Goodness! I hope you guys haven't scared the OP off.

BollyFolly, I'm not going to try to make you feel better as you asked for opinions (I did peep how you went postal on those that gave answers that went contrary to your liking; not a good look). What on earth were you doing that you didn't marry earlier? School, work, travel. . .maybe those were more important things to you and you looked at marriage as something your would 'schedule' in. Fast forward 10 or so years and you've managed to find a man but he's younger than you. What did you expect? That the men you turned down before would wait for you? What's done is done but you have a second chance at happiness: take it. I feel there's more to your apprehension about this marriage but you don't have to share that with us. What you need to do is be honest with YOURSELF and really look for answers about your future with this guy.
--Does he want a family? Do you? Are you both willing to go the IVF/adoption route if you have trouble conceiving? Is a childless marriage something you both could handle?
--Are you willing to see him as the head of household, even though you are older? Are you capable of adapting to the ways of another? (Let's be honest, you're 38 and used to doing things a certain way and you may not take kindly to someone disrupting your routine.)
--Are you both based in Nigeria or are you abroad? (I want to be sure this isn't a paper marriage. Sorry but I have to ask.)
--Are you both able to TRULY look past the difference in age and be a couple?

I don't think it's fair for you to enter a relationship because you see yourself as getting up there in age; you have to enter this union with the intention of being together until death parts you. In your heart of hearts, do you really believe the man loves BollyFolly? If you do, and you feel the same about him, take the plunge. But, as I said, something has to be bothering you (I don't buy that 'he's younger crap' as your excuse, either. If you're able to bang him, you should be able to marry him.), so what's really good? Sleep/Pray/Meditate/Whatever to ensure that you find the root of your concern and go from there. I love love and am always happy to see people find it.

P.S. You might have mentioned it (I had to skip a lot because JennyK, Mutter, SA and Saga were going in something fierce ) but what do your respective families think about this relationship? Are they supportive or are people kicking up dust?

Send him back to face the music. American citizenship is virtually impossible to renounce, so Tillery holds dual citizenship. They picked him up as an American and NOT a Nigerian. His lawyer is splitting hairs and wasting time; 'Nigeria's not a lawless country' indeed.

I'm completely lost in the sauce. What happened?

They are gorgeous and look so happy! May their joy continue for years to come.

And there's a little love connection going on in this thread?! 'Yay' for love (/lust)!

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@ Chaircover, if u check the urban dictionary, u will also see that spunk can have another, dirtier meaning though i don't think that was the one she meant.

I understood what was meant but still giggled at Chaircover mentioning the other meaning.

VPersie:

@travelsita

Don't worry she does not have a daughter. So I am scheming on how to handle her personally. *Smacks his lips*


Oh I cannot wait to finally taste her fruit. Three of us could link up for a triple sin and if things go well, I could marry you both, although you will both be over-age. But then we understand Nigerians and being over-age is like bread and butter.

@ Beaf


https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=503511.msg6646415#msg6646415

The above thread was referring to peeps like you. Now cool down, put down the crack you are smoking, think carefully, and say something intelligent that we all know you are capable of saying. Please make us all proud by not insulting, so that we will not wish that the embryo that made you had gone for stem-cell research instead.

*smiles*

Does Baby Bride approve of your shenanigans or is she too busy jumping rope and playing with Barbies? Thanks for the offer but I'm taken; besides, you wouldn't get a second glance under current circumstances seeing as you're 1.) a pedo, 2.) barely employed and 3.) a desperate wannabe. I prefer men that are proud of themselves and their heritage, no matter how bad things may be, they still see the beauty in their homelands.

*looks at OP's handle*

Hmmm. . .since you're so open with Nigeria's negative aspects regarding culture, security, et al, did you tell her that you're a pervert or are you uncomfortable sharing your [i]personal [/i]shortcomings with those you know in real life? I hope she knows that if she has a young daughter, she'd be wise to keep her away from you as you love them young and tender and will likely force yourself on her.

