₦airaland Forum

mariahAngel:
First of all, don't listen to those who will come to tell you masturbation is not a problem.

How is it a problem? . Just because op is addicted to it doesn't make it one. A lot of adults have masturbated at some point in their lives, the Truth is it only becomes problematic if its getting in the way of ones life as in the op but otherwise it's a perfectly healthy act. Please prove me otherwise with good evidences

Nothing. Am not sure if I have made any disastrous decision in my life, because am very critical when making one.

MrBrownJay1:
Colombia is a great country (especially Medellin).. weather, culture, food, value for money, party, women etc.... but sadly, the country is just slowly coming out this month of the covid-madness, so it's slowly getting back to normal. There are still no international flights allowed in or out of the country (unless humanitarian), and this is one of the country with the longest lockdown. People are a bit fed up and want to get back to their lives but it's gonna be a while before anything is back to normal.

The mayor of the city of Medellin is also making strange laws lately... this week, bars have been allowed to open (with 30% capacity) but not yet allowed to sell alcohol to customers. That's as crazy as telling people they would be allowed to go to the swimming pool but not to swim

Nice one bro. I Heard their women are lovely and amazing... How true?

Clearly Spain; easy migration policies, simple government bureaucracy, diverse population and so on. However, Japan is also an excellent choice.

Even without googling u know its a small British territory with small economy. Hardly anyone migrate there for economic opportunities, mainly for tourism. Anyway I wish you good luck.

MrBrownJay1:
Yes I live in Colombia right now...I love South America and been living on this side of the world on and off for a while now (Argentina/Brazil). But i was back in Copenhagen for 18months before moving to Colombia, and I would say that ...I would choose any Scandinavian country over any other in Europe (apart from France, of course)

Bro i am really fascinated about Colombia, I have heard great stories about it. How is life over there in general?

MagnumXL:
I have met a couple of virgins in my life. I have dated some of them.

This is how I handle them.

I don't have sex with them.

That's right.
Many of the girls that I was friends with when they were virgins who ended up losing the virginity to their boyfriend at the time always regretted it. They regretted it even more when the relationship turned sour.
This is especially true for girls who really wanted to keep that virginity but lost it because of pressure from the boyfriends they were in loved with at the time.

Why do I have this mentality?
I believe that virgins, the ones who want to keep their virginities should be encouraged to do so.
They should be shown what love is like without sex.
They should be shown that there are other forms of intimacy aside sex; Conversations, trips, gifts, quality time and non-sexual physical touch.

It helps to show them that there are guys who are gentlemen, who will love them for who they are and not what they hope to get from therm.

I always date girls with the mentality that we might not date for ever.
So why should I take something permanent from you in a temporary relationship?
And If I do intend to marry you, then I will still get the virginity anyway so why hurry?


Does anyone else share the same view?
Let me know

So taking a girls virginity is ungentlemanly? .

Anything in form of disrespect , but cheating crowns it all

Yankee101:
Of course not

Enugu is sweet
Kaduna is cool
Uyo is tranquil
Abeokuta is ancient and calming
Owerri is lively with beautiful yellow pawpaws
Jos is elevated with a Mediterranean climate
Port Harcourt is full of opportunities
Lagos is king over all of Africa

You want more?

Keep being delusional

fasho01:
Only in this country would such unavoidable disasters happen. Thank God no life was lost

Avoidable

Jaqenhghar:
Hehehehe those days are long gone O. The vultures are
hungrier and greedier. The rich have grabbed everything and are still looking for ways to grab for their children. I know one lawyer like that he became ine big man's houseboy/slave becaise he believed the big man will open ways for him. The big man will be giving him false hope. Meanwhile he runs errands for the man.
I lived there for about 3 years. After I finished my work there I packed my things and left. Some people were saying I should stay back that there are opportunities. If I had foolishly stayed back maybe I wouldnt have gotten th

Whe opportunity to leave naija

Which country are you living in now?

4tomandchi:
Anytime people are gushing over the beauty of Abuja I tell them it is so today because of one man... his name is el- Rufai.

His bold step to demolish illegal structures and the eradication of okada and under the bridge settlers is what has kept the city beautiful today.

The blue print by el-Rufai is what successive FCT misters have maintained and the results is amazing.

Still doesn't takes away the fact his silly policies have plunged many people into hardship and poverty

Yankee101:
Maitama is the place to be, if you get the money

Best roads
Best electricity
Best water supply
Best security
Best social life
Best air quality

In the entire country

So maitama is the only Nigeria?

