₦airaland Forum

Flier:
Dont mind him,it’s not possible. He can’t be having sex with an hiv positive woman for more than 5 years and still negative
I think the wife just contacted it

Surely,you don't understand HIV and its management.

Many people on anti retrovirals have undetectable viral loads.
They cannot transmit the virus to another person via sex.
Also,its more difficult for men to contract it from women because of the male Anatomy.

Please read and expand your knowledge.

Kokaine:
Which one be discordant couple again

Its a condition where one person is negative,the other is positive.
Negative husband,Positive wife
Negative wife,Positive Husband.

Discordance means not equal,not same.
One person is infected,the other is not.

There are many couples on this table today

Hobbsandshaw:
I need mature advice from nairalanders.

I got married to my wife December,2015. The marriage is now blessed with two boys, the 2nd boy came last month.

The issue now is that I just discovered my wife is HIV positive during this 2nd pregnancy.The woman that I showed so much love tricked me into marrying her knowing fully well that she was HIV positive. I'm not really angry because she is HIV positive,I'm angry because she has been playing me all along.

She was in the Uni in another state while we were dating.Almost to the end of her study in 2014, she called that she was pregnant after I visited.She came to Lagos with PT and scan results to prove her claim.She then pressured me into paying her bride price before the pregnancy become public.We did our traditional marriage and went to the registry.Months after the marriage,my wife said the pregnancy has mysteriously disappeared, blaming it on "village people",but the gentle man in me didn't allow me to read any meaning to the movie.She tricked me into marrying her with the fake pregnancy after discovering she is HIV positive.

She eventually took in(for real this time),she came back from antenatal one afternoon crying, when I enquired what the issue was, she told me that they booked her for C-SECTION,that the doctor said the baby's weight is below 2kg and will almost be impossible for her to have the baby by herself,I was there consoling her not knowing that the doctor opted for C-SECTION because she is HIV positive.She actually told them not to disclose her status to me.The baby was 3.6kg at birth.My son was giving Nevirapine.I did some search and discovered that the drug is an antiretroviral drug,I became worried but I still played it down.

Her lid finally blew when she started antenatal for this my 2nd son in a different hospital, maybe she might have thought to herself that at this point there is nothing I will do any more, she told me that the doctor referred her to a government hospital for HIV confirmatory test.We went and did the test,I don't know the trick she played this time, the result was non reactive for her, me and our son.I went to the hospital and made Alot of noise,we went home and celebrated.Seven months later, she had an accident and was admitted, the doctor not satisfied with result of our confirmatory test,took her sample and send it to one of the best labs in Lagos,all the kits shows she was reactive.Because of the scene I created earlier, the doctor called me and showed me the result.That was when I started playing back to the first pregnancy scam, the rush for the marriage and the Nevirapine that was giving to my first son and I discovered I was being fooled by this woman all along.

This woman has hid her status from me and have been taking drugs under my nose for over five years without me knowing.I and my boy have gone for test twice at seven months interval and we are confirmed negative. I was told at one teaching hospitals I went for the test last month that maybe I'm just lucky or we are "discordant couple"
I have been expecting her to show remorse, and maybe apologize but she is still doing as if nothing happened.

I can't discuss this with my family or even hers, she will be stigmatize.I feel betrayed,I don't know how long I will stay in this marriage, but then I'm concerned about my boys. I'm afraid she might get desperate and try other means to infect me,I don't trust her.
What should I do?

Men keep rushing to have unprotected sex with ladies in the name of relationship.
Either they get infected with deadly disease or father another man's child.
People are still getting married in 2019 without carrying out baseline pre marital tests and screening.

You are lucky you are not infected..at least,not yet.
I'm surprised you are still asking what to do.
I'm a woman and if I'm in such shoes,I will blow the lid open and divorce him ASAP!

LadySarah:
I must say you are one lucky man.Have been doing skin to skin all these yrs and still negative?

You are special

Yes..very possible..
They are called aero discordant couples.
There are some factors responsible for that which include..
Low viral load
High CD4 count
Transmission to men not as easy as to females

MedicH:
I doubt if you're educated. Na u sabi anyway

You can keep doubting..Your business.

This thing keeps happening...
But women have refused to learn.

When you tell them never to accommodate a female not related to their husbands by blood in their homes,they will begin vouching for their men and calling you names.

Op,Serves you right.

Hope you have learnt your lesson

MedicH:
You de talk to your papa like this oga, no regards

He doesn't deserve any regards.
Na useless man.
Loser forever

luminouz:
You didn't win anything bro.

