justyhere: I just discovered the shock of my life. My friend is about to get married in a month’s time to this wealthy fine man, she's a few weeks pregnant and looks pretty happy.
Last week, I was with her and her fiancee came around, it was all fun and we took several pictures and I needed to get them so the guy just handed me his phone to send the pictures to my phone.
They are a very clingy couple and they left to the bedroom to go do their thing, maybe to keep me company or maybe he forgot or for whatever reason, but he didn't get his phone. I was done with the transfer and was just going through his photos randomly, I saw a folder and there are pictures and videos of him doing sexual things with different female corpses. I was so terrified, I returned the phone to home Page, cleared the recently used apps and I left immediately, I have not been in contact with my friend for days now, she keeps calling, I can't bring myself to speak to her.
But I feel guilty and angry, angry that he would do such and even record them and keep them, guilty that I am letting my best friend into a trap of a marriage.
What do I do in this case? I'm so confused and worried.
How does he get access to those things, is he worker at a medical facility or mutuary?
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I'm need some form of advice.. It's not been easy talking about my personal experiences and i might not write on this platform anymore.
Words are not even enough to express all that I've been through, all you've been reading is only a simpler version of all that has happened but it's fine.
I used to think I could do it by myself.. raise my boys alone but right now I guess I lack the emotional backing to do so. I'm Lonely, I have no one to talk to .. no family friends to visit or hang out with asides my own family.
Days back my son was crying and all he was saying is "Daddy... Daddy..." it made me feel bad. He needs his Dad too and so does my unborn kid too.
While some would say "Cheating isn't enough to leave my home" I agree.. I've always forgiven him but it's unending. On two occasions he's infected me and claimed it wasn't him. I don't want to keep forgiving till he gets me infected with HIV.
Why am I writing now? I'm actually very Lonely, being a single mum isn't fun. I don't know how to go about this.. I'm not as strong as I had thought. I'm only 25 and it feels like my life is over already... How do I get over this, I need to be strong for my kids but it's not working. Are there activities I could engage in to help me get over this stage at least till I'm able to stand alone?
P.S: I called him so his son could talk to him but he was in a hotel with another woman (I'm not guessing)
Move on already, you can do it!
You can't keep forgiving someone who doesn't care about how his actions hurt you and hence not willing to change for good.
You need peace most especially inner peace! Your children will get use to it. He is most likely not responsible even though I can't tell if any of your attitude contributed to his wayward life style.
But please, if possible get him to be at least financially and materially responsible for the upbringing of his children.
interim4: you guys dont get it, i am just here for masters, 9 months course, already spent 4months here and I'm going back to my country cos I know the next president will give us a good change.
That epistle is most likely full of lies to guilt trap and manipulate you to accept her back.
Vyvyanvyvy: Hello guys , I am a 36 years old single mother of four my son will be 15 in aug, first daughter 10 in october, my third 5 and youngest 3 by june. I have separated from my husband because he didn't want my son to come and lives with us , I have been taking care of them singlehandedly for 3 years. I have been friend with this man a widower who is 57 years and a father of 2 children, he is asking for my hand in marriage, to be honest I don't want to be married again, all i want is to focus on raising my kids because I have been through a lot in my previous marriage and I don't want another marriage wahala. He ask for my hand in marriage I rejected him and I had explained to him why I don't want to marry again I told him what my ex did , he said he is a mature man he will love me and my children and he will never hate them or ask them to leave his house . I told him I have to think about it and I will get back to him ASAP . But I am still scared to accept his proposal because I don't want history to repeat itself and he is still on my neck he want me to accept his proposal. I am confuse Please advice me is it a wise choice for me to get married again after everything I have been through in the past?
Don't go into it. If you do, it will be a mess for both of you las las.
Just think of it! Four children (from two different men) from you already and he also have two as well making it six. If you guys have one or two children together, that is seven or eight children.
With the present economic situation in Nigeria, the stress that comes with taking care of these children will tear you guys apart and it will lead to abuse/violence. So, use your head.
