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Finally I can comment. But you people are pathetic to have silenced me here. Do not expect me to come and behave in a way you people want. Or expect me to answer your stupid questions. I am actuallly furious for this silly barring fvck up. I think I was too gentle here. Seun and his absolutely lost my respect. Ban me, I do not give a rat's poo hole. The sooner you forget about your "Dr Who" Oduduwa teleporting up and down and family using chain to descend from heaven or some funny hill, the better. As much as it might diminish your Olumo Rock size ego, Izoduwa was no magician he was simply a Benin prince. A gifted medicine man for sure. Even your little kids if you have any, will tell you how silly your Dr Who desert from Arabia or some God- forsaken place story is. Your citing papers you guys wrote and provided information to write has no merit. Do you think you are Lai Mohammed and we are the gullible public? ![]() |
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If nobody else does, you have to stand up for yourself. |
gabazin080:You dey mind that silly bigot. |
Even though some women can press your monster button like mad, intoxicated by even a little popularity or a little bit of her own change/money, can marry for the wrong reasons, have sense of entitlement, expect what they can never give, annoying with very evil tongue & rudeness, as a man you should never go down the route of beating her. You risk being a murderer first of all. Once the news of wife/gf beating comes out, nothing will justify your action in public. Even if she actually hit the man first. In Western climes, the man will be in jail. If love has soured to that point and you feel the urge to batter her frequently and you both cannot resolve things, it might be time to go separate ways. Nor be by force na. |
InvertedHammer:Your head dey correct kampe. She should be taught a lesson. They need to beat madness out of her. How can Op allow his wife to go through all that for so long. Op is lucky his wife is from a calm family. If that happened to my sister, OP's crazy sister will be lying unconscious in a hospital by now. Or at the very least severely battered & locked up. What nonsense. @OP, Report the case to the police, since burglary and will damage is now involved. She could set the house ablaze with you & family in it one night, after inviting your mum to visit her in Lagos. SO MOVE OUT WITH ALACRITY. Arrest her as prime suspect in a robbery, burglary & wilful damage offence. Make bailing her difficult and let her suffer a bit. They should beat her to confess to the crime & return the certificates. It has long been beyond family's & elder's ability. The police may not resolve it successfully but she should know something can be done to punish her. You have to sadly defy your mum this time. Tell her you will handle it yourself. Let your sister's husband know his wife is the prime suspect before hand. Ah, report the fight and your's injury to the police same time.Because if you don't and something untoward happens to your wife, your in-laws will roast you alive. Your sister cannot bear the thought of you and your wife inheriting the family house one day. She's hateful, jealous, spoilt and a sorry excuse of a sister. |
Our great great grand dads/mums who were no kissing freaks remained married for 60 to 85 years. And we that now begin kissing from primary school, we have record broken relationships. So the kissing thing is totally overhyped. We see celebrity couples kissing publicly today, tomorrow lamenting domestic abuse & infidelity in social media. By and large, na copy cat thing. Lips & tongue being very sensitive can of course cause sexual arousal, just like touching a lady's bom bom or a man's blokos would cause. ![]() |
NoRetreat:New regalia are always being made and modified in most places. Are all obas of a dynasty same height and size? Are they suppossed to last forever? Are those bling regalia that Oluwo wears ancient ones? |
So those claiming sophistication and education are just mere pagans. No wonder human body parts business thrives in that zone. Always pictures of headless, breastless and genitalless bodies recovered. All used for rituals. |
Amiano:Haba! We cannot be counting cousins, aunties, brothers too na. We all lose people at some point. Didn't Buhari lose a sister? Or was it before he became president. We are talking of nuclear family here. His brother lived is SS though he was brought to Aso Rock clinic seriously ill. |
