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Persephone1:
You are very right on this, his response to my post confirm this which was why I didn't push further. I have read narratives as such, I have experienced it too. I know people just don't leave.
There is always that factor the ghosted person considers too little for a break up while it is a big deal for the other party.

Persephone1:
Sorry about your experience. Was there something at some point she complained of but you never paid attention to. Do you make her uncomfortable or guilty when she raises an issue? Aside sex and money how else did you express love.

If you look into all this and you are sure you did everything right, I guess she was bored or you were too good for her.

Chee59:
No. There's a fine line between constant communication and clinginess.
I want a man who can chip in a bit of a conversation as he prepares to go to work, during his break time in the office, on his way home from work and after he's eaten, resting and retiring to bed, when he's out with friends, etc stuff like that. A little "hey" "what are you up to?" "your day going on well?" "OK something unusual happened at work" just basic conversation.

Very different from someone who wants to be on the phone with you all the time, gets suspicious of everything and everyone, for example, you didn't pick up the phone when they called, where you'll be afraid to even say "I'm sorry I have to go". That's obsessive and clingy.

Melanin07:
Let me shock you. It's just not only in software development but in different areas of IT.

There's this 9ja guy I paid for his mentorship program on CPA affiliate marketing. This guy makes more than $17,000 per week on a platform called Vocal media. And he is living here in Lagos 😬

Since the day he showed me his Stripe payments to his USA business bank account, to sleep de hard me. I have just been thinking about my life.☹️

But truth be told, Blockckchain guys are paid so high. My childhood friend switched from a $55K/yr Android app developer to a $270K/yr Blockckchain developer and he is still living in Portharcourt. 😏

airsaylongcome:
My wàhálà with them was with their monitoring. They have you install a monitoring software that tracks all your activities on the laptop as well as take a picture of you every few minutes.

GloriousGbola:
We agbayas/arugbo have seen this all before. The dot com boom of the 90s. Then to people were making websites for everything, venture capitalists were throwing money in the hope that the startup was the next Microsoft. It all crashed in the 2000s.

Warren buffet had refused to jump on the train because it violated one of his investing principles - you do not invest in a business where you do not understand how they make money. He was looking like an out of touch oldster until it all folded.

This is really zuck and the fallout of his meta nonsense. He wasted billions, went on a sacking spree to maintain paper profitability for the investors and now as is always the case, the rest of the industry is forced to follow suit. And now here we are.

Also a lot of ceo tech bros are really just burning through investors money without being prudent while hoping the incubation period pays off. Fiscal responsibility is ultimately far more critical that talent for a business

tensazangetsu20:
It's crazy to be honest. Funding is scarce and a lot of them threw in the towel. Only the startups that raised millions of dollars are still standing now. One tech CEO I used to follow now works as an intern for a company in the UK. Was a bit shocked when I found out cause I always felt he was a badass programmer

Devdevdev:
I will, thanks.

I have a question. Should I focus on frontend or also add a Backend Language like Nodejs. Ive been working with express for few weeks and I'm enjoying it.

The junior developer market is very saturated right now and there are lots of frontend developers looking to get a job. I want to stand out. Also, asides Nodejs what other backend language do you recommend?

bluefilm:
He's actually right.

Women lack the opportunity of GETTING WHO THEY REALLY LOVE/WANT TO have sex with.

For example, so many ladies might want to have sex with men like 2face or Davido, but can they?

wildikeman:
And the truth is that they will tell you they want to have sex o..that they are Hot...the minute you offer they shut you down and say kai. They want to have sex but not with you specifically. They know who they want unlike men. Men would stick their thing into anyone as long as it can cure the konji

luminouz:
That dude is right. Lord knows I have seen my share of sex starved ladies both single and married. You think they wanna sleep with just anyone? ... why then are dildos,cucumbers a thing with many women?


Your last line is wrong. What's commitment about emotions or money? Commitment include marriage and kids or at least that's what I'd term it to

zed7:
Comprehension is your problem. I'm done.

zed7:
I should be asking of your age. If you are my age then you must have seen many things amd experienced many things. Stop repeating what your friends say or what you read online.

Many women are sex starved. If we're literally talking of sex, then it's available to everyone, but will a working class lady just open her legs to a random man at the bar or to her gateman? Many women can't get a man of their choice to shag them. It's not so easy for a woman to ask for sex, especially when she knows she'll be dumped after the sex. Most women can't give sex without some emotional or financial expectations. It doesn't work that way.

