₦airaland Forum

louiziana:
She relocated out of Lagos, not that I left her. She has self respect and she is well behaved but does not like turning me down. I also see that as a sign of respect, veejay no slack na elastic.

A woman who has self respect and value for her body does not indulge in sexual intercourse outside the confines of a matrimony..Pre and Extra marital affairs.

Veejay dey slack.
There is something called elastic limit.
It can be exceeded.

She is so beautiful... Black beauty.

Looks so young at almost 40.

Wow!

louiziana:
Ewww! Low drive or what? As at last year, I used to bleep my ex like 3-4 times within 8 hours whenever she visits.

And after slacking her veejay,you didnt marry her.
What was her gain?

I am not a sex freak.
When I was single,I practised "No sex relationships" till I got married.
Women should learn how to respect their bodies.
If an ordinary boyfriend can bleep a lady 3.4 times within 8 hours,its a pity

Shukusheka:
You have given us little information to work with to give an advice.

We do not know your career aspiration, what job you got, distance of workplace to your home, what you studied in school, when you finished school.

Personally, if I made a 2.1 and still freshly out of school, I am not taking a 30k job.

Honestly..
30K salary is way too poor.

Nigerian men will kneel and propose to a woman..marry her with their hard earned money ,yet maltreat and rubbish her.

How much more when a lady proposed to a man.

Try this at your own risk in Nigeria.

Bye bye!

Who is going to pay bride price?

Ochason:
I wanted to post my story for advise and opinions on this matter.

My wife and I have been married for 8 years and we really have not had any issues until now. The whole situation started about 5 months ago. I think it was early January. We just launched our second business branch and my wife threw a party for us.I am into real estate and other strings of businesses. Last year was a good year for us. Our business grew and we expanded by opening one more branch office here in Port Harcourt (not real location). My wife,who is our Business development strategist came up with an office opening party so we can invite dignitaries and celebrities to come and even invest more in our businesses. My wife decided to engage her friend that is a top event planner to handle the event. The event was successful no doubt,everything was just glamorous. Then,there was another part of the event that moved to the club that night. We were all having fun. And then,my wife’s friend who planned the earlier event showed up looking really well dressed..more like very s*xy outfit. Of course,lot of people were dressed to kill at the party. In a lit party like this,one should expect some serious drinking and some inappropriate behaviors. It was clear,my wife’s friend was getting a little more than tipsy. She was doing a little too much and my wife was concerned. I tried to call my Driver to come take her home but the foolish guy was drinking somewhere and didnt pick my call. My wife agreed that I escort her friend to go sleep in our SUV until the Driver shows up. I guided her friend to our car and tried to get her inside to sleep but things took a different turn. She was drunk and started to pull me to kiss her. she was rubbing on me and telling me she wants me. I knew it was the alcohol talking but she kept on and on. Begging me to kiss her so she can sleep. No one was looking and I gave her a small kiss just to let her feel she got what she wanted. Of course she wanted more but I didn’t oblige her. I put on the AC for her and pulled the seat back for her to rest. As I walked away,I finally got through the Driver and he came to take her home. I thought that was the last I would hear of what just happened but I was wrong. Two days later,this lady starts to chat me and saying she wants to see me. I thought it was a joke. She said things like she knows I want her too cos I kissed her at the club 2 days ago. She kept confessing her love for me and how she cannot control herself. To be honest,this is not the first time women would throw themselves at me but this is the first time,a friend of my wife would do such a thing. I asked her what if my wife finds out and she replied me with a bomb: she said..she does not care because my wife is also not a saint. What?!!!!..what did she mean by that? I asked her to explain and she said she cannot tell me because she swore never to tell anyone but that my wife has definitely been with someone else but me.At this time,I was getting really worked up. I told her she was bluffing and she said I was being naive. I told her I would ask my wife…she said she would deny but that does not mean its not true. She would deny because she swore to keep my wife’s secret.
So,in order to play her game,I told her I would sleep with her if she told me who my wife was cheating with. She agreed. She sent me lots dirty messages and told me to meet her at a hotel that night. And then,I asked her: how do I know you are not trying to set me up and walking into a trap? My wife’s friend then gave details. She said my wife and I were having issues just a few months before our wedding,I said yes!…she said because of the issues…my wife was doubting my loyalty and she went back to her ex and slept with him. And that they were seeing each other even after we got married until like 4 months after marriage.
I knew this woman is desperate but this information she just released scattered my brain. I drove straight to see my wife and straight up told her what her friend just told me. My wife began to act shocked and pretend that her friend was lying so I told her, I have recorded conversations (which I really didn’t have)and if she pushed me to release these conversations, it would be over between us.
At that point,my wife broke down and started crying. She then confessed to having gone back to her ex when we were having issues weeks before our wedding. But she swore on her children’s’ lives that it did not continue after we got married.
However,her ex went to tell her friend that they were seeing each other which was a lie. That her ex wanted her back by all means and was telling lies that I was not treating her well and that she misses her ex and wants to come back but she is stuck in the marriage.
All these revelation was too much for me to bear. I told my wife to leave our home but she refused so I took a my things and went to the company guest house where I have been. I have been so angry and betrayed that I do not know what to do.
I never planned to be a divorcee. I love my wife. She is very instrumental to the success of my business …but how do we work through this when she has betrayed me like this? And she is insisting the affair ended when we got married….the affair before marriage is hurtful because we were still engaged even at that time but if it continued after…I cannot live like this.