Ochoiho:Well at least GEJ survived with his family, despite Dame Pat's health scare. I always thought GEJ should not stay too long in that jinxed Aso Rock. ![]() |
ephi123:Because it is an incapacitated country. |
icemann:Leave them. They are busy blaming Jonathan. Jonathan never blamed anyone when he took over. He faced the business at hand. When you're positive, the world around you will. Except those executing the devil's plans. Like Boko & their backers. But a bad/lazy worker blames his tools. They campained that Nigeria was in a mess that they will change it. Now their lamentation is even worse than when they were opposition. You wonder why they did not kukuma remain in opposition. Oh yeah I nearly forgot. Oil blocks & oil money. ![]() |
potent5:Very funny. Who will ask these fake ass celebrity wanna be women out? They are too busy chasing politicians with looted money to buy house in Lekki & ride G-Wagon. Which man wants divorce after 6 months marriage? |
Several Yoruba girls/women have confirmed same to me. They look very surprised whenever I tell them it is a taboo in my culture. Even recently. Some of them said insecure men might go down the route of magun. Others said fidelity yarn is a kind of modern middle Eastern religious notion. Although I have not heard the men's opinion on it. But crucial here is that none of the women disputed freedom to cheat on traditional grounds. I AM STILL NOT ABLE TO POST ON MONARCHY THREAD. THIS IS TYRANNY. |
africandictator:Abi o. At least a vulcaniser likely lives in urban or semi urban area with cars to vulcanise. A Delta man whom my granddad gave land and river to make a palm oil, ogogoro & fishing camp produced graduates back in the 1970s. The Delta man arrived there as a young man in the 1950s. His kids born in the camp who later became graduates had to walk like 5km to school & 5km back from school in the nearest village daily. NL is becoming very funny. We all congratulate her as we would any graduate, but please people should not hype things. |
YonkijiSappo:Which question? You think I am jobless to go into those clearly fabricated Ibadan University press stuff & those fed to some foreigners by SW historians? ![]() I just enlighten those capable of learning about history. I have taken time patiently in the past to answer questions raised by every "manliness" and Harry from SW. Read my previous threads from previous years & months. The versions are just too many now that I'd be wasting too much time. |
Olu317:Hahahahaha! Falsified lies? ![]() This one that Oyo or Modakeke (allegedly fleeing Oyos resettled in Ijesha lands near Ife) cannot even agree with Ife on one history? You want the Edos to with a very ancient & consistent history to believe the story spawn at Ibadan meant to foster Yoruba unity? First convince the Ilajes & Ijaw within Yorubaland first. At least Benin has one consistent history. Don't you think a group of people with many different versions of one story have to go back and do their home work? ![]() While Yoruba can attach to Hausa who need their fair number of voters to maintain hegemony, the political calculus of a dysfunctional country has no impression on Benin whatsoever. The noise you guys are making in recent decades is over population power block. They are now trying to falsify a historical basis for that too. Woefully embarrassing from the various inconsistent versions I read here often. As was clear in 1963 referendum to create Midwest region, the Edos & Delta are not people amenable to be impressed by ogboju tactics from other people. Fact is since 1897, we are basically doing siddon look. Maintaining our unique culture & royalty above anything that a dysfunctional Nigerian entity can offer. Because knowing our fellow Nigerians very well over the centuries before colonial rule, we know the antics of the Jahadists up North, who want a caliphate spanning all of 9ja & and our Yoruba neighbours with whom you cannot expect an agreement reached this morning to be kept again this evening. ![]() |
thornapple:Lol. Thanks. I have been around/busy dear and you? Life is in stages you know. I do not really see new comers much these days. But one tries to inform people before they even leave 9ja. Of course many take it very badly. As discouraging them or not happy to see them come & enjoy the "easy goodies" abroad. ![]() Whereas you just want them to come the best way they can and be better prepared. Truth is always bitter you see. ![]() |
