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I think I have such an unforgiving spirit towards women.
I can let go of things done to me by a man, but when it comes to women, I feel used and betrayed. I feel letting go is a sign of weakness.

Of course I can't be this vindictive but in all honesty, forgiving a woman ain't easy.

Women have this way of betraying trust, hoping you'd forgive and once you do, that's how she'll continue to fvck up.

I don't believe it's ten years though, may be a typo error. It could be ten months or ten weeks. It may take me years to forgive, yes, but I don't have time to waste in planning a revenge.

SweetCunt97:
E be like Jos jazz done dey strong

Lol
You think say e no strong before abi?
E go shock you.
You no know say Fulani for don finish them if not for the kind people weh them be?

Fear Plateau and Taraba indigenes

Reichel99:
The guy still wasted his own resources, he should calculate all the expenses he made for the wedding and the relationship.

The bride will still get a new man, the man may even be in the wedding location.

So it's the groom that not get a new girl abi?

Kids everywhere

[/quote][font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font][quote author=Impostor post=87664228]My advise is that after your NYSC, if you have a supportive family and a good/understanding girl friend, just marry her and start your family. You two will Hussle together and God will bless your hustle. You may ask why? Because most people finish around 25. If it takes you 10 years to become stable and get married, if you are lucky, you will have your first child at 36, 37. By the time you are 50, your child will be in junior secondary.

Be wise money is not everything.

OP, if you know such type of girl who is in her early twenties, pm me. I will just date her for six months before doing the needful lol.

E be like say OP never know the situation weh we de face with 9ja girls.

9ja girls? Just forget.

If you no get money, ordinary greeting you no go see for road collect.

Me as I de like this, I just de pray make hustle pay.

If you don't have a job, you don't know how useless and irritating you look to a Nigerian girl.
If you don't have a source of income, just respect yourself and remain single.

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Useless aboki people.

All the Christians affected by this insurgency have all moved on to start life somewhere.

They are all over the Nasarawa part of Abuja, farming and doing well. Some have built good houses. They are all over Masaka, Kuchikaw, Karu, Uke, Karshi and the rest.


But these useless ones decided to camp themselves in one place while waiting for government to feed them 3xs in a day, at the expense of development and other infrastructure. I mean, are we going to continue like this?

An average aboki man is so unproductive..

What he does is, wake up, drink pap, sit under a tree to discuss politics with his fellow lazy idiots, while waiting for one stupid politician to come and share stolen funds for them.

Useless people.

Aboki useless I swear. And 80% of the course of this uselessness is the faith they practice.

Useless, stupid, backward and unproductive folks.

#spits

Chairman

Nigeria Wailers Association.

The sooner you move on from 2015, the sooner you'll realise that Goodluck and Buhari are both useless in different ways.

But that guy is lucky sha.

I will be the happiest man in the world if I can be able to pull this kinda stunt...

Me na just 3 children I need.
I will need their mother for some few years before I boot her out.

I just need to double my hustle and get a nice place, every other thing will fall in place. Women no de use eye see young man weh get small change, their sense de off (no be say them First get the sense sef).


So help me God

RIP

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Who else viewed this thread thinking it's our foul mouthed NwaAmaikpe?

Fake, faker, fakest

Long overdue

I'm not married but I can understand his pain.
I don't want to ever have a female child.

From one problem to the other.
3 boys are enough.

God help me

Because good girls don't have a good taste when it comes to choosing a man.

Make this thing just stop for south abeg.

Na them de enjoy 9ja pass so make them also suffer pass

Football age.

How's this hanty 27?

Nairaland oloshos be like "tell them oooo,
character is the key." You get character but you no fit keep you toto inside pant. Which kind half baked character is that?"


Virginity doesn't guarantee a stable marriage, yes, but same as being a non virgin.

Being a non virgin doesn't guarantee a stable marriage either.

I always advice women to keep their virginity for as long as possible. Not because it will or will not guarantee a stable marriage, but because once the seal is broken, every dick will want to swim in.

But if the seal is intact, you can use it as a guard to chase away some wolfs in sheep clothing.

Mikelarteta:
At your age na GF this one still Dey flaunt.Smssss

What should he be flaunting, boyfriend?

Leezah:
Choose. Your girlfriend has reason to feel the way she does and you know it.

Maybe.

2 out of 2 times I have ever been jealous of an ex boyfriend's friend (not with every ex boyfriend was this an issue) it was found out later that the female friend was indeed crushing on my boyfriend. Women unlike men tend to “read” people well, especially other women.

When in love a woman's intuition especially tends to intensify. Then again so does her jealousy so this can be a tricky situation that requires some reflection and honesty with yourself and openness with your girlfriend.

Some of what made me feel jealous in these times was intuition, but some things I just simply understand by being a female myself and having many female friends. I knew certain subtle things females do when they like a guy and saw it. Even personally I crushed on guy friends before and some never suspected it. So it's definitely possible your girlfriend sees something you don't.

