₦airaland Forum

pocohantas:
E go surprise you. Best believe I have seen someone at my place of work whose husband stormed the office because of two days training. 2 days, not two weeks!

Na wa o, when i first saw "Family vs Career", I thought it was a big problem until I saw that it is 5 days absence is causing issues.

vuxelle:
Hello all,
I need to bring this to this section for better balanced contribution, I have also updated some earlier information due to better information

The husband of a lady is against his wife attending a 4-7 days school course from Germany to the Netherlands. Participants can leave on the 5th day if they want, participants will also get 800 euros as participating fee. The course starts in 2 months' time, madam already signed up without her husband’s knowledge, and just recently told her husband about the signing up (They have been discussing the issue of whether to go or not and the best options). Her husband is against this and told the woman to shift the course to next year because her husband can not travel to be with the children due to circumstances that can not be resolved now. The kids are between (7-12 years). Although the husband will be able to travel later in the year, however, madam will have none of it at all, because according to her, it means her graduation will also be shifted to the next academic session/next year, this, she will never ever accept. So no negotiation about it.

What is your take on this, please?

How is it so difficult that the husband cannot understand this simple maths? So he wants her to push her graduation till next year. 1 week of staying away will not kill them, they can hire a live in maid in Netherlands for a week and that won't cost more than 2000 Euros. I don't understand how this type of simple issues become a problem in 2023.

I think the info on this story is incomplete, because it's not making sense.

Honeydenz:
Thinking aloud all through last night, I have thought very deeply till 1am this morning on how a particular pattern Of wealth and affluence drives In a family and society expecially in this part of the world.

Sister, your thoughts are very valid, I will tell you a little story about a girl I knew from 10 years ago from IT school.

For the purpose of this comment, let's call her "Kate", maybe she might even read this online one day. So Kate was in my class & she was among the 2 most brilliant persons. Usually in engineering schools, women are excellent with the theoretical aspect and can write a full book of technical info & do well in exams, but not that great with practicals but "Kate" was different. Kate was exceptional in both theory & practical, she was also very pretty too but she never let it get to her head. She was focus & I remember we did a project on Oracle & MS SQL, the code she wrote was like someone who had already been working in the industry, she even did the presentation & omo it was mad. From that point we knew this girl would be a genius.

Guess what? some months into the programme she came to tell us that her Dad can no longer pay for her tuition due to family separation & she had to drop out, that's how this brilliant girl dropped out & went to Ogun State University. The whole zeal just died, after battling with University strikes and missing exam school scripts, she graduated and ended up being an event planner in Ogun State. I used to see her on Facebook & she doesn't look like someone that is doing so well.

This is someone who should be in Google or Amazon by now with such level of talent at that young age, that is how her life was re-directed because of lack of funds.

Skyview01:
I am a Nigerian. Can you borrow me an urgent 2k, please don't jump off a cliff.

Already jumped bro, I am falling as I type this.

KingDerailer:
Once borrowed from a lending app during the corona virus lock down period and it wasn't a nice experience.

The reason why It wasn't a nice experience is that you refused to pay back the money you borrowed. Nigerians are not good borrowers. I have never seen any Nigerian who payed back their debts.

I rather jump off a cliff than to borrow a Nigerian man money.

pocohantas:
Good morning! Nice to read this. Many do not build the skill or have any. They just want to earn dollars and it doesn’t always work that way. I wish I could mentor, but I have a lot on my hands and I always have issues with my male mentees. Please, keep coming here for guidance and motivation when you need them.

What of those that identify as a female, can they come for mentorship too, atleast they aren't male?

owobokiri:
Take a stand, my man!
Be a man!
Support the candidate you think is the best!
You can do it.
Some of us trust your judgement..
Don't disappoint..
Support a candidate and damn the damnable consequences..