It's far easier for the M.D to shag the cleaner than vice versa. If we're just talking of sticking something into something then it's easy and available to everyone even the bike riders.

zed7:
Actually there is lack of opportunity for many women. We have a lot of sexually starved females. Not every woman is cheap enough to open her legs for just anyone. Some women have preference and would only open for a man of similar or higher status. Unfortunately, some of those men ain't looking her way.

Same way many men are also sex starved. They could easily tempt the orange seller to sleep with them for money or even for free but some men also have taste and would prefer a girl of similar status and such girls ain't even looking their way.

Men even have it easier as they could easily get paid sex from these hook up apps. These hook up apps now even have some very cream chics. Again, with men, it's just sex, no emotions attached, so it's easier for a man to just lay the pepper seller and move on without feeling disgusted with himself. Not so for women.

They theory of women being able to get sex with the snap of their fingers is a fallacy. Many females have resorted to masturbation especially with their dildos as they can't attract their type of men for sex.

tosinhtml:
If your company is using Deel for payments, just open a UK bank account with Monzo or Revolut and then constantly use Lemonade to send your Naira to your Nigerian account. LIRS will not get a single naira from me.

tensazangetsu20:
Aren't there native Indian born citizens in the USA.

tensazangetsu20:
LoL indians are dumb fuckers. How can someone on H1B marry someone on H1B. Na curse ni

tensazangetsu20:
Smaller companies are laying off more than faang o. A lot of startups have laid off a ton of their devs but you won't hear it in the news cause it's not faang.

I think devs in the west despite the layoffs have no issues. It's those on H1B in like the USA that will be frightening now as they have 60 days to find a new job which is impossible with all the present layoffs at the moment

InvertedHammer:
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Which part of "madam already signed up without her husband's knowledge" do you slowpoke not understand?

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Socratiz:
Firstly, it is obvious each of this couple has a different core value.

The core value of the husband is the family. He probably grew up on a stable and closely-knit home. So he prioritise the family/children over career.

But the wife's core value is career. I would be surprised if she didn't grow up in a home where the woman was marginalized or even maltreated because of low career. Career gives her a sense of personal worth and value therefore, she could not forgo this opportunity.

In any case, for a training which is only one week, this should pose no problems for them. I had to reread the post to be sure it is not a two-month course.

Both of them need to make the sacrifice. Get a sit-in person and pay her to look after the children. Even if they end up paying with the 800 Euro which the wife will get from the course.

The man mentioned that the wife adopts some unhealthy methods to have her way whenever they have a friction. This needs to be dealt with. I suspect the wife may have some underlying trauma which need to be resolved. A professional counsellor should be able to help with that.

Please solve your marital problem and live together in peace.

Cheers

InvertedHammer:
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The woman is an idiot. No sensible woman with kids abroad will make such arrangements without discussing with the husband first. All the talks about watching the kids, etc would have been ironed out first considering that the course is in another country. She is very irresponsible. Who is she trying to impress with €800 (which won't last a week in expenses anyways)?

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pocohantas:
E go surprise you. Best believe I have seen someone at my place of work whose husband stormed the office because of two days training. 2 days, not two weeks!

vuxelle:
Hello all,
I need to bring this to this section for better balanced contribution, I have also updated some earlier information due to better information

The husband of a lady is against his wife attending a 4-7 days school course from Germany to the Netherlands. Participants can leave on the 5th day if they want, participants will also get 800 euros as participating fee. The course starts in 2 months' time, madam already signed up without her husband’s knowledge, and just recently told her husband about the signing up (They have been discussing the issue of whether to go or not and the best options). Her husband is against this and told the woman to shift the course to next year because her husband can not travel to be with the children due to circumstances that can not be resolved now. The kids are between (7-12 years). Although the husband will be able to travel later in the year, however, madam will have none of it at all, because according to her, it means her graduation will also be shifted to the next academic session/next year, this, she will never ever accept. So no negotiation about it.

What is your take on this, please?

Honeydenz:
Thinking aloud all through last night, I have thought very deeply till 1am this morning on how a particular pattern Of wealth and affluence drives In a family and society expecially in this part of the world.

Skyview01:
I am a Nigerian. Can you borrow me an urgent 2k, please don't jump off a cliff.

KingDerailer:
Once borrowed from a lending app during the corona virus lock down period and it wasn't a nice experience.

pocohantas:
Good morning! Nice to read this. Many do not build the skill or have any. They just want to earn dollars and it doesn’t always work that way. I wish I could mentor, but I have a lot on my hands and I always have issues with my male mentees. Please, keep coming here for guidance and motivation when you need them.

owobokiri:
Take a stand, my man!
Be a man!
Support the candidate you think is the best!
You can do it.
Some of us trust your judgement..
Don't disappoint..
Support a candidate and damn the damnable consequences..