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@Saintmary

Your information is wrong, eligible men and women full ground. Maybe you're in a village sha.



@me
Na village meat, the unriped fruits boys are rushing now. That's where there are abundance of wife material.

Not in the cities where you have over-ripped fruits with artificial boob and butt with plastered and painted faces. There is over supply.

@Pricelessruby

Marriage is not for everyone.



@me
I hope that you will uphold this view to the end. We hope that we will not hear you say that you have decided to give it a try after you have seen one money bag.

@Pricelessruby

Same here, the only thing that gives me joy is to work and make money, not to be with someone that will make my life miserable


@me
That's how it starts. Career and money making. When it becomes late you will start running after us.

Ladies are in trouble. Husbands are as scarce as dodo.

@pocohantas

The only problem with two husbands, especially two NIGERIAN husbands, is that they have no usefulness.

It is not about money because even Linda Ikeji and Genevieve won’t consider it. Not forgetting that there are a lot of poor polygamous men and most polygamous homes have the man impregnating while the mother fends for the kids and tries to keep them together, since her houseband is always out hunting for newer toto.

So, one is enough stress, why add extra(s)?

A man can marry multiple wives because women are useful just by being women. At least they can birth kids and maybe take care of the home. They will submit to him, take turns to visit his mother in the village and wash her hollandis.

What do you now gain from marrying two NIGERIAN husbands?

- They won’t submit.

- Tell them to help you add small water to the rice that you are already boiling, they will say you are emasculating them.

- To provide sef is now wahala for them.

- You will age very fast and no, it is not nature. Except nature is a Nigerian man. You will age fast because you would constantly be blamed for the actions of two or more men who are supposedly more logical than you.

- They don’t have wombs, you will be the one carrying pregnancies and birthing them.

- Since they are polygamous in nature (according to them o), you will spend your youthful years fighting side-chicks and attending all the revival programs in UAR.

- You will do the caregiving yourself because as usual, they are always too tired and busy to bond with their kids, but they have enough time to bond with side-chicks. Go to bars, you will see them there, laughing like hyenas, drinking Hero and chewing peppered kpomo.

If he wants to finish you kpatakpata, he will go and lodge in a hotel with his daughter’s mate and get killed.


@me
Nigerian women would not like it because they are not liberal in giving to men. They operate with entitlement mentality. They have been schooled to believe that men owe them the whole world and that they owe men only kpekus.

Even the kpekus that nature gave them for free they still expect men to pay gate fee. The richest among them still expect to receive from men. This is in contrast to South African women.

@Saintmary

Modified:
And next time, be stingy with sex, very stingy. E get why.



@me
Will it change anything? Not in this era where ladies are stranded and there is fierce competition among them for eligible men.

She will put you in guardroom if you mess up. You better run unless you want to do frog jump.

Bubu has dried up all cucumber therefore erection is as scarce as dodo.

Who erection help? Na erection we go chop. Erection self go make you spend more.

Too much erection can kill. Go and ask mr ataga.

@GreatUniben

Check out the bolded. I am sure you saying this to confuse the poor sister.

Real Catholics do not visit juju house like you protestant do. Your pastors are automatically juju men and they use a lot of jazz to run their members brain so that they will be able to milk out money from you and make all of you kiss their feet and see them as gods.

To Mug muffin, open your Bible and read the real meaning of what Jesus said is Born Again and you will understand and return to the catholic church with peace and joy.

You have strayed far from the Blessed Sacrament, the saving grace and the most sanctifying food. That is why you left and be shouting born again up and down.


@me
Hahahaha..... I know and I have first hand information of what happens among your knights. I gave op advice. I have no intention of discussing your sect. I mentioned there that there fervent ones but unfortunately they are encumbered by so many unscriptural practices. This is not the forum to outline them. There's clear difference between religion and Christianity.

@Darlingme

My dear, pastor wife's obligations, are not for every lady. If you're a geniue pastor, you'll know that it's beyond asking just any beautiful sister you see to marry you.

The problem with some young pastors is that, they're busy looking for sister Mercy Chinwo's package (anointing) in Tonto Dike. It's not possible Sir.


@me
You are very correct and I know from experience the demands.

Op. Don't mind those that have been condemning your suspicion as a result of imbalance in your Christian standard with your fiance. Marriage is a serious business. It's a life time decision. For a true Christian it's for life.

We always advice intending couples to pray and seek divine direction. God must be first.
It's dangerous for a fervent Christian to marry a church goer. It will affect the spiritual and moral upbringing of the children and the family.

It's not about denomination. Within the Catholics there are fervent ones. Is he one of them? A man is supposed to be the head of the family and by implication the pastor of the family. This is the perfect setting.

What I have discovered from experience is that in most homes today the women shoulder the spiritual burden of families. This is because most of the women did not do what you want to do now. As pastor I have observed that majority of the marriages are being managed. What is still holding them is either the children, what the society will say or desire of one partner not to be out of marriage.

I will suggest that you consider the following:
(1) Is he liberal about your Christian faith? I have seen Moslems that their wives and children are Christians and they encourage them.

2) Though he attends Catholic Church as a church goer, does he get involved in non Christian practices or beliefs? I know that a lot of them do.

I have made this lengthy because you are seeking counseling and not mere suggestion.

May God guide you.

Ladies are most times confused in their choice of life partners. To an average lady if you ask her to list out the qualities she wants from her future husband, one of the most common desire is "God fearing man"

But if you ask majority of them whether they can marry a pastor, their answers are no.

My questions are:
(1) Are pastors not God fearing?
(2) What is wrong and/or difficult in marrying a pastor.
(3) Why can't the same ladies that bombard pastors with counseling requests be their wives?

