₦airaland Forum

OyiboPep:
This is the real slay queen, not the ones Naira Marley hits their butts in a club.

The worst part about this country is very few girls will aspire to be like this woman. They'd rather look at Tacha and Mercy for inspiration.

But Nigerian men see ladies like this woman as too exposed,too educated,too independent and hence not easy to control.
Besides,too covered...no outrageous make up and exposing yan.sh and boo.by....And as such,She no fine.

kayusely70:
Thank God the hardship didnt push him to dabble into crime over there.

No be Igbo man.
Else he would have started pushing drugs

Love892:
Good day nairalanders. This story is not about me but a friend of mine who is a guy.

There is this guy who I know who is not financially buoyant but instead of him to look for money he keeps sleeping around. I will be brief with this story.

The man in question has 4 children who he doesnt take care of. The first day I saw them, I was at his place he does electrical works for me. He stepped out to buy something. When the kids came, they asked me for money. I didn't know them and they looked so dirty and you know usual Nigerian story, dont give beggars money anyhow. So I told them I had no idea who they were looking for. When he came back, I told him . He denied knowing any child talkless of children coming to his house. We even joked about parents who turn their kids to beggars and all.

The second time I went to look for him to do a job for me, I saw the children again and they still begged me for money. Then I was curious why it's only that particular house they come and ask for money. So I asked then who they were looking for, and they told me their dad. I was indeed confused and had to ask the neighbours around who the kids are. Imagine kids of 3 yrs, 5 years 7 years and 15 years. When he came I told him his kids came and he hissed.

Now anytime I see his kids, I dont tell him because the last time he shouted at me, that he has heard.

Due to the fact i gave them money when i found out they were his kids, they ask me anytime they see me but unfortunately I stopped. I cant help someone who hates his kids. The few times they came when he was around he drove them away. Whenever I am there, he always drives them saying they are dirty.

First question how do I advise him? He always gets angry when I talk about the kids. He says he cant take care of them because he doesnt want to have anything doing with the mother of the kids. Even if he doesnt have atleast try. If it were only one child, I will say it was a mistake. But you gave birth to the second, third and fourth from same woman. It can't be a mistake.


One day I was talking to one of his numerous girlfriends and she told me that a man doesnt need to take care of the kids because they bear his name. Sorry but I hate poverty mentality. She said it's the work of the mother. I pray she has kids for him so he rejects them in Jesus name.

Then lastly I dont get him. He doesnt give any of his girlfriends money but last time I saw 4 of them fighting for him and he drove 3 out of the 4. Later I heard him begging them and now they are back.

If he had money I will understand. He is in his 40s. I hate people that neglect children and now everything about his presence irritates me because I treat women well. Please how do I advice him and what do the girls see in him? He is in his forties , I am 25 dont want him to take it personal. I want him to be serious with his life.


I might create a separate thread to explain his womanising attitude due to ambiguity.

NB: He goes for EVERY church program.

Please mind your business.

When the kids are all grown up and decide to ignore him
.
He will create a thread on nairaland to tell us how his wife has turned all his children against him.

May God keep us alive.

Nigerian patients and their relatives can be very rude and annoying.

When i was practising in Nigeria,
If you talk to me in a disrespectful manner,I will document it and ignore you.
You can go to Aso Rock Clinic and get first class treatment.


I hope the doctor documented and communicated the reason for not attending to the child.


My advise to my colleagues in Nigeria...
Save up money and relocate.
Its paradise over here.

Responsible homely looking woman.

These musicians get sense sha

stacyadams:
before huna crucify dis spice a dole,na only am know wetin e see for him papa hand,some fathers too mean abeg,,he/she can forgive if he likes, I just pray our current fathers learn to treat deer kids right

God bless you.
Even God Himself is happy with me today.
He chose to bless me despite all my father's evil doing and curses on me.
Nigerian fathers think they can eat their cakes and have it just because they donated sperm.
My father was and is still a very wicked person.
E no go ever beta for am

khome:
Sir, what do you mean by its not hereditary but its in the family?

In simple terms...Hereditary means...Because your family member had it,you have it..Or it is as a result of what you get from your parents..
Asthma can develop without any family member having had it.

Other conditions that are not hereditary but run in families include:

Hypertension
Diabetes mellitus
Epilepsy
Peptic Ulcer
Cancers,etc.

If there is a family history of these diseases,you are at increased risk of developing them.
They are not hereditary, only running in your family and any offspring in any generation can develop them.

Generally,That's why when doctors are taking history, we ask if any family member had/has any of these conditions.More important,if a patient is suffering from one of them.


Common example of hereditary disease is Sicke cell anaemia.
It cannot just develop. One must inherit the sickle genes from the parents.

By the way,I am not "Sir"..." Ma'am" will be better.
Thanks.

Hope this answers your questions.

Picture of him in ICU?

Let your spouse be seen by a pulmonologist or even a general practitioner who will monitor him,educate and give medications to reduce the frequency and severity of attacks.

Asthma is not hereditary but it runs in families.

I am asthmatic.
I am a medical doctor.

My parents are not asthmatic, neither is any of my siblings.
My paternal grandfather and 2 uncles(now late) were

Last attack I had was 5 years ago in 2014.
I visited a relative who used old rugs and ceiling fans were consumed by dust.
That was all...I was nebulized in the hospital and given medications.
I have been attack free since then.
That does not mean I cannot have an attack if I'm exposed to the allergens.
Asthma is not curable

You should have known it was a scam when you heard/saw "Pastor Peter".

When people want to scam you,they use the pastor tag....

Congratulations Regina.

Enjoy while it lasts.

You are better than the ladies who have been doing wifely duties for their young boyfriends with no hope of marriage.