Olu317:Lol. No Yoruba invaded an inch of Edo land. Whereas Benin took large swathes of Yorubaland, especially Eastern Yorubaland. I know because I still have relatives there including a first class King. The boundary agreed between Benin Empire & Oyo was at Otun (today in Northern Ekiti). The treaty was between Aare Ona Kankanfo of Oyo & Iyase Ekpenede of Benin. Check your history. And Benin founded Lagos monarchy through Esipka/Asipa & Prince Ado of Benin. Benin practically lost Lagos when Oba Kosoko was deposed in 1854 (actual signing of Epe Treaty with the British). That history is well-known. A son of a late Oba of Lagos personally confirmed that history to me. Oba Adolo of Benin instructed Oba/Eleko Dosunmu to allow Kosoko return from Epe to Lagos in 1860. But with British naval guns supporting him & British controlling him, it was the first time an Eleko dared to refuse Benin's command & officially stop paying annual tribute to Benin. Over the years here on NL many of your people have come up with mushroom papers that hold no water. Only to disappear. None of them has even dared to claim Yoruba invasion of Benin land. Your own new invention is like AY comedy. Very dry indeed. ![]() Julius Caesar is relevant because it shows leadership & organisation is key, not size. And the Oba himself led army to war, like Caesar did. When Omonoyan, son of Izoduwa returned to Benin, he never even set foot in Benin. Some powerful Benin chieftains led by Chief Ogiamien refused him access to Ogiso palace. It took his great grandson (4 generations later) Oba Ewedo to overcome the resistance & enter Benin City proper. The heat of politics was too much that Omonoyan (Oranmiyan) left Benin suburb that he stayed and returned to Yorubaland. A relative of mine remains the Duke of one of the ancient Villages near Omonoyan's palace. Though Benin suburb today, they were outside villages then. The Oba took his Regnal title Ewuare, last year on the same grounds near my relative's palace, just like Omonoyan's son Eweka I first did in about 1170AD. The issue of invasion does not arise. It is nothing new for a royal relative in another land to return as King. In 1714, George Elector of Hanover, Germany, became King George I of England, being the closest relative of Childless Queen Anne of England who was trusted to be non-catholic. The Royal family of today comes from that German King. Being German & not keen on staying in England, he Chose Robert Walpole to become The First Minister. That is how Prime Minister position began in England. No invasion. The Danish-German prince that became King of Greece is the ancestor of Prince Philip, husband of Queen Elizabeth of England today. Many other examples, earlier & later abound. E.g. William, Duke of Normandy (France) waged war on England's King Harold to reclaim the crown of his relative King Edward The Confessor, only because the crown due him was usurped by King Harold. That was even in 1066. You need to understand comparative history to free your mind from narrow tribalistic chest-beating. Omonoyan was a returnee Ogiso descendant. Via Prince Ekaladerhan who took Izoduwa as regnal name in Ife. I am not talking based just on books. But based on history that lives & breathes in Benin. Used daily in songs, proverbs, morning greeting "oriki", royal ceremonial re-enactments, traditional worship, etc. Each time I visit my relative's palace there, the whole history of Eweka dynasty is rekindled. What did we need Ebira for? Benin was an astute Empire builder. Ebira was not on a trade route we needed, so why needed them? Whereas Eastern Yorubaland was useful. And Lagos Lagoon was important too from the Atlantic on the other side as was part of Ijebu on land towards Lagos. Benin had to manage human & material resources very efficiently for best results. We didn't have populations needing huge land for resettlement. We needed vassals paying tributes & facilitating security & trade while maintaining core Benin population in Benin area. To the point of prohibiting slave trading in Benin persons or by Benin persons & tribal tatoos & marks were made to identify Benin citizens. Benin was one of the few nations worldwide with a standing army under Chief Ezomo, field commander of royal Army. A fact confirmed in the 1700s by A French slave trader who tried in vain to buy shiploads of slaves from the strong army of Benin from Ezomo. The same time Oyo thrived on slave trade. |
