₦airaland Forum

Meektunz:
Bro, truly you've spoken well, I swear I can't go good one hour without thinking of this issue. That's how it has been for over 3years now.

3 years of thinking! Bro it’s not healthy to go on like this. You’re strong that’s why you’ve not broken down mentally.

Wish you all the best.

You see all these girls who respect their pastors more than their own parents? Beware of them. They will grow up to be those women who respect pastor more than their own husband. Also they often end up as pastor’s side chick.

Congratulations that you found out on time. Imagine raising pastor’s child as your own. E no go funny.

Suspicion is not enough. Do the test. It will cost you money but you will get answers. I’d suggest doing it for the two children. The one you think is yours may not be yours.

Or both could be yours.

Don’t let doubt, anxiety and uncertainty continue to rob you of peace of mind.

Guys pray for a woman like that until they actually jam one. And then they start begging her to have mercy on their blood pressure. The human heart can only take so much exercise before it gives up. Sofri sofri.

No go dey pray for something wey go wound you.

Me I never see babe like that sha. As virgin wey I be.

Blackdisciple:
Woman sef ...even as he was telling her to repeat what she said she still repeat it means no fear, at least she just keep mute after he told her to repeat what she said but she didn't.

Not every guy will can over look somethings from a woman...

If na me she go talk tire I no go even send her sef

She repeated it cos she knew the privileges that come with her skin and her gender. And she knew the disadvantages that come with the man’s skin colour and his gender.

That man is going to the get maximum sentence possible for this crime.

As much as I feel sorry for him, I also feel he went overboard. You cannot go about hitting people just because you’re in a bad mood. In fact you should exercise more restraint when you’re in a bad mood cos anger can cause real damage.

Decolink, you’re not willing to throw away the relationship but she has demonstrated that she is more than willing to fling the relationship into the bush.

You know you cannot trust her. Why do you want to punish yourself by marrying someone who will cheat on you the moment you have a quarrel? Why don’t you value your peace of mind?

MRDEE01:
Used to have lots of walk dates years back with my friend.

It was fun.

Walk dates are for intelligent girls, not slayqueens who want to eat,take pictures and go shopping.

Not just slay queens. Most naija babes won’t go n a date if there’s no food. Too many hungry girls in Nigeria.

The police should also reveal how she was lured. Was it hook up? Was it employment vacancy? Were they dating? Help people identify red flags.

Divoc19:
I wish they will understand that 'Dating' does not mean furcking.
In my days we use to have platonic relationships/dating with more than one guy.

If it’s platonic then you weren’t dating.

Magnoliaa’s gender have come again

Magnoliaa:
It could be a red flag or it could mean nothing.
Lol.

That's not enough to conclude anything.

But why are you unsure, though? Should you not be able to tell someone who truly loves you and someone who is just keeping you until a better person comes?

Why are you trying to confuse the young man? If she believed he was the “somebody son” in her life, she wouldn’t have posted that. She just posted a vacancy with style.

If, like you said, she did those things in the past, then they are past tense bro.

She didn’t know you from Adam when she was enjoying her youth. She didn’t do it to spite you. She’d not even met you at that point.


This anger you feel is UNREASONABLE. You should take it as a sign of an underlying mental health issue. Speak to a therapist bro. THIS IS NOT NORMAL.

bukatyne:


The OP is not wrong however isolating the problem.

If Nigerians are naturally classist, it is only natural that:
1. Women would be classist to men who woo them;
2. Men would be classist to women who marry them;
3. Parents classist to their kids, friends, neighbors, colleagues etc.
4. Leaders classist to followers etc.

The man whining that a woman treated him shabbily because he is poor is treating someone else like poo.

The woman whining that her husband bullies her is flogging her help for existing.

This is the summary of Nigerian classism.

You overestimated your profit on the new business and underestimated the risks. Next time, save up money to start small. When you have a working model, borrow to scale up.

[quote author=Magnoliaa post=107094137][/quote]It’s the truth. You spend half the time wondering if your simple romantic gesture of chivalry is offensive to her sensibilities. You wonder how to phrase a statement so it doesn’t come off as casual patriarchy. Ask her to cook for you and you’d get a lecture on the demerits of gender roles.

Nobody wants that.

A lot of romantic things are tied to gender roles and things now considered toxic masculinity.

If you escape all that as a man dating a feminist, then she’s only an online feminist and that makes her a hypocrite.

Suit and tie gets the job done faster.

Stand like you own the ground upon which she walks and she will give you attention. Unless she’s a feminist, in which case, you should end things immediately. Feminists cannot make good romantic partners.

ahahnow:
The love of my life is with someone else how do I overcome the pain

You’re a woman, right?

I usually respond to guys in this situation cos they may listen to reason but you ladies are another kettle of fish.

If you’re a deeply emotional person who internalises pain most of the time, or you’re someone who can read a thousand meanings into a simple gesture or statement, please delete his number and pictures and unfollow him on all platforms. You have to sever the connection. Out of sight is out of mind.

If you’re not like that then just wait it out. The pain will get dull and eventually you’d be able to breathe once again. Create diversions for yourself.

Whatever you do, don’t go into another relationship too fast unless it’s just FWB arrangement.

