₦airaland Forum

all4zionlover:
Honestly I'm going through so much here. I'm losing it. I feel depressed, so much fear, unhappy and lonely. My husband's gambling habit has removed love and affection from our home.
He quickly finishes any money that comes to him. Either salary and anything in bet nija and concentrate on asking me for money. I'm have no job, I'm buy little things and resell. My capital is not even stable because all the financial expenses is on me. Yet he doesn't care. He keeps malice with me for not giving him money and not coming home to meet food.
This year, I have decided not to keep food for him so long as he can not bring money for feeding, for the children he claim he love and upkeep.
I've endure for too long and I'm getting fade up.

All my actions and his behaviour really makes me sad.
I have no love, respect for him.
I excessively worry for upkeep, school fees, bills, things we don't have at home. Everything is on me.
I'm so stressed and lonely. I feel I need a shoulder to rest on maybe to cry.
I'm so sad because our two sons are too attached to their father and I'm scared of their feelings if I decided to divorce their father

My first son wouldn't even go to bed until his father return back from work.

Have you been in this kind of situation?
What did you do? How do people survive this kind of situations?

jimmyolasun:
I remembered my mum attending to a malnourished sick girl whose parent didnt bring to the hospital until she was in crisis, after trials and all the girl died and the mother wanted to start creating scenes in the clinic.. my mama knowing how patients can be like landed like four thunderous slaps across her face and the lady went dumb including everyone around. even patient wey dey coma for ICU open eye check wetin make the sound.

naso she take calm the situation o. so sometimes i feel the patients tends to be dramatic and try look for who to put the blame on just like an average nigerian. so once they sense panic in you, they will want to use you as scapegoat..

headboyprince:

Shut your mouth and accept the truth..

talk is cheap..

A Ghanaian stranger on nairaland and non-nigerians are now the ones telling you about your country... Please hide your face

If what i said is wrong then why is the country in a mess.

You're been oppressed by your so-called leaders ..

Nothing is working in the country both the private and public sector...

From education to electricity to banking is all in a mess ..

And you're here telling me this said this that...

headboyprince:
there is nothing like Nigerian spirit... nor do they have a can do spirit...

they're too relaxed and always wait for God to fight their battles for them...hence the country is in shatters...

VGlobal:
WORKING & LIVING WITH NIGERIANS ABROAD

Being a Ghanaian, I’ve had this bad impression about Nigerians. I grew up in Ghana thinking Nigerians were negative energies around anyone. I was literally brainwashed mostly by the media to see Nigerians as thieves, murderers, scammers, etc. But after 6 years of working and associating with Nigerians outside of Ghana, the following are what I’ve found and discovered about them. I’m writing this not because my best friend back in the UK is a Nigerian, and not because my senior manager and team lead at my present employer are Nigerians. This is my honest observation!

Arguably, if you put the average Ghanaian and a Nigerian under the same conditions and environment, the Nigerian would undoubtedly outperform the Ghanaian. They are bold, smart and have this relentless quest and effort for learning and perfecting their craft. What a Nigerian cannot do does not exist. I started a DevOps Engineering program for a career alternative and Nigerians especially their women from different career fields constitute about 60% of the class. I was scared to take this step—to move from risk management to pure IT but I was shocked to see Nigerians in nursing, HR, journalism, sales, etc here in Canada taking on the challenge. I quickly reached out to most of my Ghanaian friends but none seem to be interested. This is a fortune field in IT….and when I asked these Nigerians why many of them are here, they told me “this is the surest way to make money by doing less”. Truth is, if you’re starting anything abroad and there’s no Nigerian in it, just know that that thing has no promise ��. A Nigerian wouldn’t attempt what doesn’t bring any monetary gain or value to them!

I’ve noticed that a Nigerian wouldn’t lie to you unless they’re scared of you or stand to gain something exceedingly beneficial from doing so. This confirms why the most genuine and honest folks I’ve ever associated with outside of Ghana are Nigerians. When a Nigerian is sharing an opportunity with you, they disclose everything dito-dito. They withhold nothing—they tell you as it is. My people would give you a half information and still be all over the place saying that they’ve helped you. You have no idea how many Ghanaians have made themselves demi-gods out here because they’ve been here for ages and feel everything must be ran through them. If you don’t go their way, you’re a target for gossip!

A Nigerian sees an opportunity in every situation, and it cuts across. They’re mostly interested in building a sustainable business than for a quick profit. This explains why wherever there are both Ghanaian and Nigerian traders, the Nigerian merchandise would cost less than the Ghanaian—even if they have the same suppliers. I see that here in Calgary at the various African markets.

Show me any work environment or office without a Nigerian and I’ll show you a work that’s less fulfilling and rewarding. The energy around Nigerians is positive and motivating. Nothing scares them than failure so they work hard for success because success is greatly celebrated in their culture. Where I come from, if you’re making any progress, there’s 100% chance you’ll lose 99% of your friends—they’ll spread lies about you out of dislike. Some would also attribute your progress to things other than your personal efforts. “You see that girl, she’s being chopped by so so and so person. You see that guy, he’s an occult. You see that guy, he’s rushing in life. Etc”. Your own family would turn themselves into avowed enemies—praying to see you fail so that they’ll use you as a bad example like “you see that guy, he was rushing in life but see how he’s crushed like a fragile glass.” My people have a long way to go. They must know that it’s okay for anyone irrespective of age to be great at what they do. In fact, people can build a fortune at age 40 or less through genuine means. Let’s inhale some positivity!