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JONSYN7154: This new neighbor of mine parked into our compound with his newly married wife. They were busy flaunting kisses every where. On the stair case, toilet, inside the car, outside the compound even on the road. At times, they will kiss till the extent, i and my wife would think any moment they might get naked and ravish themselves. Compelled by this recent development, i decided to spice my own love and sex life before my wife starts feeling somehow about us. I came back home to meet my wife in the kitchen. She had her wrapper tied to her breast as usual. I slowly tip toed passed her, heading for our bedroom. I walked into our bedroom, and dressed the bed. I changed the white bulbs to red. I scattered red and white flowers on the floor, and arranged red candles round our bed, placing some candles in the centre of the rug carpet. I pulled off my cloth and wore a white and red trouser to match with the moment. I was arranging the bottle of wine and bouquet of flowers in a small bucket, when my wife opened the bedroom door to see every where in red. 'chimmmooo! Praise, you are now a ritualist .' my wife shouted. She opened the door and ran out. I chased her behind to explain. 'Uju i can explain, stop!' i shouted as i ran out shirtless with just my red and white trouser" I was chasing Uju with a red candle in my hands and i didn't even know. Our new neighbors saw my wife zoom passed them in a flash. Moments later , they saw me with a red candle and red trousers running towards them. On seeing me, they removed their shoes and ran out of the gate, chasing my wife behind.... . My wife's family and i, have been gathered for over 2hrs now. We are all receiving marriage counseling from pastor Ebube... My surprise romance may have put me in trouble. But then, i learnt something from this very experience. Fear anything red.
Story written from a scene of one of mark angel's comedy featuring Kbrown.
Please i need your sincere input to this subject matter
I am from an average family of 6 living in Lagos. My father is a surveyor, while my mother a petty trader. My mother lost his younger brother's wife after child birth, through cesarian surgery.. My mum was the only female amongst 4 siblings, she was beseeched to look after the infant and her little brother. That was how my parents began nurturing these kids. I could recall vividly how my dad often supply the house with baby food so she could be properly fed. I saw how my dad and mum took turns at mid night looking after her. My dad lost his only sister four years after and he was given the responsibility to look after her last baby who was almost 2 years. I lost my dad 2015 when the little girl was 10, her brother 12 and the other child was just 8. My mum had 4 biological kids, 3 boys and a girl. The girl was the first child, happily married with kids. I have an elder brother and a younger brother. I was intermediate my brothers. Till date, these children acknowledged my parents as their biological parents. They never knew we aren't blood from same parents. We all had same surname. The little girl wrote her WAEC last year and cleared all her papers with distinctions and credit. She had the intention to study law or foreign languages.
I enrolled her in fashion designing immediately after her secondary school, as she had shown interest. It's less than a year she got enrolled and she's already sewing styles. She's heading to become a seamstress in the not too distant future. She also makes hair. Though not professional and she never learnt it.
My mum summoned me last month informing me she'd be giving my little sister out for marriage once she clocks 18 by May this year. She claimed i had been teaching in private school earning 30k monthly and my elder brother working in a factory earning 35k. We got bills to pay for ourselves and the kids. She asserted that the burden is already taken a toll on us. I and my elder brother are the ones supporting the family with accommodation, feeding, school fees et al. My mum claimed there was no money to pursue her education. We couldn't even afford to get her a sewing machine. The little girl suggested she get enlisted into the Nigeria navy or Immigration Service with her WAEC result, and also as a fashion designer. Perhaps, that could enable her pursue her law degree in subsequent time as an officer. My mum wasn't convince with her idea. She claimed there was no one to help her get enlisted successfully. She insisted in giving her out to a 43 years old divorces whose wife had abandoned with 3 kids. My mum was so ignorance enough to believed giving her out for marriage will help lessen our burden😭
I felt like giving my mum good hot slap having realised the reason i got summoned. I felt the burden is really weighing her down, making her think otherwise. I had kept my mum at arm length since then. Hopefully, that'd propel her have a change of mind. I sincerely got her plight though but that shouldn't be an option. She seems not to understand her decision would destroy the girl's life completely. She claimed it wasn't her fault. She sincerely wish we are capable of looking after the children, then she'd support her dreams and aspirations. She believed when there's no money, you shouldn't be found discussing anything that requires money. I've been so down ever since then. She claimed i i hadn't saved myself yet and i was worried saving someone else. She's my sister and i can't leave her behind. She never treated her badly for a day though and nobody knows she wasn't her biological child. If for instance, anyone come up tomorrow informing her or her siblings that my parents aren't their biological parents, they'd never pay attention to it. I was even threatening to report her to the family but she claimed the family can't do nothing. This little girl has good plans, dreams and aspirations but my mum wants to cut it short and shattered due to our challenges.
