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@ iceblue,
I think Fashola will make a good president too. I can't add him to the poll again but if anyone thinks he's the man, please don't hesitate to say so.

I think Oshiomole is a good name too. I'll add him to the poll.
Please remember to use the POLL I really need to know what you think.

What President can BEST solve Nigerian Problem?

The whole world watched as America set an example in choosing the BEST President (Barack Obama) to solve their problems; (Economy, health care, education, energy etc)

Can Nigeria learn from this example; can we change our country for our own benefit and the benefit of our children by choosing the BEST President that can solve our problems regardless of Tribe, gender, religion or background?

Please choose on the poll or write a name down if it doesn't fall on the poll that I have created. Also give reasons for your choice.

In as much as I think what the admiral did is wrong and totally unjustified, I think the poster is very right to bring to the lime light what the Victim's father did in 2004 because he had the guts to criticize others and say they are not worthy of their ranks.

Yes, Uzoma should take this case to any length and justice should take it's full course, but people like Harry, including Okere; Uzoma's dad should be made to pay for their sins! Since Okere knows that he's not any better, he should keep quiet and let the case be handled appropriately. I mean, let the pot not call the kettle black!

See one of the reasons why it's very important to be educated? How could a so called girl friend tell you that she slept with someone else in school and got pregnant, had a miscarriage, needed money for this and that and you gave her. Really, she took you for a fool and you accepted it, saying that she loves you!

I don't care weather or not it was abortion, what you should be worried about is that she's sleeping around. Ironically, you know she doesn't just have 'a boyfriend' but boyfriend because you said she slept with one of her boyfriends.

Thank God you're working, dude, get some education and step up, then, no school girl will give u Humbug and expect you to swollow it.

@ Poster,
In that case (as per your last reply) there's nothing to say any more. Go out and find for yourself a decent lady. She doesn't have to be a 'churcheous' person, just a nice christian who doesn't live a pretentious life. Sincerity is key. One more thing, make friends, get to KNOW a lady before talking marriage. That you're 37 doesn't mean you should be too anxious and look for a wife immediately. First look for a friend, who'll become a wife.

Good luck.

This is really well constructed and interesting. It also sounds very practical. It really doesn't matter how long it takes, it can be a long term project for all that I care but if more engineers contribute their quota here and there, I think this is can be a reality.

@ Poster, weldone.

Hey TK,
No wahala. This time, even me tire sef .
I'm keeping a diary mostly around him on my blog page. It's simply titled 'My diary' He made me love him pieces then, started helping me to be a better woman. Right now eh, I don quiet big time.

@ JJ,

when he said she had different wardrobes, he stated that her church cloths were long skirts with turtle necked tops.
He didn't tell us though if the 'other wardrobe' was made up of exposing cloths and spaghetti tops, or decent trousers with nice tops that don't exposed feminine parts to the world.
That is why we must not judge her. We should know her and hear from her before we make that condemning concluti conclusion on. As the poster is our only point of contact with her, he should talk with her and let us know what she says.


By the way, Aristo is Sugar daddy and I'm no evangelist or pastor. I'm an individual who used to jump to conclusion a lot, judged people or trade blames easily but love happened to me recently with a guy who knew how to be patient and he has thought me some very nice lessons in a pretty bitter way.
If you'll want to know about it, check out my blog, address is on my signature.

NO TK,
I won't advice any man to take a girl who keeps an Aristo or Aristos, but from his post, he said he had FORGIVEN her for keeping the Aristo and I presume she doesn't keep him or them anymore.
What I'm suggesting to this young man is to talk to the lady and listen to her without judgment in his heart. After that, if he feels he can't live with her, then instead of going, coming back to make up, he should tell her he can't for these reasons continue with the relationship and simply put an end to it. Very importantly too, the poster should learn to be friends with a lady and know her before considering her for marriage no matter how well the church members talk about her. Communication works TK, it does.

Love doesn't fade, it matures. The flames may stop burning as wildly as they were at the beginning but they will be taken over by the cool healthy coals that burn gently and persistently.

@ Sista Woman
This is beautiful and very encouraging. A lot of people sound as if love simply flies out of the window once u marry that sweet guy you're dating and looking forward to having his babies some day.

