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Family / Re: My Wife Says I Am Not Romantic After 10years Of Marriage by ZIMDRILL(m): 2:12am On Mar 31, 2023 |
Darkestking: You got me wrong i did mean waiting to marry a 30 and above woman for maturing etc the maturing talking is while she is marriage whats wrong with marrying a 30 and above women ? if it was your sister would you have the same attitude of women of that age ? |
Family / Re: My Wife Says I Am Not Romantic After 10years Of Marriage by ZIMDRILL(m): 12:57am On Mar 31, 2023 |
sharone21: from few studies marrying early has s bit disadvantage usually you would be young doing things as duty/ as expected eg give him sex as long he wants it while hubby is also busy doing it for rounds aka i do 5 rounds (beer talk with friends) instead do it satify the wive too so eg girl get married at 20 the guy is 25 by the time she gets 30 she would have matured to understand her sexual needs and her body etc sex by then she nolonger do it as duty but desire too and the 10 year would have built self confidence of sex desire etc For me the sex of early marriage years is more of duty (women), self praising (men) i agree 35 and above brings in a bit of exprience and confidence Women mature sexual at above 35, mature i mean having confidence in what they want sexually than just waiting for hubby to initiate etc Poverty can kill sex drive, if you are poor living hand to mouth sex is the last thing in your mind 2 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: My Wife Says I Am Not Romantic After 10years Of Marriage by ZIMDRILL(m): 11:52pm On Mar 30, 2023 |
SoaringLife01: not really let give you an example do you know that, the house you live in will determine your the type of se.x you have as couple eg if you are living in a one room accomadation, your wife might worry about moaning becoz she doesnt want people in the next room hear her therefore during sex she would be worried much than enjoying A couple with a proper eg 5 bedroom house can afford to create a candle light romantic atmosphere in the bedroom and they wont be worried about people next door so being romantic can be roughly influenced by 1 how you were raised and learnt being romantic 2 by the environment you are current in 3 by your own wishes and fantacies one's wish and fantancy doesnt make it wrong becoz you also have your own wishes and fantacies, does that make them wrong ? |
Family / Re: Transgender, Transage, Transspecies... by ZIMDRILL(m): 11:26pm On Mar 30, 2023 |
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Family / Re: My Wife Says I Am Not Romantic After 10years Of Marriage by ZIMDRILL(m): 8:19pm On Mar 30, 2023 |
GetMeRight: why are rushing to say "must we kill ourseves to make someone happy" in this case, one should reflect on what they have done or tried in their own capacity and if questioned they point at what they have done Hubby didnt disclose what he has dobe romatically for past 10 years so we can not full say hubby is wrong what if done what he thinks is being romantic while wife doesnt see it that way Eg hubby buys flowers, while wife wants spend a night in a hotel with a good meal |
Family / Re: My Wife Says I Am Not Romantic After 10years Of Marriage by ZIMDRILL(m): 8:12pm On Mar 30, 2023 |
GetMeRight: The wife wants him to be romantic period and nothing more, of cause i understand that our brothers ego might have been bruised, but this is were he needs his own reflection on how he has been really romantic both in his own defination and wife's If i was him i would ask wife how she wants him to be romantic very simple in my own world |
Family / Re: My Wife Says I Am Not Romantic After 10years Of Marriage by ZIMDRILL(m): 8:04pm On Mar 30, 2023 |
GetMeRight: why worry about things that havent happened, than focus on things thats have been said Time doesnt matter 10 years or not, definately she has been either putting up with it or may be busy making hubby happy than also focusing on her own needs Have every heard of women pretending, eg faking orgasm ? its becoz they put up with it Do you realise that the first 5 years of marriage, is run by what one really wished (dream marriage) for before they got married than actually understanding your wife/hubby You would be wanting your wife/hubby to be the perfect hubby/wife you have in your heard as time goes by to start to learn who your wife/hubby is really is Thats the reason sometime husbands fight with wives, or vice versa each partner is saying my wife should be like this/my hubby should be like this, we tend to like to change them for the person we have in our minds than accepting who they really are |
