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molybdenum0012:
Stop spewing gibberish. I know many couples who met on facebook and got married. They still live happily.


A reasonable advice would have been, "Whatever you do, don't agree to meet someone you me on Facebook behind door". You can meet in a public places

His advice is not out of place.

For every 1 couple whose online meeting ended in marriage,there are many that ended in tears.

A 17 year old is visiting a strange man from Facebook for what reason?

Too many stories of young ladies who have robbed,raped or killed by men they met via social media.

Bahdsypha:
So it's only to "open legs" and 'bow" that you plan to do in a marriage....how shameful

Do you think marriage is a servant-master affair?

I don't think you understand the concept of marriage at all, I would not wish for anyone I know to get married to you

Lol..Sorry ..Your wishes came too late.
The shame is for you and your sisters.
I'm married with 2 kids.
I couldn't have married my kid brothers' age mate ..

Opening legs...Yes...Sex is part of marriage.
Some even start from relationship.
Bowing...Submission and respect...Isn't it part of marriage too?

ubcandid:
are you working? you would still bow for a man in their age group

I'm working..
That is a different scenario.

Men bow to their female bosses and take instructions from them.
And not from their wives.
You see the difference?

Dididrumz:
What do You mean by age mate is not possible for my type
Don't just say things because you feel like saying things.

what if you meet a guy and you guys started talking, He was so mature, talks with respect and all that. But through this period the age talk did not just come up until feelings started building up only for you to find out that You are 2years older than him. what will You do??



It's still dsame thing: Intelligence Quotient/Intelligence Level. it's the same thing.
age has nothing to do with IQ ok.

I will detach and treat him as one of my younger brothers.

I can't be with a man I'm older than.
I am a first child..I have younger brothers who respect me & take instructions from me.
I cannot "open legs" or "bow" for a man in their age group.

alabi484:
You need to see a video I saw recently, a full grown man on a baby that could barely crawl, he kept smashing away like he was on a prostitute, the voice of the baby crying moved me to tears... I pray that guy will be caught and killed outrightly.

I saw that video.
I couldn't sleep for many nights.
Man's inhumanity to mankind.
That rapist is definitely a close person to the baby he raped.

Rape supporters over to you...

Could be that the girl was naked and seduced him.
She may have eaten his money.

Nonsense and rapists

Marviey:


Can you help this dieing man... The country is hard and people are surfering alot. More sickness and no money to cure it.

782 7636 084
Wema bank

A wise man once said "they'll pay thousands of Naira to come to burial when I'm dead, but they can give me a cup of water when I'm alive"

God bless you as you help this old man

This man is already old.
He has fulfilled his years.
Allow him to join his ancestors in peace.

nuelyoyo:
A woman with a mind of a man.

How?
Men "waste" their hard earned money,buying gifts for their girlfriends,most times jobless entitled ladies..
While neglecting the women who gave birth to them and their siblings.

Girlfriend will be using Iphone..Mother will be tying rubber band on her old Nokia torchlight phone.

I'm a female...and well,I can't really remember giving any gift to man while dating.

And I didn't ask for/expect gifts & money as well.
As a result,I rarely received gifts even on my birthdays and I was fine with that.

The closest I was to buying gifts for my then boyfriend,now husband ,was on his birthday .

I got to the boutique, selected 2 nice office shirts,a pair of Oxford shoes,a belt and a Tissot wristwatch.

As the attendant made to pack them...
I asked myself.."What are you doing?".
My birthday was 4 months earlier.
All he did was to call me that morning..we chatted a bit during the day and evening after work.That was all.
We didnt see ,even though we lived in the same town.He didnt give me any gift..in cash or in kind.
And I didnt bother.

So I changed my mind immediately and corrected my stupidity!
I have 2 brothers...
It was few weeks to Christmas.
I returned the items..and picked another set of shirts,polo,palm slippers and belts..for my brothers.

I waybilled the gifts to them...and wrote on the parcel.."From Big Sis to you.Christmas came early".

My brothers were ecstatic.
That's more like it.

Not spending my hard earned on a man who has not married me.

The following year..on his birthday as my husband..I bought him nice gifts and took him on a weekend getaway at Whispering palms.
All expenses on me.

jaelz:
Okay so guys everyone knows that most guys especially in the country don't ever get to enjoy the benefits from their agirlfriends as they are always on the receiving ends in terms of money and gifting, however very few have experienced dating a wealthy or average lady that spends on her man well, in that view I would love to know the most expensive gift your woman has ever gotten you.

Mine was when I came back home from work and met a very big double door fridge in my room from her, and in her words she said, now hope you would start cooking and stop wasting your money buying junks outside or atleast when I make soups for you, you could have a place to store them.

