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I know this irritating insect

Good enough. This is the first time I am reading such. Its quite sad but I've always felt most muslims never had an answer for such so nice to read this. By the way, why don't I hear more of this from muslim clerics, followers on say Nigerian TV?

Thanks to the guy who mentioned this thread.

Silvofitz:
South African robbers, killers of Lucky Dube.
Deadly miscreants!
You guys better be careful how you display your assets.

I dey tell u, if they can kill a whole Lucky Dube, who will they not kill?

Sarahluv3:
I want to use this opportunity to thank all nairalanders for their care and suport during the search for my father from my previous topic here on nairaland.

on wednessday i created a topic here looking for my father. After receiving so many calls from well wishers and advicers I finaly got 1 call around 11.00pm from my father's brother that my uncle, he said i saw my story and he was just going through it, to his bigest suprise he saw his brother's picture that is my father.

i was very happy i have never been this excited in my life before.

Thnkz to all nairalanders who showed support anf care.

My dearest friend dapaiks who introduced me to nairaland and made the search possible.

seun the founder of nairaland.
lalaticala
Mod
and those i forgot to mention
Thnk u all may God bless you.
Ameen

Congrats dear. Please let the man substantiate some hidden info your mum may have revealed to you. Also do test to be doubly sure. God bless you and yours.

kadas01:
I feel your pain sis!

Confide in any of his "close relatives" whom you are also close to!

The LORD is your strength!

BAD advice! Don't judge any matter for inlaw. They will always side with their brother and use it as ammunition against wife tomorrow.

damton:
Did i say it's right

No but you appear to be making excuses for her. How can a graduate be saying 'am here' instead of 'I am'. Check most threads on Nairaland and see how our so called graduates write.

damton:
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Correct grammatical expression is not relevant to secure job in Nigeria anymore.
This is more than meets the eye . Her tactics is quite subtle than you think.

Perhaps, she's looking for job in her own crafted way which could be decoded by some discerning folks.

What is wrong is wrong. Please go and sit down.

Sarahluv3:
l am Sarah M. Sarki by name, am currently living in Yola, I was born on June 15th 1985 in Zaria Depot Army barracks in Officers qauters.
The Man I believed to be my father FREDERICK WOYINKURO or FRED KURO was from Rivers State. he was staying in my grandfathers (captain Msheliza sarki) BQ in the officers qauters Deport Army barrack Zaria as of then.
He then left Zaria for school in University of Science and technology portharcourt
The last time my mum told me she had contact with him was when he sent her a letter with a picture of himself with the following address University of Science and technology port Harcourt PMB.5080 at the back of the picture around 1989/1990. ever since she have not had or seen him.
I believe by now he should be in his late forties or early fifties.
Please if any one in this platform In anyways had come in contact with him or familar name in any way or have any information/details about him no matter how little it may be I will be very grateful becouse no information is too little to be considered
Thank you.
Attached to this is his photograph

You can call me, sms me, or mail me through the following contact email: Sarahluvfred@gmail.com
phone no, 08129702873.
Op please help move this to front page so that I can find my father please

The answer to your dad's whereabout lies in PH. Goggle his family name and write to all people on Facebook with that surname. Someone must know him or hopefully tell you his village. Once you enter his village - case solved. Good luck

Harbosede02:
Dah baby is still too small to be handled by a guy........that's a woman's work





I typed the baby is still too small to be handled by a guy I never wrote a guy can't bath for a baby,bt dah child is still too small,at dah particular stage the child is I believe it's a woman's job to bathe him.
Now what I hate is mentally challenged fools quoting me with insult!! Drop ur comment and leave,I don't need ur view.

Speak for yourself! No one is assigned to a particular job.

SSpeter:
and ppl wey no get don die finnish?...bros you first person get work no mean say you go first am hammer o....No be by how long you have been employed or by how you earn....What controls and defines prosperity is more than your check...I have learnt that decades ago

Most people on this thread are of the opinion you should not have criticized your boss in public. Can we be all wrong? You are just too stubborn. You may also struggle in a multinational with the same attitude.

SSpeter:
I felt breaking my boss head after he made some derogatory comments that got me angry and belittled.....

Yesterday a colleague and I went to take measurements of a bank for renovation works in one of the tertiary institution in ogun state. My colleague been the senior was given the full details and equipment needed. When we got to ogun state, he gave me the equipment (tape and camera) and asked me if I could do it that he has a babe in the school. I said yes and he gave me extra 3k I guess that was to shut me up.

