
I have come to realise that a lot of Nigerian girls do not know how to handle relationships, with most acting like they are too smart.

I will try to break it down bits by bits what happened.

Some years ago, I had a relationship with a girl, not a so good relationship flow. She is a cousin to my then neighbour. As usual, I bought somethings for her as gift, though quite young then and was still in school. I am typically not the guy that doesn't spend on a lady, no matter how little. I don't need to have sex with you before I do that either.

I know some girls hardly get a penny from their boyfriend and will still stick around said boyfriend lol.

She hardly called me back then, it wasn't as if were in a relationship and I wasn't sure she had other guy around either.

One thing I later discovered is that she doesn't allow sex but wants me to spend. She is not a virgin according to her when I asked. Since I am not the kind that pressures a lady once she say NO... I often let them be, even if she was half naked (I know some guys wouldn't take NO especially when they have seen boobs ).

Down the road, I went for my NYSC in Ondo, which is just 2 hours drive from Benin.

One day we got talking and one thing led to visit discussion. I asked her if she could visit me in Ondo, she said yes but that she doesn't have money. Being who I am, I sent her the Tfair, through the account of her friend which she gave me. Later she came up with the story that the friend wasn't around.

AH! why give me an account number of someone who is not around. Well I asked her if she can still come, with the hope that before she leaves, her supposed friend would have returned. She said yes.

I had to send another Tfair through my friend who was serving in Ibadan. Dude even missed CDS that day just to help me send money because the bank she gave me second time wasn't in the local government where I was. So you can imagine the stress I went through.

After sending the money, it was time for her to come next day and she still told me she would come. I was expecting her. But when i calculated time, over 3 hours, i started calling her. I panic when thoughts of accident or something ominous started streaming through my mind. I called this girl, she wouldn't pick and at a point, she off her phone but on it the next day and started with different story.

Another time, she needed money to fix her phone, about 2 years after that experience. We were no longer dating, I still provided it for her. I had left Benin and moved to Lagos. However, I visited Benin that period and fixed the phone for her. I told her I was lodging and she agreed, took her out and we ate before lodging. After a while, she said she was going on an errand by her mum and will come back... I was left there till next day lol.

Some guys would be saying this one na mumu oo and all sorts... I am very patient. I never throw the first punch. But if you throw a punch, I don't leave everything to God. I will retaliate. Tit for Tat! That is my rule to life.

So, this year, we got talking on whatsapp and next thing is she needs money to get her certificate from NOUN at Abuja or something like that. She pleaded for my help and I just turned a cold shoulder to her plea. I didn't respond.

Just last night, she was telling me to help her with rent fee for her shop, blah blah blah... Before that, because of the NOUN certificate that I refuse to give, she started calling me stingy (forgetting the ones I did in the past). Well, i was forced to then ask her how much has she ever given me, how she left me at the hotel and everything.

She resorted to say that is in the past, that i don't forget the past. She is right about that. I NEVER forget the past and IF YOU WRONG ME, 4 years down the road, the day you need my help, I will remind you of what you did to me, even if it is 10 years. That is why I am the wrongest person to offend!

At the end of everything said, I told her I am not helping her and that she should channel her request to her cousins.

Another ex did this same thing, she messed me up, played on my intelligence, looked down on me like someone without a future. This ex was one before the girl i am talking about here. I was always give money, no matter how little. I show support, not because I was rich or stupid but to me, doing such should symbolize that I have some priorities placed on you...but hardly does it seem so to a Nigerian girl.

Now, this other ex, whom I even bought a phone for, sent money to... did her worse and I left. She came back to beg me though and then make request along the line, to which I REFUSED ALL, including one that had to do with HEALTH. She was in PAINS that day and called me. Her voice was trembling on phone... and guess what? I refused to help! I didn't care if she died and I mean that. I am pretty sure if she was dying and I have a chance to give her life, I wouldn't!

This other ex even other dated guys after I had left but why did she choose to call me for help?