How then,do I believe she may be telling the truth? Trust has been thrown out of the window. Our families have been trying to reconcile us but as a man,I have never been so hurt and emotional in all my life. I trusted my wife with all my life.

I finally agreed for us to see our Pastor last week to counsel us but it ended up in a disaster. I recognize I was still angry and I was shouting and my wife was crying uncontrollably saying I do not believe her but I believe a woman who is trying to ruin our marriage.

Well,if her friend is trying to ruin our marriage…she caused it..she allowed it. We both left distraught and later that night,the friend showed up in my guest house. She told me that she came to beg for me to forgive her friend. But you should have seen what she wore. The most see through outfit and as soon as I allowed her to sit down,she came hard on me.
Pushing her away was my first thought. But I felt so angry that I also wanted to revenge my wife and I started responding to her. I was ready to make love to this woman but I stopped and told her to leave. Since then,she has been determined to make me sleep with her.

I felt I needed space but the more space I need,the more s*xual temptations are coming my way. And yes,I would be justified if I give in right? After all…my wife did it first? Maybe if I did…I would feel better and maybe be able to forgive her after we are even.

I miss my wife but how do I trust her….I feel tempted to sleep with someone else. Its not that hard for men…I do not know how much more I can resist the temptation. How can I be sure that my wife is telling the truth? How do I know the affair ended after our marriage?

Will I be able to trust her again? Is there any hope for our marriage?

Men shaa.

*
"small cheating " from a woman and you wanna die.
Meanwhile,you lots will be sleeping around with numerous side Chics and your wives will swallow it

alaribe1992:
I am an undergraduate of a high institution in Owerri, so I've been home due to the closure of schools Nationwide.

There's this girl whose mom owns a drinking bar somewhere around my street, she's an undergraduate too, but she's been home too during this lockdown. I've been seeing this girl for years but started developing feelings for her suddenly.

I approached her as a sharp guy and collected her number. She wasn't using a smart phone then, so we communicate through phone calls.
At first our conversations was smooth and sweet, and it was like a match made in heaven, we haven't gone out for a date due to she always stays in her mom's shop and her mom is a very strict woman. Her dad is late. I told this girl my mind, that I'd like us to date and she agreed.

To cut the story short

After a week she started acting strange, sometimes she wouldn't pick my calls and she won't call back, she got a smart phone and was back on WhatsApp. She replies my text late after seeing them.

On Sunday afternoon I called her and she busied my call, a friend of mine who lives opposite their shop called me on phone telling me the girl was outside their shop and was over the phone with someone for a long time. I called her again and she busied my call again, I texted her on WhatsApp to ask her what her problem was.

After a day, she replied on WhatsApp that she's sorry. Well today she just texted me that she's no longer interested in the relationship that she just wants to be left alone. Note that we haven't even had a time together all this while due to the fact I didn't want to rush things with her and she was always at her mom's shop.

I want to know how someone that likes you before just wakes up and all of a sudden no longer interested in you again without any provocation.