Instead ,all they get is insult,name calling etc when they ask for 5K....

The guys will pound nonsense outta their pvssy then come online to call them derogatory names.

Happy Birthday

Kingpinukecy:
Pls try and forgive ur dad. he is still ur father. don't pay evil for evil and don't hate him for that or insult him as well.

Jux find a way to forgive him. The only tin is that our parents don't hold our future Only God can change a man's story without the knowledge of any one.

I have long forgiven him .....
But that link has been broken forever.
So it will remain.

presleYzzi:



Okay I saw the governor's daughter, but I'm still searching for beautiful

You will search forever..
Because she is not unclad.

ikorodureporta:
mayb na hiv sef

Very much likely

Tolexander:
Definitely, things are going to change with our education system with this revelation.

The lecturers will think twice if it isn’t a hoax, if any lady comes around to offer sex for mark.

You think so?
The same way ladies refused to think twice before following a strange man to hotel when the serial killing was ongoing in Port Harcourt is the same way lecturers will not think...But fall victim.

This thing is addiction.

Seun:
I think it is ok to seek advice online since there are doctors online. But ultimately, the best advice for a serious skin condition is a referral to a very good dermatologist, because in this country we cannot assume that every doctor is competent and sincere.

Its wrong to seek advice online.
I cannot see you online.
I cannot take a detailed history and examine you online.
I cannot do any investigations online...

And most importantly,I cannot DOCUMENT that I saw you and treated you online.It must be in a folder.

A good and competent doctor who has value for his licence and understands the implications does not do online or phone call consultations.

You made an attempt to backlash doctors..Typical.Not surprised

But it doesnt matter.

A time will come ,you people will not see doctors to insult again.

The doctors who are not competent or sincere in your thoughts are doing very well overseas.
Thank God I relocated when I did,thanks to NHS,UK.
Nigerian patients and their relatives are the most ungrateful and bitter set of people any doctor would ever encounter.

Go to a teaching hospital or medical centre.

You will be seen by a doctor (general practitioner )there who will take a detailed history, examine you properly,make a diagnosis and refer you to a dermatologist(a skin doctor)


Stop going to quacks and seeking treatment online.

I don't understand the problem Nigerians have with going to hospitals and seeing a qualified doctor(specialist)

LearnITsmash:
Why are Nigerian women always fat and unattractive after marriage

This lady has always been overweight.
Some men ,especially slim men like fat ladies.

Also,society equates fat with being well taken care of,well fed,rich,prosperous,womanly and wifely..Hence married women are encouraged to add weight...Those who make conscious efforts to stay trim and fit are trolled...

Jokes apart...Many men like fat women.
But on social media,they say otherwise

nateDZA:

I am laughing so hard...jeez

Alabi has killed this one

Bonatheripper:
We don't know him.
But the wife isn't bad for a maid sha

Because she is dark skinned...
I'm sure you won't say this if she was light skinned,either natural or bleached.
Cos she would have looked flashy.



I don't blame ladies who go extra length to appear light skinned.
Its not easy to remain dark complexioned

obonujoker:
Please I need advice

I and my better half would be tying the knots soon and we are trying to secure an apartment as a newly wedded couple

Please what kind of apartment would be preferable

1 room self contain
Room + parlour self contain (1 bedroom mini flat)
2 bedroom flat

Thanks for your responses and reasons

All depends on your pocket.
Some start with Batcher.
Some with face me I face you
Some with self contain
Some with Room and parlour self contain
Some with 2,3,4 bedroom flats
Others with duplexes.
Some with their personal building.

Cut your coat according to your size!

Peng12345:
Forget aboit those bla bla you don't have enough money, simple

This one dey

Kassidy4luv:
I have been dating her for about 6 months now, last month on her birthday I proposed to her and she said yes. Ever since then the mum have been angry, she invited me to come over to have discussions with me. She is EDO and I am IGBO, the mum said she doesn't want her daughter to marry IGBO because of what an Igbo lady did to her brother.
I was shocked and dumbfounded, while didn't they tell me all this while instead of wasting my time.

This is why people should not go proposing and getting engaged,splashing photos on social media without the consent of their parents.

No biggie.

Goan marry Igbo geh na.After all Igbo Amaka.
I won't even subscribe to a lady who is not Igbo to marry an Igbo man.
Her mother is right.

Wetin person dey find for Pakistan?

leofab:
Like I said you are very useless... a nepotistic lunatic who abandoned his ailing dad is nothing but a useless entity...go figure.

Lol...
Kill yourself

MrMacinterchi1:
Go and help your father!

Too late!

I'm only waiting to hear news of his demise so I can pop champagne and send money home for his quick burial

nuelyoyo:
can you please specifically tell me how much DNA cost in Nigeria now?

About 100,000 Naira.

Virus99:
Hi!
Can I be ur friend ?

No,you cannot

lilbest4:
Why is DNA not part of the test carried out immediately after birth?

It is expensive.
Some men's monthly salary or more than.

Plus the average Nigerian man is yet to accept the painful reality and come to terms with it.

I am a woman.
I am a medical doctor.
If I were a man,I will carry out DNA paternity testing on ALL my children.

The game men have been playing and still playing has backfired

I thought they say only females v smell

Kokaine:
thanks.
But I heard that after a test, the person maybe positive but it cannot be known till after some months when they return for another test. This kind of method is permanently inconclusive. Because during the window period, they could get infected even if they weren't initially

HIV test is done with different kits.

The general screening is done with the "determine kit".
If non reactive,a repeat test is advised after 3months to rule out window period.
If reactive,confirmation is done with Unigold kit.
There is also the STAT PAK kit..Usually used as a tie breaker ,in a condition where Determine is reactive and Unigold is non reactive.