After taking the measurement of the floor area in the banking hall and other adjoining spaces, I took pictures of the tiles and ceilings just to show my boss that they were in a very poor state. When I got back home I used my computer to scale the measurements and then redesigned the banking hall.

The main aim of the renovation was to increase the number of cubicles in the banking hall from 3 to 7. Today when I got to the office, I gave my boss the report and showed the the proposed design I made, he said "Great". During critic session I was surprised that the initial drawing was brought out and he was redoing the design. Well I no talk, I watched until he was done instructing the architect. Then I compared his proposed design with mine and I quickly pointed out to him that he has used up much space for circulation moreover our cubicle spatial analysis is till the same.

He called me Peter!!! ....what year were you born I told him, he said that was the year I started this company. If you have things in your head keep it. When you establish your firm, use it. Na so everybody dey look me like say I shit for body. See me wey for just keep quite....If it were to be somewhere else, Na orijin bottle I for arrange untop him head...............that is why I keep praying for a multinational firm....abeg make I quickly go check my shell application status....

You have been warned Peter. To find work for Nigeria nor easy. You wan correct you boss, you dey do am for public sef. I bah to you sha.

SirToby:
I overheard some people saying kayode Fayemi has been relegated ? I think we need to think deeply about the relevance of the ministry given to him, Its not a matter of being juicy or not, the truth is nothing serious has been happening in the solid minerals ministry. Ministers have been coming in and going out without any reasonable and visible impact. As a graduate of Metallurgical and Materials Engineering from FUTA, I've monitored the ministry since the days of Deziani Maduekwe and nothing serious has been acheived so far. If we really think deeply about the ministry given to fayemi, we will understand that the ministry needs to be revived and resuscitated, since the president want to diversify the economy. We went on a field trip to NIOMCO and Ajaokuta when I was in 300 level, I could not hold my tears because it has turned to a graveyard of economic policy. Imagine the blast furnace has never functioned since it was constructed ? There is a railway linking NIOMCO in itakpe to Ajaokuta. The purpose of the railway is to transfer iron ore from NIOMCO in itakpe to ajaokuta. There are so many pipelines that supplies gas from warri to power their machines, but none of the above has been effective. Fayemi is seriously in for a real brain work, This is his chance to shoot himself to limelight. Make Ajaokuta work, stop importation of chinese billets (semi-finished steel products), revive delta steel company, call the indians in ikirun rolling mills to order, employ graduates. My professor always say any nation that has the control of iron and steel controls the world. Buhari is interested in his brain and not his CV. I wish him success.

Here are the Agencies and Departments under him.

AGENCIES:
1. Ajaokuta Steel Company Limited
2. Council of Nigerian Mining Engineers
and Geoscience
3. Metallurgical Training Institute, Onitsha
4. National Iron Ore Mining Company (NIOMCO)
5. National Metallurgical Development
Centre, Jos
6. National Steel Raw Materials
Exploration Agency
7. Nigerian Geological Survey Agency
(NGSA)
8. Nigerian Institute of Mining and
Geosciences
9. Nigeria Mining Cadastre Office
10. The Nigeria Extractive Industry
Transparency Initiative (NEITI)
11.Nigerian Coal Corporation

DEPARTMENTS:
1. Aluminum
2. Artisanal & Small Scale Mining
3. Directorate, Office Of The Permanent
Secretary
4. Finance And Administration
5. Legal Unit
6. Metallurgical And Raw Material
Development
7. Mines Environmental Compliance
8. Mines Inspectorate
9. Mining Cadastre
10. Servicom Unit
11. Steel.

If only they can appoint people like you; you seem to have passion for your course. Why not write a letter to the new minister or the head of those agencies telling them what you can offer.

Lolzzzz

brownlolly:
Don't blame the dad...I could do the same too ...he went to hustle for his family. He didn't go to drink and play lotto. Besides, he left them with his friends...not distant friends. His neighbors who he thought were his friends and could understand his predicament.

God will reward the criminals and compensation the family. It is well

Sorry for you then. Better to leave your children with your mother in village or town than to do that.

braimeddy:
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Silly father. Where is their mother or you own mother? You cannot leave kids with your fellow man all day everyday and go to work. God, my heart breaks for those kids.