@ debosky,
I missed out the Aristo part on my first read. I had to go back to the post to read it.
The aristo issue is really a serious one but even at that, the poster needs to call her and have a heart to heart talk with her. He should stop threatening to leave her. He should leave her once and for all if he wants to. There's no point going back if he feels he can't trust her or take her with her flaws.

@JJYOU,
I've stopped judging people based on what other people say about them or what I feel about them. Experience has thought me to listen to people patiently no matter how bad they seem before making a decision or making up my mind about them.
I also don't think some cloths are ungodly, but some churches simply don't accept some cloths in the church. That doesn't make them wrong as far as I'm concerned, it just means don't wear them to church.
Personally, I wear jeans a lot, I wear trousers suits to work and pants but I wear African print or lace material most of the time to church not because I feel trousers are wrong, but because I feel those cloths are traditional church cloths. Just as I won't wear jeans and top to my office on a Monday morning is the same way I won't wear them to church on a Sunday morning. That doesn't make me hypocritical, it simply means I have different choices for different occasions.

I love flowers as part of gifts especially on val and birthdays not as the main gift. I can keep it alive for as long as possible but the bad thing is that our environment is not very friendly to them, so they die easily no matter how hard you try to preserve them.

It's always beautiful though and well appreciated to have a florist deliver flowers to my desk with a note from my sweet heart, just to say 'I love you'

I think the poster moved too fast before he got to know the girl. Guys should learn to be friends first before talking about marriage and other such stuffs. But come to think of it, maybe this girl has double wardrobe simply because such cloths are not allowed in the church and not because she's trying to deceive other people. Again, receiving other people's calls: remember she had friends before you met her, so, it's possible she's just keeping in touch.
As for the test you gave her which she failed terribly, maybe she stopped trusting you because you always want to break up when ever you have issues and she's decided that a back up suitor will not be a bad idea.

Solution:
If u still want this relationship (if you love her like you said), call her, discuss what you feel, how hurt you feel and both of you should have a heart to heart talk. Ask her why she's behaving the way she is and ask her what her genuine intentions are with you. Furthermore, assure her you're for real and won't dump her whenever you have issues with her.
When she becomes confident of your love and commitment, she'll become more secure and stop trying to have a back up plan. If she doesn't stop, you might have to really break up; do not threaten her, just call her and tell her that for such and such reasons, you don't think both of you should go ahead with this relationship.

How come there's nothing on their website to describe precisely what they are up to?
I googled MTN Treasure hunt and nothing on it came up. What precisely are they up to, do u just keep sending Sms to 77777? Don't get these guys.

Cuddles for now. Who knows what i'll change it to tomorrow; I always change it depending on my mood.

Hey SexyLeamon,

This lady is so not just blabbling! I know that feeling, I know that way and I know just how frustrating that reaction could be.
My gosh, it sure does make me remember something, but I learnt to cool down, I learnt to take things easy and got a little more mature with the way i handle things.

@ Poster, that's what you should do, instead of demanding answers in anger or being so angry and filled up with annoyance, I'll suggest you cool down, think rationally, call him, tell him EXACTLY how you feel, empty your mind and LISTEN to him. LISTEN, that is very important. (he once told me I'll get to believe that's the way to go about it if he always obliges me in my anger and explains things while I'm in that state)

I can almost bet my life to it that your man aren't seeing another lady, he just feels terrible about your bitterness and wonders why you just can't be a little patient. When you feel hurt for this long, you become bitter, towards him, towards yourself, towards everyone. Really, you do need to just cool it off.

If the story the girl told her boyfriend is true, it's disheartning how some guys try to manipulate girls with fear and twisted reasoning. It's even more disheartning how these girls believe these guys and swallow their stories stupidly. A girl should be able to have a sense of direction. She should have asked her ex why he didn't go and see the prophet before he started  cheating on her.

