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The Bible does not forbid close friendships between men and women. As Christians, however, there are some principles that we would be wise to heed. Married people especially need to be wary of friendships with members of the opposite gender because temptations are more likely to arise when there are marital problems. If a man’s best friend is a woman who is not his wife, he is likely to share these problems with her, which can lead to an unhealthy emotional attachment. The same holds true for a woman who has as a best friend a man who is not her husband.

Most married people who have affairs don’t purposely go out to find a romantic interest outside of their marriage. Many people say, “I didn’t mean for it to happen; it just happened.” But these things “just happen” when we “play with fire” and put ourselves in situations that are difficult to control. When we feel a spouse is not attentive to our needs, we can easily feel that we have “fallen in love” with someone else who does give us the attention we crave. When we feel ignored or under-appreciated by a spouse, we should communicate our struggles with the spouse and avoid the danger of seeking comfort elsewhere.

Even a marriage that is built on a foundation of faith in Christ and has relatively few problems is not immune to extra-marital temptations. This is why the Bible does not tell us to stick around and try to fight temptation, but to flee from it like we do from all "youthful lusts" (2 Timothy 2:22). Trying to fight temptation seems to become especially difficult when it comes to matters of the heart or the lusts of the flesh. First Corinthians 6:18 tells us that we need to run away from sexual sin, because it is much easier to run away from temptation than to stay and fight it.
Married men and women should carefully avoid putting themselves in compromising situations when it comes to the......
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Dating and courtship are two methods of beginning relationships with the opposite sex. While there are non-Christians who date with the intention of having a series of intimate physical relationships, for the Christian this is not acceptable and should never be the reason for dating. Many Christians see dating as little more than friendship and maintain the friendship aspect of their dating until both people are ready to commit to each other as potential marriage partners. First and foremost, dating is a time when a Christian finds out if his or her potential marriage partner is also a believer in Christ. The Bible warns us that believers and unbelievers should not marry each other, because those living in the light (of Christ) and those living in the darkness cannot live in harmony (2 Corinthians 6:14-15). As stated before, during this time there should be little or no physical contact, as this is something that should wait until marriage (1 Corinthians 6:18-20).

Courtship takes the position that the two people have no physical contact at all (no touching, no hand-holding, no kissing) until marriage. Many in a courtship relationship will not spend any time together unless family members, preferably parents, are present at all times. In addition, courting couples state up front that their intentions are to see if...... https://allsinglesandmarried..com/2019/11/the-difference-between-dating-and.html

This man is selfish simply because any sex that last for just 5 minutes is only enjoyed by the
man alone.
Again he is a 5 minutes man so he is trying to deceive his wife into believing him for not been man enough in bed.
Looking at the faces of the women in this video you will agree with me that they are not happy with him at all.

Dress to kill

Since she's ready for sex she should buy condom as well, unless she's not ready because I must give my offering.

Whenever money request is mentioned in a friendship or relationship it may spark quarrel or gross misunderstanding if not handle with maturity and due diligence.

For example:
If u demand me to give you N20,000 That's a zero return on investment as a business thinker.
Before I part with any amount of money as a gift or whatever it may be, I usually ask myself some critical questions:

1) Who's this person to me? My father or mother or brother or sister, cousin or a relative? or
IS HE OR SHE a friend: [best friend, business partner, distant friend, school mate, distant friend]
or lover or stranger ? The closer you are the easier for your request to be granted.

2) What impact or personal development has this person been contributing in my life...
Has he or she ever contributed to my financial growth, spiritual growth or healthy living in the form of providing me with sound information, advices, finance or connection to people who can help me achieve sound health or more money or improved spirituality.
There must be value that person ought to have rendered in the past or likely to render in the nearest future.

3) Has this person been communicating with me frequently via calls, emails, chats or sms?
When someone who hasn't been communicating with me for so long and he or she requests , it's likely I will not even heed to your pleadings.

4) How long does it take me to make that 20,000? 1hr, 24hrs, 1 week or one month? The longer it takes me to make the amount of money u are demanding, the lesser the chances for me to give you the money. That's why it is very easy for me to give you N500 naira than N50,000... that's for instance.
So when people demand for financial assistance and help and they don't get it within the time frame they expect and start raining insults on the individual, it's a lack of foresight and due diligence. Your brokeness is not someone else's responsibility, that's why you can't even sue me to court even when I have promised to give you money. It's a mere promise and...https://allsinglesandmarried..com/2019/11/six-ways-you-can-use-to-get-money-from.html?m=1

Simpleete:
Dear All,

Taking this drastic decision has not been easy with me so far,but I will appreciate mature counsel only.

