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Eeya but I've subscribed to their N300 for 1.5gb and it's working. That's what I'm using to post now sef.

I just finished their 3k5 for 20gb.

It's either they have network issues or your SIM isn't 4G or network is down in your area.

Try to put the SIM inside a mifi

heendrix:
Ur wrong on this....infact all you wrote sef

You urself giving this advice can't bear up to quarterly of what he's faced so be realistic here madam

U spoke my kind.

I was just wondering what sort of advice she's dishing out to OP

novakk:
I agree, though, personally i feel i have always been building people in the past but not for myself, for others, maybe i should just go after ready made, serious lady who knows her onions too

I think u should do whatever works for u!

Building up people "for yourself" takes time and there is no guarantee that person might even end up with u!

There are ready made ladies who are well mannered, trained and also, loves God and have all it takes to run a home the Godly way!

I feel that's your best shot bro!

But open your eyes o!

novakk:
She is a good person. I have my faults, just most the time we are together, I always pick up little things that don't sit well with me. Just different values/attitudes to things like money, way of life, attitude to people etc. I tried to change her but it's not smooth and deep down I don't want change because I push for it. I prefer to explain a different perspective of life (which I do), you see if its better, and change yourself.

I've been told to be patient with her. My gut is just so doubtful. I'm afraid of story that you saw little signs, but you closed your eyes, at the other hand, problem could be me that needs to compromise more.

Compromise is good, but to what level?

Has anyone had experience going against (or for) pastor's wishes, did it turn out well or not?

Everything, everything, everything that matters in life must be built!

U build a relationship into wedding, wedding into marriage!

U build a girl in to a woman!

Be willing to do the work!

No relationship is perfect and we will continue to learn and improve on ourselves as time goes on!

Expecting pastor to say "she is the one" won't always work!

Everything about life is not spiritual!

If it was then we won't need to eat... instead, we will pray the food into our stomach!

Akotechonline:
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Wow! Nice designs!

Mvici:
I Lost Confidence In My Girlfriend The Moment She Asked Me To Marry For My Mother.

I had a girlfriend some few months back before the covid 19 outbreak, that was after we went home from school due to the strike and the pandemic, we both are in the same school which is IBB university lapai, in our final.

So at home this faithful day, I put a call through! We both were talking, laughing on phone, so she ask about my mum, I said she was fine and she now ask abt her loneliness because no one at home, I told her but I'm still here with her, she ask what if school resume and what if we should go for our service next year, she now told me to marry another man for my mum.... lol... telling me who knows" that my mum might like the idea if I should table it with her. Gosh! I actually laughed about it then on phone with her but inside me, it wasn't funny at all.

The next day, what she told me was still bordering me, so many things were just running on my mind...so even if by mistake I wife her in future and the Lord decide to take me when we have a grown up child like me, who is planning on becoming a graduate this year and have even spent 30 years in marriage already....she won't even mourn me for long before accepting another man's proposal or bleeping with another man or probably her one time ex.

I decided to ask my mum with play, mum be sincere to me, you and my dad have been married since far back 1986... U both were in marriage for about 30 yrs before he past away few years ago, may his soul rest in peace..this is 5yrs now are you considering on marrying any one or having any kind of body movement or even can stand the presence of another man in your life?

Guess what her reply was....
Mum said my dad was the only man she know in her life and that's how it going to remain by God grace, period! and I shouldn't ask her such again with cry/smiles on her face because she has me and I will give her groundchil........

Seriously I don't know why I brought this here but pls tell me, any girl that can ask a 52 Year old woman to re_marry even after she has a child, isn't it clear that she can't stay without having sex to anyone as long as her husband is on a peace keeping mission or even travel abroad?

Thanks everyone.

From what u wrote, I can conclude that u are a kid!

This is the real world bro and not a rehearsal!

Life has to go on!

Person wey die don go! Na we wey dey alive make we adjust and do what we have to do!

I can advice a 65year old to remarry!

Its not cos of sex but companionship!

Wait till u get married and your mum starts bothering u to come around due to loneliness , then u will know say, na meat wey we draw wey no break dem dey call nama!

saasala:
I have an asthmatic friend whose mum makes herbs. The mum went on a mission, joined heads together with other herbalists to make an ogbonge herbs for him. Lo and behold, she came up with this magic herbs o. My friend drank it and vomited different yamayama from his chest. Na so everything stop.