Person wey CORN dey him mouth

interim4:
Really hard, 3 years relationship, and she has been loyal for as long as I can observe. Here is boring, if i was single, to get a girl here will take time. People mind their business here, where approaching a lady can be termed harassment

Do you mean 3 years in Nigeria or 3 years outside Nigeria?

sisisioge:


Legends of the street....I wish you good luck fa.

It's you & OP that is suppose to be hanging out in Canny.

You're always going to be suspicious, I suggest you quit it and move on with someone over there if possible.

Persephone1:
True that! But how do we know at a point in time the guy never had a job, career focus and "potentials"? Do we have the biography of the Man, the chronicles of their relationship or the backstory of what went wrong. Are we to gather here and blame a particular gender based on little information from the Op?

True again anybody can be broke, but you will agree with me that the guy doesn't seem like one who is striving to be better, should the woman take the fault for this as well?

Hmm you're right in your response, but I was responding to your earlier comment that - When Women get intimate with broke guys, "All women knowingly follow deadbeats Men."

I believe It is quite simple to identify a deadbeat because the signs are always present, and the signs do not depend on whether a guy is "broke" or not. Even at university, you will always know the guys who are very serious about their lives, education, and future. Even if they do not become great, they will be in a better position later on. The truth is that some particular type of bad guys pique women's interest, especially when they are younger, and some women base their decision on this.

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tensazangetsu20:
I mean my neighbor is quite an attractive man. He's fair with tattoos and dreadlocks. Has that handsome bad boy kind of look.

But is looks just enough to marry a man?

Yes

This is your answer.

tensazangetsu20:
Oh it's safe. If it wasn't I would have long since moved out. LoL people think I am unemployed and broke with how I carry myself and I love It that way. I am even used an example to kids around of a guy who went to school and hasn't worked a real job at all. Make e dey like that

I guess you can move to a better environment at the end of the year and enjoy your life while you can, guaranteed that you have saved a lot of money for yourself. Living in Nigeria is actually very cheap for a remote worker, your 1 month wage is enough to set up a great apartment without anything fancy.

Ofadaman:
You're very naive. I feel sorry for you, you live in a bubble, don't just listen to beer parlour analysis and twitter expert, think about it logically.

Can any bank manager in Lagos refuse to give Tinubu as much new Naira that he needs for his election?.
You have no idea how powerful a state is, that bank will suffer unsurmountable losses in Lagos. If you think he's not a force in Lagos, why don't you see poster of other candidates anywhere in Lagos, I'm a supporter of Peter Obi and I would go out to vote P.O in the elections , but I'm not naive to ignore the reality and force of the Tinubu camp.

Please go back & read what I wrote again, there is nothing anyone can do to completely stop election rigging but you can reduce the occurrence which is what is going to be done. No matter the permutations you do, evidence proves that It will be more complicated to obtain Naira notes from the banks even as the state. For example, if Tinubu could easily use 2 Bullion vans or more to move cash in 2015, he may only be able to obtain 1 Bullion van because of the scarcity and this is progress compared to the last election.

Think of it like exam malpractice, you cannot fully remove malpractice from the educational system but you can reduce it to a certain extent. This is exactly what I am saying.

Parachoko:
If dz figures are right, then there will still be an extension.

Probably because how can a whole Nation of 250Million and CBN is printing 500Million Naira in a week according to Sahara Reporters.

Ofadaman:
And yet I ask again, how does this affect Tinubu or taegetted at Tinubu, a Man who can get four bullion van of new notes in minutes. You think any bank MD in Lagos, or in the entire country will refuse to send new note to Tinubu who has an account with him, can you even imagine the amount of losses he'd suffer if Tinubu moves his account away or if they fall in the wrong side of the Lagos govt.

It affects everybody, It never stops people from rigging but it reduces the occurrence by half. It takes more than Billion for each political party to buy vote for all six geo-political zones. Evidences from Sahara reporters show that the number of printed new notes isn't even upto 10 Billion yet because as at December 22, 2022, CBN ordered 500 million Naira new notes. Let's say they print 1 Billion each week, It would take 10 weeks to print 10 Billion Naira. This is just an hypothetical situation I painted for you.