And did you marry her?

Carchoice:
haba!!! What are you guys even discussing? Which is is Rhesus ontop the matter again? Never heard of this. Is this a factor to consider before marriage??

Foetus dying!! This one shock me

That is why they keep accusing innocent old women in the village for witchcraft and the woman for serially killing her babies.

Rhesus factor is important.
Knowing it early gives intending couples an idea of what to expect.
There is an injection called Rhogam that should be given to a woman who is rhesus negative for every pregnancy or miscarriage if she is impregnated by a Rhesus positive man.

Nigerian youths are too ignorant.
Even the ones that have smart phones,including educated ones.
In 2020,people dont know about Rhesus factor incompatibility and isoimmunization.

Worrisome!

Biglittlelois:
So how do you ask a potential their rhesus factor seeing that not everyone knows anything like that?

You find out their blood group.
Easy!

Apination:
Yea, ashawo na 5 hundred, very cheap. Nobody fit use sex take blackmail me

That's the point exactly.
So a young man should not feel entitled to having sex with girlfriend, simply because they are dating.

Same way,a young lady should not feel entitled to her boyfriend's money.

Each person should look for alternative means to solve their "problems".

Man: Patronise prostitutes ..Allow your girlfriend's pussy rest.
Lady: Work,have a business and earn your own money..Allow your boyfriend's pocket breathe.


That way...perfect relationship.

Apination:
Love your neighbor as you love yourself, making stupid decisions is not love and alot of guys are just in that league. My present gf don dey complain just after one month because I told her, no spending. The truth is, you can never satisfy a woman

That's good.
No spending
No sexing

Perfect relationship.

Let her go and work ..
And close her legs very tight.

tot:
A "REACH" man? The terrible English these days is enough to give one a headache.

Check well.
The writer will be a graduate.
I wonder what they learn these days in school.
If an educated adult cannot differentiate "reach" from "rich"

At the friendship stage(normal talking) ,he or she should know...The same way you know your name,state of origin.
That will determine if he or she wishes to even have a date with you or not.

Con man,ritualist..disgusting as Prophet.
Tufiaaakwa!

If you cannot separate your pu.s.sy from your heart,close ya legs while in a relationship.

When it ends,the pain will be less...
Easy to forget and move on

Ralphlauren:
i agree. that of kumuyi shocked me. he was so close to his wife

my mum can't get past it till date on how quickly pastor kumuyi remarried

That's the reality of life.
It amuses me when a woman dies and people are pitying her husband.lol.

Someone who is already strategizing and may already have a replacement.

The death of a woman is a loss to herself,her siblings,parents and children,if any.

Not her husband's loss.

Men move on in no time.

reginaeb:
Exactly what my mom was telling me about how the pastor will remarry ASAP and she mentioned a lot of pastor's that remarried after their wife's death..

Of course..Being a Pastor fastens his remarrying by 2.
People will be begging him to remarry sef..for sake of ministry,even if he wants to mourn his late wife.

Pastor Kumuyi of Deeper life remarried within 1 year of losing his wife..

Madubuko of Revival assembly
Odukoya of Fountain of Life
The husband of one of Tuface's baby mama ,I have forgotten his name..and many more.

Men no get time oh.
They remarry asap

reginaeb:
This year should do and go abeg.. how will the husband feel? God comfort the family she left behind

Lol..Funny.
What's a man's problem with his wife's death?
People that are always online bragging about side Chics and how easy it is to marry many women at once?

Forget it.
He is already making arrangements for her replacement.
Thats if he doesn't have a hand in her death.

Fear men!

Confusedgirl869:
It's going to be hard. Thanks dear

If you had closed your legs to him.
It would have been very easy.
You won't even give it a thought.


Premarital sex and its disadvantages

Confusedgirl869:
Hello everyone. This account is created for this .

This issue has been bothering me a lot and I am very confused on what to do.

We have been together for more than 2 years now and we hardly have issues, infact we are a perfect match or so I thought.

I am 26 while he is 35, we both working and I never disturb him for money, I take care of all my needs myself. He is very calm and peaceful, doesn't hit me and I really admire him a lot. I on the other hand is also good, hardworking, not materialistic and all that makes a good woman.

So after thinking of our relationship thoroughly some weeks ago, I realised that there is really nothing stopping us from getting married this year or next. I decided to hear what he has to say because he never talked about us being or getting married. I also noticed that whenever he sees or hears about bad marriages he felt lucky he is not in yet. This always makes me feel bad because I know myself. I also wasn't a fan of marriage before I met him because of so many bad men out there, but everything changed when I met my guy, he is what I want. The very first day we met, the first thought that came to my mind was 'this is my him' I don't know why I had that thought being our first time meeting.