But the mother would tell him to come for the herbs at least once in 3 months but he wouldnt, he thought he was healed forever until two years after (Four months ago) he got a serious attack that almost took his life, mum came to the rescue again with the ogbonge herbs and he got back on his feet. Now he takes it every month, but once in three months will do.

If you need these chest purging herbs, reply to this comment. Your wife go take am and she go dey alright patapata.

Hey bro/sis, kindly help! I need the herb for a sister friend! Thanks so much!

Megaflex:
I need advice on the best and natural way to handle asthma.

I got married in April this year and my wife is asthmatic. I'll seriously need advice on the best possible way to handle her asthma incase she gets pregnant. Please help a brother.

Mod please help me move this to front-page

Eeya, there is no cause for alarm.

If her asthma is lets say medium, as in, she doesn't use inhaler, blessed art thou my brother!

Just ensure she keeps away from:

1. dust (rug, etc) and if u must use rug, get a vacuum cleaner. Toks na around 7k
2. Fumes from fried or smoked stuffs - triggers the attack
3. Keep her away from cold (not all of them react to that sha but just take precaution)
4. Always ensure u have Salbutamol or ventolin tab (4mg) around and with her! It does work magic when used! Then take her outside to a well ventilated area! They always need fresh air! 10 - 20mins, she is fine!

Now, if her case is severe, as in she uses inhaler, then u have no choice than to do 2-3 weeks ajo (contribution) to buy inhaler and still adhere to those conditions above.

When she gets pregnant and its time to deliver, ensure u use a "good hospital where they know what they are doing".... They will know the sort of stuffs to give her.

Most of them are always strong when they get preggy! But ensure, inhaler or salbutamol is always nearby!

There are herbs to flush this thing out but i'm yet to meet someone with the right combination!

HisExcellence:
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8gb Ram or More

1 Terabyte of HDD

Keyboard light

1gb or 2gb Dedicated Graphic design

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Please your suggestion are highly appreciated.

Yeah, its very possible.

U can get hp elitebook 8540p or 8540W and some others with your specs in Ikeja computer village!

MostImportant:
Wow. Thanks for your contribution. I really appreciate it.

Wish u all the best bro!

Wizdeen:
Hi Nairalanders

My name is Deen,

I am a Junior Web developer and digital marketer, I will soon be relocating to Lagos and will love to have your insights on how best to prepare for adaptation to life in Lagos.

I was brought up in Abuja and in my early 20's and will be rounding up my NYSC next month.

My reasons for considering relocating is as follows:

An overwhelming 91 percent of software developer jobs in Nigeria are straight out of Lagos, The information above is from the 2019 State of Code Jobs report put together by DevCenter, analyzed from over 3000 developer jobs posted on its jobs platform, and compiled data on what employers look out for when hiring developers in Nigeria.

Remote Work hardly exists, and with the reputation, Nigerian have online, it is even harder for us.

Also, Lagos has a large ecosystem of Senior Developers, there are lots of people to learn from and grow with.

I know the journey to growing my tech skills and becoming a senior developer takes time, but i feel being in an environment and a community of like-minded individuals can drastically reduce the errs and difficulties along the way, grow my skills as a developer, benefit from the vast tech ecosystem also and learn from the tech bros..

Am tired of job hunting for developer positions in the North, most developer Jobs I see are actually from Lagos

I’m also currently in search of a junior developer/engineer role. Might be remote or full-time(Nigeria).
I'm proficient in Python, JavaScript, Jquery, HTML and CSS and WordPress CMS, I'm currently learning ReactJs and NodeJs for full stack web applications
Is your team hiring or you know someone who is?

Thank You in anticipation.

If you can find somewhere to stay ... maybe put up with someone for lets say 1 year while u find your feet, your problems are about 50% solved!

Ensure your reel of jobs are ready to go cos "what have u done before?" is the question they will throw at you and once u can convince them with a good show, you can use that as a springboard!

Prepare to network with people of like minds and those who have the connection with "strong signal".... lagos isn't easy!

And before i forget, ensure u have a good lump sum of money to live on while trying to sort yourself out!

