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obi3x:
There u go...many thanks....do me a favour,go to the nearest bar around u,request as many bottles as u want,maybe some plates of pepper soup too...tell dem say na me go pay....no worries...I'm on my way

obi3x:
I've heard this before...would appreciate if u remind me...think it has to do with football bet....many thanks again in adv

Ronaldo24682:
lol the one funny thing about people is trying to look for that loophole. The lady was someone I knew before and didn’t you see the thread on the guy that the girlfriend of three years infected. Is that a fling too. I didn’t create the thread to be insulted, just learn bro. Ciao

Dudeweedlmao:
You pulled out immediately you noticed your condom tore and still got HIV? Is your dick filled with open sore or what?

hisexcellency34:
Very unfortunate. No amount of justice can bring him back to life. But what's he doing with a mother of two kids? Its like he was also chained to the bed??

miss00000:
We met in school during my pre-degree and dated for 7 years before he proposed to me. Before the proposal, both our parents had been pestering us to get married and start having children.

We started trying 6months prior, and 6 months after proposing I got pregnant. Few months later we did our introduction and got married (registry) march this year.

About two years ago, he met a lady where he was supplying his goods. According to him, the lady has been doing everything in her power to push his business. Every time I suspect there was more to their friendship, he always assured me there was nothing, that she's just a friend. sometimes he would even travel with her to Abuja to sell his goods which I had to allow since it was helping his business.

8 months into my pregnancy I noticed a drastic change like coming home very late, he hardly eats at home, he barely talks to memos he's always on his phone. I knew something was wrong and every time I talk to him, he always assured me that everything was fine.

After the delivery and naming of my baby I expected things to go back to the way it was, but it became worse. he changes his phone password almost everyday and still hides his phones from me.

One day I cried and begged him to tell me what was going on, after hours of begging, the first question he asked me was "where was it written in the bible that marriage has to be between one man and one woman and not with different women", "why can't a man marry two or more wives if he has the resources to take care of them equally"(the lady is a muslim btw).

He confessed that he has been dating this lady for over two years and has no plan of leaving her, and theres a possibility he's going to marry her. I'm just 26yo with a one month old baby, I didn't sign up for this.

While growing up, my mum has always warned us against polygamy. although he's promised to be there for me and still wants our marriage to continue, but the thought of my husband being with someone else is killing me. I've tried to reason with him several times but I end up hurting even more. I've been praying but still no change. He's been trying to compensate with gifts and money but thats not what I want. he doesn't want me to tell anyone and I feel reporting him to his family will even worsen the case. We've always settled our issues ourselves without involving anyone. I've tried everything I can just to take my mind off it. I need someone to talk to, prolly a friend or a counsellor. I've been crying for days now, I've not been eating well and I have to breastfeed my child. I never knew my life would be this complicated. I don't know why he got married to me if he already had this in mind. I hate my life right now.

midolian:
I just feel... REGARDLESS, there are some things in life you don't use to mock others...e.g poverty, lack of children, deformity in children, etc

khatea:
Reminds me of a nollywood movie I saw recently public property

hahn:
I dey tell you. Basically they just created a shopping list for single ladies looking for guys who they perceive will be financially capable to take care of them.

And the men won't have to bother anymore. Men will be like "yes, my name is on the list. I am only here to fvck you"

emeijeh:
Her family did not do well by telling her to remain in an abusive marriage.

Hot18:
Pls advise everyone.

When you are dating a guy and his mother hates you and asks him to end the relationship but he is still with you and insists on continuing with the relationship.

What do u do pls. I need ur contributions.

Thank u.

CC Seun

CC Mynd44

CC Lalasticlala

Shadbay:
I've been in extreme emotional pains for the past few months. I don't even know where to start to narrate my ordeal. I do not want this experience to damage me emotionally and psychologically, that's why I'm seeking help. Please pardon the length and blunders.

Earlier this year, just two weeks after my birthday, my ex-gf (gf of almost 7 years) broke up with me. I had just visited her and left two days prior to the breakup.
I went through the most challenging period of my life because I just suffered some job and graduate school rejections that period. The breakup worsened my situation and pushed me into a depression. I have never felt defeated in life till that point. She blocked me on all mediums of communication. It was too extreme. I went from 91kg to 85 kg in less than 3 weeks.

I visited her to understand the whole situation cos her behaviour was too extreme and I got a toxic dosage of embarrassments. She said she was done with me. She said a lot of hurtful things to me. The height of the embarrassments was calling her new boyfriend (barely 3 weeks after breaking up with me) right in front of me and telling him she doesn't know what I'm doing in her place. She even called some of her friends to inform them of my presence. They all sounded scared and concerned for her as if I was some kind of predator. They told her to leave her place at once and come to their place. All these calls were on speaker! This is someone I invested all these years and emotions for. I went through hell that period cos I was dealing with some other personal tribulations.

