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This is not enough reason to suspect your wife of 9 years, except she has given you reasons to suspect her in the past.
She may have lied because she knew you will get upset with her for leaving the kids.

Anyway, I believe she is tensed and under pressure. I haven't seen any reason to suspect her from this story. Let sleeping dogs lie.

Pictures or we don't believe. Anyway, there are weird people everywhere, guess he's just one.
Again, maybe his boyfriend likes the sight of him wearing beads.

What is handsome about these guys? We have millions of better look men on the streets of Lagos.

There is always going to be the issue of bad luck, some people just can't get a partner. More like not being destined to marry.

That aside, many people are too choosy. Whom they want doesn't want them, who wants them, they don't want.
Sometimes you just have to strike a balance. Even if he's not the perfect package, as long as he's OK and a decent guy, give it a shot.

It's called cyber bullying. When someone offends you, rest the report button instead of insulting back.

Landmark beach is cool. The question is what kind of fun are you guys thinking of?
There are also nice resorts like Inagbe grand and La Tropicana and so much more. Use Google if you're serious.

Truthfully, you don't need a relationship, you need time to grow up.
Stay away from women for now and discover yourself.
Focus and make something out of your life. Right now you're not in a position to even take care of yourself

She's having cold feet because of your possessive and abusive nature. When a woman's mind is made up, its hard to change.
Find a way to reassure her and change from your clingy ways. People don't understand that dating isn't that serious.

Real meaning of Godfather.

Elders before you have warned to stay away from office romance but you people wouldn't listen. Una think say una wise.

As for the married woman part, better go and seek genuine repentance. The curse on your head nor be play.

Amongst the things listed, the major issue for me is the crying. Men don't cry publicly.
As for being humane, nothing wrong with that. Just find a way to earn respect. That's what you need.

I just wished I had the Internet as a kid. I would have been far better off than I am now.
I don't know why kids these days waste their time online with inconsequential things? Imagine what a young man is thinking.

Wahala for those wey never marry. Many people are damaged to be honest.

You need to search with a microscope to find a decent partner these days. We still have them but you need to be able to identify them. They may not come in your favourite package.

I remember the good old days when I do zoom off and leave people who waste my time. From girlfriends to best friends.

It led to a lot of quarrels but it definitely earned me respect. I was known as a no nonsense guy and people sat up. They knew better than to keep me waiting.

It's becoming a film show, a charade. I just hope they're also helping their loved ones.

Any man waiting for a woman to uplift him is worse than a swine. You have been made the head and you want to sell your birth right?
Men uplift women and not the other way round.

Oga is not keeping up with his responsibilities. An embargo has been placed till further notice.

Olanny:
Hey guys!

I've been with this lady for 3 years and still counting.
Though we have some extreme differences that seem irreconcilable because we are both stubborn �� but she's being very kind and supportive.

A year into our relationship, I went for some spiritual consultation as a young aspiring Yoruba guy would do when things are kinda rough and aside from what I went for, I was told that I can only date my girlfriend for the fun of it and we cannot end up getting married and that if I go ahead to marry her, we would end up divorced. (Note that am not a Gee boy, Na pure educational struggle and pure side hustle I dey do)
I didn't quit the relationship because I have no obvious reasons to do so plus the fact that she's kind and supportive.

Until recently when we begin to have serious issue like trust, anger and co, I never thought of breaking up.
So again I went for further spiritual consultation on a particular thing I intend to do and just like the other time, I was told again that I cannot marry the lady.
I was told that she's not bad or has witchcraft but we ain't just compatible.

For the second time now, I've heard the message from two different spiritual source.

Please guys, how best can I handle this situation?!.

I've not told my babe about these two revelations yet.

Is this a cultural thing? I see and hear of it a lot amongst the Yoruba's. If you ask me, all these consultation thing is B.S.

Sex doesn't know religion. Man up and prepare for a baby. From personal experience, you need to start working twice as hard from now on. As for the father, don't worry your head. He can't kill you.

It's your man's duty to protect you and unfortunately, he isn't. You don't need to do eye service to show you care.
Personally, I would say you shouldn't worry yourself. The family seems a bit petty anyway and if the relationship wants to end let it end. You might be saving yourself future headache.

AA is universal, can marry anyone
AS/AC can only marry AA.
SS/SC can only marry AA.

