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HealthRe: I Am AS And I Am Getting Married To AS by bigl: 11:11pm On Jun 04, 2020
bigmodo:
I am an As and I am getting married to an As. I love this girl so much that I am moving forward to marry her.

We have done our introduction and our traditional marriage is next month. I know the complications of an As marrying As in the issues of children they might give birth to. But I have no choice. I want to marry the love of my life.
Eeeya, pele, oko iyawo ele.pon blue!

That silly love will clear from your eyes when the SS wahala comes up.

See, if you have never cared for a child that is SS that is very close to you, you won't understand how bad and seriously shitt.y things can get!

I don't pray u experience SS wahala! Some of my colleagues at work, despite earning fat salaries are in serious pains cos of the SS thingy!

A word is enough for the wise!
FamilyRe: How To Be Pregnant? by bigl: 12:55pm On Jun 04, 2020
Josephilemona:
hello my people, I have been married for six months but my wife haven't been able to get pregnant, despite her treating infections both English and local method, I need help because my wife is really Disturbed even though I have been trying my best to encourage her never to give up, what could be the problem?
You see, you have just mentioned what the problem is and you have also failed to do the right thing sir.

When the issue of infection is to be addressed, both partners must be treated to be sure its not being bounced around.

Simply because u feel its only your wife that's infected is the reason she is not getting pregnant.

There is 80% chances you are also infected and once infection sets in, your sperm count, quality and other factors will also be affected.

Both of u should go and run test to know what is wrong and u must be treated together.

If its staph, omo, you go work hard o cos that stuff doesn't go away easily.

I'm not a doctor o but i've also battles some stuffs together with my wife and God gave us victory.

It is well!

If you would rather discuss privately, hit me up on whatsapp maybe i could recommend some stuffs u can buy to u. Purely herbal and cheap
ComputersRe: Help: My PC Keeps Destroying HDDs! by bigl: 12:51pm On Jun 04, 2020
Sanchez01:
I have an HP 8440p that has gulped 3 HDDs within the past 3 months!

A little history

I bought it on Amazon in 2018: a core i7 HP EliteBook and it has not given me an issue for a day until about three months ago.

Although I noticed that the BIOS was passworded when I got it. I couldn't bring myself to take it to Computer Village in Ikeja because of my past experiences with Policemen around that area.

The power pack got damaged about five months ago and had to change it immediately.

A month after, the original HDD that came with it crashed one morning without signs or warnings. All I noticed was media files kept freezing at intervals and I did a restart and that was it.

About two days later, I got another 500GB HDD. Mounted it and installed a Windows 10 on it. I had barely used it for three days before it crashed. Had to take it to the shop I bought it from and they outrighly declined a replacement and refund altogether. Then I got another 500GB (Seagate) which has been perfect ever since until this morning.

I noticed my programmes weren't responding and did a restart. 20 minutes later, it was yet to restart even though it said "restarting". I did a hard reset and it failed to boot.

Hard disk test says "read failure error". I had to remount the HDD but the response is the same.

Along with the one that came with it, this is the third HDD within 3 months. A part of me wants to smash a heavy rod or wood on the PC but irọ nla. It is a crazy strong PC and I love it.

I'm weighing the option of selling it off or taking it to Ikeja for a swap deal but those guys always negotiate items like they are stolen.

I want to know if I can still salvage the PC. Epp me, edakun.

Lalasticlala cry
Its most likely overheating! And there is every likelyhood those hard drives had issues before you bought them and the heat of a thing helped in accelerating their demise.

I use a 8540p and i'm also battling with the heat thing but it doesn't affect my hdd sha! The system used to shut down back then..

Try and check to be sure the under side of your laptop is not heating up
CelebritiesRe: Majek Fashek's Death: Which Of His Songs Do You Like Most? by bigl: 7:58pm On Jun 02, 2020
My favourite is:

Let righteousness cover the earth
FamilyRe: Marriage: Before And After by bigl: 2:32pm On May 28, 2020
Dyt:
What is Before, In Between and After?

Yeah we all know marriage is an institution between 2 persons with the aim to have offspring and companionship, but is this all we see and make of it?

I am a person that believes in relationship/marriage and tries to go far in making it work well except when it starts to affect my mental health (i cant go mad all in the name of i want it to work)

Some say marriage is easy while some say its a hard work, we all have different opinions..
I for one been married before, it didnt work not because i couldnt try but (my choice anyway)

I am considering going into another and all the things that we do that counts now may not in few years, I mean the sexiness, the kamasutra and all, well ofcourse i am not just gonna be offering just sex, we both got more to keep us going for a 100years to come (my favourite part is the friendship and companionship)...

I am scared sometimes waking up to him every other day and same way it excites me cheesy cheesy grin grin

How has it been with those married for 5years and counting? the joy, feeling, the tears, the arguments, the sex, I mean all of it....
Marriage can be both easy and hard!

It all depends on who you get married to and that is a super dupa big, if not, God factor sef!

Its like a boat! If both of u paddle your sides, the boat moves forward... if not, and 1 person paddles, the boat will go round in circles ... no progress niyen o!

So, your worst fear should be "getting married to a donkey" .... and if you are careful enough, u will end up with the right person.... one just have to be objective and not reason with emotions!
EducationRe: Please Help My English Is Very Bad by bigl: 1:45pm On May 26, 2020
Takeit2017:
God why? Why me?
I dnt have confidence speaking good English always Craming what to say?

Please help me.
Eeya, its quite simple to fix!

