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Seems no one is faithful anymore, even among married couples. How much more so-called boyfriend/girlfriend?

Dude should just shut it already. What we have now is a generation of 'varieties' enthusiasts not in foods or any other but in Dickson's & PussyCat's.

SMH.

XhosaNostra:
I feel sorry for her. What I realized is, even though not having men falling at you feet may make you feel like you're unattractive (I mean as a young, still developing woman), it's a good sign, because predatory men have an innate ability to read people. They can pick out an easy target from a mile. But unfortunately, some of these girls see this as a compliment. Which is a more telling indication of their profound naivety/stupidity.

Sure about that? What if you're really unattractive and no one just freakin don't care about you?

Did you also say it's a good sign? C'mon... It's not! If everyone keep avoiding you, perhaps, just perhaps you need a beautician to try some stunt...

XhosaNostra:
Lol, there's always next year. No more excuses about a "stranger". Focus.

I hate to wait. Just do it already.

XhosaNostra:
...Must she compare herself to other people?

Yes, because she's a worthless piece of sh!it like she said.

By the way, I came bringing some roses to you yesterday but missed my way and crashed into the arms of a stranger.

Could you gimme that address again?

Op, how old are you? Lets start from there.

Any man who can't take care of his marriage expenses but run from office to office, house to house and send uncountable number of emails & SMSs for people to marry the wife for him, such a man must be rejected by the would-be wife.

It is even sheer madness to think of marriage when you can't even bankroll your marriage rites, which is just like laying the foundation. It must be understood that those who beg for marriage support are also invariably those who beg to feed the wife and children, pay school fees and medical care etc.

It's even more silly to think that a man who can't lay common foundation will somehow put finishing touches to it.

If so be that people attend your marriage rites with gifts as a tradition, fine. But then, it is not your right or entitlement. In fact, no one is owing you anything!

Tinalex:
...have you ever seen someone who does a business with no hope of making profit?

There's no such businessman. Sadly, this evil one has come but to steal and destroy.

She has vowed that the sower will not reap his reward.

SMH.

You must not be desperate for anything. Just keep on pushing with focus and determination.

Well, there's an opening at Sangotedo for an accountant. Can you handle it?

sisisioge:
But Brethren, I've got some nice lingerie... Wanna see?

Ahem!
Okay. I'd see it in da oza room.

sisisioge:
OK, maybe we just pray together tonight...your place, not mine .

Praying together (husband & wife) is perhaps the most beautiful scene in the family.

But Sisi, thou shalt not tempt the spirit na.

sisisioge:
You are not? I'm not too. Pleased to meet you...where are we meeting for valentine? I have a red dress

Hehehe... valentine ke? I dey go hustle money jare. Besides, na black cloth I get o.

The pleasure is all mine.

I'm sorry for the troubles.

Assuming that childlessness is the cause of the problem, you must understand and by extension, your husband, that sometimes the inability to bear children is neither any of the spouses faults nor science. And if such, then it is expected of the two to support each other for as long as the problem last. I mean, it is only right and fair, since neither of you created your own bodies, i.e, the power to make children in the real sense of the word.

And then, your husband. I'm afraid there's really little or nothing you can do to change his habit of sex chatting and of course, infidelity. Since it is more of an attitudinal mindset than a cause, perhaps, just perhaps religious exhortations (assuming he believes in one) may be of help.

Lastly, you've done really well in keeping your marital problems to yourself (good thing you said he is not violent). Just keep on pushing--trying both science and otherwise. Also, do not neglect timely communication--heart-to-heart talks. Maybe, just maybe your husband will soon come to appreciate you the more and change for good.

Good luck!

NB: I'm not married sha o.

pocohantas:
Mistaken identity. For the right man, I will always, always...be the right woman .

My bad.
Never heard you sounds this sweet.

bobokeshington:
so can't you ask your partner any kind of question

Of course, you can ask questions.

However, asking for your partner's body count is akin to asking: 'Confess your sins to me'. You should know that some people are not proud of what they've done in the past, and even trying to bring back this past memories by asking certain questions, they may think, will bring put-downs if answered correctly.

So, the best bet is to try not to evoke defensiveness or shame.

pocohantas:
Though I don't place emphasis on all these days, there is nothing I haven't done for love. Minus giving my kidney...