I got married to a lady and we have one issue(child),but she had a male child for her ex before I got married to her.However due to certain issues I discovered after our marriage and in our marriage I got offended and travelled out,and in the process I proposed to another lady who seems more appreciable to me and in the process of our relationship we had an issue as well.On returning from my travel I told my wife all that happened to make her aware.Right now with all I have been through with this other lady I feel very guilty abandoning her right now,but want to go into marrying her next week.Though I have made her know I had a family before,but want to start a new life with her in my new base,does the law prohibit this?

Don't take a decision you will soon regrets.
What is your main purpose of getting married to another lady when
your wife is not dead?
Have you tried to find out why your wife has not given birth to a child since
you married her?
If yes, is she the cause ?
What attention have you given to the issue that makes her not to
have given you baby by now?
Hope you remembered how many time you told her you love her?
Please proof to her that you love or you give her a proper divorce and move on with your life.
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In so many Relationships and Marriages today, many of the couples are facing challenges they created by themselves, either knowingly or not.
Before you fully accept to marry your partner, is very crucial that you found out the following from him or her.
What is his or her lifestyle like? Is he the type that like women a lot?
Is she the type that keep too many friends of the opposite gender?
What is his or her Relationship with God? Maybe just a church goer?
Is he the type that smoke a lot, drink alcohol a lot, stays late night?.
Is she the type of woman that doesn't know how to cook and don't want to open up to
you so you can lovely assist. Is very crucial that
you know his or.....https://allsinglesandmarried..com/2019/10/the-7-secrets-your-partner-may-have.html

Some men can disappoint.
Where is the good for nothing penis that got her pregnant.
Fucking a woman is not the end but taking responsibility of anything that come out it.

Joel3:
I live in a two story building that has a lot of flats and mini flat apartments.

everyone living there have partners or single mother living with children and young woman that bring in young jobless man to live with her.

we were only two that was living there single until the other young man bring in woman to live with him and remaining me. he is already calling her his wife when making reference to her, same thing with another guy living with a young girl with children who wanted to tempted me to sin with her the other day when no body was around.. the fact i like and love living alone sometimes I do feel bored which I will walk around to hang out in bar before returning home.

I'm not considering bringing any girl to live with me for now. but the fact I'm already in mid thirties I know there is not much time for me. my only saving grace was the fact I have baby face and fresh statues that makes me look like mid twenties. unlike my other neighbor brought in young partner to live together.

one of my other neighbor wife was telling me only not as a joke to go find a wife to live with me.

its not new and that's what I found common among guys, and once a guy start living alone the next thing is that he find partner or partner find him and they start living and before you know it they start bearing children and they called each other wife and husband even without legally married.

I for example I know how many girls that want that with me without considering the economic aspect or future that await the present, I for example is a very scaring guy because I have standard of our my live or living should be any short of that will take me to early to my ancestors.

Nigeria is one country where everything is done by faith. they never plan ahead even above 6 months or 1 year. and that's why when the pregnancy begins the real suffer and abuses starts.

my look matters to me. the food i eat my freshness and the clothes that I wear which should be uniform to my children and partner if need be. and anything that threatens that will consumed or destroyed me.

The fact remains that you need a woman but you are confused right now.
Get a woman, be good to her, start as a boyfriend and girlfriend, she should be
visiting you since you don't want to stay together with her.
Don't allow your idle mind to be devil's workshop

Good moring nairalanders.

I want justice pls.

I was jailed 4 years ago when i was arrested,tried and sentenced for fraud.

I was not a criminally minded person but do to the economic hardship and how to provide for my wife and daughter I went into fraud.

My wife was supporting our union with her trade which the income was very low and to feed was war.

To cut the long story short when i was in prison she do visit occasionally but during 3 years spent already she stop visiting.

When i was freed last 2 months and to know what ups I went to where we live and learnt from a neighbour that my wife has parked out from our 2 rooms apartment and is now living with a man.

I got the address,went their and lo and behold she was heavily pregnant for the man.

I felt like fainting that moment and to make matter worse she said it to my face that she can't live with an ex convict.

My 5 years old daughter wants me back but my wife and her family are fighting against that.


I still love my wife despite her betrayal but the pregnancy and her refusal to give me back my daughter is giving me problem.

I want justice against the wife snatcher and i want back my wife and daughter.



Please what is the best ways to go about it so as not to go against the law.

Mods,I want justice.

You said you still love your wife which is very good but hope you are not interested in the pregnancy too?
If she is denying you your daughter please report the case to the nearest mediation center you know.
You went to jail because of her, she can't deny you the love of your daughter.

byna:
We got married in 2012 and ever since then we have been blessed with 3kids (3,boys).
I have a monthly upkeep of 130k for my wife as she only comes to our factory and goes home without doing much for the day aside taking care of kids and cooking.