Or else, the hunger that will wire u, is currently in gymn, rehearsing!

Jokes apart, lagos life ain't easy bro!

MostImportant:
Currently a graduate with no job. Wake up every morning with so much expectations from family members and really not being happy with oneself due to economic situation. I have a laptop. Please IT gurus, which of the well paying IT skills can you recommend for me to acquire that can help me financially when I start applying it to meet people's need? I'm really confused at this point having not been able to secure a job. Save a brother please.

Lalasticlala
Seun
Mynd44
Lalasticlala

Sorry bro.... everywhere is in chaos at the moment and everybody is trying to just make ends meet! Hence, the reasons why everyone read and never commented!

Try any of the following:

1. Motion Graphics/VFX - Has a very steep learning curve and u must learn to sit down for long hours but the pay is good!
2. Web Design - U can learn this in weeks and start something up.
3. Mobile App - learn to to create mobile apps for phone, etc - steep learning curve but it is achievable if u are focused! Sitting for hours also guaranteed!
4. Social Media Marketting - instead of wasting your megabytes on social media, learn about the marketting aspect and get employed! Met one of my young sis in the choir in lag and she told me she was employed as a social media marketter and paid 40k! I was surprised anyway.


Atleast, these ones for now but u must have a computer system for the 1st three! That no 4 can be learn even if u have mobile phone!

May God help us all jare!

Valto:
https://facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=3157386124299937&id=100000857401859&_rdr

Hmmmmmmmm... very cruel uncle ...

... I can relate cos my aunt did worse to me but here we are today, we no die!

... dem try to kee us

... that uncle should be prosecuted for child abuse!

Lessonteacher:
i greet you all nairalanders and everybody alive being able to read this. it's obvious we have great thinkers here on nairaland. there is one issue i have been thinking about for a long time now, but i have not come to conclusion of it. i have been trying to determine who determines ones success in life. is one the determiner of one's levels of success based on one's level of intelligence and efforts or is one's success dependent of one's compliance to the will of God?

Overall, God is and will always be and he has given us the choice to either succeed or fail in life!

So, we will make the choice! God won't do that for us!

That's why He gave us the power of "Free Will".

But majority of people make wrong/bad decisions and end up failing in life. And will believe that that's how God destined them to be in life!

Invariably, we are the major determinant of our success in life!



By the way, I got an email from u. Tried replying but your email obviously wasn't correct or working!

Whats up?

Hmmmm ... No surprises here na!

Why do I have a feeling there is more to this than we are being told?

Or does this have any connection with US moving their factories away from China to India?

I'm sure China will fight dirty to avoid US taking that move .... So i'm not surprised

Bhukkis:
I have a friend that is separated from her husband presently and she has married another man traditionally. The first marriage was a court and traditional marriage. She wants to go ahead with a court wedding with her new husband but I had to counsel her to first divorce properly from her first husband before going to court with her new husband. The problem now is that most of the courts now are shutdown due to covid-19 and the money the lawyer is asking for is close to 200k.
Is there any way that an agreement can be drawn up in which both parties can sign and the document will be notarized in court when they resume
Lawyers in the house, your legal opinion is required.
Thank you

She should get a divorce first o or the ex can sue for bigamy (or whatever name they call it).

She can scout around for a cheaper lawyer that can get it done for say 100k.

It will take time ooooooooooooo!

She should exercise patience before going into another court marriage o!

Moneyfem:
On YouTube and facebook, my page is 'Life Experience Comedy.'

I want to get affordable but bright video lights to brighten up the picture quality of our skits. Please, I need suggestions on the best kinds of light to use.

Get led on camera video lights!

U can get cheap chinko ones in computer village ikeja (lagos) for around 20k upwards.

I'm talking of something like this:

https://www.amazon.com/On-Camera-Video-Lights/b?ie=UTF8&node=3109915011

Veiniously:
i need fairly used 2gb ram 1600mhz ddr3 any one with any for sell?

I have 8gb ddr 1600mhz for sale!

Trayceey:
A friend of mine just opened up to me about her relationship. She said when she met her man, she assumed she was younger than him because he looked so big and more mature than her and he also acts mature than her.

