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Big congratulations to you op. I vaguely remember seeing your family picture at some point. Lovely family; well done.

ParagosPride:
I've been doing things with humility all my life and people that know me can testify. But with regards to my parent(dad),it is to the contrary. He sees me as arrongant,proud,stubborn and nothing but an ant.

It all started when i started visiting him when i was doing IJMB. Because i have never been living with him. There was one day i wore his slippers (thinking a son can at least do that) he told me if i do that again he will stop paying my school fees. Why that absurd reaction?! So rhetorical for me. Again,he talked about how Europeans bettered Nigeria and i said 'sir,it's not so. ' i gave him the contents of Walter Rodney's how Europe underdeveloped Africa. He said am arguing basic facts with him. That if i dare argue with him again he will stop paying my fee. What i notice is that he always claims to be right. I told him they don't photocopy jamb form that it is the print out that is to be photocopied. Oh my God! See reaction. That what do i know? He passed through all those things,,,,bla bla bla
Countless times he has done it. To make issue worse,it happened again this night from a mere issue.
This frustrates me and i really hate the sentence.
What do you think about it??How can i deal with him and make him change that notion??

Would he still pay your fees if you stop visiting him? Can you stop visiting him for your own sanity?

lalasticala

People would eat anything. Una try sha

desperatem:
I will try to make this story short. I started banking with UBA early last year. Apart from outrageous tranSfer charges, postage stamp charges and very slow service I think its a good bank. I have never had issues of unauthorized withdrawal in my account until August 2015. An unauthorized ATM transfer was carried out in my account on August 8 2015 twice and UBA did not send me any alert for the 2 transactions. The first transaction was NGN 180,000 and the second was NGN 30,000. I got to know about the unauthorized transaction about 1 month few weeks later when I traveled out of Nija. A customer deposited some money in my account, so when I received the alert (My MTN number was Roamed for alert purpose) I knew instantly that about NGN 200,000 plus to NGN 300,00 was missing in my account. I can't wait to get back home to confirm it. Because of this, I came back to Nigeria Ealier than planned (My arrival date was scheduled for 15th November 2015).

When I got back to Nigeria, I visted my branch and I requested for my account statement, I got back home and was going through the account statement that was when I came across the transactions, I reported immediately to my Branch and I was asked to write a letter which I did. My account officer said maybe someone I know used my ATM card to do the ATM transfer but I told her its not someone I know and my ATM was not used for the transaction because I live alone, none of my friends or GF visited me during that period because I was busy planning my traveling and my ATM card is always in my wallet and my wallet is always on me. In the letter I wrote, I requested for the footage of whoever did the transaction and the account information of the beneficiary.

A couple of weeks later, I go a call that they have concluded the investigation. They were able to get the beneficiary account information but they said no footage was sent along. It was a First bank account so they couldn't view the the account holder's information except the name and account number that was sent from First Bank head office. Since UBA got that information, they stopped working on getting to the bottom of the matter. They said they can't work in hand with First Bank to apprehend the suspect. They said they are waiting for the day the suspect will come and do any transaction on his account even if it's 2050.

I got tired of waiting and I visited a friend who is working in First Bank last week, He checked the suspect's acount details for me because I collected the account number from UBA customer care. When my friend checked, he showed me his picture, I swear I have never seen the guy in my life. He went through his transactions as at October, we discovered that the guy withdraw all the money immediately he finished the fraud and he has less than NGN 1,500 in his account. After that revelation, I visited my UBA branch and I narrated everything to then, now they take me serious a bit but they later said "still there is nothing we can do" after then, I withdraw all my money from the account and I deposited it to my other bank account with another bank. I am going there today to withdraw the rest of my money. UBA is not a customer's bank. Its very useless bank and if you keep your life savings with them you might end up having a HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE. I just shared my experience with UBA with my fellow nairalanders so you can all be wary of UBA. If you have an account with them, you better take all your money from there to avoid story that touches.

Your comments/contributions and better and quicker way to go about this is highly welcomed. Thanks for reading. I hope you learn a thing or two? If anyone experienced ATM fraud before please share your experience with us.

SAFE.