Shameful and embarrassing! A clear sign of a pathetic country

360degreess:
.. Abuja is one of the top most beautiful cities in Africa. I am happy for having this kind of city in my country.

Celebrating mediocrity

larryking540:
we just need to build our own country by our selves , build our own school to standard ,and make it attractive for foreigners to attend,and they pay the fees tru their nose also ,

since everyone in the world is restricting nigeria from traveling ,we just have to do the needful and develop our country

There are lot of things we ain't doing right, ya know. We must fix these things for other countries to take us seriously.

Skynet45:
neat and beautiful and no flat head structure in sight. Hopefully we can get all flat heads out of Lagos soon.

If America so decide to say "let's expel anyone with German descent". You'll be shocked with the effects, as these people are the backbone of not only the American tech Industry but literally every thriving industry out there.

So you better receive sense and stop typing trash .

ReubenE:
Show us Ajangbadi jare'

Most Nigerians are little minded.
We celebrate buildings that don't translate to better living condition.

Building is never a metric for standard of living, especially in this century.
Rather than rejoice over brick and mortar, let us demand governance from the crooks that has held the country hostage.

You will never see people that live in Las Vegas, Hong Kong, Tokyo etc snap buildings to celebrate non-existent national pride

So on point man! Switzerland - one of the most if not the most developed country in the world has not up to five skyscrapers but its quality of life unparalleled to any other country.

Jh0wsef:
I still reach Victoria island today today. that place dey neat, no stress

Please where and how much did you bought that Rolex watch? Am curious. By the way it looks gorgeous

Deborah98:
you guys should leave Righteousness89 alone and comment in peace,must you always troll him? hmmmmmm nawa ooooh,

Dude is clearly an attention seeker. The least person I will take seriously.

AhmedEmeka:
This is baseless, are there South Africans that made a name for themselves?

Completely irrelevant .... In a bid to reply you end of asking a brainless question l! Always ask question for further clarification instead of letting your ego get the better of you

Merely theoretical, in practice "leaving Nigeria for a developed country is probably one of the best decision one would ever take". Sure no country is perfect, but Nigeria is just one of the most underperforming countries in the world - I mean every sector of its economy is on its knees , and considering its God-given blessings like massive youth population, natural resources this is completely unacceptable.

I strongly urge any young person out there who has the means to emigrate and never look back. You'll thank yourself you did in future.

Zzor:
no,he deserve a spank

Shut the hell up! You nasty moderfucker v

Allow the poor young man to breathe some fresh air

etrange:
I've always believed age is just a number and shouldn't come in the way of marriage. But this is not about the age, it's about trust. The ideal thing is for her to confront him and hear what he's got to say. Such conversations are painful cause the idea of your lover keeping such a secret could really hurt. If he's really younger and has been hiding it all this while, trust has been broken and there's no telling how much more he's got to hide. Men get away with many things in a relationship so expect a lot of people here to suggest she should pardon him and stay since he's been a cool guy but I personally believe that apologies offered when one is already caught don't mean true repentance and, like I said, there could still be a lot the guy is hiding. The foundation is already shaky. Reverse this case in your mind, assume it was a lady that came with a baggage of lies, would you still trust her to be your second half?

I'm not saying she should stay, neither am I saying she should quite. This is because I don't know their personal circumstances. I don't know what could have made the guy to lie and how long he planned to keep up with it. I don't know the sacrifices both have made for each other in the past. I don't know how much time, energy and other resources they've invested in the relationship before now. So whether she stays afterwards or not depends all these and also on her personality: can she deal with the knowledge that her partner once harboured such a secret or will that always creep up every now and then and make her feel uncomfortable or unsure of his words? This kind of thing could hurt for long and she will blame herself if she decides to stay and later discover more lies.

Let her follow her heart and even if her final decision leads to regrets, she should take solace in the fact that she did what she felt was the right thing at the moment. As humans, we can only work with the limited knowledge we have as no one knows the future.

Cc: kingemaker

There is some sense in your comment.... Great!

Arrewa:
Kaduna is developing

Are you done posting your propaganda picto? , if i am not currently living in Kaduna I would have gullibly gulped in your agenda-driven efforts to portray el-rufai as a working governor. Hell no! He is mediocre and inept. The total length of these roads are not up to 50km, was that the prime reason the Masses elected him? Just to renovate roads? How about other critical sectors like healthcare, security and education? Even in terms of infrastructure he is mediocre.