In short, if you are not AA, look for AA to marry, that's the safest way of avoiding issues.

Be warned.

Hepatitis is actually more scary than HIV. Anyhow, everything is manageable. These things are no longer a death sentence if you have money for care.

But wait o, her body be like dustbin. Is she that sexually reckless? Only one person with all these.

Frenemies. The less people you keep around, the better.

Barristter07:
While you seem to have a point, you kind of take the stand that women are always available 24/7 because they don't have an erection ?

Heard of " Virgina dryness" . If a woman is not properly stimulated or interested. the sex could lead to injuries and pains. So it goes both ways , both the husband and wife need to be considerate.

Read my post properly, I talked of a lube. God bless considerate women who know how to handle their man even when not in the mood.
Apart from illness, a woman can always help out if she wants. Even at that time of the month, she knows what to do.

PS: It's vaginal dryness. I don't know why people keep making that mistake.

This topic is for the mature mind. Let's approach it maturely.

We owe our partners sex, however a woman shouldn't really decline if she's considerate. She doesn't really need to be in the mood, just get a lube and open up.

Same should go for the man but unfortunately for a man, it is no erection, no sex. There is nothing anyone can do about it if 'it' refuses to cooperate.

The bottom line is that a woman should hardly have a reason of 'no interest' to decline except for illness.

Like others have previously pointed out, when you have a duty to carry out, you do it irrespective of whether you feel like it or not. A hungry baby doesn't care if you feel like sleeping or not, he wants his meal when he's hungry.

In everything, dialogue is key. Every thing is subject to negotiation. Approach is what matters.

A corper acting like a secondary school boy. If she's a wife material, then wife her and start having sex.

Honestly, you should be more focused on your future. Since she's also a corper, you two should plan on how to make something useful out of your lives. Life after service is tough my friend.

If sex is your problem, go and look for a sex worker. That lady knows what she wants from life.

Mercychen:
The same way this grammar consoles you in the trap you got yourself into a and can come out or speak out for fear of what society will tag you.

You talk too much. Classic case of low self esteem.

More like you're suffering from low self esteem issues.

Actually, self esteem is not about looks as I've noticed that alot of good looking people have self esteem issues. The feeling of unworthiness and not being good enough.

Mercychen:
To me, nothing really special about marriage because I've moved closely with married people and all i see is stress, stress and more stress!

Imagine the daily routine of a woman. Especially those who are not working.

Wake up early ( when youre not ready)
Prep the children for school.
Prepare their food breakfast.
If hubby is nice, he'll help drop them off otherwise, you do the school runs.

You get home and start putting the house in order. And attend to other chores staring you in the face. Time is ticking

Get ready to prepare lunch.
Then before you know it, it's time to go pick the kids.
Come back, freshen them up.
Serve them
Attend to their home work.

The you get set for dinner so hubby can have something to eat when he gets home. Before you know it, the day is gone and you're fagged out. Same thing continues tomorrow and on and on until....

Imagine if you're a working Mom and now have to combine all these with work...

Now tell me what will make a single viewing all these want to get married?

Truth be told, that's another thing I calculate and i relax and continue enjoying my single life.

Many married women are not happy. They are silently crying!!!
Forget all that fake smile they wear when they come out. They are not happy

Even the men are not 100% fulfilled. Responsibility wan break their neck.

Let's tell ourselves the truth. Even if you're rich, it's still not that easy.

I've seen a rich couple who both drove madly to school at the same time to pick their ward and were reigning heavy curses at each other at the gate because they both argued earlier on who's going to pick the son. So it's like non of them wanted to come and it was already evening and the boy was still in school.

I guess they called the house and the nanny who was babysitting their twin babies then, told them the boy was not home.

Omor.. see the speed they drove into the school compound with. Wify packed one side, hubby parked the other way and they both jumped out of their cars rushing Into the school and abusing each other.

Wife : " You shouldn't have come" useless man" As she stormed into the classroom

Man: ori e ko pe. why did you come? You should have remained at work"

Hmmm... So much hype about marriage. Abegi!

Lol, if all these grammar consoles you about being single and makes you sleep at night, then fine. Marriage is bliss for those who know why they married.

I watched this video about a week ago and I was really impressed. I have come to realise that every country has its beautiful side.