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I sensed you're a matured lady. For a lady to be alone and also working too, you've a level of maturity

Responsibility and support is key to a healthy relationship. You've been dating for sometime now, you knew the difference between when he had a job and now. You also know his character, if he ticks your box as the right guy you love, nothing stops you from housing him for the main time while he gets another means of livelihood

I'll continue to say, relationship has no rule or formula, go with what works for you both

Acidosis:
You know the world has set a global standard now for dating. Just do as they say. No thoughts. No tacts.


@op, you cannot define a serious man by how much or the extent to which he complies to a set of tactless and baseless rules. And by the way, when it comes to complying to a set of rules, nobody can beat radical players and f**kboys. They know the rules better.

Note that my views are no justifications for you to visit a "ritualist" in his house. For safety reasons ONLY, yes, you should by all means meet in a public space. But for someone you already like, someone you know and talk to via video calls, it doesn't seem like you're worried about safety. But you just want a date anyways because a Hollywood script writer said that, for a relationship to begin or work, you have to start from the basis. Tactless.

Spot on... I do say, relationship has no rule. Just follow what works for you both. Simple!

You feel so disappointed cos he invited you to his house? Sometimes I wonder what gets into the head of some ladies... You just told us how you kind of like him, now, you're disappointed! Really?

Few weeks from now, I'll marry my beautiful princess. We met on Facebook 2yrs ago. After chatting for weeks, I invited her over to my place. It was a wonderful experience and today we're at the last phase of the marriage rite

If you don't like the idea of him inviting you over, why not discuss it with him? What's special about the public outing? If you feel you're not safe going to his house, that means you've noticed a red flag already. If not, you can as well take a friend along, or better still, invite him over to your place. Not everyone loves public outing

Iamzik:
It's always harmless Until they start indoctrinating kids and allowing 4 year olds to sign up for sex change operation without their parent consent, or mandating private companies to have gays and transgender quota.... It's a mob but you won't realize until you give them an inch then they take the whole mile from you.

This is Africa. Let the west face their deranged culture. US Government want to force LGBT "right" on Africans but is not ready to respect polygamy "right" or female circumcision "right"

No country on earth has the moral authority to force its perversed culture on the rest of the world

On point. If they so much love being homosexual, then, they go travel to the west and leave us here

We're Africans, we go with nature. I feel so ashamed how some africans embrace the western culture to the detriment of their own culture. From bleaching, white wedding, fixing of all kinds of hair and now, homosexuality...

Daviddoma:
How did it end

How did it end in what way? Be clear with your question?

Persephone1:
You meet lot of people in the Uni. You can easy chat people up, woo your classmates, and ask a friend to talk to a lady for you but outside unless you are completely shameless you can't just walk up to people on the street.
There is availability and proximity in University.

In the University, you don't have much to focus on. Your parents finance you but outside with bills piling up, the last thing you will think of is relationship.

In the Uni needs aren't much Feelings is enough, outside eyes don tear love is not enough

Well said... Outside school is full of responsibility and almost independent

I understand your story... It's real. From the comment of many, the truth is unveiled

Brother, you have to find your feet on the ground first, before finding anybody's foot

You can't raise anyone when you're even down. Thank God you're different. You clearly understand your goals and aspiration, pursue them with all seriousness. Focus on yourself!

For your mental health and stability, you can leave the house to your friend's place if you can't afford an apartment for the now. The journey of your life has begun!

Las Las your brother and your mom will all be alright!

Following this thread keenly. Studied Electrical/Electronics Engineering

I gave my experience in one of the threads when growing up. A lady complain here when the husband refused her getting a maid or nanny.

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DownTime44:
He will forever be grateful for this sir. I sent you a mail sir.

Thank you so much

Acknowledged sir

Stephen0mozzy:
Trust me, your elder Bro is aware of his own shortcomings (every first son is aware and it makes life pretty hard when it's not going your way)......I don't think he cried because he felt insulted... Those tears where the reality of his life past, present and the seemingly unpleasant future coming out from where he's buried them.

But he's a man, at 38 he should push himself, he has to be humble to learn something, even if it's driving (he must have learnt how to), then look for work as a driver in a factory or something.

At that age, he doesn't have many options of what to learn as a skill... But he has to start somewhere.