There is no way there is enough Naira in circulation enough for every one who to actually use. That is the main issue.

Also, If it wasn't an issue, Tinubu will not complain. Please go and watch the campaign videos in Ogun State, people at his back were pinching him not to talk but he verbally said in Yoruba that they should allow him say his mind, he complained that some powers in the Govt are trying to sabotage his presidency plans.

owobokiri:
Party politics aside, Okowa is one of the biggest disgrace of a governor you would ever find in the South. He is so placid and uninspiring, you wouldn't know a governor exists in Delta State. When your mate at Akwa Ibom and Rivers States are commissioning signature projects like super highways and big factories and you are here celebrating mediocrity with the socalled commissioning of a wierd looking flyover, then you really have a long way to go.. Umeahi trounces Okowa with Ebonys paltry allocations..

Okowas security votes take up to 25% of the budget! Dude is a rampaging criminal! He has been the governor for almost 8 years now. He was a Local Government chairman at a point. Served in the House and later the Senate, yet no fire, no spark as a governor. He was supposed to put the Aniomas on the map of development in Delta State, but even with all the 13% derivation funds, Ibori did well for Oghara more than this one has done for either Asaba or Agbor!
Very useless man..

The worse set of people are always put forth to take hold of the country Nigeria. I sincerely weep for the country. Even as bad as Wike is, a lot of funds allocated was actually used to implement projects. I honestly would wish God had put me in a different country other than Nigeria, a country that never has good people always coming forward to rule. Abacha's regime however ruled with force and dictatorship was 10 times better than what we have now and I actually wished the man never died.

dhensity:
the economy crisis hit everywhere . my friend was just sacked last week in google. loads of sack still going on

Oh wow sorry about your friend, was the job in Nigeria or USA?

ibechris:
I just want ur contribution on this topic.

No insult pls,as there is no accurate data to support this on the net.

Who is a rich man

A middle class.

And a poor man in Nigeria?

Note:for legit hustlers and not those who swindled people.

Upper Middle Class. A step above middle class people where you're seen to be comfortable.

Najdorf:
The whole point of DSA is solving problems as efficiently as possible

It doesn't make the native solution wrong. In an interview you're most likely not going to write the efficient code the first time, It takes a second trial for most people to improve their code and make it faster. Your job is to focus on solving the problem, before adding efficiency.

Devdevdev:
You still don't want to accept that your solution is slow and will give you a FAIL in an interview.

Ordinary this simple algorithm question and you can't provide an efficient solution. How will you now solve harder questions efficiently?

Set awon Nairaland troll. Maybe if you invest all the time you use in trolling and insulting people into practicing DSA questions, you'll get better. You are still at level zero. Providing brute force solution to ordinary Two Sum question.

It's clear that all my hard work is paying off. The more knowledgeable I become the more I realize just how much of a quack people like you are. Continue trolling Nairaland from morning till night while I invest my time improving my coding skills.

Why are you hell bent on causing chaos exactly? Your solution is faster, great! Okay you have gotten better, also great! So what's the problem and why do you have to curse out other people contributing to a thread. If you're in an interview, 9 out 10 times you're going to think of the naive solution first before optimising it further. That your code is faster doesn't mean the other person is a quack or useless. So let us enjoy the thread please.

Lannister360:
Upwork and fiver is Saturated, there are thousands of people with good ratings dragging one gig with you.

Start by taking very small jobs, then build your ratings with time.