All i want to know is how this topic made front page.

rexkexmilan:
LMAO. .

Fucck You . I Didn't even see that .

It's a blessing in disguise... If you know what I mean .

Hide your face in shame, you nor know beforeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee...

Djbaka:
Well now that you are divorced and happy, will you make heaven?

Will you marry again even though your husband is still alive??

How will you advise those who make you their role models as regards marriage??

What's your share in percentage in BLW after the divorce?

How could you look so ravishingly beautiful even without a husband?

I'm not judging you, you made the choice you felt was best. I wish you all the best!

Well now that you are divorced and happy, will you make heaven? You who is apparently the most perfect person on earth, are you sure you will make heaven?

Will you marry again even though your husband is still alive?? Are you even married to begin with? why does her life concern you.

How will you advise those who make you their role models as regards marriage? Why is she a yardstick for you? Is she the only divorced person you know. Tell you what, why not ask Chris Oyakhilome the same question. Fear let you!

What's your share in percentage in BLW after the divorce? How does that concern you? Do you have a stake in there as well?

How could you look so ravishingly beautiful even without a husband? Perv, get a life. She is not the only beautiful single woman.

I'm not judging you, you made the choice you felt was best. I wish you all the best! Same to you.

Kimoni:
I laugh in Swahili

True true, you be new bride. Shior

You are about to start your married life in a family house with a brother-in-law and his wife as well as your sick father-in-law and the only thing that bothers you is the maid because she doesn't greet you

Hehehehehe sorry o, madam the madam

Do you have a job? Pls get busy with work such that you won't even have the time to notice who is greeting you or who is not. If you were living alone, who would have taken your clothes off the line?

My dear, get your priorities right. The maid is not yours, face your husband and stop behaving like madam in a house that's not yours.

***modified - I went back to read your post, I honestly think you have bigger issues. You are not even married to him yet and you authoritatively want the maid gone cuz she calls you by name I just hope you don't scatter that family before you finally get married to him sorry for my harsh words oo but you have personal issues you need to resolve asap

You have spoken well. I can see right through her. She is trouble.

ima30:
Hello. I have been with my guy for five years now. We are getting married next year. The thing is we are going to live in his family house, with his extended family. I didn't like the idea but I found a way to accept it seeing as its quite comfy and it means we won't have to worry about rent. Its basically a two bedroom apartment. The only thing I share with the rest of the family is back yard and staircase. He said we would do three years while he is building his own house.

His elder brother who is married lives in that same building. It's the maid THEY hired this year to take care of their sick dad, that worries me. The mom is late. She is very disrespectful to me. So many things happen and when he speaks to her about it, she won't bulge. All because it was the elder brother that interviewed her so she doesn't listen to almost anyone else. I spoke to my guy that I would not live with a maid that has not greeted me for almost a year or has no regard for my home or wouldn't obey him. He said he can't tell her to go because she is close to his brother's wife and she takes care of his dad.

This may sound petty but it's serious. All this family house wahala, if I tell him to rent a house he would say I'm not appreciating all his efforts to make sure we marry next year. I did laundry the other day came back and met the clothes soaked on the clothing line with all the rain that fell, meanwhile she brought in every other persons cloth inside. It might not be a big deal, but I don't want to resent any body I live with in my future home.

I need that maid gone, how do I get rid of her? The worst part is that since they all live together, he needs his brother's approval before he does almost anything, if I complain it would seem as if I wanna cause friction between both brothers. But there has been cases where changes were made by his brother and my guy wasn't even consulted. The maid before her was paid by my guy for two years straight, she didn't insult anybody. She left cuz his brother told him to sack her. That their father needed better attention and she wasn't a good cook. Na so my guy sack the girl. No question. They brought this one now and my guy paid for some month's and stopped because she was rude to him and me. His bro has been paying since. But my guy still pays nepa bills and those other things to run the house. Yet when he talks to this maid she won't listen.

How do I get her go? I don't like her one bit. She just basically work for the brother and his wife. I can't even send he to buy me matches. She calls me by name, would not greet. My guy told her to stop all these things, she still didn't listen. Please.

Please get over yourself! You seem like a trouble maker. You never enter house see wahala. Your guy had better watch you. You seem like trouble...