@KimberlyWest

Na Small pikin dey worry most of una.



@me
Na big pikin dey worry majority of us.

@mutter

Don't worry... We women don't need a man to go on his knees to boost our ego.



@me
Correct woman. Good wife material

@frozen70

You guy's will just start thinking on how to make women weak despite the fact that they are called weaker sex

So when a man kneels to beg a woman, he becomes a woman

Those married women that have taken up the responsibilities of the family because the man couldn't make it, has their private part changed to that of men

Meaning such a woman has already become a man

Look, when you see a man kneeling down to beg his wife or woman, his reasons are best known to him and you can't tell him otherwise.



@me
An African woman is an African woman. Even if she is the breadwinner which we know is abnormal that doesn't make her the man.

Kneeling down depicts respect to someone higher than you. Any man that does that has become a woman or at best woman wrapper.

No matter how high a woman is she must bend to urinate.

The man is fully enjoying his investment. Chop ptoto and download with milk.

Long story short..... your wife don do you.

Whatever is sweet may somehow turn bitter. We have been telling you guys that sex outside marriage has consequences but you will not listen.

See your life. Better don't tamper with the life of that innocent child. Face the result of your wild screaming.

@pocohantas

The end of a redpiller, online madness.

Just reduce your dosage to 50mg and join your brothers here, you will be fine.



@me
Hahahaha..... inside me I dey pity you ladies on how you manage to bear all these bashing on this forum.

To some of these boys once they have a bad encounter with some of these loose girls they will come here and pour their anger on you ladies.

I'm sincerely sorry.

@EndRape2
You are among the 1petcent scare Igbo men. Period, this is not generalization it is statistic and research,. Just go to ministry of Justice and tell them you want to take counts of women killed in abusive marriages,. You will see that 99percent if the women killed are married to Igbo men. Their mothers never allow their sons have peaceful homes

It is a sad truth most Igbo men are domineering and abusive.


@me
Hahahaha... which ministry of Justice? Federal? Does federal ministry of Justice keep records of cases in States?

States? How many states did you research and get your data?

Over 80℅ of domestic violence like other private issues in Nigeria do not get to the courts nor even the police because of illiteracy and poverty.

I will like to learn. Please if you have any data from stratified sampling I will be willing to forward my email address so that you can send it.

Maybe you or someone you know had a bad experience with an Ibo man. That will not be enough reasons for your statement.

Mind you I'm not defending tribe here. I have lived all my life in the city. I'm a cosmopolitan and detribalised person. Even if you make the same statement concerning any other tribe I'll still counter it because it has no statistical backing.

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@omonighoblessing
is your friend a rich and fine dude



@me
Do you want to take her place? The guy is a backup artist in the game.

She has seen that the only thing he wants is the vhole between her legs and she decided to give it to him and collect small change.

Meanwhile there is the main actor. Do you want somebody's daughter to wait for one "promise promise" boy and become evening newspaper?

After all the vhole cannot be full no matter the quantity of liquid you pour in.

Church of all places.

Stupidquestion, Stupidquestion: Satan has desired to have you and sift you as wheat but I have prayed for you.

Repent!!!

Like someone said.... yes you have wasted five years. You have no space in his heart.

Stand up, clean up and start a new life. Don't listen to anything he tells you otherwise you will waste more years.

Let the past be the past. Move forward

@Bigdik70inch2


[b]Well.......if u have a child already never u get he or she provoked.......

U doing that is you going against God.....




@me
Stop quoting the Bible wrongly. You have forgotten the law of harvest. One day your child will do this to you.

@EndRape2
He looks handsome and good looking, I am sure he will be a very gentle man, and easy going, they are beast and lack self control, I keep saying it, Igbo men are abusive , they all need help , 99 percent of women that die in abusive marriage are killed by an Igbo man.

They are blam pushers , do not be surprise when he starts blaming the woman, instead of him to seek for help to manage his mental illness.




@me
I'm an Ibo man. I have lived with my wife for 28 years I have not raised my hand once on her. I have lived in Lagos since 1977. I don't want to tell you my observation with other tribes.

Stop this nonsense generalisation.

@360degreess
Man of god indeed.l blame their gullible followers Who see them as semi-gods.




@me
Pastors are human. Even the great Moses that spoke with God mouth to mouth showed the human side of him.

I'm not supporting what he did but some people take joy in announcing any small fault form men of God.

@sapphiere

Terrible. Beats a pregnant wife? Hmm!

Why do men beat their wives? Just asking.




@me
If I tell you what will you give me?

Women and story are 5 & 6.

I'm tired.

@musa234
Why always Africa that these things like springing up?





@me
Deliverance is it an African word? When you meet mystery in life you will understand this.

Fyi white people seek deliverance too. Contact very good white pastors and you will know.

There could be fake though just like in any other call.

Pray, pray and pray....e get why

@tomilayomi
Many of us think its only when we deprived ourselves of food that's when God knows we are fasting. Fasting is a strong communion with God in spirit.

You can eat and still fast, E deep right? That's why some people will say there is white fasting where you are allowed to eat some certain kind of foods during fasting (fruits, water etc).

What matters is your closeness to your maker.



@me
You scored F9. In a public forum like this it's free for all. All manner of opinion. There is no variant in fasting. You are either fasting or you are not fasting - Hosea 4:6.

Regarding Op, he can stop his fasting, attend to his health and either continue his prayers without fasting or continue his fasting when he gets well.

Be a good in-law. If they become rich tomorrow and start helping you would you reject it?

Eat alone die alone.