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ultiabaz36:
Good day my people, please your advise is needed. I am in my 30s and I came into this relationship this year January. I like and I love this babe so much but she’s always demanding financially despite being a working class and I am only surviving on 45k job here in lagos. I have target and ambition for my life and everything is placed on this my job. So, I have a proportion of my income to be saved for this my ambition but since I met this girl, I never have anything called savings again while I still go on borrowing to satisfy her needs.

The most painful part of it all is that anytime she asks of anything and I’m not capable of what she asked for, she will first block me on Whatsapp and drop a breakup message. I will be the one to call and persuade her and when she feels like to unblock me she will do that.

But now, she’s asking for salah cloth and I don’t have the amount she’s asking for. I told her I don’t have the money for now while I told her that I don’t know what tomorrow will say and as soon as I said this, she dropped the breakup message as usual and block me on WhatsApp.

Please Advise me on what to do as this is getting on my nerves.

Do you want cheese with that whine?

I can never quite understand why people come on Nairaland to bitch…
And it’s almost always the same thing - some dude whining about spending money on a girl.

First, if you don’t have it to spend, don’t…
Second, if money is the only thing you have to offer or the girl wants, you NOT IT for each other.

MOVE THE EFF ON!
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udemzyudex:
Do you know the meaning of sample?

How many Burna’s many HITS sampled a Fela song?
Name them, and prove that you are actually familiar with Fela’s music.

PS: And btw, “Kilometre” is a jam (one of this summer’s anthems-to-be).
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Some of the PRIMITIVE MISOGYNISTIC comments on this thread leaves one pondering why Boko Haram is not more popular than it is Nigeria. Obviously, there is a philosophical kinship between many Nairalanders and Boko Haram, regarding women. SMH
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Sabadon:
I know it might sound awkward, but wearing uniforms has a way of instilling a culture of professionalism.

For example in medical school you are meant to dress a certain way, likewise lawyers. It becomes easier adapting to such dress code even after graduation. My thoughts tho

That must be why Harvard, Yale, Stanford, Sorbonne, Cambridge, Oxford, MIT, and all the top universities wear uniforms…oh wait!
Nigerians, what of a nation of too many people (especially those in positions of authority) chasing SHADOWS in derogation of substance!
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phemmyfour:
You sample fela's song too much. Without that all your songs would be sounding like kilometers

Doubtful you’ve ever heard Fela’s songs…smh
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Hate that he used the B-word…
But otherwise, spot on. Many roads to paradise.
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mrchineke:
For sure he is an idiot but we cannot deny the the facts he stated.

And pray which “facts” would those be?
That only blacks/Africans date outside their race and thus deserve to be lynched?
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naptu2:
https://www.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=4331037253584174&id=492378324116772

GOOD move…

But it would have been better to continue with the Ambode plan to turn the Onikan axis into a cultural destination, with this reconstructed JK Randle Center, the old State House (recovered from the federal government), the National Museum (agreed to be handed over to the Lagos Stare government to renovate/rebuild and operate), plus the proposed Lagos modern museum.

EKO O NI BAJE!
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Zooposki:
African men are not ashamed their women have to who.re themselves out just to feed due to how incompetent and corrupt they are. Later they will want to run after the whyte women that their own group of men have made comfortable. No wonder the whyte man keep lynching your black asses. Yeye dey smell.

How is it humanly possible to cram so much low self-esteemed self-hating drivel in just one post? SMH
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Coronabirus:
Poverty: Young girls offer their bodies for plate of indomie, bottle of coke – Enugu CBO

https://dailypost.ng/2021/07/08/poverty-young-girls-offer-their-bodies-for-plate-of-indomie-bottle-of-coke-enugu-cbo/

The NGO INDUSTRY and Poverty Porn…smh
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vankelvin:
At least there is an empty brain cell but "you"?, you have no head to reason with.

So as he posted you thought it was a private Uni? Omo ale.

It's only mumu Nigerians that feel threatened by the success of others. If someone posts pictures of his alma mata does it call for competition? Only low self esteem people like you think Pictures of Ghana on nairaland means Ghana vrs Naija comparison.

Get yourself a life, wretched you

SmartyPants:
Nigerians should learn to accept some facts. This university and the other big two are far above their Nigerian counterparts Infrastructurally and otherwise.

Do you know of that exchange students from the US are only allowed to go to South Africa, Botswana and Ghana in sub Saharan Africa? All other countries tuition are not recognized.