Anyways, few weeks ago I decided to ask him what his plans are. Are we in on a long thing or not? I got the shock of my life when he made me understand that he doesn't want to be tied forever, he loves his space and the way nobody disturbs him. That he only wants a baby mama, he wants me to be the mother his kids but not in marriage. I was mad and I cried for days. He was even sounding like nothing is wrong with being a baby mama, maybe not but I just can't.

Well, I made him understand that I can't be a baby mama and it will also be hard for me to move on with another person. I've bonded so well with him and all that. And I also hate jumping from one man to another. I told him to talk to people who are in successful marriages and stop looking at the bad ones. Today when we were talking I asked him about it and he is still maintaining his stand on the mama.

I don't want to give birth to kids that have 2 homes, I grew up like that(it took me lots of self discipline not to become useless) and wouldn't want that kind of life for my kids, I want them to grow with their parents in ONE house. At the same time, I don't want to lose my good man and relationship.

I need your opinions please.

I wonder what's causing your confusion other than too much premarital sex and maybe some abortions ..plus desperation to get married.


The man has told you his mind.
You take it or you leave it.

Most of you ladies like to complicate your lives.

It could even be that he doesn't want to marry you and using that as an excuse.
He is 35.

He could be a married man with a family somewhere.

Use your tongue to count your teeth

Women..Stop meeting men from social media..
They will argue.

The single ladies will say they can meet their husbands online.

I wonder what a mother of 5 was looking for on social media.

Once a random stranger initiates a chat without a subject matter..I just ignore or block.


Women don't learn...Its unfortunate

Lifedonor:
I will have to go straight to the point.

The lockdown due to covid 19 made my girl friend and I bond even closer to the extent she practically was almost living with me. She only leave my place to her house (not too far from mine) just to change her clothes or her other items as the case maybe.
Sometime along the line I fell ill and she was very much helpful.

Fast forward to early May, I discovered she had become too glued to her phone. We would be seeing a movie on TV and her phone will be with her (chatting) at a point I complained. This got worse to the extent that when I wake up in the night say 1AM this girl is still up charting.

Two days ago I went to the hospital for my final check up and I left with the keys since she wasn't around when I left the house. When I got back I found her small Nokia phone on the table and I decided to go through it.

The messages I found there are things I won't want to talk about but the major one that promoted this thread is that I saw a message from her choir member telling her that he is on his way to church already and that she should come fast before the program starts so they can meet. I went through his previous messages with her and lo and behold they have been dating for a month now.

Guys when she got back I threatened fire and brimstone and booommm! The confession.
They usually meet an hour before choir practises and they went behind the church towards the generator house to kiss touch and romance that was the reason she always left the house so Early.

Do you guys know that we had a very good sex that same day she left to the church to kiss this guy. Do you know she bathed in my house, she used my deodorant, she ate my food and wore the clothes I bought for her. Apparently she kissed and romanced two guys in less than 3hrs.

This is the second time she is cheating on me. I know quite sure there could be more but this is the only one she agreed to may be cos there was a text evidence.

She has been pleading and begging. But if she could do this even in the church and on a day I was in the hospital ... I am thinking of quitting. Pls advise me

She is 22 in her finals the guy is 25 same university (I live in a university town)

I have met her parents and I have verbally told her that I would marry her. If not for the way 2020 turned out I wanted settling down November this year. We have dated for 2yrs

She even spoke to my mom in the morning of the same day.

I stopped going to church for about 3 years now.
I also stopped making close friends with people who attend church.
My life has been better off.

Agbagbaregoo:
I just met this lady and everything seems to be clicking. she just started a business after I gingered her and I had to patronize her. in the course I transferred some money to her to patronize her far more money than she was selling the Stuff so as to encourage her. The bank debited me and I told her I sent it.

Throughout that day she claimed not to have gotten the money. Then throughout the next day same story so the third day I went to the bank to receive the statement of account. lo and behold her name was boldly written and the bank people told me she has gotten it. I got very angry and sent it to her but I didn't tell her anything I just ignored her call.

A policeman asked for her number at the bank that he will question her. throughout these period I ignored her and I was just imagining how a beautiful light skin tender looking babe will behave like this. Then lo and behold today the bank reversed the money. I can't explain the feeling of disappointment.

Now she said she doesn't want to have anything to do with me again that she doesn't want wahala for her life. She finally picked after many trials of calling and she insisted on me leaving her life.she even said she's not doing business again. I don't know what to do.