Family / Re: My Wife Says I Am Not Romantic After 10years Of Marriage by ZIMDRILL(m): 7:45pm On Mar 30, 2023 |
snthesis: To make it easier can you tell us what you have done to your wife which is romantic in your own world of being romantic Lets take away dates that are on the calendar becoz you can be easily forced to remember them and do something i want something you did with your own will, love, affection, and appretition of your wife |
Family / Re: My Wife Says I Am Not Romantic After 10years Of Marriage by ZIMDRILL(m): 7:34pm On Mar 30, 2023 |
PDJT: remember we are just sharing our point of views as individual, to you that how you solve that issue, to me i got a different approach like i said getting a new wife, wont solve hiis issue if he is really unromantic He needs a self reflection eg by asking wife the specific thats the wife view as not being romantic and he reflects on it and see if he willing to change in simple terms both can chat on things that each other think are lacking each other's sife |
Family / Re: My Wife Says I Am Not Romantic After 10years Of Marriage by ZIMDRILL(m): 7:26pm On Mar 30, 2023 |
harmony75: Really, do you really need to invite her family for a simple thing like this ? 1 why always call family when you can directly talk to hubby or wife? lets be wise to be able to sort problems before anyone 2 the maturity is that she has talk directly of areas hubby next to improve 3 lets not be biased by gender hubby can say the same eg wife wearing those fully covering dress that hides the curves of a woman, wife can nolonget look sexy in those clothes hubby can say the same to wife to dress better |
Family / Re: My Wife Says I Am Not Romantic After 10years Of Marriage by ZIMDRILL(m): 6:53pm On Mar 30, 2023 |
PDJT: Marrying a new wife wont address his issue, the same 18-25 yr old will mature and find him unromantic Women from 33 and above tend to be more self aware and confident of who they have became hence this guy's wife have come out open to tell hubby of his shortcomings 2 Likes |
Family / Re: Couples With Thriving Marriages, Please Share Your Story by ZIMDRILL(m): 6:31pm On Mar 30, 2023 |
EriMma1: There is also thriving from people's eye (those who see from outside) eg a woman married to a rich person and she every material thing u can thing of but in the home the hubby has no love he is abuser and womaniser, then the thriving within one's heart where everything is perfect to your own personal point of view 6 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: My Wife Says I Am Not Romantic After 10years Of Marriage by ZIMDRILL(m): 6:18pm On Mar 30, 2023 |
Berrityga: my respond was towards the words divorce, there is no need to even mention the word divorce |
Family / Re: My Wife Says I Am Not Romantic After 10years Of Marriage by ZIMDRILL(m): 6:07pm On Mar 30, 2023 |
Berrityga: You missed the actual point, wife didnt not say she nolonger loves husband, she simply said he is not romantic, being romantic for example buying her gifts, like as simple as roses, even teady bear, or openly showing affection for his wife There are many ways of being romantic and being romantic differ from person to person but the goal is showing love affection towards the other person by doing things they love |
Family / Re: My Wife Says I Am Not Romantic After 10years Of Marriage by ZIMDRILL(m): 2:52pm On Mar 30, 2023 |
Lovilla: she will change? who is supposed to change ? Hubby is the one who is supposed to change to be romantic |
Family / Re: What Rightful/peaceful Way Can One Divorce A Partner? by ZIMDRILL(m): 12:01pm On Mar 30, 2023 |
Dearlove2me: the type of marriage you have will determine the right way to divorce eg a civil marriage needs the courts and traditional way needs traditonal way eg informing and gathering of two families How one reacts to the divorce its self and sharing of properties will determine how peaceful it will be |
Family / Re: I Have Access To Half Of His Property - Nigerian Woman Brags After Court Wedding by ZIMDRILL(m): 6:18pm On Mar 25, 2023 |