As for your question, I answer honestly. I speak well of Nigeria but I don't lie. I tell them electricity is so unstable, you need a generator and people carelessly dump trash everywhere but the country is like no other and an experience to cherish.

Nice question but you're still gross.

And, so what? Muslims aren't the only ones that have complained; the ACLU complained about the same thing and they've been shown to be right about TSA workers looking at scanned images and making inappropriate comments. One airport worker went as far as to physically assault a coworker because his third leg was shown to be a thimble on the scanner.

All that aside, it's a necessary evil that most (including myself) support. Don't like, don't fly. I'm not trying to hear about your feelings and rights to modesty when everyone has go through the scanners.

I'm Roman Catholic and my fiance is Protestant. He comes with me for Mass and I go to church with him; when we're married, we'll be registered at the local parish and be functioning members at his church. To me, it's not a big deal as long as we are willing to go for worship together and we do. I don't understand being married (and belonging to the same faith, albeit different denominations) and going to separate services. But, if it works for you and yours, then why not?

manny4life:

Perhaps you have a more broad definition and understanding of how they meant "All men were created equal under God". First, don't forget, history says that these men were devoted Christians, when they were writing it, thus were inspired so I learnt. Second, I would believe that's why the Bill of Rights came into passage; where the amendments fall into. My point to you regardless of whether they meant it or not, the "Bill of Rights" were later incorporated into the Constitution which every U.S. citizens has access to be it Muslims, Christians, Gays, Lesbians, Heterosexuals and the list goes on.

I don't have a 'broad definition' or 'understanding of how they meant'; what you're trying to do is rewrite history and that does everyone a disservice. From 5th grade onward, we were told ad nauseum that when the Founding Fathers spoke of equality, that 'equality' was intended for a protected section of society. No amount of 'equality means this' is going to change their original intent, which is well documented. And what does being 'devout Christians' have to do with anything? History is showing that some of the FF were more monotheists than Christians; judging by their participation in occultic behavior (it's documented; Ben Franklin was a veritable freak to say the least), I'm wondering about their 'inspiration'. These same 'devout Christians' were proud to own fellow human beings (that they felt were subhuman enough to not count as a full person) and you think they wrote The Bill of Rights with homosexuals (who would have been considered sexual and social deviants by the period's standards), Muslims (that have had a bad rep since the days of Saladdin in Christian circles) and Blacks (that they considered dumb animals) in mind? 

Which is it: that The Bill of Rights has been adopted to ensure fair protection and equality for all in modern times or that the FF originally called for it when the document was written? You've said both in the space of two sentences and I want to be sure that I understand what you're trying to get across.

manny4life:

As for Sharia law(s), I would say it's gonna hit a dead rock because laws established within these court guidelines would cause a conflict with Federal law. Federal, and state laws must be at peace at all times so as not to stir conflicts within system of government and so if a Muslim [b]American [/b]is tried under Sharia Law, that has caused a conflict with both state and federal law just because of the fact that he's American. By the Constitution, every American enjoys certain rights which in certain instances is revoked under Sharia law. For instance, minor theft cases that would be treated with a fine and or community work under state jurisdiction might carry severe penalties under Sharia law.

You can say whatever you like but if it were to be allowed, how does it affect YOU? As I originally wrote, if a Muslim (American or not, really) agrees to be judged by such a court, it's their right and their prerogative. Not yours. And definitely not mine. If they don't like the ruling (under US law), they have loopholes to disregard anything the court decides. The community will probably frown upon them but that is their right.

manny4life:

Although u do make a good point, however, citizens would try and stop it introducing Proposition (whatever it is which I will support) to stop it. Even if Muslim Americans consent to it, it won't fly at all. There are so many issues wrong if it's established, you think is all Muslims that like to be tried under Sharia courts? What if a Muslim to be tried decides he wants state court (because he has a right to) what happens? In my own little opinion, that would not fly and the Govt would not give any exemption.

