Hathor5:


And we should believe it because you say so?
I have provided credible sources, what have you got? A few sensationalist headlines at best. Let us not forget the memes your friend tried to insult our intelligence with.

You keep posting links and sources. If we start doing that, we won't leave here because I too can provide links and sources to counter yours. The internet is filled with enough to go round.

We talking real life American family law.

Between wives and husbands, who gets the house during a divorce most of the time?

Nooil:


She wasn't sexual. She tried to drive home a point, in her own way.

Right, so it isn't sexual to kiss on the lips. Why can't fathers do it to their daughters?

Hathor5:

No, not always. And if then it is for a limited period of time and it's for the children and not the wife.

Wife and children get the home MOST of the time.
Whether it is for a limited period, which is not even the case, is not important. The finality is who gets the house, wife or husband?

Nothing stops a father to fight for the custody of his children. Usher did it and won. Welcome to reality 2.0.

Fathers do fight for custody and hardly ever get it, visiting rights at best.

For every Usher who won custody, there are at least 50 Mr. Hathors' who didn't. Now that's reality

Nooil:

Did the child come out of the husband's penis or did he breastfeed the child

It's okay for mothers to be sexual with their sons but unacceptable for fathers to be so with their daughters.

Okay.

Lol @ Hathor5

Homes almost always remain with the woman as long as she has custody of the kids after a divorce.
What exactly are your links trying to refute?

Lol, is there any chic who does not think she's more beautiful than she actually is? Very rare.

It's never about what you as a man sees physically, it's about what the woman thinks of herself.

When it comes to beauty, it's best to go for women who are clueless about how beautiful they really are.
They seem not to be aware, not because they're not pretty but because they're not conceited about it.

I would have loved to have a conversation with Gillian Brown to find out if she would be this excitedly positive if it was her husband writing all that about their daughter.

Two things:

1. The girl isn't really her daughter
2. The girl is, but reminds her of something hurtful

Either way, an abusive parent always gets their due in time.

Nigeria isn't a place you can anonymously place a call to social services and get them to come in, I would have advised this.
Everything is family problem in naija, too bad.

I once left a girlfriend for my younger brother when I noticed lucifer wanted to use her to cause issues between us. Simply told her to have him and that I wasn't going to hold it against him but only against her because he's always going to be my brother while she remains the outsider.

In this case it's your wife, and I fear doing the same thing I did may be too extreme.
Or you could still dare her and see what happens. Lol

Lol

Dbanj has set a very good precedent, an impressive one at that. Boys are now fighting back against false accusations.

Oh wait, I think it was even the Krest pastor who started this trend.

Belafonte:


I owe your pops a full carton of whatever spirit he drinks.

I will collect on his behalf. Liquid courage is good for once in a while.

Hathor5:
I can't respect a man who is not in control of his penis.

Unnerve, teach your brothers what your pops taught you. You may charge them too. There should be high demand for this sort of lessons.

Lol @ charging for it. It's a good character to have anyway, the ability to maintain control of one's sexual urges, especially for unmarried men.

But I'm sure married women or even girlfriends hate it when they are not able to use sex as a bargaining chip to get what they desire from the men in their lives.

The stuff is a double-edged sword.
Learn and master it in youth as a man and he will end up being immune to the charms & manipulations of his wife and/or girlfriends.

bukatyne:


You don't get the irony of your statement:

There is NO legal distinction between a legitimate child and illegitimate child means there is a term 'illegitimate child'.

It is like arguing a lady who did an abortion was not pregnant.

Fountainofyouth:

You contradicted yourself here, there is no difference in inheritance, but it is stated that there is what we call illegitimate child in the Nigerian law because it is obviously recognised.

I get both of you.
It does seem like a contradiction and an irony, but drawing attention to the existence of illegitimacy does not denote "recognition" of it.

An illegitimate child is simply an English phrase meant to identify a person born to unmarried parents when contrasted with one (legitimate) who was born to married parents. It's a description, not an identity.

Where it gets tricky and the reason why the debate is strong among Nigerians is that the country is governed by multiple laws at multiple levels with many Nigerians switching allegiance & interpretation depending on the subject matter.

For instance, most customary laws remain very clear on illegitimacy and will not recognize a child born by such despite what common law dictates. There are also customary practices that tag a child born to a married woman outside her marriage as a bastard, but that born to a man by another woman besides his wife is not a bastard. There is also the very muddy water of inheritance, like where should an illegitimate child claim his/her inheritance, from the mother or from the father, etc.

In general and since the most important set of laws Nigeria abides by are those put forward and/or amended in the constitution, it is fair to say then that illegitimacy is simply not recognizable.