There is no sentiment to it.

Were you perchance implying that @SmartyPants is a “low self-esteem” person?

Funny how @SmartyPants who I specifically responded to got the substance…
While a DENSE self-anointed interloper injected himself into a discourse he is apparently too THICK to grasp. SMH

Rather rich blathering about a life when you interjected yourself into other folks’ discourse…
I bet that your most significant relationship is with PALM-ela and a tub of Vaseline. Olodo Rabata!
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vankelvin:
At least there is an empty brain cell but "you"?, you have no head to reason with.

So as he posted University of Cape Coast you thought it was a private Uni? Omo ale.

It's only mumu Nigerians that feel threatened by the success of others. If someone posts pictures of his alma mata does it call for competition? Only low self esteem people like you think Pictures of Ghana on nairaland means Ghana vrs Naija comparison.

Get yourself a life, wretched you

Glad to see I triggered the empty space between your ears…

Why would I care about IRRELEVANCIES such as if it is a private or public university?
It’s a succinct self-indictment on your toxic obsession that you know every public/private NIGERIAN university. SMH
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vankelvin:
You are just sucking on empty straws.

The Op is posting about a Public University so if you claim you have better facilities then that should be a Public University not some Private University infrastructure.

We also have beautiful Private Universities here.

While you are straining on empty brain cells…

The OP didn’t base his facilities post on it being a public university…
You are the one pulling the public university predicate from your nether orifice!

And what difference does it make that Ghana has “beautiful” private universities as well?
Does that somehow change the reality that the private Nigerian universities mentioned are beautiful?

Frankly, I cannot quite grasp the seemingly toxic obsession some of you have with Nigeria. SMH
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KingUg:
bro don’t just open your mouth to spew trash we all pay our tax in form of Vat, ussd charge, stamp dues & all that & which services is the govt providing pls ordinary electricity is a problem you are here talking about services the govt is a colossal failure

I ignore childish and uncouth personal insults…
They merely betray your lack of substance and a crude personal upbringing.

On the SUBSTANTIVE discourse, you seem to be struggling with the very elementary concept of INCOME (and general) taxes…
Those USAGE ‘taxes’ or charges you cite are for services the payers SPECIFICALLY used. Who else would pay them? The Fairy Godmother?!

Meanwhile, INCOME and other general taxes accrue to the Treasury to pay for general public services and infrastructure, such as public education, healthcare, security, public transportation, roads, etc., even if the payers don’t specifically avail themselves of those things.
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Btw, please quit making juvenile Strawman Arguments. It is NOT mutually-exclusive to criticize the respective failures of government(s) and citizens. Accordingly, while my general discourse on Nigerians and taxes SPECIFICALLY “recognizes the gross failure of government”, it nonetheless does NOT excuse the equally gross failure of citizens to fulfill their basic civic responsibilities (such as paying income taxes).

Unfortunately, as I also previously noted, the saying that a nation DESERVES its leaders is aptly demonstrated in NIGERIA! SMH
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DoggoneDogg:
Another shithole.

What do you expect from a country of former slaves?

Sounds like you have a low self-esteem with self-hating inferiority complex…smh
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insidenaijasblog:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/punchng.com/dss-shot-igbohos-right-hand-man-adogan-48-times-butchered-him-to-death-ilana-oodua/%3famp

Tales by the Moonlight…

Anyway, death is death…
Maybe he should’ve invested in butcher-proof!
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Fahdiga:
Nice decision to marry out of Buhari's reach. The unborn child have escaped from the zoo and will forever be grateful

Is she Russian?
Talk about a rock and a hard place.
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Wisdomkosi:
Woman In Tears As Ebonyi Commissioner Pours Her Food Away For Selling On Street

HAPPENING NOW! Woman in Tears as Ebonyi Commissioner, Barrister Onyekachi Nwebonyi Pours Her Food Away for Selling on the Streets.

The woman said this is her only source of feeding her children.

https://igberetvnews.com/1394722/ebonyi-commissioner-throws-away-vendors-food-woman-cries-help/

This story reminds one of Short Man Adams Oshiomole…


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6hI8jdZ33Zs

envoymedia:
Yoruba Nation rally protesters were dispossessed of their charms by Lagos police officers during the rally held on 3rd June 2021. See video below


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2efhgi4c7Q0

USELESS SUPERSTITIOUS NIGERIANS…
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VillagePipu:
The brain is one of the smallest organs of the body, yet it coordinates the whole body.
The landmass of the North is a curse to the North. As big as the North is, they still come to the south for menial jobs.