@Lannister360: You can do Internships and volunteering work on the side, then add it to your professional experience. You don't need to tell them it was an internship, they do not need to know. Also move over to upwork, you will make very good income there. Learn cross-platform development with either RN or Flutter so you can get gigs. If possible, just forget about Nigerian employers.

tensazangetsu20:
Not all the thing is with internships people only think large product based companies. People are still getting good offers based off what they know. The thing no get manual. As for big tech, I wont even bother with them until the economy recovers. Layoffs everywhere and more are coming. Peoples offers are also getting rescinded.

I was telling someone this thing yesterday. If I got an offer now, I can't even resign my current job because the new company I am joining isn't sure of my delivery. They can decide to do re-structuring and lay off 3 months from now and as a new employee, you'd be affected. So better to stay where you have been tested and proven, or do 2 jobs at once if possible and manage both of them remotely.

truthCoder:
1 to 2 months for flutter is very optimistic, especially for someone who is asking that question.

Depending on his previous programming background and ability to grasp Dart, he could be up and running in few days creating UI.

However, a real app in 2023 is now more than just the UI and a real Flutter dev (or any dev for that matter) must be able to handle a lot more than Text(‘I am a flutter dev’).

I would say, he should budget minimum of 4 months and start from Dart proper, if he is new to programming, else he will just keep coming back to the same dart that he skimmed over.

You're absolutely right, I was looking at it from my own lens as I'm already familiar with Java, Kotlin & Swift.

Apart from the language Dart & Flutter the UI, there are even other parts of Mobile that is complex like Android/iOS native implementations, that is where the real issue begins. Then architectural patterns, if he wants to get hired as full-time Flutter dev.

TooMuchSense1:
Like how long does it take to learn either react-native or flutter?

In 1 - 2 Months, Flutter, it is easier to learn. But as they said if you're looking for money, React Native offers more opportunities and the reason is because Facebook came out with it in 2015, a lot of companies have adopted it therefore trying to maintain an existing codebase.

It is a very crazy market honestly.

Developer404:
I've asked some senior developers on Facebook some said React-native some said flutter, they said react native comes easy and it has a large community to learn from while flutter is tedious and has less community. Please help

This is false, React Native requires more work than any other platform because of the performance problems you will face. Having a large community doesn't mean you won't constantly be running into issues & getting stuck. Flutter now has a huge community too and you can easily spin up an app in few days, you're done. If you're doing Freelancing, the customer does not need to know what you used to build the app. Yours is to deliver the product & collect your money.

At the end, just learn both. They are similar in declarative approach and you don't know what opportunities might come to you.

qtguru:
I like the Product Management path. Thanks I fit still do co-founder for background.

Same here, Product feels like soft landing and if you already have design and core engineering background, then you'd be better than most product managers out there.

How far Qtguru, just seeing yout post on: How would I survive in the future in this industry ?? How do I re-align my professional career that makes me attractive in the future ?

For me, there are so many methods to surviving and no one way is best.

- Becoming a well rounded CTO / Co-founder is one way to escape the hustle and bustle of tech industry in the long run.

- One way is by working for a top 5 companies with huge profits like Apple, Google & Microsoft, then grow gradually in ranks as Engineering Manager for 10 - 30 years. Apple is very stable, therefore you are in safe hands.

- A common thing is Devs moving to Staff Engineers at a medium-size tech company and stay for 5 - 15 years, which they could still get fired like Twitter employees anytime investor cuts funding. Chris Banes for example is a top Engineer at Google for 9 years who left his comfort zone to Twitter & now fired, he is now back to the job market hustling again.

- Another cool thing is moving from Dev to Product Management with the wealth of experience to a medium-size company and forget about the stress of development for life.

eventainment:
A freelancer might have months of no clients too but full time jobs are always certain of pay by month ends... Freelance jobs are more demanding especially if a Nigerian is your client... Trust me I'm tired of freelancing I need a remote job at the moment.

Have you tried freelancing on upwork? Please give it a try. Leave Nigerian clients for now.

TastyFriedPussy:
You'll later give up and I'll be here waiting for you when that eventually happens rubbish..

You need deliverance!