And you, thumbs up to you.. You really have Shown that you're a true hustler and i pray God blesses your hustle to make your mum proud and enjoy her labours of love.

You'll still have to talk to your bro... Not necessarily to apologies, you didn't tell him anything that he doesn't know.... He was just hiding from them.

Talk to him, ask him if there's anything he'll like to do (other than conducting buses)....most conductors who work with buses for that long or even short time actually know how to drive buses.

Don't tell him about how he's falling short.. Just ask him about his plans moving forward.... At this stage he should be humble and not let his age decide what is "beneath" him. Nothing is too small.... Everyone starts from somewhere.

Well, I work in an MEP firm as an Engineer. You can contact me for more discussion. He can learn plumbing or Electrical skills, even both and be sure of job security in any of the MEP firms if he's serious with his learning. For me, I'll suggest he try Electrical due to his age and lucrative aspect of the job.

I'm a senior child and son too almost from same background as yours. So, I understand his position and feelings. He needs more encouragement and support, especially mentally

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OneCandleAway:
Do you realise there are no house of assembly in abuja. No governor. The president is the governor in abuja. So requiring just 25% of votes is fair enough compared yo other state requirements.

And the reps and senators representing all regions, states and constituencies stays in Abuja including all ministers. The head of Abuja is the President himself

It's safe to say that, "Abuja is a prototype NIGERIA"

You didn't border to State the reason why your husband is against house help(s).

I've seen and read countless times the ordeal of some house helps. It gives room for external interference. This is the obvious truth. If your husband is trying financially, it a thing to watch. Many house helps have delivered their bosses husbands, wives or kids for kidnapping. Some have relations whom could also be interested in the man, before you know, you start hearing stories... We need to be security conscious

If your mom and his mom is still alive. It's a good one in the sense that, your mom can come, stay for some months, his mom do the same thing while your kids grow.

Your husband isn't wicked like you're making it look like. If you're kidnapped today, those wanting you to get an house help here won't be there to bear the emotional pains and cost.

After closing from school, mom and dad are at work, the lady I regularly stay with till my mom or dad comes back from work abuse me sexually. Over 25yrs ago, I still feel the trauma. I'm healing from it just of recent. I got scared of ladies. These I've kept to myself for years until I got to the stage to marry, I had to open up to my then fiancee who's my wife now. Sexual abuse by any type of house help is real.

Furthermore, learn how to manage stress and pains. Marriage is never a rosy ground. These are issues that will always come up in marriages, but they're solvable. Look for how you can manage the stress. Turn your attention to other things like watching of movies, playing of games, etc. My mother had 4 of us without a house help, I believe your mom did it too. There must be a way they managed it. Learn this act from them

I believe your husband is saying 'no' for the good of the family.

XY23:
The primary issue in contention has to do with adherence to the Electoral Act including the use of BVAS as primary source of data. Recall, that BVAS as being alleged not to have been used in close to 10,000 PUs (hence results are not even uploaded even till now).

I like your logic, in essence INEC would have to defend it's declaration that APC won. This is very good news, because they would have to do so with BVAS, Voters register, EC8A and AWS. When you look at their filed response, you'd realize they are as much clueless as they were on Feb 25th. We want to see how they will defend the irregularities from their own instruments. The prosecution should rely more on digital forensics not backend server and INEC would mess up themselves.

Spot on...

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Oloki:
Why are you taking my post personal?

We all condemned what the woman did in it's entirety but at time repeatimg some post can be boring

Sincerely, I'm not taking your post personal. I for one never knew the post was a repeated one. You could see the numbers of traction it gave. This is to tell you the post is still very relevant. So, relevant post should be reposted for more persons to see and engage in them.

I learnt from this post cos it was reposted

U Gerrit!

Zionmdde:
OP don't worry women are like that
Stop looking at her money, if you have kids, take good care of them, feed them, chest your bills. That's what makes you a man.