Liposure:
Its hard for a man 2 resist a woman talkless of saying no 2 sex. Its like saying no 2 jollof rice. Men are wired sexually. Now, Telling them to say no is like telling a leopard 2 change its spot which can neva happen. Its our nature

Lol, it will only put you in trouble.

It's either you're spending your savings to impress a woman, or you're begging a woman for a relationship (because of sex), or you get seduced on purpose and get blackmailed with it, or worst, you get accused of raping someone's daughter because she didn't consent to sex.

Too many things can go wrong when a man proudly says he can't resist a woman and say no to sex. I can't point out a single benefit from being unable to resist women or an inability to say no to sex.

bukatyne:
A man who can control his sexual urge, do his chores, make his food and tame his ego would ALMOST be 'uncontrollable' and 'un-influenceable'.

Would an average woman really really want that type of man?

The goal is to weed out average women and only go for exceptional women of character who are not passively trying to control and influence you.

bukatyne:


An illegitimate child is born to parents who are not married to each other at the time of the child’s birth. Even if the parents later married, the child would still be considered illegitimate. Children who were born during a marriage that was later annulled were historically considered illegitimate. However, many state laws were modified to make the children legitimate in these situations. This child was considered the child of no one. He or she had no legal rights to inherit from either parent.
https://www.hg.org/legal-articles/inheritance-rights-for-legitimate-and-illegitimate-children-47186

This, my friend, is not from a Nigerian website.

Once a child is born OUT of a legal/ recognized marriage, he/she is illegitimate.

No amount of wokeness/ acceptance of babymamaism and papaism can change that.

There is no distinction between a legitimate and an illegitimate child by Nigerian law, maybe only village people are the ones still differentiating them.

Check the last sentence

Rozz:
They will never master that and will never listen,it has been causing them trouble since time immemorial

Lol, true. I wish more guys would learn to master themselves around women

I was one of the lucky ones who had a father who taught him game very early in life.
He was the one who introduced me to this principle and although it was very hard during my teens, by the time I was in my early 20s, I had mastered & fully inculcated the act of mastering myself and my sexual needs around women.

It has saved me and continues saving me from female manipulations.

The lady didn't include tears, lol. Pops also taught me to identify real emotional tears from manipulative crocodile tears.

cococandy:
I see no mansion. But doesn’t mean he didn’t loot

Lol, a home priced at $1.3m is definitely an expensive crib even by Hollywood standards. Certainly not affordable by an everyday American.

The price tag may be what made the bloggers give it the title of mansion, but still doesn't remove from the fact that it's celebrity standard.

UjuJoan2:

The kind of wife you marry goes a long way in determining your future.

Far from the point.

I'm simply not comfortable with the narrative that a man should be assertive and a visionary because he wants to get a woman. I'd rather he develops himself for himself and only himself.

I bet the OP would not agree that a man should make money because he wants to get a woman. Same principle.

Self-development is entirely for self, which is why there's a self in there.

Hathor5:

Are you telling me you can't answer this question for yourself?
From the look of things money is not enough to keep a woman in a bad marriage.

Lordy lord, okay let me rephrase my question so it don't seem like I'm baiting you. Maybe you'll be less defensive.

If it is that bad for divorced AMERICAN women seeing as their financial power is terrible afterwards, why then do AMERICAN women still file most divorces? What do you presume the incentive is that makes so many of them file for divorce, what do they gain from it?

I understand dissatisfaction and bad marriages, but besides all that I mean

bukatyne:


Turn your device to the right direction and read again.

Welcome to the thread.

Is this rudeness or assertiveness?

In summary, the reason why a man should be assertive and a visionary, is to get a woman/wife.

Really?

NO.

We, The Association of Assertive Visionary Men, London Chapter humbly refuse to accept this conclusion as a worthy enough reason for our assertiveness and vision.

Hathor5:

The Divorce Gap
There’s a common perception that women siphon off the wealth of their exes and go on to live in comfort. It’s wrong.

A 38-year-old woman living in Everett, Washington recently told me that nine years ago, she had a well-paying job, immaculate credit, substantial savings, and a happy marriage. When her first daughter was born, she and her husband decided that she would quit her job in publishing to stay home with the baby. She loved being a mother and homemaker, and when another daughter came, she gave up the idea of going back to work.

Seven years later, her husband told her to leave their house, and filed for a divorce she couldn’t afford. “He said he was tired of my medical issues, and unwilling to work on things,” she said, citing her severe rheumatoid arthritis and OCD, both of which she manages with medication. “He kicked me out of my own house, with no job and no home, and then my only recourse was to lawyer up. I’m paying them on credit.” (Some of the men and women quoted in this article have been kept anonymous because they were discussing sensitive financial matters, some of them involving ongoing legal disputes.)