The earlier you stop being this gullible just for crumbs the better for you

Lovely pictures. However, anyone knows where Mikel lives? (Out of curiosity)

hollah123:
your reply shows who u are but I won't reply u with your own fooly

if u travel out n u can't respect your host,u will definitely have problem

In little man

hollah123:
These people are not far from d truth, yesterday I checked crime section n one Nigerian in South Africa posted a picture of a cultist that was killed by another cultist n he vowed to revenge.

[s][/s]just imagine what they are doing in another man's land,to those reading this "will u b comfortable with it if foreigners are creating nuisance in your country?.....so I really don't blame South Africans [s][/s]

You are a very big fool fool for saying such garbage.

In a country where rule of law exist, law enforcement lies on the hands of the authorities not thuggish civilians

PaulDasilva:
Ignore whoever tells you to get busy, do some sports, blah blah as a solution. You'd still create time to watch and masturbate, even if you're the busiest president or sportsman alive.

Why? You have been seriously defiled. Your spirit man is trapped. There are demons attached to any porn site you know. What those demons do is to hijack YOUR WILL and make you bow to porn & lasciviousness. Which was why you stil watched and wanked, even after church service. You may even quit for a few days or weeks, only to return stronger. YOU'RE NOT IN CHARGE OF YOUR WILL ANYMORE - it's as plain as that.

See a spiritually strong pastor, brother, if you truly desire to be free.

Op see one..... SMH

TheOdd1sOut:
[s][/s]lease help me guysi dont know what my issue is
xvideo has finished me.everyday is back to back hardship and bad luck all necause of this act, i do it 2-4 times everyday.its giving me health issues as well. i now how blockage in my nose and sinus, my middle back has one terrible pain whenever i try to work because of continuous bending of back while watching it on my pc.i dont know waht to do again, i have done all i can. i tried all the advise online, higuest willbe one month abstinence, then i find myself back into thisa lot of things have gone sour in my life because of this act, my education was poor, i have no babe, i hate my job and corona has made the habit worse when xvideo made their high quality videos free.. see me taking poison everyday.. i am tired.i wanked three times yesteeday night with at least 20 new videos. i went to church this morning and pastor was preaching on immorality and i promised myself i wont do it again.guess what, i have done it twice since i got back from church it's killing me help.these are the videos i watched last night alone,i dont know how i got into this mess [s][/s]

You are a miserable fool for likening porn/masturbation with bad luck/hardship(no malice intended). The two are completely unrelated ( religious fanatics would beg to differ, that's fine). Masturbating is totally safe and fine. But I can't say the same regarding porn.

A lot of people(I inclusive) watch porn and masturbate and our life is going on just fine. So look inwards and know where your problem lies before drawing conclusions.

Getting busy, hanging out with friends or lover, engaging in a hobby, relaxing all could help in keeping your mind occupied.

I hope this helps. Please for your own good don't listen to those hypocritical religious fanatics who will come here to say rubbish. They are some of the worst people on earth.

vikkimimi:
[s][/s]Why are most guys on this forum so unfortunate...eh?
She came here for advice and not the trash you all are dishing on here. it's obvious most of you that commented trash are broke and pained that's why simple advice without abuse can't come out from ya'll mouths....if you've got nothing meaningful to say why not shut your mouth, she's obviously not the reason for your frustration.
Why will a guy earning 25k per month want to get married in the first place, abi him no get sense?
Isn't he aware she's waiting for NYSC and currently not working before coming up with such proposal, abi he's blind not to see she's still about to start a life...

Bae please tell oga to remove the thought of marriage from his head first biko, he should use the saved up money to start the business first while you on the other hand can look for something doing first if you can o, because the present day Naija nobody go send you till you serve finish.
Just Keep dating, and prolly you'll be serving then...shine your eyes because tomorrow when e go red for you all of this nairaland guys no go dey there... you guys should build up a little more before talking marriage because ' HAD I KNOWN IS ALWAYS AT LAST' [s][/s]

I can't stand the double standard and bias in this comment - so disgusting and toxic.

Thanks to social media for giving every idiot the platform to type trash.

You should be ashamed of your self.

Moyinoluwa35:
am 25 years and I love my fiance and we are planing to get married next year april but am scared he is earning N25,000 as salary right now but am scared about his income but he keep telling me things will get better, but I don't wanna marry and suffer please as any one been in this show before how did you work it out..

First things first. Do you have a job? If yes, how much do you earn? What job does he do?

However, I think regardless 50k alone is not enough to fully sustain an adult for a duration of a month let alone a meagre 25k. Think twice before tying the knot. Sometimes you have to use your head and look at things reasonably and rationally, doing so will make you avoid phrases like "had I know'.

Modified: so you are currently jobless , and you are embarking on marriage? You better abort that mission.

My 2 cent.