Wodu89: You are the one jumping You said DIVORCE CAN BE TURNED DOWN and my argument started from there, that no STATE can turn down a divorce, state follows the wishes of one who files ONLY WHEN THE COUPLE AMENDS THINGS AND AGREE TO SORT THINGS OUT THEN PROCEDINGS FOR DIVORCE ARE CANCELLED |
Family / Re: I Have Access To Half Of His Property - Nigerian Woman Brags After Court Wedding by ZIMDRILL(m): 6:06pm On Mar 25, 2023 |
Wodu89: Like i said you are confused, is it i said you are given time to rethink your decision towards divorce You were sounding as if the STATE its self wont grant you divorce, whereas its the couple's decision stop the divorce application Its STATE stops the application after the couple has made the decision not to prosed not the other way round My correction was on when you said DIVORCE CAN BE TURNED DOWN |
Family / Re: I Have Access To Half Of His Property - Nigerian Woman Brags After Court Wedding by ZIMDRILL(m): 5:53pm On Mar 25, 2023 |
Wodu89: NO nation in the world forces people to remain married after a divorce application you are granted a seperation period or it takes long to be fully granted due usually complex issue of wealth You are confusing not being granted divorce as one wishes against formal process etc and being refused, those are two different things since you have research and found many of those copy and paste them here
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Family / Re: I Have Access To Half Of His Property - Nigerian Woman Brags After Court Wedding by ZIMDRILL(m): 11:49pm On Mar 24, 2023 |
Wodu89: point of correction divorce can never be turned down by courts but you are given a separation period rethink your decisions, after period procedings take place also this can take long depending with wealth and assets at hand the claiming of the half of the wealth is based on if the wealth was built while the two were together, anyone comes after building the wealth gets according to time they came into marriage thats the reason rich people makes you sign a prenup or if not the wealth is held through a family trust, were no an individual has NO control but as group you do and whoever wants to cash out can sell their share
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Family / Re: My Wife, Who Hurt You In The Past? by ZIMDRILL(m): 8:33pm On Mar 24, 2023 |
Saintsammurai: In africa it can also happen it depends with social class, eg middle class and above were both eg are proffessionals with or without a maid Life has its challenges and how we reacts differ from person to person, relationship to relationship back to the story, its poor written story 1 hubby comes home late (though he had a goid reason to himself ) from the story he never inforned wife in advance of coming home late 2 the wife has right to be angry from either coming home late or leaving a messy kitchen 3 the anger from messy kitchen might be a protest to coming home late 4 the breaking down might be from things hubby does that triggers those old memories 5 the hubby asking who has hurt you might mean hasnt been full paying attention to his wife and has no clue that she went through all that 6 wife might have also tried so hard to hide her past all these years it has been eating her and i got triggered by a small things |
Family / Re: I Want To Marry A Circumcised Woman by ZIMDRILL(m): 10:18pm On Mar 23, 2023 |
injuredman: adding more sex starts in the mind, stimulate the mind for sex praise eg her behind when she going etc by the time you go to bef she will ready mentally and simple touch might get wet easily |
Family / Re: Is Spanking A Child Good Or Bad? by ZIMDRILL(m): 7:40pm On Mar 23, 2023 |
people fail to follow the development of a child there is time a child uses a month to explore the world, we grab it and put away from reach, then when they start to walk everything is grabbed and thrown at this stage their are understanding few commands stop etc. From startng to work to primary school is crutial period of choosing how deal withh the child spanking is necessary at very young age tolddler age, eg a spank on the hand then at age 4 and above more vocal commands are needed and less beating Problem with parents we beat a child without fully explaining the wrong, expect them to get right the second time you corrected them whereas their are just children tend to forget alot, they a constant verballly reminder, we are not patience with out children we tend want them to get it right the 2nd and we use fear as way to control instead of using reasoning(of their age ) thats why you find children in the western world ask why, they just want to hear your reason why and sometimes it makes them remember that you once said it and they will back off |