Hmm. One would think that our own Poco is not a lover.

But surprisingly, she's planning next on giving her kidney for love.

Wow... what a great lover!

pocohantas:
Why is the emphasis on val always on men?
Woman no dey do val for man ni?

You don do am before?

Bubu is so jittery and alarmed of his failures that even his own shadows frightens him.

But even if he makes N1=1$ (assuming the lie he shamelessly told us is anything to go by) before 2019, it is operation back to Daura by fire by force!

PDP ti take over. Better the devil you know than the devil you don't know.

Dimples129:
What a sad society.
#Say no to child labour

#SayNoToRape

xendra:
11yrs old maid? your sister should be arrested first

Fine. And the rapist?

Must something makes one to cheat? Can't someone cheat in peace naturally again?

bobokeshington:
Hello Nairalanders! Is it appropriate to ask your potential future partner how many people he or she has had sex with before getting married to him or her? Please what's your take on this?

It is not appropriate. It's an infantile thing to do!

XhosaNostra:
Mnxm.

I certainly don't need that kind of originality, neither do I believe in a life path number of 1.

Wicked witch of the South, together with I, great wizard of the North, we can abort your perpetual pregnancy.

Shall we

Dimples129:
Right! Trying to confuse me! That chick could never call me a slave! We been on this nl for long now... and she catches jokes! She is not scamming like this Nigga! I've watched his interactions with Niggas... he took her loose mouth and added to it! These niggahs will pm him because he's being suggestive! They don't know she's not even in the country!

Hmm. Seems you really have his files before you.

What do I called you? Detective Dim?

Dimples129:
Those that know her... is that her English ^^^^^^ up there

She's not the one.

Succubus have this clownish tags all over her--in expression & thoughts.

But this impostor? A stone arse cold nigga!

XhosaNostra:
What's it to you?

A great deal.

XhosaNostra:
If I'm being "unnecessarily defensive" as you put it, it is not because of a movement. It's all me. I'm my own person defensiveness & all.

I see, wicked witch of the South.

Or perhaps you're just jittery... alarmed over Op's little query.

Are you by any chance perpetually pregnant?

XhosaNostra:
Lord, no!

I'm offended that someone even thought that.

He thought so because you're being unnecessarily defensive, typical of so-called 'feminists'

Why

Some people in relationships are nothing but manipulative witches & wizards.

For me, it is expected that apart from bedmatics, culinary and perhaps money, edification is very important.

These are what I expect from my woman. Of course, what I ask for is what I also have to offer.

Fair?

For a moment, my thoughts are with all the sexually unsatisfied women out there.

Men have been, in a sense, withdrawing consent for ages, and this is done as soon as they're satisfied. Though I wouldn't say we're selfish by doing so, it's simply a case of no more energy/strength left.

Think for a moment guys. You are penetrating and all of a sudden, you are pushed off without cuming and a command of some sort is issued, 'time off! Consent withdrawn'?

No be craze plus die be that for bloda ubunja

Hmm. Salute to all them girls deprived of sexual satisfaction. Mbok, be rest assured that we'll stop at nothing until 30s men are cured and empowered to mount non stop!

Erm... but for the meantime, there should be no 'time off! Consent withdrawn!'.

A controversial thread, no doubt. And I don't see them girls agreeing at all.

Op, either by act of omission or a deliberate one (perhaps to start a fight) failed to balanced his views, seeing that when the coin is flipped, one can also argue same things convincingly about the guys.

The girls are going mad already. But c'mon guys, we need not start WW3 now, mbok.

I don't need to read more of your Nollywood inspired fiction.

I already know what happened in the end...

Who can relate?

Your own desperation is even coming with conditions? Apparently, you're not ready to work.

You should know that desperate situation requires desperate measures. Since obviously, you've been searching for that dream job with your degree in English and it is not forthcoming, it is time to keep the degree aside and go for the available--whatever that is legal and honorable--what you may consider lowly for you, a degree carrier.

In fact, tell your husband to double his hustle, even if na security work. Abi you never hear sey even master degree holders dey do am? You sef, go for anything.

See, country hard o. Get up and help yourself.