What I don't understand is how YOU are showing your hypocrisy without so much as batting an eyelash. In this thread (and others that deal with gay rights), you scream and scream about people having the constitutional right to live free from persecution and interference from outsiders and here you are wanting to police another minority group. So much for being 'open-minded', right? I never said anything about 'all Muslims'; I was very clear in my first statement about Muslims having to agree to participate in Sharia. Again, s/he has the right to choose to be tried in a US court and (hopefully) no one actually objects to such a move. From what I see, there aren't any 'issues wrong' other than the fact that you don't like Sharia law. There's nothing wrong with admitting that but what you're trying to do is underhanded and no different than what the Prop 8 supporters did in 2008.

manny4life:

Please cite a case for me that was tried in the U.S. by a Jewish court?

Are you serious? I gave you the actual name of the court and you're asking ME to find you a case they've tried on US soil? Is Google blocked on your computer or what?

*sigh*

Have fun: http://www.bethdin.org/

Someone has already mentioned this but the concept of 'equality for all' is difficult to ensure. If you protect one group, chances are, there's another group that will claim to be infringed upon. In situations like this, you're between a rock and a hard place to ensure that the majority is taken care of, while ensuring that the minority isn't marginalized.

Very sad. Another reason for us to close the border.

VPersie:

Thanks for the well aND mean wishes. I ACCEPT them in good faith. But i need marriage advice ooh.

You really want advice? How about this: GROW UP! Finish school (both of you) and THEN contemplate marriage. At least let the girl graduate from high school before you stunt her growth. Are you really that hard up for some tail that you'd knowingly raid a playground? Is your Baby Bride pregnant and that's why your families consented to marriage? You might as well spill the beans as you've exposed yourself as a dirty old(er) man.

If your prey/'girlfriend' were my child, your family wouldn't have a body to bury.

OP, you're trash and a loser if you can't find a girl that's close to your age. What does a 25 year old have in common with a 15 year old? Your mindsets are (supposed) to be miles apart; you just want a tender young thing. How are you going to support her and yourself with a part-time job? Ugh. There's 'failure' written allover you, dude.

Whatever. She nearly kills her husband in a fit of rage, doesn't get charged because her husband protects her by lying and she walks away 100 million bones richer and she's talking about going through hell.

manny4life:


Perhaps our American Founding fathers were under great illusion when they were righting the constitution.

Dude you can stay here and claim about Muslims taking over the U.S. and introducing Sharia law, Muslims have to secure at 60% of Congress seats first because the last time I checked, legislative powers was delegated to Congress and Congress only. While the president does have executive powers, he doesn't make laws without consulting Congress. If u think both homos and heteros will seat and watch Sharia taking place, think again. Again I don't see it happening now or even in the future, so let's forget it. America gave them immigration and citizenship, America can revoke that same immigration and citizenship. Since they procreate faster, I have suggested Sharia to be introduced to NIGERIA first.

Hi, Manny! Are you still talking about the Founding Fathers as if they cared about equality for all? Remember, unless you were White, male AND a property owner, they weren't concerned with you or your feelings about equality. I wish people would stop looking to the past to change the present.

As for Sharia law taking place in the US, why not? As long as it only affects Muslims that agree to be ruled by that court, let it happen. I know some Jewish-Americans agree to follow the rulings of the Beth Din, so I'm not sure of what the problem is with Sharia passing judgment on consenting Muslim-Americans.

The grandfather's statement is priceless.

bk.babe97y:

Now u know u just plain lying!

Anywhere can be dirty, but do u see the trash lying around for weeks and months without nobody doing something about it?!

Don't lie to these people! Shame the devil and tell the truth.   You haven't seen those subway rat/dogs or seen human crap on the sidewalks? C'mon, son. But, you're right: anywhere can be dirty and that was my point. We're just luckier because we have successful anti-litter campaigns and measures in place.

Oh, her sew-in is just ignorant to the Nth. She looks like she's used to doing walks of shame; I couldn't even begin to hold my head up for pictures if I was in the street with my pants halfway down my thighs and my panties on full display. She's a mess.

