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helinues:
Wisdom.

With wisdom, you can acquire money

Money without wisdom would eventually end up in I get am before

Wisdom is different from being smart or intelligent, wisdom constitute an ability to be insightful in decision making or good judgement. It is not an antecedents of wealthy living. You can have wisdom and still be very poor, especially if there is no much opportunity at your reach. Aside talent, which can be mostly found in smart and intelligent people, society or environment determine largely how far you will go in life.

A rich man will always live a better life because he has resources to learn by mistake. A poor man with wisdom will always be limited by inadequacy.

DeepSight:
My dear brother, I have never dismissed the importance or significance of kids. What I called pathetic was the reason given by someone on this thread (she said who will she send on errands). That is pathetic.

Please have a peep at this thread to see my thoughts on this matter.

https://www.nairaland.com/3943960/dark-side-parenthood

Alright, perfectly understood sir.

DeepSight:
All of these are still shallow and self-centered reasons to have children.
You guys have it so twisted someone up there even argued that she would have no one to send on errands without children.
How pathetic!

Like someone said, only the future can teach you a lifetime lesson, no amount of explanation or recommendation can change a mind of someone like you. It is ok not to want children but everything wrong when you talk down on its importance. Ideally, you are calling your parents fools or self- centred for aiding your existence. It is quite logical not to have children if you can't cater for them but don't ever dismiss the important of having them.

Villa12:
There are many men and women that had kids but living a life as if they do not have kids, even at old age. Their children are poor, likewise their parents. They literally live from hand to mouth courtsey with the support of well-wishers. Society only address them with the name of their child/ren but there's no positive impact of these children in their lives. This abound in Nigeria today.

Who should we blame for this?

If you train your children, they will give you peace at old age. You can't give birth like rabbit, fail to train them and expect the same children to amount to anything for you in future.

Klass99:
When I first felt the desire to be child free and not have children I was in my 20s. Several people told me the feeling would change or I would change my mind as time goes by.

As the years went by my desire didn't wane neither did my mind change. The desire only grew stronger and my mind more convinced that motherhood is not for me.

I have no regrets so far and right now I honestly can't see myself regretting the choice. Home ownership and companionship with a good man, matter to me more than biological children do.

What if the said good man leaves you at old age? Remember he owe you nothing.

Have you ever been close to old people before? Old age and sickness that is accomplices with it is not a child play at all. At this stage, only your biological children cares, they may not be with you physically but they will be there with you emotionally.

You need to visit some old people before it too late to change your decision.

SS777:
Igbo cannot rule Nigeria all this is just a waste of time.

Why can't Igbo rule Nigeria, this same mentality is what created disunity in Nigeria.

Igbo deserves to be president too, just that they need to wait until power is return to the South after Tinubu government. I hate people like Obi and some Obidients who doesn't understand a simple political calculation. How on earth do you expect Northerners to give presidency to another southerner who may spend another 8 years and subsequently keep them off power for 12 years.

His action only tell Northerners how much he hate his brothers from the South, because if he really cares about power rotation and not his personal ambition, he wont take any attempt to restle power from his southern counterpart after pursuing his election upto supreme Court.

Can foots soldiers function without directive from their leaders?

Sometimes, people in government don't think before they speak. I'm not sure we are ready to solve this problem.

MadeINchenzen2:
Paternity fraud is not a new trend with today's women, each time I see my friend and his kids I see the odd differences between his son and the rest of the kids... The boy doesn't look like his siblings or parents. Do I tell him to run a paternity check? Or I just mind my business?


What do you think? Suggestions and advice are welcomed, feel free to insult the OP if you can't help it. Thanks

Don't tell him directly because you may never know if he is already aware or not. Some men are so stupid that they will tell their wives exactly what their informants told them and put them at risks.

Whenever you are together, bring up the topic and explain the reason a man in such situation much conduct a DNA test on their children. He will definitely grap if he is not under a spell.

AyobamiOluwole:
So this girl has been coming to my place, eat the best food and all that. I've asked her if she has a boyfriend and she said no. I do give her money without asking her for anything on return because I could see she is not the lazy type and she is really hardworking. I am very much ok with finances and I see no issues with some of her demands.


Yesterday I called her and told her that I'm not happy and that I need cuddle only and not sex(I lost so much Dollars from futures trading that night). She later called and said she will come to my place for that reason. In my mind I was thinking this will go down as sex and all, but I don't really want sex.

All I just needed is someone to cuddle and get distracted with that's all. This is the only time I am demanding something from her.

So she came during the evening time, and later that night we went to supermarket and I got her something's to eat at home for the night. We got back home and everything was going well. We were both on the bed when I reminded her why she came. This is someone I've been doing quite a lot for without even thinking twice out of pity. She wouldn't give in and wouldn't let me know why she can't just allow me to cuddle her.