My comment was NOT valuative…
If you split Nigeria in 2, South will immediately be a middle income nation, while North will become one of the world’s poorest nations.

Nonetheless, why stop at 2…
If you want to split, go the whole hog, so the South-South will stop financing the rest of Nigeria and become one of the world’s wealthiest!
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NwekeUG:
https://www.arise.tv/biafra-separatist-leader-kanu-was-abducted-and-tortured-in-kenya-his-lawyer-ifeanyi-ejiofor-claims/

Thought it was a video of said torture and beating…
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KillMNKnow:
Without Namdi Kanu and Igboho the meeting is useless. Southern Governors dressing like Fulani subjects. Namdi Kanu and Igboho are the only true southern leaders. A Muslim can't be a southern Nigeria leader, cus all Muslims are Fulani subjects. Only Christians are allowed to be on this land.. Christianity was originated in Africa, and Jesus is black

Don’t worry, they’ll likely be meeting in prison soon enough…
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Don’t get the Governors who fail to personally attend. What else was more important?
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Meanwhile, this is a graphic illustration of how relatively small the political South is in terms of land mass…
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Realhommie:
It's actually funny.. The way she began dancing immediately she saw Reekado and the music was playing in the background. That was funny.

Nor to say i endorse such acts though.

What don’t you endorse?
A kid getting excited at the sight of a “celebrity”?

Definitely better than all those Agbaya Agberos chasing “celebrities” for money.
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Kaybae:
Honestly when I watched this on someone's status I shook my head, the way she even hugged the guy.

Why would you shake your head?
She’s not thinking what’s in your Agbaya head. SMH
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Igbojihadist:
Good day nairalanders there is this very girl I love so much. I have expressed my feeling to her but she keeps telling me she is not ready yet. It has been four years now and am finding it difficult to move on or love any other girl.

Its ruining me as all i do each day is to think of her, atimes I might decide not to call her again within three days or what she would call me telling me is this the type of love I have for her. I am overwhelmed but she doesn't understand how i feel (please i need advice) plz anyone who would remind me of the present economy should stay off as ur problem is not mine.

Abegi, quit being a CREEP and a STALKER, and move on…
She is probably too nice to tell you to bog off, but after 4 years you should be getting the hint!

Good luck nonetheless - ELSEWHERE!
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JEWELofHELL:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2021/07/4-esn-members-arrested-planning-to-plant-explosives-in-imo/

Lucky for them that they were only arrested and not “neutralized”…
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nairalandankrah:
Thiz is what igboho and kanu are trying to avoid in the south!!. But Tinubu doesn't care because he must be a president before he retires for life..

The north is theirs already! Thats why None of the politicians still have their wards in public schools..

By starting their own insurgencies?!
Anyway, they will “avoid” it in their prison cells.
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PrinceOfLagos:
Even in DSS custody, Kanu still get better life pass you

The British government are on his case, and will do everything possible to make sure Kanu gets a fair hearing ..

Who know you ?

Ironic when IPOBIANS who lambast the British for creating Nigeria look to the British for salvation!
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ArcSEMPECJ:
Lols who said Nigerians don't pay tax

Those countries they are running to have a functioning government who knew how many citizens they have and how to make life worth living for them.....pls don't compare life there with our hell Nigeria

All Civil servants pay tax by deduction from their salaries even a gate man , once your salary comes from the government.....

All business owners even pure water hawkers on the road pay tax to the government,...

A Shuttle driver , buses , Tricycles , Motorcycle etc pays a tax of #400 per day to the government, according to the decisions of their tax union

What you should be talking about is what has government done with the tax paid to them....

The money our darling daddy in Aso rock used to get a life in London and run medical check ups per month in London should be enough to feed the whole country for years, get our refinaries working ....

Go and do your research well my brother ......
We are doing the same thing as those people abroad do but we don't have the same human value as they do .....