Nigerians can't really be so desperate to get outside that they'll head to Iran Say it ain't so, Joe!

asha 80:

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Forget that yarn.New york is a profitable city but cannot be regarded as trashy.

Aba situarion can only be solved by the indegenes and residents.

However this can only be done by someone who cherishes aba with all his life and not some governor as since the ouster of Mbakwe no military administrator or Governor has taken that town seriously.

Eh, let's not go overboard. NYC is really dirty in some places. Manhattan's arguably the nicest borough but I've been places on the UES where HUMANS have defecated on main streets, seen rats the size of chihuahuas and some subways smell like the mouth of hell. My point is, large cities (the globe over) are filled with filth.

komando:

Bkhomo is so predictable. And yet both his suit and shoes are aba made.

I'd come back again as me, without any hesitation. Life must really suck for you, OP.

bk.babe97y:

Your still insistent on this your being "Black-American" claim? lol. Freaking clown!

I'm sorry but what? I know MANY AAs that prefer to be called Black American and will gladly correct you. Didn't you see this year's census?

He calls me various things but it's usually 'Mommy' (that one took getting used to but I think it's cute now), 'angel', 'princess' and 'my love'. I call him 'Nna' (I normally say this in a funny voice) or 'Andrew' (not his name but it's a personal joke). Mutually, we refer to each other as 'Bush Pass'.

She's been wearing that wig since she was in Israel a few years back; does she even brush it? I still love Whitney, though.

Is that the woman? Oh, I can't!!! They're both losers; poor kid doesn't stand a chance with these two as parents.

This is what happens when Boyfriends forget themselves and play Daddy. Boban, your girlfriend thinks she's found a sucker for life in you. On what planet is having more than one boyfriend considered okay? She's college educated and your making excuses for her as if she's daft; please, forgive her and move on with your life. I promise there's a girl out there that will be your perfect match; someone that will love you the person and not the tangibles attached. I wish you good luck.

mutter:

Maybe I am old fashioned but for me that is the end of that marriage.
a woman should know that once she takes that step there should be no going back.
When faced with that temptation she should ask herself if it is worth it ruining her home for some little fun that has a stale taste afterwords.
MY father told me when I was getting married that whatever I do do wrong i could always come home and they would even help me plead with my husband, but not cheating.
Forgiving is not so easy, because he will never forget what happened.
If I were in the ladies shoes, I would leave on my own, because even years later the man may take a drastic decision and justify it with this act.

What?! In one thread, you're telling a woman that's married to a man that cheated on her and hid a child for YEARS to stand by her husband because he needs her. But, when the tables are turned, the woman isn't worthy of that same forgiveness? How about no one take steps outside their marriage and things will be fine? I can't believe a woman in 2010 actually thinks like this; talk about battered-wife syndrome.

Someone already beat me to it: Black Friday is the best! I've seen people push the elderly to get a $3 coffee maker, so be careful. And try and avoid Wal-Mart: they have terrible business practices but some of their clientele leaves somethings to be desired, especially when there are deep bargains up for grabs (and Wal-Mart has those in spades). Also, you just missed Tax-Free Weekend in Texas; it's a great time to buy clothes, electronics and certain types of furniture. Good luck next time and I'm glad you enjoyed Texas!

Outstrip:


LOL. What is tpf. I am pretty sure its not real because years ago I had a baby phat purse that looked almost exactly like that. It was my everyday purse and it always made an impression because people always wanted to know where they could get it. After a wore it out I could not find anything else like it. If I can get this even though it is probably actually a shanel I will carry it. Maybe I can disguise the logo LOL

tPF is The Purse Forum

spikedcylinder:

I don't think the lady intended it to be Chanel jare. Abi do Chanel have the sole franchise to quilts on bags? If you look at the bag closely, you'll see something that looks like a GBP sign not a double C as with Chanel. The bag is lovely, give her a break.
I love her play suit as well.

The bag has interlocking Cs on the clasps and in the upper right-hand corner; she's not the only one at the premier that might have been rocking fugazi merchandise.