Mehn, from the loss I had earlier and all that, I got infuriated and called another girl telling to pls come over for the night. Then I told this girl to leave my house since she can be that selfish. I sent her out of my house around 10pm. She was telling me she doesn't have money to go home, I didn't care and I shut my door against her. Though I was scared letting her out on that road and that time of the night but my anger got the better part of me. It was later after getting over the whole thing I confirmed nothing happened to her from someone else.

Pls is there anything wrong with what I did?

Modified: Anger is a bad thing. I am wrong sending her away at that time of the night. This is probably the judgement I'll get 😔

You should've been patient with her that night, for her to accept to spend a night with you means she knew sex could happen. If you see it as nothing after rejecting your advance, she would've definitely offer herself withiout being ask again.

The relationship is gone, just forget about her and move on. If she realise her mistake and show a sign that she want to talk to you, you can then apologise to her. Next time, don't spend unnecessary on girls withiout making a demand in return, if she ask you for something, tell her you need sex too. A girl that know how to ask normally know how to collect, na you dey dull yourself since.

No women will love children but don't want to have them.

You can speak out your problem to get help, instead of this unnecessary lies.

Most of this thing are caused by bleashing creams.

Labour party leaders are like authoritative men in philosophy. They do no wrong, anyone pointed out their shortcoming is enemy of a good course.

Until Obidients check the activities of these men withiout ethnics or political sentiments, they will continue to take them for fools.

Thormentor:
Nassarawa is in North central
he knows what he's doing relax

Ok, better.

Kayyy:
I don't know how a lot of people here analyse politics especially naija politics, if you think northerners would be dumb to vote another southerner in who can go for 2 terms when they know they can even get a northerner in 2027 or 4yrs after then you need to go study naija politics 101, the ship has sailed already

My thought exactly, it is so unfortunate that as experience as Obi is, he could not reason or think better than ordinary people who know Nigeria politics.

North only care about power, and will obviously gifted Tinubu his second term to allow power to return to the core North. A smart politician in his shoes would've focus entirely in South and North Central. While doing that, align with some power brokers in the core North who can deliver 15% of votes to you in each state over there. Leave Labour party and return to PDP, or better still, form another party with Obidients movement.

My verdict, North will vote for Tinubu again, and if another Northerner happened to be his biggest rival, South will not also vote for the person. That will bring us back to the same scenario of 2023.

See the kind of people we are voting as leaders.

If this statement is true, then he was ideally saying that poor people doesn't deserve a good thing in life.

kaywhy09:
Why do people expect so much from their employers, when they can as well be one.

Instrumentalists, including drumers are not employees or people you just call to perform and pay when talking about music bands, they are integral part of the team. Musicians don't just call any drummer like Churches or Mosques do, they stick with a set and integrates them to form a team. In most cases, especially before this age, there was always no defined salary agreement among them, it is the leader or founder of the group that will decide the sharing formula or just give them whatever he want. It is 100% wrong for a Musicians to amazed such wealth, and his brand member of 32 years could boast of having a house or tangible savings to his name. I am sure if he had bought house or car for the man, it would've be the first thing he would mentioned.

I don't blame the musician, I blame the drummer who could not use the opportunity to join a better brand in her prime years. People, especially in Nigeria don't worth your loyalty and sacrifice, if you deserve to be help by someone you know is 100 times capable, and he refuse to do so, it is better you cut them entirely off before it too late, because at the end of the day, his like(which are on majority side) will remind you that he owe you nothing.

mmadu4:
its true . i live in kastina .very soon no more bandits will be heard of in Nigeria if other state follow same road

That is why state police is very important, banditry problem can only be solved by affected communities or states, and not 1000 miles away federal government.

Kelklein:
Buy pure water in bags and resell.. use front of your house as a shop for now.. That 80k would buy you 200-250bags at N300-400/bag (if you dont have adequate space for safekeeping, you can buy 100 in 2 batches)..

you can make a 20k profit on this within 5-7 days.. that's another 80k in one month.

If you stay consistent, in 3 months you can either rent a shop or build a small container shop..

So, he will sell the 200 bags within 5 days? Did you even consider he will need freezers to do the business if he is to follow your advise? An average size freezers (200lt) is almost 400k now, so how do you expect him to ice 200 bags of pure water?

Majority of the street hawkers buy their drinks and pure water from ice block making vendors and return to pick another ones after selling off. They only need just 2k to start pure water hawking business. Some don't even have money, they pay after selling off. Don't just come online to give advise if you had never done your research very well.

Cantonese:
At least they started as youths like you and rose to the heights they go to. If you think that they are your problem, why not join the youths of today, who are your mates, as they aspire to be leaders of tomorrow.

Your comment was very wrong please.

He is a good person, and a potential good leader of tomorrow. It takes a rational mind to recognise that our elders has failed this generation, and no respect should be giving to their dubious achievements.

It irritate me when people celebrate black people, and nothing will make me celebrate them as well because they are only useful to their individual lives and not their countries or societies.