You gave up wayyyyyyy too easily. Banks fear nothing as much as lawyer/legal drama. My friend,n that is all you had to use. You lost way toooooooo much to call it quit with them. All you need is a strongly worded lettter from your lawyer with new proof you have gotten from your friend @ 1st bank. Along with recepits to show you were abroad at that time.

Do it and see result. Strongly worded letter with a threat of pursuing the case in court. Let your lawyer include like a 2/3 weeks notice period before you commence action in court.

Come and thank me later.

ValerianSteel:
Amal resents that her father's dehumanizations of Justin led Justin to take his life.

John is a bastard,after so many years he shares no regret or remorse.Instead he takes time to destroy the image of Justin even in death.

I wish John a painful end in life.I say this without remorse,the guy is a beast.If he has his way he probably could have killed Justin himself.

Are a member of Fahanu's family, gay or Justin's ex lover? Why are you taking the issue so personal?

Befitting:
Hey Nairalanders, your advice and kind words might help me to get through with this challenge I'm having.
I graduated from the university early this year, immediately after my graduation my alma mata embarked on a 5months strike. As a result of this, I moved to lagos to enroll in a fashion and design academy, with the hope that immediately after the strike, we'll get our result and go for NYSC. The going was good until I received my result with a spill. I had just a course to rewrite, I thought the school will wave it since it was just one course so I decided to work it out but that didn't work. This resulted with me been left out when some of my mates are already in camp now. The feeling is devastating.
Now, I'm back home to rewrite the course. My father is really angry with, he said I've brought shame upon him and myself and he'll never forgive me. According to him, he has never failed in his life so why would I? He's making it look as if he sent me to school and I just played with his money. I feel like a failure and disappointment. I don't know what to do...feel like running away cos this man is terrible!!

Its okay, don't be sad. If you can, continue with your fashion work since its just 1 course you are re writing. Find somewhere and continue even if na apprentice for person.

Reason? Job market ndi harddddd!

I remember watching that documentary by his daughter Amal on BBC - heartbreaking stuff. I found it worrying that after all these years a niece (Amal) was still deeply troubled/distraught over the death of her uncle.

fatheritunu:
Good for her.... Today is my niece buffday(ayomide) she's 12years today. Godforbid, I will never beg for likes unlike others. May God grant u all ur heart desires dear. Bigger you I pray ijn ayomide. The whole nairalanders are also saying hi to u dear.

'The whole nairalanders' ehn? What's school did you attend again?

otijah:
@op at the first instance, why would you indulge in raw sex at all, so u dnt have sense
?
Y didn't u come to NL to seek for advice b4 u went into having unprotected sex?

Today u can't sleep, u can't eat, u ar restless and u are nw here to seek for advices

U ar lucky AIDS no longer kills anyhow, if not I would have wish u happy after life

She is not here for your lecture. Moreover you don't know if she is asking on behalf of a friend. Take your judgemental self to a deep pit!

Oh no.

adewumiopeyemi:
A true life story and I know little about the story. Read below:

“I’m so confused, I don’t know what to do. My roommate is dating our landlord and they do have s.ex under the same roof we are living. We are students but we live off campus.

Our landlord should be in his 40s and he is married with 2 kids, our landlord and his family lives in the same building with us. The first day I knew they were dating was when I caught them making love in our room although I’ve been suspecting their movement before I caught them together.

My roommate confessed to me that she’s dating him and they’ve been going out for over 4 months now.

My problem now is our landlord’s wife is a very nice woman, she’s one of the most nicest people I’ve ever met, she gives us food, money and she treats us like her sisters. I still remember the last time I misplaced N3200 for my medical in school, it was our landlord’s wife that gave me N4000 to pay for it and she has also helped this my roommate countless time.

Knowing my friend and my landlord doing extra ordinary is giving me guilty conscience each time I see the landlord’s wife. Do you think I should tell the landlord’s wife?”

Buy a sim card and do it anonymously. Don't tell your room mate to desist or anything. Do as if you're cool with it so when the kasala burst, they will not suspect you. In any case, start getting set to move house.

By the way, how is a lady your roommate?

mashin:
I feel conserved about this, am not writing this because am a proud type, but for the Glory of God almighty, i have stayed with my fiancee for 7 years and 6 months, we graduated from the same university, we did our traditional wedding on the 24th of October 2015, our white wedding comes up by November 7th, though we trusted each other, but i still have to confirm from my Gynaechologist, that my wife to be is a virgin @ 27, and currently running her Msc.