Olu317:Writing capital letter is like opening mouth "ah" "ah" and shouting in real life. Just in case you do not know literary etiquette. It does not emphasize what you want to say. It only appears rude. Your opinion about Benin is irrelevant. Quoting some half-baked sources from Benin Empire Denial Centre (BEDC) is of no use. I have seen many like you here on NL over the years. They all come with Yemen, Jerusalem, Sudan, Egypt origin of Oduduwa story. When that began looking rather a foolish myth, then invented one mountain that he used chain to climb from as a messenger. Long after another ridiculous coming climbing from heaven story. Different stories, versions, all very watery & inconsistent. Why they want to make Oduduwa a "Tokunbo" by all means is beyond me. Mankind came from black Africa. But they want Oduwawa to be from Arabia. ![]() While Alimi, his co-travellers and Yoruba traitor Afonja over-ran Oyo, Benin fought off Jihadists from Idah axis from invading Edo North. Why fight Ebira? River Niger was a decent natural boundary and with vassals in Eastern Yoruba land, and Lagos, going by Edo population then, Benin had excessive "Lebensraum" already. For both trade & agriculture. The problem Yoruba people have is that they think Yorubaland was always one large tribe as today. Many Yorubas in different parts could not even understand each other. My dad's Yoruba language derived from Owo dialects is very different from Ijebu or Egba one till today. Much less before the Intra-Yoruba civil wars. Not all Yoruba can understand as many Yoruba variants as he does. Until the recent standardisation of language and cultural nationality, you were Awori, Egba, Oyo, Ibadan, Ijesha, Owo, Ekiti, etc. A point Emir Sanussi also made clear a few years ago. Since you claim that the Northern Muslims/Arabs are the credible authority on Yoruba history. Rome began as a small farming settlement on the Tiber. But it later ruled the known world, starting by conquering the Italians/ Etruscans. The Europeans detailed the military skills of Benin warriors in Yorubaland. They witnessed the wars there. They describe Benin tactics called "Ifianyanko" or encirclement. And they lambasted Ashanti warriors as slackers compared to Benin warriors. They had seen Ashanti warriors at war too. It was never size that mattered in war but planning, tactics/techniques, mobilizing resources, motivating men, recruiting mercenaries and impeccable leadership. The Oba led soldiers to war personally. Bronze Plaques of him & his generals returning triumphantly from wars abound of Oba Ewuare I The Great, Oba Ozolua n'Ibaromi (The conqueror), Oba Esigie, Oba Orhogbua, etc. When the Gauls led by by the chieftain Vercingetorix nearly defeated Julius Caesar at Alesia (now Alise-Sainte-Reine, France) in September of 52 BC, Julius rode out to banish rumours of his death by letting his scarlet cape flow in the wind to save the day. That is leadership. Not quantity. Still even if there were no written Western testimony, I heard enough consistent oral history from Benin people who were born around 1875. They all clearly remembered fire razing Benin in 1897 during war with Britain as young men/women. They were over 100 years old back in the 1980s. All very consistent with impeccable memories, from seen history and learnt oral history. Pity we did not develop a popular writing early enough, hence the revisionist writers now won't have any chance. |
Olu317:Very funny that Benin Art is more famous than Ife art. ![]() Ife trying to take credit for Benin art by attaching to it. I have not only seen it at The British Mueseum, I have seen it at Das Musuem fuer Voelkerkunde in Berlin, the former Musee des Arts d'Afrique et d'Oceanie (Former French president Chirac is even a big fan/connoisseur of Benin arts) in Paris, now moved to Musee du Quai Branly, , Amsterdam Museum and several others across the world. I can recommend many others to you to see. Still attaching to Benin art is somehow demeaning. Appreciate it fine. By 40BC Ife was pretty primitive. Benin already had an Ogiso/Oba-godo and it took Izoduwa to bring monarchy to Ife around 1150 AD. So yes, if they were sophisticated, they would have developed a better organised & centralised leadership before that. Neanderthal DNA is pretty old. But they were primitive. Until Australopithecus afarensis fossils were found in Afar region of Ethiopia, nobody knew such human species existed. So more & more are being discovered. Well the Arabs & Muslims always wanted to