Celebrations

@StarboyMichael may you live long and may your children call you blessed. Your head dey there. Within the last 3 months, a dear cousin, single, working and earning a good pay has told me a work colleague and family member have advised her to attend deliverance because she is still unmarried. This lady just crossed her twenties.

This is a born again, God fearing lady and as she confided in me, I could see this suggestion had taken its toll on her spirituality and self esteem. It was indeed pathetic!

mamagee3:
Ever since my male coworker called me ugly, I have never been the same mentally, I have lived the past few months thinking I am ugly. The trauma of that event has left me forever damaged psychologically.

Please guys help me out, how do I lift myself above this spiteful attempt at my self-esteem?

I liked your profile photo and no, you are not ugly. Ugly could also connote an ugly behaviour. Are you badly behaved? Cos that may mean what your co worker was referring to.

In any case don't sweat it. When peeps are angry, they say mean things and sometimes, they don't really mean it. Probably na oyibo tinz dey worry you. If you dey Naija, you'll brush this off cos they'll probably be more pressing issues.

GurlFriend:
Today is Toke Makinwa's birthday, and birthday wishes have been pouring from different quarters, but the one that surprised people the most was the Instagram message from her estranged husband Maje Ayida ,who posted this photo of them sharing a passionate kiss

[img]http://2.bp..com/-obMbLgdN0H4/Vji8mYTd17I/AAAAAAAAOd0/dCopR3a9AUQ/s400/Toke.jpg[/img]

And followed it with this romantic message

[img]http://1.bp..com/-9t0YxkuiMVQ/Vji9AqRz3lI/AAAAAAAAOd8/fUaA_hgONbU/s400/majeayida.JPG[/img]

https://instagram.com/p/9nYXKFNgHT/?taken-by=majeayida

she was all that to you and you had to fu..uck it up by sleeping with an ex. Not just sleeping but kpanshing raw; such disrespect for your wife. End result you have a baby boy. Its obvious Toke is over you. Even her birthday message was talking about getting over hurt and seeing triumph. Every other day she is thanking God for seeing her through rough days. She has moved house and is acting like a single woman. Sorry for you sir but you have lost a good woman probably your meal ticket. Note to every other randy man; be careful, you don't know the woman who may damn the world and do a Toke on you.

Lol

WhoBeThisMan:
I met this girl last year december, beautiful, very comited to church, and she had all characteristics of what I want in a woman or so it seemed. I approched her, she liked me too, we started going out. I just got out from a very messy brakeup so I really was tired of dating, I told her I want to get married thats my intension and we should start working towards it. She said yes.

I met with our pastor, he basically warned me about the sister, she is nice but can be very arrogant, if I was sure this is what I want because there is no turning back, I said yes! (Love dey shark me).

Fastforward to now. This year has been a very challenging year for me financially. This she knows very well. She insisted we do the wedding by october, I told her it would be too soon, im not financially prepared for that. But I really love this girl, and I wanted her to be happy, and also I couldn't wait for her to be my wife (love still dey shark), so we finally agreed for december, even though its going to be a big financial strain on my part.

I had all the plans to raise money worked out, to cut the long story short suddenly things nose dived in business. My financial pathner had some personal challages and had to pull out funds.

She was able to raise some money from her office, but now she puts me down with her words, castigating me, feeling superior because she feels I need her. She says words that are too hurtful that I have to talk myself out of low self esteem.

The painful part is that all my friends and family members warned me about this, I didnt listen.

Now I think she has become a monster, I wish I could but a stop to all these, I really dont need to get marraid right now. I dont even know hownit will be like to live in thesame house with her.

I have always wondered why this very nice lady is still single at this age(age witheld). But now I think its her arrogance that has probably driven away all her potential suitors.

Pls I need advice, feel free to be harsh if need be

Ps this is not my story oo it is a friend

Okay nah. Don't you know one of the quickest way for a man to die is to marry a bad/wrong woman?

Now you don't want to fail family and friends that sowed aseobi but when you enter that marriage begin dey sweat, all these people nor go dey there that time o.

Be wise, your pastor lied. As far as una never marry, you can pull out. If you can't stand her bad mouth/arrogance now, chances are you CANNOT cope with it.

ParagosPride:
yes. I just came for holidays this time around. But i've decided to stop coming for holidays.

You'll be fine. Thank goodness he is still doing his bit by sponsoring your education. I am sure its cos you don't live with him hence your lack of understanding.