One day, they were discussing their age and she found out she was older, so she had to lie about her age. The relationship went on and the love grew stronger, then a day came, she asked him if he can marry a lady older than him, he said 'never' she asked what if it's just one year? He still said ' never'. Then she asked him that what if he later found out that his girlfriend is older, what would he do? He said he would end the relationship.

She said she couldn't bear it any longer and so she opened up to him about her age. That she's a year older than him. She wants him to know before it's too late. After opening up to him, she was expecting him to end the relationship but he didn't. He's still coming for her, he still loves her and wants to marry her. But she's withdrawing from the relationship because of what the guy said earlier.

Please advise her. I will show her your comments

What if he is older then acts like a teenager?

Age is just a number!

Maturity is all that matters!

heykims:
Can u recommend an agent for me in Abeokuta?
Though I'm not ready now but I will in about 3 weeks time God's willing.

Sure!

I'll link u guys up!

Drop your whatsapp phone no and i'll send it to u!

heykims:
Chief, do u know how to apply for new driver licence in Abeokuta, the cost and the procedure involved?
Any agent to help in Abeokuta?

Yeah. 2 ways.

1. You could do it yourself via their website, go to vio officer, get your driving test docs, go to bank and do all those wahala or
2. Use an agent (who will of course add his own cut) but will save u some wahala!

There is one i use and he will be able to help!

ComputerWiz007:
Thanks am not anywhere close to abeokuta.. Am in Abuja. Why Is the price difference in each state.

Eeya.

I don't know why there is disparity in prices.

What i know is there is a standard fee for new licence and renewals on their website.

But if u follow the website thingy, u go do wahala and also, it will take a long time!

So, the price disparity might be due to "agents" fee

ComputerWiz007:
Please anyone I want to know how much it will cost to renew a drivers license currently thanks. Someone I know paid 16k at the office of the FRSC.

Its not more than 10 - 12k at IRS office!

If u are in abeokuta ogun state, go to oke mosan. Ask for IRS office!

U will get it in no time!

ensure u collect printouts as proof of payment!

hidhrhis:
their are many things that affect the human body and it is not staph
if you go to any white hospital if you carry out a urine test and it shows staph they will term it as contamination and take the sample again and if you are using any antibiotics as at when you took the tesst they will tell you to fiish the antibiotics and come back for the test cos when you are on a drug like antibiotics if you take some drugs it gives false result

I did all that bro!

Lets not derail this jare!

Lets help OP instead of arguing.

I have passed and overcome that stage and came out victorious!

Lets encourage and proffer solution to his problem.

Meanwhile, if u know the huge no of people who are battling this staph of a thing, u won't just talk about it likely!

I've met some fellas on this forum who have spent more than 590k on this stuff!

Anyway, i pray OP gets a solution asap!

And i hope OP is not TTC sha?

ChybuzzDD:
Ok, bros, keep treating Staph.
I hope you've tried the 2 strongest antibiotics so far in existence: Meronem and Tigecycline??
These 2 are the gods of antibiotics. You can make use of them, as I can see you have so much money to spend on that innocent Staph.
Goodluck.

Oga, no hating na!

I've gone past that stage!

Help the OP! Me, i don't need help!

I'm just trying to encourage him!

Not all this stuff u are shouting upandan!

I tell u say i be medical student or doctor before?

Park well jare!

johnrix:
Married men in the house, which do you see keeps your marriage - love for your wife or Respect for her?

On one hand, one lady who is all nice and sweet, puts all her emotions into the rship, but her attitude, intellect needs some work. You are ready to help build her, educate her but you fear you might not respect that much. Her dream is a loving husband.

On the other hand, another lady, is not the loving/romantic type type, a little cold, but she is responsible and smart. You respect her a lot, but it looks, you will both have to grow the love. She'll have the tendency, say any disrespect, I'm packing my bags instead of working things out. Her primary focus is to be respected in her marriage.

Lastly, what do you ladies want? I hear some women say love, some say respect, some say both. It varies based on those who believe strongly in love vs those who don't want disrespect from their husbands. But one thing is sure, most women deep down want one over the other.

Respect and love are part of the equation but they are not the main thing that keeps a relationship together!

One of the major factor is the will to not just get married but to "stay married".

Love is not enough to keep a marriage!

There are a lot of factors!