Anyways, aside from intuition and certain gestures i saw, I noticed that these 2 boyfriends would run to the female friend with all the problems we had as though she was his “refuge”. This is growing intimacy with your friend instead of your girlfriend and a BIG NO-NO. It would have been better that they went to an older and wiser man for counsel than to her.

Although you may go to your female friend for advice with other problems you should never ever come to her with relationship problems. Friends of the opposite shouldn't know all the intimate details of your relationship. As soon as you have a girlfriend this is the most immediate way in which your friendship to your friend should change. By you coming to her you are now showing her what sort of romantic partner you are and how “romantically compatible” you now are with her.

Women are weird. As soon as you deeply open up about these conditions of your heart, etc, we cant help but to at least wonder if we are romantically compatible especially since we come out the womb being relationship/love oriented. Unless you want your female friend trying to now question secretively if you and her are compatible its best you leave her in the dark about this “intimate” side of you or only expose this side of you when you are single. Also don't break up with your girlfriend and the next day run to your female about the issues. Especially in young love people break up then 2 months later are back together.

Overall allowing a female friend to see these aspects of you should be when you are single (via the title of being single and via emotionally being untied to anyone). Then and only then you should share your romantic/relationship characteristics with your opposite sexed friend and even then just know you are opening the strong possibility that this friend will now start qualifying and disqualifying you as a romantic partner.

If you want female advice then ask older women but maybe not your mom or those who would have too much bias and too easily take your side. Maybe quora could be good however take every answer with a grain of salt including my own. Honestly relationships and determining what is acceptable and not acceptable is personal and takes personal reflection. You can't just take advice for everything. I especially think in todays world with so many boys raised without fathers its not good to get all your relationship do's and don't from females. You shouldn't think like a female when dating a female. You should think like a man. For the most part men have to be more patient and giving in certain areas of relationships and women should be more patient in othe areas. Learning intimate relationships is not like learning to be politically correct or learning what's publicly proper. Although I do recommend reading relationship books from people who share your same vision of intimate relationships dating someone is the foundation in an intimate world you are creating and everyone is different in what they can accept or what they prefer. People's preferences in love ranges from the most traditional to the grotesque…

Meditate on what you want. Overall if this is a woman who fits every aspect of your vision of an intimate relationship than her opinion does matter. At the end of a day you and HER will be the main creators of a world between your walls and conforming to her in all aspects that's reasonably possible and vice versa is key in making a lasting relationship (keyword:reasonable).

Overall there are many questions you have to ask before you seek to end your friendship. In my own situation both of these boyfriends much later “confessed” that they deeply knew the female friend liked them since I first mentioned my jealousy but they thought it wasn't a big deal unless they fed into it. Personally I felt these were feeding into it (again men don't tend to know the world of female emotion as well). Can you honestly and I mean SINCERELY look at all the encounters with your female friend say that beyond a shadow of a doubt this friend has absolutely, and I mean absolutely has no crush on you? Honestly not even her having a boyfriend matters. Having a boyfriend doesn't stop one from having basic human desires towards another. In divorce courts we see this clearly, so of course in simply dating we can't deny this simple fact of life.

Anywho, despite my own experiences, at the end of the day I would not say it's the best solution to always cut off the female friend just because your girlfriend is jealous especially without considering these things I mentioned.

Many times we date just to date and practice a long term commitment. Look at everything mentioned here, reflect, keep intimate problems away from opposite sexed friend, and determine your motivation in dating the woman you're with. Is she practice or is she the one? Is she seeing something you don't or is it jealous? Is it every female friend and interaction that makes her jealous or is it just this one friend? Is not conforming to her in this way worth risking a lifetime of not having her by your side? Many questions to ask before you take any action.

I thank God I didn't read this book cos e for pain me well well

ikaboy:
The governor is so sound and verse . Nasaarava is lucky to have him

We're not lucky.
He was imposed on us
We don't want him

Useless governor that doesn't know his state of origin

May their souls rest rest in peace.

Lagos is one of the worst places to live.

After North East, fear Lagos.

While it's true there are no terrorists there, there are other 1000 other ways to die.

From pipeline explosion, to 7ft container falling on you, to stress, traffic, tanker explosion, trailer colliding with a small vehicle, yahoo boys using our girls, and the list goes on.

That place needs serious decongestion because it's too choked.

Everybody wants to live in Lagos, and because of that, somebody will go and sell land for you on a ticking time bomb.

Abuja is the place to be, at least, with much, much less troubles than Lagos.

Again RIP to the beautiful couples.

I couldn't read to the end.
Too long bro.

Who else noticed that this guy refused to use the word "wife." He kept confusing us with the word "partner."

Partner could be your girlfriend, side chick, fiancee or wife.

So oga, which of the above?

Make I know how to advise you.