I noticed that each time we have a misunderstanding, we both keep straight faces for days and she behaves as though she is less concerned to make up. It doesn't affect her chores or cooking as for me I hardly reject food served.

Now, after a couple of days, she would come for sex without wanting us to discuss and resolve the disagreement first.

Even when I feel rudely insulted, this happens. She feels whatever she does doesnt matter as long as Las Las na sex go end am. But I feel it's wrong and issues should be kept straight and fun time separate.

So we had same issues last week and we have been keeping straight faces yet I've been eating her food. Sometimes she joins me for mng prayers, sometimes she does her privately ( we do together before any misunderstanding)
So this mng she appeared stark nude to my room and demanded for sex after almost 15 days. I told her it would be unfair if we sweep the pass e events under the duvet. She got up and told me she wasn't ready to discuss any past misunderstanding that she came to f*uck. I told her I wasn't ready till issues are ironed out.

She taught it was business as usually as my John Thomas always disappoint me each time I see her nude but today I was ready to turn her down.

I Want to know if it's proper to always treat ur spouse the way you like knowing fully well that sex is their weak point for reconciliation?

Mature minds pls

It will be important for you to understand that individually, we have a way of apologizing
to our spouse whenever we offended them.
Her own way of apologizing to you is through sex because after giving you sex
that is when peace starts to reign again until there is another arguments.
This is her own way of apologizing to you.

jamespeter10:
Source: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.pmnewsnigeria.com/2019/11/15/atiku-abubakars-impersonator-sent-to-jail/amp/

Is this the man?

Before you conclude that you want to break up with her,
Remember that every Relationship is full of ups and downs, the good marriage you see
today and wished to have was never built overnight.
It started like a Relationship and Friendship of two imperfect persons that
never gave up on each other.
Also be matured in every decision you take.
Your maturity will proof to her that you are a Man and not a Boy.

Is very wrong to masturbate no matter what leads to it.
Is normal for a woman to have sexual feeling when her baby is sucking her breasts just because of
the sensation but why not control it.
Letting her husband to know about it will help them to deal with it, and that is
by giving her much romance, caressing and giving more attention to the wife's
breasts during pre-intimacy.

Don't forget that he can love you as you want but you can never replace his wife in his heart and he can't love you more
than his wife.
He is only interested in having sex with you so all he is doing for you is because of sex.

BuhariCarryGo:
God bless Federal republic of Nigeria
But our problem lies with the middle men. They'll buy it cheap and sell at a higher prizes!

You got it.
Middle men is going to be a problem here even before now

VillageGuyArts1:
Check out these cartoon photos I drew.

Which app are you using

obavalen:
A lady has taken to social media to share her encounter with a man she thought she was falling in love with.

The lady, identified as ‘its.pearl’ on Instagram, shared how she met the man, how they connected, and how she was rejected.

Sharing the story, she mentioned how they almost had sex up to the point where he saw her saggy breast and asked her to leave.

Following her post, she asked her readers if it was love or lust.

See The Post Here:

https://www.ogbeta.ng/2019/11/how-man-sent-me-out-of-his-house.html

She is not having saggy breasts because she lose weight is because in her last relationship, the man drained her
her breasts with straw.
The man did not sent her out just because of her saggy breasts but because she lied against her saggy breast.
Check my signature...

I'm getting married this weekend and my husband to be doesn't know about my genotype. I'm SS but lied to him that I'm AS, he is AA.
I don't look like SS neither do I fall sick( I sick once or twice a year),and I'm not on any medication as well.
My doctor and friends advised me not to tell him because of different heartbreaks that I have experienced in the past ( people believe SS dies prematurely).
I have plan to tell him on our wedding night but my friends insist I should wait till I give birth.

Please help me, I don't know the right time to tell him and I don't want to build my marriage on lies.

Before you fully accept to marry your partner, is very crucial that you found out the following from him or her.
1) Genotype and Blood Group. Have you taking it into seriousness to ask your partner about his or her Genotype and Blood Group?
You may think that is too early to know this in the first month in the relationship, what if eventually pregnancy get involved in the relationship and it happens that you and your significant other is both AS?
Nobody prays for such scandal and that's why is very crucial to deal with it on time because for AS to marry AS, their children will not be happy with them.
2) Is crucial that you know the HIV/AIDS status of your partner right from when the Relationship is getting serious before you make love with him or her.
This virus doesn't announce itself to anyone that comes close to the carrier either does it appear in face, but through the medical test, you will know your way with him or her.
3) STI/STD.
Don't say had i know because you didn't care in the beginning. Just like HIV/ADS doesn't make announcement and doesn't appear to the public from the face of the carrier, likewise STIs/STDs does not.
Most of the STI/STD can prevent a woman from having children, some people after taking some drugs will think that they have thoroughly dealt with the infection where as the infection is just hidden in their system and then refused to allow the person to be productive.
Does your woman have rashes in her Womanhood and.....https://allsinglesandmarried..com/2019/10/the-7-secrets-your-partner-may-have.html