Another thing you can do is talkless and study him more. Just try to blend with him and even if you don't agree to what he says, just say "okay or I see" as opposed to arguing. Take care.

48noble:
A prove that young men should be given a chance to governance.

A proof...

Freegift75:
This is a true life story

My immediate siblings are twin brothers, same mother and father. November 5, they will mark their 39yrs of age. Taiwo and Kehinde happily married and lived comfortably.

Taiwo married a banker while Kehinde married University non-academic staff. They are both devoted christians and they both live in same town.

About a year ago, we lost Taiwo in a fatal accident and left a surviving wife as widow and three kids. Six months later, as their senior brother and the breadwinner of the whole family, I summoned Kehinde to re-marry Taiwo's wife to continue playing the role of husband.

Kehinde and Taiwo's wife agreed to marry each other but Kehinde's wife kicked against the union. Kehinde only has one child and since 8yrs now nothing more.

Kehinde's wife got provoked, lashed me with demeaning words and thereby reported me to our Church senior pastor at the headquarters and I was demoted for involving in sacrilegious belief.

It's a shock today again to have received a letter from the headquarters that I'm no more needed as pastor in their ministry due to this same issue.

This is a ministry that I had spent a lot towards its growth. The land our branch was built on was bought by me alone.

Now, what is my offence?

Fool! If you care so much marry your late brother's wife. The wife go still remain for family abi? e nor compulsory say na the twin brother go marry am so go ahead and marry her. Ode!

Dottune:
As much as I love Tiwa, the issue of hiding her baby up and down is beginning to annoy me. Shey we wan chop the baby ni? Abi dem go adopt baby? as the baby take white and the parents be like charcoal

Still love you tho, waiting for a single...

We need to respect some people and the choices they have chosen to take. You are not feeding her baby so why so concerned. I have some simple questions for your type.

1. Have you seen Kate Henshaw's daughter's picture?
2. Have you seen what Genevieve's daughter looks like?

We have to understand and respect these people when they do what they choose to do. We may not understand it but they owe us nothing as such.

Iamthewatcher:
I met my fiancee some few yrs ago. I've agreed to marry her but there are factors I still want to give a final consideration before signing the dotted lines. These are:

1. She is not literate but willing to go to school. I never dreamt of marrying an illiterate when I, myself is a graduate. Her waec result is nothing to write home about. In fact she wasted her time in secondary school as far as I'm concerned and when I asked her why she was such an olodo, she quickly blamed those she lived with. She said because she was more or less a maid then, she hadn't much time for her studies and that's why she failed woefully. When I met her, her use of english was zero and I had to exert much effort to bring her to the level where she could converse freely with me at least in english. She retook her ssce and credited all subjects except math.

2. She's 2yrs and 3months older than me. Some argue that a woman will age first when older and that's the reason men go for younger women or at worst, their age mates.

3: She sometimes feel inferior to me cos' of my literacy and polished way of going about my stuff.

4. She has a fat tummy. This I perceived to be an upshot of her eating habit before I met her. Can you believe that it was when I started staying close to her that I discovered that she doesn't drink water after eating. Maybe she does that very much later. She was an expert in devouring meat with her friends and never exercised. I also had to teach her to drink water first thing in the morning before taking breakfast. I discovered that her mouth was always dry as a result of this disgusting lifestyle. If she wants to have a word with me in low tone, I do perceive some offensive odours from the mouth sometimes. All this are changing slowly now cos' a damage of so many years can't just be corrected overnight. I'm putting much effort into rearing her cos' she's a wife material.

There are one or two other drawbacks I won't like to go into now as the aforementioned factors are the ones that baffle me the most. I sometimes get so annoyed and start abusing her. But she also has her good sides that even attracted me to her which are:

1. She is well-mannered.
2. She can cook very well.
3. She is very hospitable.
4. She's very respectful.
5: She's pretty and fair.
6. She's a wife material.
7. She's reserved.

The crux here is that we are presently, not on the same page as far as being learned and refined is concerned and I want to marry someone who'll be very refined as well. Though we stay as friends but I feel she doesn't measure up.
So my people, if you were in my shoes, can you go ahead and marry her despite these bad sides??
Pls and pls, helpful comments will suffice.

Cc: Lalasticlala

Why not let her go if you think so highly of yourself? Let her go, there is someone out there for her and you too.