You took your genes from him and if you're successful, its partly and indirectly due to his genetic makeup you inherited. He pushed you to succeed, albeit abusively.
Vengeance is a sword without a hilt,it hurts both ways.

I didn't even revenge.No need
I left him for posterity and he is receiving punishment from both ends(God and Satan)


Meanwhile,I am not a "Bro".
Thank you!!

galaxi:
Are you really proud of this post?
I can’t take any statement from my parents to heart.
Making them comfortable is my priority in life.

I am really proud of it.
Yes...You were never in my shoes so you will never understand.
My mother is comfortable.
She deserves it.
As for my father,his wretchedness just began.
God will continue to punish him.

leofab:
still you.. You are just so and still as useless as you are back in time... better go back back and take care of the man...

Why don't you go take care of him?
I bet you will do worse if you were in my shoes.
Useless loser!

Some of these strange illnesses are complications of HIV/AIDs

Kingpinukecy:
Someone telling me That am useless!!! its very annoying to me.

How can someone that God has created be useless or good for nothing. God didn't create any use less things.

because after his creation he bless the works of his hands

My father used to sing that anthem and chorus to me..Always telling me I'm useless.
Today,I am a medical doctor practising in Norwich, UK.
And he is a poverty stricken disease bedridden loser in a leaking house in the village.

Who is useless now?

Men stop their wives from doing a lot of things after marriage...
It all boils down to insecurity.

They will stop a working class woman from working
Stop her from using social media.
Stop her from using make up
Some will even change her phone numbers.

But they are very randy.
Admiring women who do all these.

5 million...Won 15 million.

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DominusPrime:
but I thought they said the girls went there to sell their wares.

Toto na wares

Ladies sha.

But they were saying the victims were not hookers but went to do make up or deliver "plain and pattern ",long rich products ,etc .

Nonsense and ingredients.

Very way to lure greedy and senseless ladies.

Promise them money or marriage.
They will follow you anywhere like mumu without even informing their family

Kingdollar28:

my guy my guy!!
U nyashed d girl


Tell us d truth.... She doesn't like condoms.... Finish dat part

Exactly
..after yanshing the girl..
He is now using razor blade gist to cover up

Abeg,which DSTV channel is showing the match?

HopeAtHand:
Make I help you small.


Make the guy for use 10K carry ashewo for d nyt, e go still remain 37K.

Make he no use vex strangle her to death sha

Shallow graves

May their souls rest in peace

Such an intelligent lady.
How I wish she studied Medicine and Surgery.
No matter how bad,she won't have to beg for employment or earn snacks money.

Nigeria sha!

Better to start the husband hussle early.
To avoid name calling later.lol

I knew he will be a flat head..
Even before opening the thread.

TheGiftedOne:
Just where and how will the husband start all over again. So so sad

See you.
What if the husband is responsible for it.
He will become rich,marry another wife and have new children.

CAPSLOCKED:
SOME OF US DON'T EVEN GET THE USUAL SINGLETS AND HANDKERCHIEVES.

BE GRATEFUL.

Are you married?

CaptainMitch:
Try smile small, beautiful and young family you got. My best wishes

Men ain't supposed to smile in pics.
A smiling man is fake

JimohMomoh:
You have a point, but note that some one some where laid down his or her life for some of the things we enjoy now. It is these protest that draw the attention of our useless government because their children school abroad. Sadly life was lost but it is the price we sometime pay for our children to enjoy.

Good for them.
I can't never put myself in harm's way for any reason.
Not for a useless government.

I never did and will never do.
Even in UK,where I have relocated to now.
Once I sense danger close to me,in any way..I save myself first.
My Senior colleague ,Dr Adadevoh will be regretting laying down her life for Nigeria by getting infected and killed by Ebola

When i was a student,Whenever I hear Protest ,I make sure I lock myself inside the comfort of my room till its over.
No protest can be peaceful in Nigeria.
Either someone is killed,wounded or arrested

thorpido:
The mother of the victim Mrs. Florence Ifeleka, in her statement, said that she was afraid to report the first two incidences due to the threat by her husband if she did.

Such a shame when the wives cover up this despicable act.

Why not?
A good wife must do everything to protect her marriage.

Or isn't that what society preaches?

200K that can barely pay for reception hall on that day

Jokers!

Austineva:
Nsogbu dikwa. That one need sense o. Just imagine at 17yrs she is already desperate to marry. Then , what will then happen to Rita Dominic them and etc. She no even pure herself better fuel sef

She doesn't want to get to Rita Dominic and co age without marriage.
She has seen and heard how the Nigerian society insults unmarried women.
Besides,na Hausa geh.
They marry very early.
17 is too old