Family / Re: Marital Sex Is Not A Sin by ZIMDRILL(m): 10:52am On Mar 22, 2023 |
Hashabiah: You have noticed something but have you ever wonder why they lose interest or something to look sexxy etc |
Family / Re: Is This True About Men? Do You Agree? by ZIMDRILL(m): 1:26pm On Mar 20, 2023 |
socialmediaman: do you undertstand what it means yourself ? 1 Like |
Family / Re: Does Money Really Give TRUE Happiness? by ZIMDRILL(m): 11:09am On Mar 20, 2023 |
boiz2men: we find happiness is different things eg some parents find happiness in having grand kids Happiness is an individually things, yes money brings happiness to some people eg a person who loves gadgets or lasted things, being able to buy and have it brings them happiness Happiness come through different things |
Family / Re: Would You Let You Wife Know Your Monthly Take Home by ZIMDRILL(m): 11:27pm On Mar 17, 2023 |
Ogunleti01: 1st tell us why yourself you are questioning it for being proper or not |
Family / Re: Your Background Can Determine How Far You Go In Life by ZIMDRILL(m): 7:24pm On Mar 17, 2023 |
emmaodet: Have ever noticed that young one cant wait to grow up to elders, due to power aka not being questioned and ordering people around This is all due how elders trash down whoever is younger than them, worse african parents dont usually acknowledge that their are areas you smarter than them, what they dont know that acknowledgement from parents gives a child confidence 6 Likes |
Family / Re: Your Background Can Determine How Far You Go In Life by ZIMDRILL(m): 7:11pm On Mar 17, 2023 |
emmaodet: independent thinking is their in our DNA is there but culture and tradition has groomed us not to question elders Most african cultures and tradition view questioning of elders and taboo, hence whats is called generational curses but todays churches are just a vicious cycle due the fact that if one wants to do things outside the box he casted out family or looked down by society 1 Like |
Car Talk / Re: How Long Should I Warm My Car Up In The Morning? by ZIMDRILL(m): 3:22am On Mar 17, 2023 |
xpensivealex: nowadays you dont need to warm your car this is due to advanced oil of our generation hence oil is said to be eg 5w-30 or 0w-30 meaning 5w represents the average winter morning temperature, therefore the oil is still effective at those low temperatures in the morning you dont need to warm the car for oil to be thinner and able to penetrate and lubricate those tights spots the oil is said to be mutligrades the most important thing is knowing the recommanded oil of your car
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Family / Re: My Ex Asked To See Our Children And I Refused Please Help by ZIMDRILL(m): 8:51pm On Mar 16, 2023 |
Vyvyanvyvy: 1 you say he has been providing for the kifs for the past 3 years and he comes with something snd you reject it, does it make sense you should taken the money spoil the kids 2 as for kids because of the previous, he should start by seeing the kids under your supervision eg meet at the park, spend time with them while you are there, his behaviour and attitude will determine the rest |
Family / Re: Why Do Women Feel Like They Can Control Men? by ZIMDRILL(m): 7:35pm On Mar 16, 2023 |
Schoolguy9: its a complicated issue it depends how you see it 1 do you see it from your mum's point of view i.e your mother controlling your dad or your mum is not the type 2 do you view it looking at your wife that, you dont like to controlled or in simple terms put boundaries The reason i used the "your mum" point view is that eg would you allow your mother to be ill treated simply becoz she sets boundaries that your father should follow, am sure here and there you would stand up for your mother So sometimes as hubby we say it is control but sometimes the wife just wants to set boundaries that makes feel loved, respected and etc Before we press down in our wives ask yourself would my mother or sister be happy in such set up or situation Most people confused fear and respect, in africa, mostly kids they fear parents and take it as respect Then setting boundaries is seen and being contolling |
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