You can stop giving her monet or buying things like you did before, but you see feeding, rent, school fees and the basic necessities, please chest them like a man while you save up in case. The woman is keeping plan Bs, you too can do the same

But if that's the only issue, please don't destroy your marriage. It's easy for people outside to always tell you to divorce on every flimsy reasons, marriages that have lasted the test of time had one of the partners playing a fool

Women aren't like that, her altitude and actions aided by her parents were wrong. If someone is open to you in marriage, the best thing is to reciprocate

Let's learn the act of condemning wrong doings regardless of the gender, then we can now talk of the way forward

My mother whom I love so much earn far than my dad... But the respect and humility was topnotch. We only knew when we all grew up. The society today has so much put responsibility on the male child. So, just being a male child already has the pressures of life stiring at you. And if God wants to bless you for life, He gives you a good partner. As a man, a good wife and as a female, a good husband

Oloki:
Thank you o. I thought I was the only one that knows. The first time it was posted, it make front page and there was gender war that time

Whether it was posted in ages doesn't change the fact that it happened somewhere to someone who genuinely love his wife and family. I struggle to see ladies condemn this act by the woman. Anything you don't condemn, you support!

I'm just seeing the post now and it gave lots of lessons. So, I will say, sharing or reposting it gave me the opportunity to see the story. Never think of yourself, think of others like me who never saw the story until now, what about that?

Marriage is an institution built on trust. Guide it jealously!

IyaebeTheGreat:
Abegi, men should learn not to have eyes for their wives earnings, it's a sign of an irresponsible man

You clearly don't understand the principles of marriage. Two becomes one. If you're a one-man Mopol, you don't need to marry then. The day you marry, you stop being yourself. You now live for yourselves. If you can't sacrifice humility, trustworthiness and togetherness, please, don't marry.

If the man built a house and never told the woman, how will you feel?

Secrets in marriage is a time bomb waiting to explode and when it does...

Otunbakayce:
How is this rubbish from a broke and miserable miscreant on the front page?
Naira land is finished thats why it owner is always on twitter.
I bet the foolish OP is an MOD on here.

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Cooking twice daily would have been my goal, but, it's not realistic for me, especially those of us staying and working in Lagos. Sometimes, na snacks dey help man cos I ate eating outside

Sometimes, I nor dey even dey cook. Like spending over 5hrs inside traffic. Where u wan get d strength to cook again. But you see weekend, ehhhenn!

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Angelfrost:
Yeah... Tinubu and APC supporters threatened nor intimidated no one with death!

It's beyond hypocrisy for supporters of either party to point fingers!

You all are twins from the same rotten lineage of thuggery!

Meaning, you didn't see Peter Obi in a casket? Really! And in the message sent to Seyilaw, you saw LP or ObIdient abi?

IyaebeTheGreat:
That's why I so much dislike obidients, they threaten opposition with anything and are so uncouth and I'm like are you to tell me who to support, like seriously?

Some Nigerians really lacks logic. So, where was it written in the message sent that it was an ObIdient movement? What if it from other parties or even the incumbent in disguise?

The way some people dey reason ehhhh

Some persons don't even understand that this page is strickly for Clearance Sales. It used to be great, I bought lots of items here some years ago, but now, the purpose of the page is almost defeated

Natajo2021:
Yes, it is not a crime for an Obi-diot to Labour in vain.

Later, if they come for you via your own route, you'll shout, ObIdient are vawulent

tonicyril:
Lol...if only u know me in real life u will certainly think otherwise..

If u want to see a mummy boi then u will move forward.., my parents don't dictate to me, my wife doesn't dictate to me and I don't dictate to them as well..do Ur own make I do my own so far it's not injurious to our cohabitation..

Even currently me and my momma are not on talking terms and I don't know when it will end and I don't care, even my wife dey fear me...that is the kind of person I am, u can't use Urs to affect me...nooo

Reading through your comments makes me laugh. Sir, with all due respect, you're an hypocr!te!

This is the same you praising Hakimi for what he did. You see yourself!

A real man is a man that takes responsibility and is able to differentiate between wife and mother. I think you have the Hakimi's vibe no matter how you want to pretend, you we@k abeg. See explanation sef, just trying to prove you're an alpha male

Enjoy the rest of your day

tonicyril:
So it's the wife that influence hakimis entrance into the real Madrid team, so the wife is soo powerful to influence a player into a team like Madrid??

U re joking, u re joking..just go, kneel at the fit of Ur woman and start licking her vag!na...that is what men who reason like u do.

I know my duties as a man, especially when it concerns my wife, leaking of her Vag!na is part. Deal with that!

I just pity the childish and mummy's boy you'll become as a man. I pity your wife to be cos she's definitely marrying a child who's weak and unknown to his responsibility as a man