Please i need advice going forward. I really want to keep my family together🙏❤
Your mum has a point on you and your brother's financial status at the moment but her proposal about marrying her off is not a good one most especially to a divorcee whose relationship history you guys may not know.
Also, he might just end up treating her like a nanny to his children from the previous marriage as well as domestically abusing her because he will feel she is vulnerable.
If she must even get married, let it be to a single, responsible and well to do guy.
sync: Dear Nairalanders, I’m in a dilemma and need your advice There’s this friend of mine who out of the blue contacted me last year October asking for a favor to come stay at my place a couple of days since she had an interview in Abuja. I allowed in her without hesitation since I thought it was just going to be a few days. Fortunately, she got the job.
When she got the job in October, she asked me to pls allow her stay for two months before getting her place. My people, it’s been five months already and she’s still not making any moves to get her own place.
The problem really is I am currently jobless. She doesn’t contribute anything to the house. I am responsible for our feeding, gas, electricity, everything! And I do not have money. The little money I have is from my generous elder sister who has been my helper since I lost my job. Weekends she sleeps all through while I clean the house. I also do all the cooking. She doesn’t cook.
I am a light sleeper so I get up at any slight movement. This lady gets up between 3 to 4 times every night to use the restroom thus keeping me awake all through the night. This really has a toll on me. During the day she goes to the restroom between 14 to 16 times. She doesn’t contribute to buy foodstuff but she eats 4 times a day
What have I gotten myself into. Please how do I politely ask her to leave without hurting her feelings and savaging the relationship I use to have with her. I am tired, depressed and jobless!
What is important in the relationship that you want to savage?
Is it the relationship she does not value?
If she values the relationship, she will not be this wicked and insensitive toward you.
Just make up your mind and tell her to find her way out of your place.
LittleBigDick: My worst fear came true. My ex came crawling back after I started getting serious with another girl. We broke up 7 months ago. We'd been together since uni. I'm 25, she's 23. She said she needed some space and wasn't sure we would work out long term. I tried to fight her on it for two weeks but eventually gave her the breakup and went ghost mode
First couple of months were rough but I applied myself at the gym and other things and when I was feeling better about my physique made a Bumble account just to gain some self-esteem back and also take my mind off her. Met this girl about 2 months ago and we've been fwb since then. We Bleep every week and recently we've been talking about making things serious. I confess I'm starting to become infatuated with this girl, and she's already head over heels for me.
The problem is that I still love my ex, way more than this new girl. She reached out today saying she regrets breaking up with me, she was depressed and got some therapy and realized I'm all she wants. She says she went on a few dates but "didn't have sex or even kiss any of them."
She said I could check her phone if I want to. Obviously she could have just deleted any proof but I'm inclined to believe her considering she was very prudish when we were together and also I was the one that disvirgined her
The problem is I don't know whether I stick to this new babe or accept my ex back
The decision is yours to make but two things are involved:
1. She was into another guy towards the end of you guyz relationship. She concluded she wants to go with the guy as against you. Now the guy has disappointed her. That is used and dumped her and she wants to fall back to you her lesser option.
2. She has chopped breakfast and wants to use you to heal before leaping onto the next desired guy as at when he shows up. No girl ask for a break from a guy she really like and desired to be with.
GeorgWashinton: My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.
I'm married for ten years now and my marriage has yielded us two beautiful kids. But my wife has just suddenly changed. She doesn't cook for me and the kids any more. She comes back from work late sometimes by 9pm. She picks calls at odd hours and sometimes doesn't let me hear or understand the conversation. I complained but she said I was insecure and that nothing is wrong.
Few weeks ago I found a love letter she wrote but undated and nameless. She said she wrote it for me. I was heartbroken because I know for a fact that it was not for me.
My wife is threatening to divorce me citing that I'm maltreating her which was purely a lie and a false pretext to leave me.
I love my wife and wouldn't want her to leave me, how do I build back my home to how it was? I seriously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.
Someone has decided to leave you and you are asking how to make her stay. You don't mean it!
It takes your being ready to make the marriage work and her equally being ready to make it work for the marriage to be successful.
Now that she has made up her mind to go, just cooperate and prepare your mind for it. Ensure it ends peacefully and move on as fast as you can and never look back. You will be fine last last!