Meanwhile, here’s my general position on Nigerians and taxes (emphasis added)…
https://www.nairaland.com/6610447/did-know-buhari-building-train/7#102876082

9jaRealist:
Without presumption or prejudice (and assuming that you actually and timely pay all of your due taxes), the propensity of the average Nigerian to EVADE taxes is one of the contributing factors for the paucity of public services. The fact is that Nigeria reportedly has the LOWEST tax to GDP ratio in all of Africa (yes, even lower than many very poor African nations) speaks volumes. The reality is that, outside of the civil service and those subject to PAYE withholding taxes, the greater majority of income-earning Nigerians (in formal and informal employment or self-employment) ACTIVELY EVADE paying their due taxes or notoriously underpay (when/if they pay at all) - and yet everyone seems to expect world-class public services. Of course, a big reason is the Culture of Entitlement cultivated by the oil windfall that the overwhelming majority of Nigerians do not contribute to in any way at all!

I am well aware that many Nigerians would argue that they do (or should) not pay taxes because there is little or no evidence of tax revenues being put to good use or that said revenues are more than likely to be embezzled, but such an argument only renders the citizens just as culpable the rulers (I am loathe to refer to these lot as actual leaders). Every nation/society is a social construct built upon the basic premise of rights and responsibilities, perhaps best manifested the so-called “social contract” between the government and the governed. But every contract requires “consideration” - which means that you have to provide something to get something in return. Accordingly, when citizens fail to pay timely and fully pay their due taxes, it is not only a moral failing in the basic tenets of citizenship (those taxes can be likened to equity investment in the nation, from which citizens expect some form of returns) but also a more legalistic failure to uphold one’s obligations under the “social contract” - and consequently strips such derelict citizens of any (moral or other) right to complain.

Unfortunately, so many Nigerians have this rather weird notion of citizenship, whereunder citizens enjoy only rights but do not bear commensurate responsibilities. Yet, as with most of human experience, one most often gets what one pays for - and that’s if you’re lucky! Furthermore, Nigerians have a rather delusional misconception of the resources available to the state (even if politicians did not steal a significant portion of public resources, as they persistently do). Just for perspective, the US expended over $4 trillion just on healthcare last year (2020) and yet could not guarantee access to healthcare (or adequate and affordable healthcare) to all of its citizens - including to many actual taxpayers! Accordingly, even if Nigeria spent every single cent it earned from oil and gas sales ($32.6 billion in 2018, even before the pandemic decimated revenues in 2020, and for perspective Kuwait made $60.7 billion same year with a population of only 1 million nationals) solely on healthcare and neglected everything else, the government still wouldn’t have anywhere near the revenues to provide the sort of world-class healthcare across the nation and across all strata of society (even if our thieving politicians did not steal a penny - which of course they grossly do).

While fully cognizant of the gross failures of governments in Nigeria, it is sometimes irritating that Nigerians often act as if they have absolutely no agency in their own fortune (or perhaps more accurately, misfortune) - even discounting that the poorest Nigerians are often the most fervent supporters/voters of “Sai Baba” and the political elite, and even the supposedly educated class and/or middle-class will fanatically defend their “own” (defined by tribal, religious or such other base or primordial affiliation) in almost all circumstances (including corruption charges). Yet, every single CHALLENGE in our nation is also an OPPORTUNITY - and as life experience has amply illustrated, the most successful people and organizations are those who address or otherwise help solve challenges. In Nigeria, our eyes are too clouded with the torrent of tears from our wailing about our challenges that we fail to see opportunities arising therefrom.

The saying that every society DESERVES the leadership it gets couldn’t be more aptly demonstrated than in Nigeria!
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ArcSEMPECJ:
Lols who said Nigerians don't pay tax

Those countries they are running to have a functioning government who knew how many citizens they have and how to make life worth living for them.....pls don't compare life there with our hell Nigeria

All Civil servants pay tax by deduction from their salaries even a gate man , once your salary comes from the government.....

All business owners even pure water hawkers on the road pay tax to the government,...

A Shuttle driver , buses , Tricycles , Motorcycle etc pays a tax of #400 per day to the government, according to the decisions of their tax union

What you should be talking about is what has government done with the tax paid to them....

The money our darling daddy in Aso rock used to get a life in London and run medical check ups per month in London should be enough to feed the whole country for years, get our refinaries working ....

Go and do your research well my brother ......
We are doing the same thing as those people abroad do but we don't have the same human value as they do .....

You need to do your own research well my brother, and answer the SPECIFIC question I posed…
Is there fuel subsidy in those countries abroad (in the UK and US, they even add taxes to fuel prices)?!
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