1) They go above and beyond for their partner’s family.
“Vida is really great with my family — she makes all kinds of efforts to reach out to them and interact, even when I’m not around. I’m really close with my family and having a relationship with them is so important to me. She not only understands this but has taken it upon herself to participate in their lives, while encouraging me to spend and share my time with them as well.” — Katrina Lofaro

2) They tuck their partner in after a long day.
“He’ll listen to my struggles, bring me water or have me take a nap and tuck me in.” ― Alexander

3) They leave little love notes around the house.
“When our schedules don’t line up, I will find little notes around the house, like marker on my mirror telling me I’m beautiful or a little piece of paper in my purse reminding me that he loves me.” — Vollmer

4) They whip up their partner’s favorite meal.
“We surprise each other with our favorite dishes or desserts. It’s a great way to show that you are paying attention to the little details.” — Stephen Marrafino

5) They do scavenger hunts and other games that make love fun.
“We were working on different ships that were sailing around Alaska, but never actually laid anchor together. He agreed to do a scavenger hunt around each Alaskan port with me. Now, this may seem silly, but for me, this was showing up in a huge way. He would get to Juneau about three days ahead of me each week and hide a note. It would be my job to follow his clues and find it. Then it would be my turn to hide a note for him at the next port.” ― Patrick Rose

6) They remember the little things, like favorite PJs.
“I love when he lays out my favorite pajamas or when he plays with my.......
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Matured men don't do that.
Is very disrespectful.
She monitors all you do, even the person you greet
in the compound is a suspect for her

He killed him because of his girlfriend, not his wife oo.
What if the girl decide tomorrow not to continue with him in the
relationship, will he kill the girl as well.
So many has lost their senses because of women.

myang500:
Morin Nlanders,

Is it true that marriage is actually a do or die affair that whatever comes ur way u have to take it and live with it? That question is solely for the married men, and for the married ladies on here, I just wanted to know if you would react the way my wife did regarding what am about to explain, because she said all women are the same that even if i am to re-marry, that the woman will be worse off than she is, but i disagree.
The issue of tending to my food comes with a struggle at times, and being a father of two and living in lagos aint easy. She told me she was going to market to get some supplies for her clothing biz, i was like i hope u did come back soon so i can get breakfast cos i was working from home. She said she would be back before 9, lo and behold, it was already quarter past ten and she called saying shes on her way asking what i would like to eat, i was like is this the promise u made to come back early, she said well there was traffic and that i need to understand that we are sharing bills to pay equally now so I must give her the freedom is hustling per her own timing. I was like I didnt marry you to give me rules, part of the reason why u are my wife to give me food and not what ur saying, i said i have arranged breakfast she should bother. She got back, and the first thing she said is..i have bashed the car because i was rushing home to make u food, i was like i already told u before u drove off that i sorted myself, whats the rushing home to make food for me for. Then it came to my attention that she has consecutively been bashing both cars over the course of 4 days, i was pushed to ask her what she has been doing causing these sort of ill-luck bashing the cars here and there and having the other being fixed almost everyday, weird and un-unsual, she quickly termed it that i was trying to say shes cheating, that i need to get a life and stop being insecured. I was like i'm not insecured, and i cant be insecured over a woman of her looks. She got angry and said, me with my small pen**s, i was like an ugly woman like u can never make me insecured. I kept quiet but she continuously carried out her tantrums. This is coupled with the fact that somestimes last week, she made a statement out of an argument that she will have sexxx with another man in the house and i will never know of it. I was really angry and wanted to report to her dad, she cried and begged me not to, knowing fully well of the consequences that might follow. Ladies can u guys say these sort of things to your hubby out of anger? are u guys all the same?

Maturity is very crucial in marriage, I don't mean to be matured biologically but mentally.
Sorry to tell you that she is not Matured mentally.
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Dee7874:
Thank you @Allsingles,

I have done FBC/full blood count, Urine test etc... and i'm glad all came out negative.
On the spiritual aspect, I do not set my mind on such.

You never can tell and I not a crime for someone to protect himself spiritually

She showing men her body for them to come and have some good time with her with almost zero cost

Ugmama:
I will ask and get back at you

Thank you for replying

You are welcome

SMART9797:
Your correct but may be he doesn't like the romantic touch of his wife.

Then he should stop having sex with her since he doesn't want her romantic touch.