Professors are as worse as our politicians, they contribute absolutely nothing to Nigeria and Africa at large. It is a waste of title in this part of the world. Go and read many of their so called rubbish books, you will discover they copied majority of them from Google. They have the same mentality like ordinarily Nigerians, "get money and enjoy your life" . I went through the university system, so I know them in and out.

RIP to the dead!

GreatVocalist:
I woke up this morning to what seems to be a wrong transfer made to my account, from a supermarket named Light Supermarket.

I waited all day to see if I'd get a call from someone, acknowledging the transaction error, but none came in.

The money still dey my account like this as I dey type so. It's not a very huge sum, but it's not small either. My eyes don dey look am one kind o. Please anyone who knows someone from that supermarket should tell them.

LIGHT SUPERMARKET, that's the only information I have.

Don't stress yourself go to the bank, the person will report the case to the bank himself, and they will reverse it automatically. Just don't spend it because if you does, they will put your account on deficit, every money enter their will be deducted until the money mistakenly transferred to your account is completed.

For instance, if the money transfer to your account is 100k, and you spend 50k before the person reported, they will deduct the remaining 50k and put your account, -50,000.

SalamRushdie:
Typical idiotic serpent of a man ...I Blame Trump for picking you from nothing and making you VP of the most powerful Nation on earth when there were more qualified republicans than you

You don't know more than he does? It is pure ignorance and lack of wisdom to be blindly criticising a man who spent good for years with him in office.

Not every thread or issue we approach with bias minds.

May Tinubu know no rest if he fail to restructure this country. Let North fully embrace Islam and allow peace to rein in our country.

With regional governments, each region will focus on what works for it. Whatever problem facing by each region will remain within the same region and would not be seen as national problem. Fulani herdsmen manace will be finally put to an end. The fate of educated people will no longer be in the hands of backward thinking illiterate power mongering fellows.

Cuttycool:
Then she suddenly gets helpless if the marriage is broken right? It's a bad decision for a woman to dump her career because of marriage.

Yes, if she is a senseless one. Like I said, the smart ones among them demanded for monthly salary that is more that what they will receive while working. Those ones can't be helpless if the marriage is broken, because they have something to fall back to and their careers.

Yashita:
As a single lady, nothing should ever stop you from working hard and pursuing your dreams, whether it’s laziness or the thought of getting married one day. When a man finally comes into your life, he wouldn’t be able to place a hold on your purpose just like that while he pursues his.

Remember, men are selfish.

Dey play, you still never seen alot of career women and actresses that got married and becomes full house wives or simply open a business?

It is all about understanding and wealth of a a man. Some men pay them monthly salary that is more than what they will receive while working. A woman who take her career serious will never accept such deal with a man, she would rather marry late than to forgone her job in the name of marriage.

Uniquewise:
I am posting this on behalf of my cousin. She is in a marriage where her husband never wanted her to work from the beginning, but to stay at home to raise their children. The kids are now all grown, 4 of them with the last born about to enter university. First child is now working while two others are about finishing university. She feels she is now ready to pursue her dream of a career in Law, being a graduate in that discipline, though she has never worked in her life after her NYSC. Her husband thinks otherwise, that she is too old to pursue a career, and that she should rather just stay at home, and that soon enough, their older children would soon marry and start giving them grandkids. She is unhappy and feels cheated, saying her husband is selfish. He is doing well in his career, and a good provider for the family. But she feels empty and sabotaged by her husband's refusal to allow her work and earn for herself.

The issue is causing a strain in their home as both parties are adamant about their position.

What must she do?

Tell her to open a store, i am sure her husband won't oppose that. He just want a wife who will be available whenever he need her. A wife that men in Chambers won't be passing around to ease stress.

Alternatively, she can dare her husband and face the consequences, the choice is hers to make. She is not a kid.

Kobicove:
I agree with you, most TV shows these days glorify adultery especially those on Telemundo

Lolz, especially those calling themselves "content creators".

What is trending now is "next door neighbours wives or girlfriends ".

Gadafii:
Have they declared bandits a terrorist organization

That’s more important than this terrorism charges against miyetti Allah

Bodejo represents the soul and body of Mayetti Allah, terrorism charge against him is tantamount to direct charge on entire organisation.

Hope you get the logic now.

mrvitalis:
Power rotation would actually guarantee we elect credible people

Once it's this zone turn we know it's all about selecting best candidate from that particular zone

Which best candidate? And where is the best candidate?

We need working system, not individual goodwill. We need a system that even the most stupid man can be compelled to do the right thing by the structure on ground. The only hope for this country is regionalism.

I will never vote any born politician in my life until we return the country to regionalism.

mabea:
Tinubu needs her/them more than she needs Tinubu at this critical time.

Stop saying what you know nothing about, there are thousands of people better and more qualified than her that president can pick for the same position. It is all about lobbying when it come to position of higher level in Nigeria.

You can never ever get mentioned, let alone being recommended to the President if you don't know or belong to powerful associates of the President.