I am very good, extremely romantic and nice but if you ABUSE it (depending on the degree), I can become the stack opposite, pray our paths never cross again, cos years down the road, i will make you realise i never forgot what you did, probably haven't forgiven you either.

However, after their fork ups, because they know I gave them in the past, after their numerous atrocities, something always tell them to try their luck with me when they are in pressing needs.

One thing I know is that all girls are aware of the good guys they met and the bad one, even if they never make it obvious or appreciative... THEY KNOW you were good, but the evil spirit in them will not let them accord you that acknowledgements.

If you were my brother, I would take off one of the heeled shoes I am wearing now and hit you. Like wtf? Maybe I am wrong but I notice guys don't like giving their fellow guys money. I'd rather help my female friends with the very little I have.

Finally, there are some good girls out there. This thing called "love" is unfair.

softprick:
Why is it mostly women that are blasting this broad,it is an open secret that women this days are hos na,all this women you see with businesses were hos that raised money to start up a business,only a handful got money legitimately ,I don’t blame them though na the mumu men when never set up their sisters and mother for village finish but dey invest for biabia bank.

Just the way it is an "open secret" that some men these days engage in evil vices including sleeping with their fellow men and eating sheeeeeeet!

Some women work very, very hard and legit. Put some respek.

I'm cry-laughing cos of the comments. Africans are savage.

Michael781:
abi madam..very rude set of animals.......see their " I don't care attitude" are they government not paying this people

I've been there just once. I was working at a private hospital then and I was told to go buy oxygen with the driver at the General Hospital.

That experience scarred me for life ..Lool..

On a more serious note, why not talk things out with your girl and work on your relationship?


Stay safe!

Michael781:
well guys,I want to appreciate everybody that took out time to criticize,advise me on truthful on the matter,I really appreciate you all,contrary to what I said on the previous thread,I actually went for the tests today,and I came out Negative, I was certified OK and healthy, I will attach the test result as soon as I'm through with the my epistle; I went to Ekpan General Hospital, mehn the people no get joy at all,nusrses,doctors, all of them just dy vex,they no send,they are not customer friendly and a bit rude,most of the doctors there operate their own private clinics,so they no care ,well around 12pm I went there,meet with a doctor,the man bill me 4k,after everything I went to the lab,the woman there too also rude took my a sample of my urine and blood,and I was told to wait for my results, when results came out, we all queue to collet ours!!....


P.S:I have learnt my lesson,I just dy suffer from anxiety all this while, I feel free....I go try carry my gf or I mean ex-gf to go do her tests!!..










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I told you the health care givers at General Hospital have no joy in them. I am happy for you. Thank God. Treat your girlfriend too so we don't have another case of "Typhoid Mary"

LifeofEFCC:
I will like to be your lover on a serious note

I have a man.

When it comes to their babies, mothers can go any length. I don't see this dust settling anytime soon. The babies that entered the competition were too much sef. About 10 different friends sent me links to vote for their kids, nieces, nephews. Chei!

Dutchey:
its a lengthy post but I have to add this

When he upgrades the side chic to a wifey status, she will see his true colors. The vicious cycle will continue. Not everyone you lose is a loss.

Some side chics overlook some things because they are sometimes there for the man's money. Wasn't it same way one Senator's second wife was throwing shades at the first, till he beat her blue-black? Smh.

Love yourself first. Do some fun stuff. Learn a new skill like playing a guitar or learn a new language. Knowledge is power, empower your self.

tobianthony:
My dude , my dude , my dude ...


Grab your pen and paper ...and open Google chrome let me teach you something .

1. You propositioned a woman who is still in a relationship with another man ...and she wants to leave this man for you . This is what you call " hypergamy " . Google I can't begin to define it for you . I only know that there's a high probability she will do the same to you. You loose em how you get them . I'm not saying you won't enjoy her but only if you possess some of the following traits I will talk about .