Thank you

The only reason why her sudden attitude bothers you is because you didnt fvck her

If only ladies know how premarital sex makes them lose value.they will close their legs

Elock1:
girlfriend kwa?


As what exactly?
Somebody that will still go and LA.sh another guy

Rip to ifeanyi
He dy pay him babe even in death

Lol...
Wonder how the thought of a woman with another man kills men..Same people who brag about their unfaithfulness.

Well,he is dead.
They were never married.
Even if they were,she doesn't owe the dead anything.
Life goes on.
Congratulations to her.

Fragility6:
The girlfriend chilling in one spot knowing anoda nigga go don dey maintain d engine

There is nothing wrong with that.
Even a wife would move on.

Woman epistle must long pass man own.

I hope they are INDEED as happy as they portray on social media.

Nairaland chauvinists will not like this.

kestolove95:
my husband don't like wearing it and I am tired of using drugs to prevent pregnancy, it's very good d one my sis sent mi from u.k is finished I need another packs Cox me ND my husband have sex everyday

Sex everyday?
I can't withstand that.
Once or twice a week ,I get tired and disinterested.
You are trying oh.

A lady has 2 children for 2 different men..she has become a subject of discussion online.

Her counterparts do 3-6 abortions and men marry them without asking questions.

Las Las,Abortion has advantages.

I would NEVER keep a pregnancy outside wedlock and be a single parent.

Ladies and WhatsApp status.
So unnecessary
Smh

With sex involved...Ladies are more affected.

No sex involved...Its the guy's loss.

You no see my paynt and we break up?
I move on and away immediately(with my shoulders high).

Makavelli25:
My school paid me my full march salary 8k
But since then nothing else
Not even a call. I stoped sending new month greetings april too.

8K or 80k?

skimena:
Last month made it 4 years since my neighbor travelled to Italy via the Mediterranean Sea. Thank God for him, he arrived safely irrespective of the hurdles on the way.

He left behind a beautiful young woman not up to 29 years of age and with a little daughter of 6 years old.

Prio to this time I wasn't close to the wife but as time goes by this woman started greeting me frequently, exchanging cd plates with me even joining me to watch movies sometimes. I started noticing she's hot with her sexy hairy body. One night she opened up to me that she needs the touch of a man if we could be doing it secretly because her husband still promise to come for her hence what she needs is someone to be touching her once in a while and it must be a secret.

I truely like the offer but I'm scared of betraying my neighbor by banging his wife. I'm still thinking about it.

Too much details.
If her husband uses this platform and sees this...
He will know its her.

donstan18:
Having known that the use of romantic and lovely names is one of the common things in marriages, but I still do not think it's a yardstick to measure the respect and love your partner got for you, because some people prefer maintaining a high level of simplicity and straightforwardness in what they do.

So I would wanna know, how proper is it to address your partner by his or her real name in public places before people?


Let's see what people got to say

I address my husband by his first name.
He addresses me by my first name.
In private and in public places.
I do not see what is improper about that.
I'm not a fan of pet names.
Rarely,we address each other as "Dear" ..Very rarely though.

grandstar:
I'm a Jehovah's Witness. Marriage is for better for worse. God is not sexist. Man is.

Hypocrite!

grandstar:
Marriage is fort better and for worse. The principled thing to do is to stay (Read Psalms 15:1,4c). Adultery is also wrong.

She should pray for endurance. We shouldn't forget they have a child to gather. The child's life will be wrecked if she leaves the man.

Lol..Adultery is wrong now because it involves a woman.
Same men will be hailing and promoting having side Chics.
Double standards!.
Anyway,she doesnt need to commit adultery.
Just divorce him and move on.

If I am in the woman's shoes,I will divorce him and move on.
Let his family sort him out.

If the tables were turned,he will abandon me immediately.
Men who brag about having concubines if their wives decline to have sex even if its once,is that the same man that would stay for years without sex?
Will a man stay put by his bedridden wife's side,cleaning her poo,bathing and feeding her?

The woman should leave him.
That's my honest advice.
What is good for the goose is good for the gander.

This life no balance and e no fit balance.

dapsoneh:
Power of p

Your mother,sister and wife's p are powerless

CyberEBOLA:
I was actually thinking about going for this surgery, but when I realized that any mistake can make me blind forever, i decided to stick to my lovely glasses.