For instance, no matter how strong your love for each other is, something will happen that will make u get mad at your partner and the hot love gets cold and frozen like ice block!

What happens?

Friendship! Friendship built will keep you people going and from there, the spark of love will reignite and love continues!

That's just one of it sha!

Don't forget the God factor

AmIaYahooGirl:
Hello Nls,
I'm not really someone who listens to what people say but I just want to share this so that y'all can air your views.

I'm a young girl, 23 and an orphan, dropped out of school and came to Lagos to make ends meet. When I first came to Lagos, I stayed with a married female cousin of mine, along the line, the husband started making advances to me which I politely declined. He got angry and told his wife to throw me out of the house, and yes she did.

I was thrown out of the house without anywhere to go and as someone who has survived losing both parents at such a young age, I literally lived and survived in the streets. Did all sorts of menial jobs, hawked purewater, soft drinks, worked in a bar and all that before I finally got an apartment.

The story isn't quite necessary but when I get talking with people and I tell them that I stay alone, next thing I'll hear is "you're too young to stay alone... it's not a good idea...blah blah blah. Some older woman even told me to go back to my cousin's house and beg them so I can continue staying with them, another told me that it's better I stay with my boyfriend than staying alone.

I really don't understand all these talks, like despite all I've been through, isn't staying alone the best option? Or is there something wrong with staying alone as a single young lady?

Your humble opinion is needed, thanks

Eeya, ignore the noise and continue to live your life!

My dad too was really mad at me when i left my aunt's place at what age sef?

As long as u know what you are doing, please, move on with your plan!

Make a huge success out of yourself and show them you are quite fine living alone!

And let them know that despite "being alone now, you are not lonely"

ChybuzzDD:
Which staph??
Staphylococcus aureus is usually an innocent bacteria that leaves in our skins and sometimes nasal cavities as a normal flora.
It only causes minor skin infections like boils, cellulitis, infection of wounds or toxic shock syndrome in some women that use tampons.
Why are people and the Herbalists attributing so much diseases to it??
People should go to good hospitals to properly diagnose their problems, and leave Staph aureus alone.

Bros, i passed through that phase and I used antibiotics i have never heard their names before in my life.

The thing didn't go and it was hindering our conception cos myself and my wife were bouncing it!

So, don't just dismiss that thing OP is talking about like that!

Medically, that's what u people will say while people are having issues with the damn staph!

chimeziefranklin:
a lot of people are fighting d dreaded staphyloccocus without cure ,that includes me,i've tried a lot of antibiotics,herbs,supplement without success, i have spend close to 90k without being cured I don't even have money to continue the treatment, so i ask is it right for me to say staph is an incurable disease/bacteria/organism whatever u want call it,but probably you've bin cured kindly tell us how u went about getting cured .please for d so called marketers dont bother asking me to call cos i wont so dont waste space allow those with meaningful input to comment

What sort of herbs have u tried bro?

Staph is stubborn sha but can be sorted

ZeroShenanigan:
I'm above mid thirties, finished NYSC 2015 and i just secured a government teaching job after spending more than 3 years teaching in private schools. I met my wife earlier 2019, she was in her final year in school, we dated throughout the year and planned to get married after she graduated. She graduated and we make a move for our introduction, then we suggested to have the marriage before she go for her Nysc so as to enable her serve in our home state as I already have a rented apartment to start a small family.

As we were planning for the marriage, we were also planning her NYSC. She was required to have a medical certificate for the NYSC which of course required blood test including genotype. She came back with the result of her genotype as AS. That was the only time I remember to take genotype issue serious. Even if I have some little knowledge about it before, I decided to research more about it on the internet and also met some of my friends who are medically inclined. I came to realize my own genotype test is also important at that moment. I might have done the test in school but I didn't pay attention to it usefulness so I don't remember the result.

I don't usually fall sick except for normal malaria when there is mosquito bite, never had a drip line in my body for once, never slept in a hospital bed, I don't have any reason to take note of my genotype or blood test.