I can't imagine treating her or anybody else the way she treated me. I NEVER cheated on her, NOT ONCE or by chance! I have walked away from compromising situation countless times because I placed her so high. I had so much respect for her. She now went on to slander my name, accusing me of cheating!!! When I asked who was feeding her all those lies, she said her friends told her. How? Did I date you or your friends? It still boggles my mind to think she'll believe them and go about spreading those ugly rumours about me.

The straw that broke the camels back was when a friend of mine told me that she said she's grateful to God she didn't contract any infection/disease from me! I couldn't believe my ears. I broke down. This didn't just break my heart, it shattered my spirit. This is someone I imagined spending the rest of my life with. My whole family (even extended) accepted her as one of us.

I had to accept that things were beyond salvaging because any attempt from me to fix things kept doing the opposite. The minute it involved my sisters I had to accept defeat.

I never harmed her or attempt to lay a finger on her. I might not be perfect but I gave it my all. The situation is far worse than I described it here, it's even painful remembering them. I loved her to a fault.

I got a text from her about a month ago after I refused to answer her calls because I had just lost a loved one. She said she's getting married and hopes I find peace as she has found hers. I stared at those words speechless. The worst set of people one could ever encounter are those that hurt you, know that they hurt you and still turn around to play victim accusing you of hurting them. If there's anything I'm proud of is my level of self-control. I know few of my friends who made fun of me being extremely loyal to one girl, warning me severally that I'm wasting my time and good looks, that my youth is passing me by. At least I have a clean conscience that I never betrayed her trust. I never went about telling other people our business. Now I understand why they say good guys always finish last.


Women don't deserve loyalty, forget all their cliche that men are not faithful and honest. I went the faithful, loyal path what did I get in return? Venom! I feel repulsed when I hear women say "Men are dogs", "Men always cheat".

I just don't want this experience to turn me into something I'm not or make me an embittered soul. I'm traumatized beyond words. This was my first and only relationship and I gave it everything. I'm in my mid-twenties and I don't think I can ever love genuinely again. I need mature advice on how to come out of this ordeal a better person. I don't want to transfer any aggressions or micro-aggressions on anybody because of this experience. Please mature advice needed. Thank you.

ExAngel007:
A Twitter user took to the platform to narrate how she moved her boyfriend to tears with her cooking skill.


@AnaLaughh revealed that after she served her boyfriend fried plantain and eggs for breakfast, he started crying and told her that nobody has ever done such for him in his 31 years of dating.

She tweeted;


He came for a visit and i served him this breakfast and he shed tears. I asked why the tears and he said"

in my 31 years of dating,this is the first time a lady will do this to me and the way you served it so clean,i wasn't hungry but now i am #ladies, we can do better!

https://alexis.lindaikejisblog.com/photos/shares/5d4d22481f83c.png

https://mobile.twitter.com/AnaLaughh/status/1159486519574503425?p=v[/quote]After crying,dude will clean the tears.
Go and marry a lady who can't cook or doesn't like cooking.
The cry is fake ,just a way to fool her and he has succeeded
NaDem

fortran12:
Not everyone is like that

cococandy:
Wow what a jerk he was.

BluntBoy:
Eyah, sorry, my dear.

But then, you people are not doing the right thing by keeping grudges against your father. Even if your brothers want to remain stubborn, you as a woman should try to reach out to the old man and reunite the family. This does not necessarily mean reuniting him with your mother.

Learn to forgive. I can still see the bitterness in you. This is not good energy to raise your own family with. Let it go and enjoy life. Life is too short to carry so much bitterness around.

If I were your husband, that would be one of my ambitions. To reunite you with your father. The man failed to treat your mother well, but could one say he failed totally? No one is perfect. We all make mistakes.

Please, forgive your father and reach out to him.

Tellemall:
Are you just arguing or have you never met children who despise their fathers for such reasons?

Many men don't receive gifts from their grown children probably because they've forgotten how many times they descended on their wives in the presence of their children, but the children never forgot. You think child support will win over the child when they are grown? Because you spent money on them? You won't even have a relationship, you'll just be a money bag, like most men are because they look down on women. You need to learn more about parenting and not just thinking that it's a war on women. What makes you feel you deserve the children more than her?

On nairaland too many of us exhibit misogyny and not realism. You hate women, fine. You think nothing of them, fine. What makes you think women like us, either? Apart from semen donation, what do you think you add to their lives?

I noticed that it's only poor men who have issues with their wives/women. A man who cannot handle one woman cannot handle any other number he chooses to be with.

gypsey:
In your own case you probarbly saw what you wanted to see and thought what you wanted about your father, you would probarbly have still hated him regardless of whatever he did good or bad, your love for your mother probarbly clouded your judgement, so as not to see how your father was hurt by your mother maybe.

well... atleast you learned something out of it, to make your own money and buy your own things.

Good luck!