2. Low milage means nothing ...as a matter of fact it's social construct used to convince beta's and naive men that a woman is worth marrying because she hasn't slept with many men . This is one of the great female cons of life . As other characteristics which all women possess render " low milage / body count " , inconsequential . Hypergamy is one of them .

3. It is a proven fact that no woman can ever love you the way you want to be loved especially after marriage rendering this myth of " unconditional love " ...highly impossible . Women will always attach conditions to love and sex . Covertly most of the times but overtly when they have you in their " frame " . Google frame as it relates to the " red pill theory " .

4. The way you sound about her wanting her to leave her man for you makes you come across as a beta ..." Google this too . Apparently I'm sure you think she is the one . My dude there is no such thing .

5. Why did you lie about your job ....!!!! Man I wouldn't go that route .

6. Before you even think about marriage ...have you gone through a relationship with her start there first .

Swallow the " red pill " .

Be careful ...change your mind state .

All the best .

Above all kill the beta in you before it kills you .

The only reason why I feel he should be worried is that if a woman/man cheats with you, that person is very prone to cheat on you.

If you know someone is a relationship, please, fall back! If they want to break up amicably, let them do before you shoot your shot.

This Op wouldn't be very ecstatic if some guy starts shagging his girl, well, he won't be because it is same thing that will happen to him. Karma.

Have you seen the movie; 'The Shape of Water?". Enough said...

Oh! My Ovaries!

prechbills1:
yeah, as long as you are working and you also have a car.

Mbok, this guy you bad o! See para! hahahahaha.

Depends on how you guys parted ways. A scorned ex wife might do everything to garner sympathy. If you never had kids, she might even lie that you made her have miscarriages thereby denying her the opportunity of being a mother. My 0.5cent.


You could ask attorneys in the house.

Shoot your shot! She is beginning to have feelings for you.

Shedrack777:
my concern is let the baby grow up so that i'll go and lash her very well.
you understand nah

My God! Are you well? Thankfully, many guys are waiting to get a taste of your female offsprings' cookie. Smh.

Lol. You want to crush your man's ego? Tell him something like what the lady up there said. He will hate you for life.

I know I sit on the fence when it comes to Joro but there are times he makes sense. The sad thing about such therapists is that they always need therapy themselves.











Holla for your dishwashing liquids

Guys with Napoleon complex won't like this.

As long as there is love, height doesn't matter. Different strokes for different folks.

Sterope:
bassey87 will not help where he cannot benefit from. The girl does not love him. Healthy human being will understand that you cannot force attraction or love. You cannot possibly love everyone that is interested in you even they would sacrifice their life for you. There are many women out there who would give you the moon yet you shun them. It is called life. It is unfair, deal with it. Those women you shun are also dealing with it.


You knew she was not interested you still sent her money. Were you so desperate that you could care less about her feelings for you if only she would be with you? That is not love. You need to set a standard for yourself.


Now she is in a tangle. It happens. She needs help and it seems genuine. You do not need to love her to help her. It is the emphatic thing to do. I leave you to Karma and your conscience. Time is all she needs. I pray she is able to surmount her troubles with or without your help.


@slayqueen he never loved her!

I wanted to reply then I realized you prolly didn't read all, what's worse? You got my name wrongly. It is "SOAP" not "Slayqueen". Of all the names I hate in the world, Slay queen ranks highest.

enonche85:
Am impressed that this is coming from a lady ...99% of ladies on this thread will still call the guy stingy and wicked for not giving her the money.

It's sad to see a guy who genuinely likes a girl and is seeking for her attention but the girl in return does not care and later will want to play with his emotions by defrauding him.

Stingy? Why would anyone call him that? Even my dad, I don't feel like I have the right to ask him for money. Truth is, in life, no one owes us anything especially financial rewards. However, she might truly be in need but checking up on the guy just because of cash is tad insensitive. She knows he loves her and she wants to be a bit manipulative. It is what self-centered people do. Dem no dey ever shame.

The Op should be be strong. This pain won't last forever. There's more to life.


Regards.