determine Yoruba's fate. They even gave the name "Yoruba." Benin were much too stubborn. Fighting off Jihadists in Edo North and still fighting the British as late as 1897 when all Yoruba kings had already meekly signed humiliating treaties. ![]() Respected by white people, buhahahaha. . You know Oyinbo like those they have managed to fool. Benin of about 4 million people punches way higher in world artistic recognition than Yoruba of same population would have been. You say Oyinbo do not do studies into Benin history, why is it that BBC documentaries about African civilisation necessarily includes a long part of Benin history? Because they know the value & quality of it. Is BBC owned by Gombe or Akwa Ibom govt? I happen to have several books on Benin History, Benin Royal Court, etc by white people like Bondarenko, Midwinter, Bradbury & others. The books cost me from $90 to about $450 each. Which not highly respected history deserves books by foreigners that cost that much? ![]() In any case we do need Oyinbo to give us a sense of self-worth. Far much less the Arabs that still treat African domestic servants in the gulf as personal property today. Oba of Benin doesn't even travel around doing PR o. He does not go to Brazil, Cuba or other God-forsaken places Yoruba slaves ended up, like your Obas do, embarrassing in my view. What could be more civilised than refusing to sell our people (Edo) into slavery when other Africans were busy selling themselves & the Europeans were trading in humans? At that point, Benin civilisation easily trumped the Muslim Arabs, Catholics & protestant Europeans who engaged in that barbaric trade. |
nisai:A very desperate SW attempt here again. There is no single historical evidence of any yoruboid influence on Benin Monarchy before Oranmiyan. How many monarchs had Ife before Izoduwa/Oduduwa? Benin had around 35 Ogisos already before Izoduwa. You mean a group of primitive ife farmers and hunter/gatherers planted ogiso monarchy at Udo around 40BC but yet it took Izoduwa's children a millennium plus later to conquer nearby Yoruba settlements? ![]() I think this is a poor and watery attempt at reverse psychology and revisionism. |
thornapple:Yours truly nearly got into that situation. Young lady from a decent religious home. Hardworking dad unaware (as usual) of any previous (abortion/s). Found out through connections early enough. The babe & her mum denied it. Reluctantly went for tests and tried to dispute an obvious medical report. The dad was confused but they tried convincing him result wasn't proper. The womb damage could have been forgiven, but the denial was an clear attempt to hoodwink. Her pushy mum started insisting "take her abroad, you guys can fix it there". Doh! Love is not always enough. Such a mum can use her daughter against you in marriage. I have told story here over the years previously. Except lost to NL hacking. |
Lol@Wash me clean @Wemimo. ![]() Oluwatobi/Oloruntobi is not too far from God is Great (God is big). ![]() |
Mayflowa:Really? Co-operating with Boko Haram bombs? Kikikikikikiki. ![]() The long-suffering Nigerian masses are easily manipulated by tribal/ethnic/religious jingoist elites. Add that to the deep-seated simmering hatred for politicians. Politicians not in power at a particular time can cleverly use it and APC did. But now they cannot deliver but keep playing opposition after 2 years in power, blaming everyone else. Do you know how much distraction Boko were calculated to cause and it did? Do you know how instead of seeing Boko Haram as a singular national security threat, Buhari, APC & many power hungry elites condemned Jonathan and urged him not to Kill Boko Haram people? Do you know many including Buhari never condemned Boko until Chibok girls saga and they now saw the photo opportunity as CNN, BBC, Al-Jazeera came? You talk of looting, has looting not always been part of our problems from 1960? Which major excuse did Buhari give for 1984 coup? How could Jonathan suddenly arrest corruption when everything he did, the SW & North began calling him a militant from the creeks? He introduced BVN, and other electronic measures to curb corruption at source. Instead of crying over spilt milk. When he scrapped scam-ridden oil subsidy nko? The same North/SW whose people benefit the most from the scam entered the streets in protest. You cannot eat your cake and have it. Hear the truth: SW elite like OBJ & other Northern power brokers could not use him like a house boy as