Answer truthfully...

Did you both have sex?

They should just break up and go their separate ways.

ken711:
I have been dating a girl for about 18 months now. Very pretty but my brothers, let me tell you... Look before you leap when it comes to pretty girls.

From the minute I met this girl it has been one money request after another. If it was small sums I guess I wouldn't really mind, as I have always worked for blue chip companies and can afford it. The thing is, her requests are always very big!.....20k this, 20K that.....but my brothers, I have to tell you the one that has made me even disappointed in myself.

She lives with her parents and they are the most dysfunctional family I have ever heard of... Everyday one person is fighting the other, and this my girlfriend, as fine as she is, is the most arrogant, prideful, violent & rude person I have ever met. She hounded me everyday that I must get her an apartment of her own, so she can escape her home, and I agreed to but by saving monthly.

Would you believe, one night, when she was working at a bar as an usher for guinness, she gave her number to 2 different men just because of this apartment. My spirit kept telling me that she gave her number out, but she kept lying...only for me to catch her texting one of the men when we were at church of all places.......

She even went as far as going to meet this rich man at a hotel, but the man ran away when she made that request, and I as a fool decided to finally do it for her. (I suspect she cheated on me that night and I always tell it to her face because she has cheated on me twice before)

I live on the Island and tried to get her to rent here as well, as I really want to keep an eye on her..... She has too many guys around her who live in that area and she is this kind of person who cheats out of revenge, even over small things.....this girl refused and threatened to break things off!....bro, as a mumu I sent the money to her to rent the place and for other things, about 400K.....

Ever since that money left my account, it's like my eyes cleared!!! I couldn't believe that instead of saving my hard earned money, I went and sent it to a girl that has cheated on me twice (or even more), lied to me, slapped me and done so many things.....but I just decided to leave everything for God, seeing as she was desperate.

The problem now is that the demands for that apartment is now becoming too much!!! The expenses just to get the place finished are such a burden on my financial and mental state...

The worst happened about two days ago, she wanted me to pay 20k. Infact I just got so tired of bills that I kinda was stalling on it, but what happened next truly shocked me. Would you believe this girl started punching me, slapping me and even tore my shirt cos of 20k. She even threatened to break my office laptop (working from home) until I sent the money, after that she left........

Now she is trying to apologize so that I will pay for bed and gas and the remaining things....my brothers, I know u will say am a fool!...I accept...I am a handsome guy, studied abroad, I just don't know why loneliness made me fall in love with such a sadistic user... My only problem is, do I pay for the bed and just finish what I started or just free the whole thing and the nearly 500K I have already spent...

Please help!

Lol...
All I could do was LOL@your story.
This is how life is.
If a guy meets a cool headed nice girl,he maltreats her,slut shames her after sleeping with her,to part with 5k for her hair,he will insult her.

This is exactly the type of girl that fits Nigerian guys.

Goan complete that house furnishing and buy her a car since you don't have sense

30 forever

masterP042:
Just hustle to be rich.. When you're rich in Nigeria, you'll enjoy more than in abroad. You'll be like a demi god here, with lots of convoy, security personel, houses and cars. In abroad, you can't achieve such luxury. Our rich men like obasanjo, ibb, atiku and the rest even enjoy more than bill gates, Zuckerberg, ortega and the rest.
Your type dey make abroad look too easy while it's not so. U dey uk no really be achievement o, some of u guys over there no get shishi. Whereas some carpenters and mechanics here in naija live in their own houses.

And you just concluded I'm a guy.
Interesting...
Well,I may not have much here..But I'm doing better than many of my colleagues back home in Nigeria.
Relocating from Nigeria is the best thing I have ever done for myself and future .
Working as a doctor here will forever be more fulfilling then in Nigeria.

Whatever the case..
I will remain in UK..Even if road side beggars own private jets in una God forsaken Naija

masterP042:
Just hustle to be rich.. When you're rich in Nigeria, you'll enjoy more than in abroad. You'll be like a demi god here, with lots of convoy, security personel, houses and cars. In abroad, you can't achieve such luxury. Our rich men like obasanjo, ibb, atiku and the rest even enjoy more than bill gates, Zuckerberg, ortega and the rest.
Your type dey make abroad look too easy while it's not so. U dey uk no really be achievement o, some of u guys over there no get shishi. Whereas some carpenters and mechanics here in naija live in their own houses.

And you just assumed I'm a guy.
Interesting...

Whatever the case..
I will remain in UK..Even if road side beggars own private jets in Nigeria.

Nothing can make me return to Naija.

I rather die in this UK.