You too can do it to the glory of God, it pays to be faithful to God. We hope to wed next week and hope for a good job and a God fearing family.

If you practice, you can get use to it. It was hard for me, to take my mind off at initial stage, but God helped us till, we became the last one standing among our peers.

1st question, are u a virgin yourself?
2nd if you claim there was trust, why did you have to subject her to an intrusive vaginal examination? Was your doc male, I can bet a virgin would not have been so pleased.
3. Was she happy to do the examination or was it all your idea?
4th if she was tested and proven that she was no longer a virgin, would you have married her?

PS: if your fiancee's hymen is the most paramount thing you see in her then I feel sad for you. Congrats on ur wedding though.

Demigods:
To be truthful I told her to keep this at first, she refused o I can't force her so she doesn't feel bitter she is also in school too we both young it's just a silly mistake from both of us, other methods of abortion you say, please tell me, help me abeg.

You are a bastard, you are still asking of ways to remove the belle abi? Kill another person pikin, you go hear wen!

Demigods:
I and my gf have been in a relationship for over a year plus now and been having unprotected sex most time we see, I love her so much that I would love to marry her, we usually have unprotected sex all the time and she never got pregnant, she is not the cheating type, some may oppose me but if I say our history of how we came to be you will understand(story for another day) just 3 weeks ago she told me she missed her period and that she is pregnant after we had sex and I was shocked still wondering how come after a year of sex she never got pregnant, why now, I thought she was not fertile, fast forward to the point, she took abortion pills, mis..... to be precise, the pregnancy was just 2 weeks plus when she took it.

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What is wrong with you? How old are you? How can you say that and at the same time say you planned to marry her? Did you want to marry an infertile woman abi na the pregnancy thing dey worry you? Listen man, since you already call her fiance, you have to suck it up. Ensure she goes to a hospital ASAP to confirm that pregnancy is okay. Hopefully, you guys have not done irreparable damage to your foetus. Good luck and congrats on being a daddy to be.

olawooro:
Good enough. sex is good and sanctioned between married people by the Bible. I used the episode of the old testament where the standard of living a holy life was even lower compared to new testament where xtians are expected to make Christ the yardstick of their moral lives. Matt 5:48, I Peter 1:15-16. My bro, in the spiritual realm, someone who has not engaged in sex activities is holier than someone who has involved in it. The great Apostle, Paul, in his message to the church of corinth, I corithians 7 He said it is good for a man not to touch a woman, but to avoid fornication it is better to marry. In verse 5 he says they shey should not defraud from having sex except they want to engage in FASTING AND PRAYER. So what are we saying? In verse 34 he says there is a difference between a wife and a virgin, the virgin cares for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in spirit and in body. ' ------- all men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given. and there be eunuchs which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of God's sake. He that is able to receive it let him receive it' matt 19:11-12. 'For in the resurrection they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but are as angels of God in heaven' matt 22:30. If you are a spiritually minded person and you have a special prayer and/or fasting you will refrain from sex. The prophet of old like Elijah, Elisha, John though bible does not speak about their marital lives, but a study of their lives, one will discovered that they were men that were filled with spirit than be carnally minded, the same thing goes with Paul who did not marry. I will not go deeper than this.

Now we have moved far far away from the starting point. I quite agree with what you have typed above. A married man who chooses to abstain from worldly things: food, merriment, sex et al for a certain time cos of any spiritual exercise is fine by me. Whether he becomes better and spiritually more alert than another married man who just had sex is not for me to judge or comment on. Nevertheless, the former having embarked on such a spiritual exercise pulls him more closer to his creator.

My grouse before you quoted me was the guy who tried to make sex in marriage sound like a sin. That is what I had an issue with and I hope you get that. God bless you.

olawooro:
I think you misunderstand him. He knows what he is saying, he dose'nt say sex is a sin between a married couple. But let me ask you if you are familiar with Bible, do you the reason why God often commanded the Israelites in the wilderness whenever He wanted to visit them, 3 days ealier before the day that He would come, He would told Moses to instruct them that in three day time He was coming they should sanctify themselves and abstain from sexual act with their wives?