We glorify timidity, ignorance and sycophancy as signs of humility but Nigerians encourage boldness, assertiveness and being daring. If there’s a Nigerian in your trade or profession, get closer, you’ll learn a lot from them. I’ve learned a lot from my association with them and I’m always grateful for having one as my direct supervisor at work!

~The End~
By Jay Kwashie

chaseblack:
Can you explain why God didn't ask David to send Bathsheba away?

A sin has been committed and he'll suffer the punishment either he sends her away or not. Why should he send her away if he is going to be punished anyways?

Juanmike:
I hope you have voters card,Because God won't vote on that day.

Offpointng:
Seyi is not a Bastard like an Ipob candidate son. but on the
other hand,

No SE governor is marketing Obi
No Igbo elite official is marketing Obi
No Popular Igbo business man is marketing Obi
None of Obi's children is marketing him the way others are
doing bout their father

Now I'll tell you why, Why? cuz Obi is an unmarketable
product and someone who's surrounded by time wasters and
folks blinded with Illusion with no known achievements
except Beer and Alcohol that messes people up. And this is
also the same person deluded folks are marketing

Juanmike:
Time is a slippery eel, the system has written him off already.

Fox41:
There's money in this country

ahnie:
I have this beautiful chubby neighbor that's from my husband extraction (Igbo)
Babe is hard working, business oriented and an avid hustler.

But she's dating a chubby fuvk boy,a failed yahoo lazy lout that even in the next 50yrs I do not see him ever picking.

He's killing and bringing down my neighbors business and sucking her dry and she doesn't seemed to noticed.

She's always crying of bn broke everytime....and it's damn pissing me off like fvck.

On his birthday she baked cakes for him,printed his name on mugs, towels, got him clothes and even travelled to visit him,left her business and stayed days with him before coming back.

It's irking me because he's a bad market and to me he doesn't have a bright future,he's not working,he has no handiwork and no skills
He's just a rotund whale sucking her youthfulness and finances.

Let's assume he has a skill or he's learning a trade it's another thing, at least we would all assume that he's productive and her supporting him wouldn't be futile,but this one.... nothing nothing.

On her birthday he didn't even posted her pictures or got her a pin,he said he doesn't have data...just negodu the nonsense and he still demanded money from her....to me the guy is just miserably useless.

He's now proposing marriage to her,and he visited her some days ago na she use her money run everything from feeding down to blood test.

I have not met him before,but immediately I saw him....my spirit no conform with his at all...he's not only a liability,but also a robust reaper.

Now my neighbor is asking me what I think of him.....I told her outrightly that I don't like him,that he's going to be a liability to her in the future....person nor fit take care of her as girlfriend,how e go take care of her as wife.....I m one hundred percent sure,she's the one that's going to pay her prideprice, pay for the wedding and feed herself.

She's trying to convince me to like him....but this isoko woman ain't capping that shiit.

I just detest fvck lazy boiz.

Juanmike:
Our star boy, The President who never was.

WIZGUY69:
Osibanjo! The best President Nigeria never had. No be that one wey go talk like affiliate marketer. I no go mention name

treesun:
Spending 5 hours from Mowe to Berger!

flexyrule:
Amnesty beneficiaries under scholarship in a private university. Wow!


Truly, crime pays in this part of the world.

xpressionx:
Just imagine how APC turned bright minds into funny characters.
Just see Femi and Keyamo
APC = change indeed


How Osibanjo managed to sound intelligent after all these years needs to be under studied.

NigeriaIsGreat:
JAGABAN

Nasan:
" I met with 4 of the 6 South South Governors met in Bayelsa State to discuss issues of urgent national interest. One of the key issues that came up was the fact that all the Governors in attendance are fully aligned with the PDP’s mission to #RecoverNigeria for all Nigerians" - Ifeanyi Arthur Okowa

ochejoseph:
I agree with the submission that the number of people that will vote for Tinubu in the 2023 Presidential Elections is a reflection of the total number of persons living with psychiatric problems in the Nigeria.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Wlj7h_o7RI


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0EShIEpHnQ8



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XAWPoohYO7U


These 3 videos above have clearly shown Nigerians that the APC does NOT have a candidate for the 2023 Presidential Elections. What they presented to Nigerians lack the mental capacity to run a one man business talkless of running a complex country like ours with over 200 millions lives and destinies to cater for.

Beyond their non existent presidential candidate, many things are wrong with APC:


1. They destroyed our economy

2. They destroyed our currency

3. They destroyed what is left of Nigeria's unity

4. They destroy our manufacturing sector

5. They destroyed our jobs

6. They destroyed our businesses

7. They destroyed many lives

Dont join the enemies of this country to vote for Tinubu and APC, do the right thing return PDP to Power By Voting For Atiku Abubakar and Dr. Ifeanyi Okowa to restructure/unify our country and get it working again.

Together we can get it done!!!!

Dr. Oche Otorkpa (FRSPH-UK)

Richy4:
I don't usually argue the Bible, I always give my stance...
As a Christian, We have the clear biblical command that a Christian is free to marry whomever he or she chooses, so long as the prospective mate is "in the Lord" . 1 cor 7:39B

But in the end, choosing a spouse calls for wisdom. The Bible does not give us a specific means by which we can find spouses...that is your job to find..But You are definitely free to choose or believe whatever makes you happy man...

ijustdey:
https://www.newtelegraphng.com/drama-as-defence-ministry-disowns-n11bn-insertion-in-2023-budget/