She is far from alone. Despite the common perception that women make out better than men in divorce proceedings, women who worked before, during, or after their marriages see a 20 percent decline in income when their marriages end, according to Stephen Jenkins, a professor at the London School of Economics. His research found that men, meanwhile, tend to see their incomes rise more than 30 percent post-divorce. Meanwhile, the poverty rate for separated women is 27 percent, nearly triple the figure for separated men.

Women like the mother in Washington, who leave the workforce for several years, will likely see their earnings stunted when they resume working. The main reason women suffer the brunt of divorce’s financial burdens, according to Jenkins, is that during marriage, they are more likely than men to stop working in order to raise kids. “The key differences are not between men and women, but between fathers and mothers,” he told The Guardian.

On top of that, divorce proceedings alone can pose a serious financial burden. According to Divorce Magazine, a trade publication, the cost of divorce varies wildly, from as little as $8,500 to well over $100,000. An accurate average is hard to nail down, but estimates usually fall within the range of $15,000 to $30,000. And if the split is relatively amicable, costs can sometimes be as low as $250 to $3,000, according to Lee Borden, a divorce lawyer in Alabama.

These burdens tend to fall disproportionately on women, and, in its usual way, the market has recognized that: A handful of firms have started providing loans—some of them for hundreds of thousands of dollars—to women so that they can properly argue their case in court. The loans’ interest rates can be high, but one firm estimates that applicants typically win assets worth three times the amount of their loan.

Weinberger says that because of the inevitability of alimony and child support, she advises ex-partners to make peace with paying for support before proceedings even begin. “The judge is going to order how much you pay and for how long, once you go to court, and that’s it,” she says. (If spouses choose to divorce via a settlement, she notes, they have a little more flexibility.)

And alimony and child support don’t always flow from ex-husband to ex-wife. Many men fear they’ll be ridiculed when others find out they’re receiving money from their exes, Weinberger says. Some would rather forgo their monthly stipends than swallow their pride, even if they are the stay-at-home parent bringing in no income.

Of course, the messiness of life can cause serious stress before there’s time to have a judge step in. When asked what she got out of her divorce, a mother in New Hampshire I spoke to simply says: “divorced.” Having been married to her husband for two years and having been the mother of their child, the woman found herself without any financial safety net when they split abruptly. “He would not contribute to any expenses,” she said. “He gave me 15 days to get off his cellphone plan, and expected that I wouldn't default on our rent, which was $1,600 a month. I sold my cellphone for food and got a prepaid number.”

https://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2016/04/the-divorce-gap/480333/

So if really it is this bad for women after a divorce, why then are 80% of divorces filed by wives at the detriment of their standard of living?

Obviously politically motivated, the book I mean

dalass:


Moroccan.. African

Moroccan.. Arab-berber

SocialJustice:
When your first wife is a white woman you can safely practise polygamy. Marrying a Nigerian girl first will most likely send you to early grave.

Well she has Muslim heritage and is already used to polygamy in her culture. A western (white) woman will never allow it.

It's sexual abuse to expose herself to her child like that.

If this were to be real, then she should be wondering why such a fine guy is not interested in her besides just offering greetings.
Perhaps she's not as attractive as she thinks.

CAPSLOCKED:

I DEDICATE THIS TO EVERY RETĄRD ON THIS THREAD THINKING THE BELGIUM GUY MOVES AROUND LIKE THIS ANYTIME HE LIKES.

Lol

CAPSLOCKED:


THERE ARE PARTS OF ABUJA, KADUNA, AND LAGOS THAT THE PRESIDENT CAN SLEEP ON THE ROAD IF HE WANTS AND NOBODY WILL EVEN LOOK AT HIM.


THERE ARE PLACES IN BELGIUM THAT THIS GUY CANNOT ENTER WITHOUT SECURITY ESCORT OTHERWISE HE WILL BE MOBBED AND KILLED.


ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT WE MAY BE BAD, BUT WE'RE NOT THE WORST AT EVERYTHING.

I understand your need to be patriotic, but there's no leader in the world who moves around without security, doesn't matter where the location is. As long as he/she is outdoors, there is always security shadowing.
It's protocol and the leader can't even send them away. Maybe telling them to move back a few yards is allowed, but they still must be within seeing distance.

Regarding the photos, you just can't see the royal family's security detail but they are very present.
If everyone could identify them, then they were not doing a very good job.