Her results then prompt me to have my own test done too which came out to be AS also. By these periods we have convinced our families to choose a date for the marriage so that we can have the wedding before her NYSC. Marriage is to hold in a week time when I got my own genotype result.
From my further findings about AS and AS couple, I discovered how risky it is for their offsprings. I tried to explain to her but she turned a deaf ear, she alleged me of trying to break her heart at that critical period. She reported to her sisters they tried to blame me but I make them all realized it's not my fault because throughout my visitation and introduction to their family nobody has ever ask us about genotype. I am an orphan, I don't have any closer family to guide me except for my sisters who can't wait for me to get married because of my age, they also had never thought of it as well.

My wife sisters gave us some examples of older couples who were both AS with only one or no sickler among their children. My wife also made a threat of killing herself or she kill me if the marriage didn't hold. She even suggested we proceed with the marriage and break up after few weeks of marriage because of the shame that may follow if we stop the marriage or maybe she was desperate because of the marriage certificate, I don't know. I maintained my stand of backing off the marriage but she reported to my sisters also. Her sisters and my sisters later tried to encourage us to go ahead with prayers since we have chosen the date. We were advised not to disclose our genotype result to anyone again because people will discourage us.

Even though I was skeptical about the marriage, it later commenced with less spending because the Nikkah was held in a mosque and a tent for refreshments.
After the marriage we tried to talk about it, and she told me, she was afraid, may be she was pregnant before the marriage that's why she insisted on going ahead with the marriage. She also revealed to me that she was not happy with the decision as well, means she also know the implications but she have to avoid the shame of stopping the marriage after inviting guests to the occasion.

During these period genotype before the marriage, my love for her reduced drastically because of her desperation and her refusal to understand the risk we are about to take. I tried to avoid pregnancy from our first month of marriage but I later gave up and she conceived immediately. Now she is closer to her delivery. We hardly talk or play together inside. We only discuss about feeding, maternity and things to get for the coming baby.
I discovered we quarrel over little things that can be over looked by lovers. I'm not happy in the marriage, I spend most of time watching TV or stay outside all day because of unresolved issues.

I'm planning to arrange for a divorce after she delivered the baby because this is my first baby and I would love to have 2 or 3 kids more. I can't take the risk of allowing any of my children to be a sickler.
Advise is needed if my plan for divorce is a good one and do I stand a chance of loosing anything?

Bro, you are just being silly and i really don't mean to insult u but just take it as it is.

Imagine if u had done the geno test and u were told "erroneously" that u were AA, would u be bothered? What if later u now gave birth to SS (God forbid) afterwards? Would u have doubted your baby's paternity?

See, problems will always come and that is life!

We must develop the ability to tackle any issues that comes our way.

U have loved this woman before now and u have promised heaven and earth to each other... why back out now?

I have people who got married when geno test wasn't the "in thing" and they have dozens of SS and life is going on.

See, i have taken care of SS kids and I know how difficult it can be but u just must decide to face this head on since your wife is preggy.

U only have 25% chances of giving birth to SS and AA. Then 50% chances of giving birth to AS so calm the Bleep down!

I have one (my aunts) i'm still researching on and we are progressing in herbal solution.

Go and reconcile with that woman and ensure she is happy with u before she gives birth.

The knife don cut baby for hand! Throwing it away won't reverse or do anything!

U don score and for that, you should be grateful to God.

Some have been pouring in this thing for decades, e no turn to pin not to talk of baby.

Go back to your wife please and make that damn marriage work before i get koboko and wire your big head!

If you are bold enough to poke her to a state of pregnancy, be bold and daring enough to go all heads in!

ticker:
I saw a kia Rio 2008 car and I want to buy it but I am in a dilemma. This is my first car. I don't want to make a bad choice. Pls guys advice me. is this car durable? can it travel far distance without issue and does it have electrical issues?

Based on some friend's experience, kia is a good brand BUUUUUUUUUUUT the parts are expensive.

If u buy original spare parts, they don't get spoilt easily!

But i will also advise u go with known japanese brands that even a blind mech can fix to avoid stories that touch the heart and tickles the bumbum!

suco01:
On the test, it is working perfectly and has been serving for years. all what we keep in the freezer compartment always iced. meat, drinks, water, pepper etc and it takes about 3days without light pending how frequently it's opened

Compressor is always HOT when workiing, even a novice knows this, which is normal, thermostat are attached to it to to maintain a certain temperature, if it goes beyond the temperature it cut off. There is no fan attach to it and it's working fine, see the attached pics.

Alright bro!