Maybe "Sense or Smartness" for "Sense or Smartness" because when some of us are doing wrong things to others, they will think they are being smart. But when same is done to them, they will now consider it as wickedness.
I've posted some weeks ago about my wife family wanted us to take over her late sister twins children she left behind, I have refused because I am not financially buoyant and it has caused a lot of problems between my wife and I even her family thinks that I am heartless for refusing to help these orphans. Few weeks ago my wife junior called to say that my mother in law was sick and she want my wife to visit her and I have agreed for her to visit. She left for a week and when she returned back she said that her mother is seriously sick and she want her and the twins to moved in until she recovered. I've told her she can go back to her village and comes back while her mother recover and she refused saying it will be better for her to moved in with us because the environment is better than in the village. I immediately knew that her mother is actually not sick and they had both plan for her mother to move in so she can leave the twins with us. I refused and I've told her I have no problem for her to go and stay in the village with her mother until she recover.she said no and she reported to her mother saying I don't want her to come in my house and she called me crying saying that I refused her daughter to take care of her and if she dies the blame will be on me . I just don't understand why my wife and her people want me to carry the responsibility that doesn't belong me. The children father is alive they don't want to bother him he is roaming free while they are on my neck to take these babies knowing full well that I am not financially buoyant and she alone won't be able to handle 3 babies at the same which mean she will also needs a helper maybe one of her younger one might have to come and stay with us to help her with the babies she will also become my responsibility. I want them to leave me alone and focus on the children father and I just don't know what to do so they can leave me alone. I am sick and tired of this situations it has started to stress me..what do I do to stop them ?
They think you are a gentle and responsible man who will be able to suffer and care for those children no matter what.
Show them you can also be irresponsible! Japa from the house. Find where to go and leave your house for the main time, don't drop much money at home. When your wife calls, tell her you are cooling off and resting because of the unnecessary stress she is putting you through.
Don't communicate with her mother and regularly off your phone. If they make the mistake of bringing in the kids into your house in your absence, stay away from the house for as long the kids are there. They will get the message and leave you alone.
You can then come back home but render help to those kids from distance the little way you can once things are settled.
Lady raises alarm after failed nose surgery in Lagos 😯
If her natural nose has an issue and she attempted correcting it, I wish she get the help she needs from a more qualified hospital but if the initial surgery was just for paparazzi, let her carry her cross.
Lamanii22: So guys, my sister met a man like a year ago that is divorced, right now he wants them to take it to another level, like wedding level…. My sister is a single mother though, educated, working class, successful…. But my mom doesn’t agree to it, she’s only seeing the bad side…
So I would like to know if there’s anyone who has gotten married to a divorced man before.. I would also like to know the pros and cons…
This said man has been truthful so far though…
Waiting for comments! Thank you…
What caused the divorce? Is he the one at fault or his wife?
Is he actually a good and responsible man?
What are the net effects of the divorce experience on him, is he totally healed now?
His he the type that compares people that is has ever compared her to his former wife?
Your sister need to get answers to these questions and if the answers are favourable to her, she can go on with the relationship otherwise, she needs to watch out.
TheBTCinvestor: I get erections with other women but not my wife
You are the problem.
You don't find her attractive again because you think other women you are seeing are better than her. It is psychological. Your mind is playing a game on you!
Solution: Stop cheating on your wife and you will start finding her attractive again and your John Thomas will be eager to put her to work and get the best out of her.
As a Nigerian writer/author who wants to publish books through Amazon Kindle Direct Publishing, you must write books that appeals to global audience and not local or Nigerian audience! This is because the target markets out there on Amazon are predominantly the Americans, Europeans, and Asians.
As a Nigerian writer/author who wants to publish books through Amazon Kindle Direct Publishing, you must write books that appeals to global audience and not local or Nigerian audience! This is because the target markets out there on Amazon are predominantly the Americans, Europeans, and Asians.
As a Nigerian writer/author who wants to publish books through Amazon Kindle Direct Publishing, you must write books that appeals to global audience and not local or Nigerian audience! This is because the target markets out there on Amazon are predominantly the Americans, Europeans, and Asians.
Politics › Re: Don’t Despair, We’ll Retrieve Our Stolen Mandate, Atiku Tells Supporters by Stevenbright(m): 6:40am On Mar 02, 2023