Pele

crackhaus:
Papa is a rolling stone, a living legend...

At 85, so many of us will wish we still have the cojones to support our spiritual urges.

A very blessed man he is, your daddy.

Papa is ready to go out with a bang. Can’t blame him really. He is satisfying his urges. If he can’t get satisfaction at home, he has to get it from somewhere else. At 85, he’s one leg on earth, one leg in the beyond. Max na 20 years remain.

Most of his peers are dead. We don’t know the sadness he feels and maybe those intimate sessions with the other woman are all he has to feel alive. Being old and expecting death probably comes with its peculiar depression.

They should try to understand him and humour him. He has his reasons. The question is can he share those reasons?

ideatoprince18:
You are not alone

I eat bread and beans/plantains like up to twice daily ..... It's a real hustler food .... I can't see myself buying Rice or fufu/semo/garri outside at the restaurant .... To me it looks like waste of money cos I no go belleful.

I go just use that money buy bread 250, beans 200 plantain 100 .... With two cold pure water.... Morning and night .... Am done for the day!!!!

That’s 1,100 per day.

33,000 a month.

Minimum wage. That means anyone earning minimum wage in Nigeria can’t even afford this meal twice a day. What a country.

Mercychen:
Is such thing possible at that age? I thought this kind of situation happens only to little children.

Well you may be right.

She probably never outgrew it. Sad. If she feels the urge when she’s awake and can hold it until she gets to a toilet but doesn’t feel the urge when she’s asleep, then it’s most likely psychological. Na doctor go fit help her.

Magnoliaa:
Noo ooo. Who send you?

Personal reasons? Because you think they have more values or are family-oriented, abi they are not as modern and vocal as their white counterparts, abi?



Yup. It was a very big caught. Bigger than a whale gan. Las las, na home una go come. I have forgotten the African proverb that captures that.

Abeg, just forget the proverb like that o.

Everyone knows I love my Nigerian women.

Magnoliaa:
Wow. How can I phrase this now?

Well, I agree with you. Nigerians are NOTORIOUSLY classist! Gosh.

Very classist. Any small “advantage” is used to belittle you.

Magnoliaa:
*sits down with popcorn and chilled pepsi to watch the drama unfolding* You don't say!

You caught me right there.

Now I have to edit it back.

Petyprincess:
Hehe, I dnt blame them though, because a typical nigerian newbie is looking for someone to use for green card, with the reputation of Nigerian men abroad even our sisters are afraid of you not to talk of foreign women, only men that have never moved out of their home town are claiming foreign women love Nigerian men whereas it's total opposite.

You don’t know what you’re talking about. It’s about an imaginary pecking order. It’s typical Nigerian classism. “I first you come America” mentality. They do it to both men and women. Very dirty behaviour.

lkillbrokehoes:
Bro I'm highly disappointed, You leave Nigeria go America, still dey date Nigerian girls, say dem swear for you?

Dude their are better options out there, wide variety of options, it's not a must to be with Nigerian girls

Bro, not everyone wants a multicultural family. Some of us love having a Nigerian home.

Let me not say anything. There’s no way to mask the truth. They will see my comment and know it’s me. But ehn… guys have endured nonsense just because they want Nigerian wives.

ChiefSosa:
Omo naija ema sere'kere,
ere'kere ni doyun'koyun,
Oyun'koyun ni d'omokomo,
omokomo ni ni'le lara

Ose omo iya mi

I can’t wait for the naming ceremony. OP, Easylion3569, invite me so I can turn up with my two side chicks.

crackhaus:
I don't think beautiful/sexy women who are looking to get married can get away with NOT being able to cook.

Perhaps if they were needed just for fvcks or to be kept as side-chics, then they could get away with it.

But if one was looking to settle down, then she better be able to cook.

Some women can get away with not being able to find their way around a kitchen at the beginning of their marriage, but by the end of the 2nd year of marriage their eyes dey clear.

I didn’t say or even imply that. Just stated the reason some men are willing overlook poor culinary skills.

And some men actually overlook that cos they married a trophy.

Whatever you do, don’t lower your standards to fit the inadequacies of Nigerian woke women.


It is a strange thing if a young African woman cannot cook simple native dishes. Unacceptable.

Nobody is asking for a chef or slave. She should be able to prepare a decent meal when she has the time, finish.

Single Women who desire marriage should not deceive themselves. If you are not undeniably beautiful and sexy, then you most likely will not find a suitor willing to overlook your inability to cook. There are things you can get away with using beauty privilege. God help you if you’re not that fine or your character is not worth it.

If you can’t manage it anymore, demote her to side chick and look for brilliant one as main chick.

Researchers say intelligence is passed through the mother. If she born for you, hmmm.

Mercychen:
Shes battling such in her life, instead of seeking solution to her problem, she's busy sleeping in a guest house with a man.

Let her get bornagain first. Then go for deliverance because sometimes it's could be a spiritual cause.

Secondly, take her to a very good hospital for proper diagnosis and treatment.

It’s most probably psychological. She is suppressing the urge to wake up and go to the toilet. Instead, her mind deceives her into thinking she’s actually at the toilet and it’s okay to pee.

I’m curious as to how you discovered they were pretending.