It's all a game really and one has to be smart not to destroy something beautiful because of shortsightedness and fear.
@ Poster, let her be, start all over again but this time with someone more mature and a better sense of direction with a strong mind.

opuro:
thats good
just invite your sister and possibly you mum for the experiment
omoita party ko foursome ni

In as much as the reply by Opuro is insulting, it's also funny and bears a hint of truthful reality. Why on earth would a man not only fantasize about three-some but also come around to saying he wants it. The irony of it is that no man wants to have a three-some with his real chic or his wife.

Why are people so insulting? I don't get it, can't people give suggestions to people without necessarily using words like:

Infoseye:
just another bitch or LovePeddler

Orikinla:
Only a stupid girl . . .
Gosh, some girls!

I simply don't get it. Can't people just be decent in their language for once. Granted, it's a public forum and no body knows any body, but really, these languages can be demoralizing. I suggest people learn to be civilized, it says a lot about our personality.

Absolutely nothing wrong with it.
If it's love, then go ahead.

Hey Candies,
There sure are better ways to handle things like this. You need to sit this guy down and talk about your fears with him. Open up your mind and be plain. Don't try to be manipulative or insinuate anything. Tell him sincerely how you feel and how he makes you hurt. That should bring him to his senses. If it doesn't, you might have to start thinking of talking a hike instead of cheating. Cheating is just dirty.

@ TK,
Long story! We haven't spoken for a while you know, you won't believe how it all finally ended.
I could call him Vampire if the guy flops. What ever happened to that sweet chic with the great crush on you?
We really need to gist.

I have called him a lots of 'things' depending on my mood. From Illussion to Teddy bear, Super Ted, Musha Baby, Emotions and so many others I can't even remember. Today, I call him Cuddles . I love the way that sounds. Tomorrow, I could call him Vampire lol   Hope I never have to.

This depends very much on how long you've been dating your girl and how committed you are to her.
If you've been with her for close to one year, you've got a decent job like you said above, she's ready for marriage and you aren't taking any steps towards that goal, then, her parents are worried that you're just playing around with their girl and want to know precisely what your intentions are.

If you have genuin intensions, go and see her parents and make your intentions known to them, if you don't simply tell her and let her move on with her life, that way you don't have to go see her parents.

I really don't get it. She's popular with Beyonce and people simply love her. The name has been her signature, so what is the sudden change of name for?
Sometimes, I wonder what goes on on the minds of these celebrities! Imagine Eminem as 'Slim Shady'

In her words:

'Sasha Fierce is the fun, more sensual, more aggressive, more outspoken side and more glamorous side that comes out when I'm working and when I'm on the stage."

Link: http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20081023/music_nm/us_beyonce

You can also check her out on her My Space Page: http://www.myspace.com/sashafierce

@ Poster,
What you want is very simple yet very difficult to pull. To inflict all of that pain on him, simply ignore him like he doesn't exist. Imean, you're better off without him than with him. Kill the anger, kill the hurt feeling, kill the frustration, hang out with fellow girls, love yourself, get yourself another boy friend (with time of course), get busy and TOTALY ignore him as if he never even crossed your path.

When he notices you don't even remember him and feels he never meant anything to you, you would have won. It's sort of a hard one but it sure does work.

This is really funny. Couldn't help but laugh my eyes off! I ran to his profile picutre to look at the 'sexy lips' and all I could see was an oversized nose! 

My gosh, what church do you attend bro? what kind of sisters are there and who is your pastor? I'm beginning to suspect that guy has gay tendencies! 

Sorry buddy, didn't mean to hurt to feelings, really think this thread should be in the joke session, maybe it wouldn't have been so funny.

@ Poster,

There's no point cheating on her. Cheating totally destroys relationships, your commitement just drops suddenly and when she notices and starts asking questions, she just might get to find out and you loose a relationship you're nurturing to sex.

I guess you knew she was a virgin before you started dating.
Wait till she's ready, afterall, at 18, she's still very young and obviously not ready for sex. For now, concentrate on studies and leave that part of the relationship. You'll be surprised how sex can destroy a relationship if one partner is not ready and the other makes it an issue.

People stay in relationships where they don't love their partners for several selfish reason.
It could be for the money, sence of security (some people just hate being alone), the sex, good cook and what have you. It's just selfish but come to think of it, humans are selfish beings.