Okay so what does that signify? Do you know how many things made them unclean in the old testament? Do you even know mensural flow was enough to set one aside? Do you know how they continually had to abstain from doing certain things while keeping all the laws?

With the death of christ, these things are no longer the same. God himself instituted marriage and sex within marriage is good. No need being coy or trying to make it a dirty act. Sex within marriage is not only for procreation but it helps foster the bond between man and wife. Nothing more will please God than for a man and his wife to be happy, serve him and live in harmony. Sex is good bro.

HML to them.

Opinedecandid:
He said that crab, foe real?

Why do you guys keep saying crab? Crab is an animal for crying out loud. Do you mean to say crap abi is it Nairaland sensor at work?

Opinedecandid:
He said that crab, foe real?

Why do you guys keep saying crab? Crab is an animal for crying out loud. Do you mean to say crap abi is it Nairaland sensor at work?

icedee1:
This looks like india it is not malaysia.the protest is in india change your topic op

You are correct. Its indian policemen that have the carton coloured uniform.

Dbestmax:
The act itself SEX is an unholy act Weda in mariage or outside marriage so wateva is said and whoever says anytin during sex dosnt Matter...

Its going to suck being married to you. You need to change your orientation about sex ASAP! If you don't, you may end up with a frustrated spouse who will most likely cheat on you.

BecaciaBarbie:
Good morning NLS,

Please I need someone who is into bakery and all sorts, to help bake a cake for me and have it delivered to the destination of the recipient.

If there are other suggestions, please kindly share with me...i can do with more or other suggestions too.


Thanks.

Don't you have equivalent of Tesco, Sainsbury or even like Costco there? You can get a friend (in that locality) to help you buy and deliver to your recipient. Surely that would be cheaper than buying from dedicated cake shops.

Hero10001:
You don't cook moimoi when menstrating

What does that have to do with anything? Duhhhh!

May you find your dad pretty girl.

His state of origin may have also helped unless the man lied or something. But how do you shag a man and not know solid stuff about him? Oh well...

slyfoxxjoe:
That's no french kiss.. I doubt they swapping tongues and saliva.. but yes I can kiss my daughter on the lips.. its only creepy if it lasts too long which u can't tell from this picture.

You can never tell. It is but a picture. Only those who watch it live can comment.

Akposy:
I dont really like snail. That snail is #600...very cheap

Too cheap, what state is that?

FOREXMART:
you're truly daft.

As you are.

PapaNnamdi:
Useless girl
No husband
No pikin

No mother inlaw
No sister inlaw

No husband brother to trouble u



Only u just de the house,

Bia dis girl,
Enter inside

Bastarddd!!! LOL

silverr:
I didnt know she will go to the extent she did with me. I thought she just didnt like me. she had always gotten along with sis. never knew it was all pretense.

Crap! Goodnight tho

standingtall:
hi guys,

I have been dating my fiance for 3 years now. In the beginning everything was cool until recently. About a month ago, I found condoms an, empty pack of condoms in his bag, I confronted him about it and he told me he saw the pack on the floor and he liked the colour of the pack so he picked it up.

I let it go because I didn't want to upset him since he started getting upset.

Fast forward to today, I was looking for change in his bag and this time I found 3 different brands of unused condoms in his bag.

I didn't say anything and I won't say anything. I am hurt and crying inside.I just don't understand what he wants again. I hate him so much right now.

Please my sisters, I need a coping mechanism until am safely far from him. Sorry about my epistle. I needed to let it out.

These thins happen so you can make an informed decision befor marriage. If you cannot cope with a cheating husband, now is the time to walk.

Don't marry then come and open a thread to cry tomorrow. You won't claim ignorance then. Kindly take your time and go through this thread (below) to see what married life can be when a woman decides to ignore the warning signs. Happy reading

www.nairaland.com/2686032/marriage-crashing-think-hate-him...help

Jelo4kul:
With the way things were going, you would know that Miss Anambra would win. But it wasn't fair at all. Many girls there beat her hands down in terms of beauty. Maybe it's her intelligence that made her scale through

I prefer who get sense pass empty head oh!

FrancisTony:
Finally, a dark-skinned beauty. We are tired!

Proudly an Anambrarian!

Nor be only you oh!