they thought they could before his full 4 years term. They claimed there were too many Igbo people around him, never mind each state had a rep in FEC as the law required. Especially GEJ was not a Northern candidate but an "unambitious" deputy OBJ picked to avoid Atiku scenario behind Yar'Adua. OBJ himself was a Northern candidate. It was Northern elite (Atiku & co) opposition of OBJ second term that rallied Yoruba to support their own for a second term. It is Ibori daring to be in Atiku camp then that came back to bite him. because Odili & many other governors in AC & PDP were just as corrupt. The North following Ahmadu Bello script of never letting the South control their destiny again managed to use the SW against Jonathan. GEJ lost because he did not have a large tribal base behind him...once North/SW ganged up. The looting you are talking of, who looted? The anger North/SW have is over oil portfolio that a SS person got under Jonathan. Had a Northerner held that position & looted 10 times more, the North would say nothing & SW will quietly shy away too. It is all about oil blocks and oil money. Do not think the SW & Northern elite care about the masses. Jonathan achieved far more than OBJ did in 8 years. No amount of propaganda can change it. Not even hurriedly written books now. The looting you are talking of, why are we not seeing the charges, money recovered, amounts, convictions? Are the looters ghosts? Using 1985 coup vendetta against Dasuki is not fighting corruption. Is it not some of the Dasuki money that landed in Ikoyi and Buhari officials are aware of it? So the majority of APC leaders now who were in PDP with Jonathan were all saints then? If they were all saints, who actually did the looting? If you're now regretting voting Buhari, please blame yourself for it. Not GEJ. Everyone is blaming GEJ but themselves. Be responsible for your the results of your own choices. You had "a choice between new (modern/democratic/jet-age/ICT) ways of doing things and old (1984/draconian/cold war era) ways of doing things. You guys used ethno-religious sentiments to choose 1984 ways. Please enjoy it. |
Joavid:My dear, sadly lots of women go into a union because of what they want to benefit from it. Not to contribute or build a home. A woman who thinks 2m is nothing, and she has no 2m of her own money or such help from her own birth family is really no wife material. If you're comfortable as a man, the woman you have might just be after your money only. So look carefully. Imagine OP lost his job/livelihood, would this kind of wife stay? |
Ah! Women hate it with a passion. Easiest way to incur their wrath. They can even start spreading rumors that you're gay. Some cannot imagine/understand that you just do not find them sexually/romantically attractive. I had a terrible workplace experience. Luckily I had only a short time left to move on then. |
Mayflowa:You mean he should have fixed the rot of 50 years alone? With an under N3 trillion Naira budget for 180 to 200 million people? Even the most prepared, 100% corruption free, dedicated leader will need at least 15 to 20 years to fix 9ja. Assuming no boko Haram & Niger Delta militant issues. You think Buhari's miracle promise will materialise after plunging us into recession with his bad policies? Oil price was already falling during 2015 campaign, no excuse there. |
Splashme:By the time Trump is through, the little that GOP or executive action allowed Obama to achieve will have been obliterated. He will be remembered for the hype that yielded nothing. A black US president that never visited the largest black country & largest black democracy but had time to go bowing down to autocratic middle Eastern Kings. Despite all the errors GEJ might have made, aside 14 universities, railway, free and fair elections, FG obeying rule of law, renovated airports, Freedom of Information Bill passed, he called a national conference to chart the way forward. That conference report, a rare opportunity for our diverse country to dialogue under a democratic govt, that has been binned now will be a great undoing. For a man dubbed clueless, he did pretty well under 6 years. People pretend as though IBB & OBJ govts were not more corrupt. They are still in their Hilltop mansions. By all means take GEJ & his govt to court for corruption if any evidence. But please ensure IBB, OBJ & Abubakar go too. |
Na wa o. RIP lady. The law should take its course. |
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