The funniest thing is that most doctors doing the surgery, prefer using glasses than undergoing surgery to correct the sight.

I am a doctor..
I was a resident in Ophthalmology before I left Nigeria.
Never for once did I think of any eye surgery of any kind to correct my shortsightedness.(Been using glasses for about 25 years)

I wear my glasses with pride.
Fits my face and I like it.

Dukeolumidemans:
After giving him Angle 90 and Head of State, why hin no go buy am for u...

Lol..At least she got something for her efforts.

Your mother,sisters,girlfriends and,maybe wife..What have they gained for all the styles they have been giving?

Rotjijatau:
Come to jos & see bleaching gone bad among our ladies..... I don't know what's so special about being fair, our ladies are RACISTS. They all should be arrested. A larger percent of the guys are not fair complexion freaks

Many guys prefer light skinned ladies.
Well to do ,celebrity men in sports,music,movie industries hardly have dark skinned partners.

Musicians prefer to use light skinned/white girls to shoot music videos.

Most men are dark skinned and as such go for light skinned women.

Its the few light skinned men that even date/marry dark skinned women.

In Nigeria,its common to hear remarks like "You dey/don black oo..." It translates to "You look ugly,suffering,unhealthy,not looking good".

Hence,many ladies start having this insecurity and start using all sorts to lighten their skins.

90% of my childhood friends who were dark are now light skinned and they think I'm very stupid for still been dark.lol

DonFreshmoney:
I wont even think of marrying a jobless woman to begin with. In our society, jobless women always have this entitled mentality..

If you are jobless or no real source of income as a woman, you shouldn't be thinking about getting married. No man wants a total liability for a wife in today's time

The so-called jobless women are getting married everyday..
Even before their working class counterparts.


Many men even prefer to marry women who have no source of income..Some stop their working class wives from working and convert them to complete housewives.

When a woman has a job,business or a source of income,men feel insecure around her.
Some will boast that their wives must not have more money than them.
Some will say the woman is making it through sleeping around.

Society doesn't frown at a jobless woman.
Women are not providers by default.
Society frowns at unmarried women...and jobless men.

Women are foolisbly emotional and attached.

Will the man slump and die ,if she tested positive?

Now,that she has killed herself..Husband will recover and remarry.
Life goes on.

EliteBiz:
I am not here to argue, I am here to pass an important message across, I did not say she died because of what she said, I am trying to let people know that it all works together. As I said earlier, people lack knowledge, if only you knew that many are spiritually dead already, just a walking corpse.

Let those who need the information, get the information. Thank you.

Take this assignment to gain knowledge.
Buy two fresh apple. Put them each in a seal nylon and seal it up, label one curses, label one blessings. Every morning for 14days, wake up in the morning, say curses to the one labelled as curse(You are bad, You are ugly, You are shit etc) , say blessings to the one labelled as blessings (You are fine, you are beautiful, You are good etc). On the 15th day, Quote me.

Both apples will become rotten same time.

That's of the socalled Blessed Apple doesn't rotten first.
Your mentality though.

illicit:
this woman is 22 years?

These days,young people look so much older and matured than their real ages

sotall:


Parents should learn to empower their girl child. It is not enough to raise them to be useful wives.

Empower them financially. Teach her how to make honest money to earn good living before she gets married.


It will help her all her life.

No..They will not.

They will even say when a woman is financially stable and not dependent on any man,she will drive away prospective suitors as men will find her uncontrollable

Alwaysachick:
Good evening ladies in the house,

I have a friend he is every good thing but overbearing. He kept that part till we started dating. I don't have issues with a man wanting to be a man but when he does it to the extent your opinions don't count again and if you do otherwise even when you are right, it gets him angry. Shouldn't it be a thing of concern?

I've been feeding his ego but I think its getting out of hand. The relationship is getting serious but my fears have started building and im beginning to ask myself if I can cope??

Please help a sister, what can I do to stop this? Married women in the house with husbands with such traits how do you cope?

Should have have learnt from my parents but my father is the exact opposite and with my observations, his dad is also overbearing his sisters at always complaining.

Walk away
..You have seen this side of him before marriage.

Let him go since you can't cope.

You ladies clearly see signs of toxicity in boyfriends but you try to overlook and manage just to get married..Then start suffering and complaining unnecessarily.