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cdamsel: i did mention it,just didn't remind y'all a day b4 as u guys were expecting,its nt just me o,me & ID una miss our very special days

Tunapa,i wish I was referring 2 u 4getting my bday,thats nt y I told u 2 apologize

ovalrose: Unfortunately,we wont celebrate it@bellong. But i will get drunk...on pure water.

pickabeau1: Dedicated to madam buka and the rest of the Octobabies....

sholay2011: @bellong....Yes o! But Babakokoro is now a godfather that does background work instead of lecturing...like ensuring the no of A's are reduced in a result where many students passed.

cdamsel: e don pass na so whats does it matter

Nashville: I am also October 15th!

bukatyne: Oct 15Th

No other 15th in the house yet?

sholay2011: Ahahah . I graduated from d dept of Agricultural Economics. Aluta Continua.

coogar: the neighbour is a goat....he should have told his kids the truth. the kids watch animal planet & see lions having sëx - so what's the big deal? if a neighbour writes such a nonsense letter to me, i would let him have it.

sholay2011: You attended Great Ife sir? Geology for dat matter! I hail oh.

nickxtra: one, how do I develop a strong love for a woman I think I should marry?

nickxtra: Two, will you not consider it better for me to finish my school and get a better job before marrying?

nickxtra: Thirdly, do I really need an elaborate wedding, like some of my friends did?

nickxtra: At 31(though physically bigger than my age), don't you think am supposed to be married now like my friends, some of whom are my juniors and others, seniors? Is it possible not to have a strong love a girl now, but later develop it for her? What do I do now in this circumstance? Please, advise me.

sholay2011: I would send an e-cake to you when d party ends.

Btw, thanks to this thread; I now see a more 'playful' side of @bellong. Lol.

ovalrose: My youngest brother and I are 10th and 11th respectively.

onegig: Yes I am...and all roads lead to sholay's house on the 17th.

sholay2011: Of course sir.
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onegig: lol.. Good morning sir.

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Ujujoan: Mine is 6th . . .

sholay2011: I always pray d day quickly passes away. I don't lyk being the centre of attention most tyms esp on my buffday.

But I wud try giving myself nd loved ones a nice treat this tym.

AnodaIT: ^ I did not complete it

@OP , first step, teach her responsibility. (the two of them together)
Give her something delicate (but disposable ) make a mark on it and tell her to hold it for you for some time (start with 5 mins) . tell them to make sure no one takes it from each of them. If it work for 5 mins, try another item and move the time up till it might be a whole day.
When she knows that 'This is my thing and no one should take it from me' , she might well understand when someone else says 'This is my thing . .'
If she get this going, the next thing will be to teach her giving and politely asking.

kofsy: Responding to the last part of your post. Pls that's not my intention. I don't expect folks to come here and say their marriage is hell. That was why I said I wanted them to share their experience. What they feel they missed when they were single and what to-be brides should look out for or avoid. Experience is everything in life... That's what learning entails but I don't necessarily have to get there before I learn. I want to learn from people that have been there. I just need people to allay my fears about marriage. Whatever people say here will not stop me from getting married(I must get married) but I need to acquire knowledge before taking that huge step. It scares me

bellong: Why not start by reading and listening to good stories.... There are millions of successful marriages across the world, you only chose to listen to the bad ones.
We are what we listen to or attract. Change your perception, read good books, undertake a personal study of people who are in a successful and blissful union, then you will have good stories to share.

The creator of marriage knew we wouldn't be complete without it. Yes, it's one of the best gifts we can get from Him. Bad marriages are results of failures of the parties involved beginning from when they were still singles till when they got married.

AnodaIT: You better find a way to stop that before she begins to snatch another girl's bf or husband