Buy this books: Brighter Grammar 1, 2 and 3. Shouldn't be more than N700 each!

Within few months of reading, you will learn to speak correctly and that, will boost your confidence!

FamilyRe: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by bigl: 3:54am On May 24, 2020
Disclaimer: I AM NOT A SAINT AND MY WIFE IS NOT THE DEVIL. I HAVE JUST BEEN UNFORTUNATE TO BECOME A VICTIM OF MATRIARCHY WHICH MANY MEN SUFFER ABROAD...

I have been hustling abroad for a few years while wifey was working in Nigeria and living with children. Marriage has always been turbulent and we even almost got divorced after I travelled out. We somehow worked on our issues with the help of pastors, family and friends, and after a few years of ''roughing'' it abroad to pave way for them, I finally succeeded and my family arrived a few months ago.

I used to be hot tempered, but I have had enough time to gain insight into my inadequacies and reflect on them. I am now significantly calmer due to the determination to make my marriage better and as per ''abroad levels''. My wife on the other hand is fully taking advantage of me and the environment we find ourselves in. First thing she did on getting here was to cut of my entire family. She said she doesn't want to have anything to do with any of them anymore. She has also not been too keen to kickstart her career, as all she does is endless picture taking and editing for social media hyping. I know this might be due to the initial ''euphoria'' phase cos she is coming abroad to a big house, big car and having no limits on most things we used to manage back in Nigeria, and she thinks things are bread and butter. You would never think for a second that she is a married woman if you check her profiles on social media!

She has become even more toxic person than she ever was in Naija. Now very bossy, never backs down, always the attacker, ever ready for a fight, lazier, always on social media, communicates with me as little as possible, embarrasses me in the neighbourhood with the constant noises from our house, and finally her threats have now tripled! Madam is now so fierce that I have become the house chicken. Just within a few months of being here o! She tells me that she will show me for all the ''gra gra'' I used to do back in Nigeria. Friends advised me against bringing this woman here but I no wan hear word as per responsible family man wey I dey claim to be.

The popular threat is usually ''I will end your career''. I wasn't taking this too seriously initially, but she then started following through with the threats by constant calls to the police and other services, making spooky and baseless career ending accusations and allegations against me.

I have never been the one to first lay my hands on her, but I have spilled drinks on her before when she attacked me. My wife now gets very physical without having any element of self control, fear or restraint after the simplest argument and sometimes, she damages things out of anger. She does this so often and never hesitates to dare me to do my worst.

I discovered that she has signed up on dating sites and when I even caught her chatting about sex to a particular guy in our area, she said that it was all my fault. She did not apologise for this. She even referred to it one time after an argument that if I am convulsing like this over just a sex chat, she's waiting to see what I'd do when I see a man on top of her.

My productivity at work has declined significantly and I am now on the verge of depression. Neighbours called the police on us one time after a lot of noise from out house. She accused me of domestic violence. The police had to separate us and I was stuck at home for an extended period and could not go to work due to this. I am now being investigated for domestic violence, which is a serious crime as madam wants it and I have had to report the situation to my company! The whole thing is so messy that I am scared that I have not seen the worst yet.

I am so afraid of losing it all and returning to Nigeria broke cos I spent my last card and even racked credit card debt to bring them here hoping to pay off gradually. I still have a few years to get my citizenship and if I lose my job now, that is the end for all of us!

For now, I don't know what is going to happen to us, as this woman is so determined to cause great and irreparable damage that could ruin our lives, just to get back at me and she is being cheered on by her family and friends.

THE SITUATION IS SO MESSED UP!

UPDATE:

Divorce has now been filed. I also recently got lucky as I was able to secure a restraining order when she messed up again and hit me daring me to do my worst. I called the police and made a proper case and she was arrested. She has been banned from the house for a month. The police advised me to talk to my lawyer and extend indefinitely if I want to. I hope to get this done ASAP. The law here does not only protect women but also protects innocent men. All you need is patience and wisdom. Thank you all for your ideas. Still several hurdles to cross but I am on the winning side for now.
So sorry about your issues bro but i'm sure some of these traits she is exhibiting had always been there but u didn't notice or you thought she will be a better person closer to u and also, in a advanced/developed country.

But unfortunately, most people can't handle success or such environment!

Try and read up on privacy laws as per what u can do with a secret camera, etc then get like 5 or so it! Install and gather video evidence over some days or weeks! Like someone said, move faraway from such woman pls!

If u don't act fast, she will get u all deported and that will be devastating.

Most ladies, knowing fully well that the law favour them in advanced countries end up playing games cos they know the properties will be split and they may end up getting big chunks! So, they marry u, put up a fight, divorce and they earn! They usually go ahead and do that to like 4 men and guess what? They are rich and made!

That's whats up bro! So wise up and get her sorry as.s deported fast if she won't conform!

I am anti domestic violence against women and also against men!

Una dey obodo oyinbo country to have access to better life/opportunities and not settling scores!

But believe me bro, an average naija woman can't handle success! Quote me anywhere!
ComputersRe: My Two Year Old Hp-15 Freezes Three Times Per Day Help!!!!! (windows 10) by bigl: 7:38am On May 22, 2020
Millennialaku:
i am just tired

i have used cc cleaner to clean registry
i still have 180gb remaining in my HDD
i updated some of my drivers recently
i use ctrl alt delete to resign in no way, which results in me removing the battery every time it freezes

I NEED HELP cry cry cry cry cry huh embarassed embarassed

i dont know what the issue is, I AM JUST TIRED

NOTE: i bought it brand new 2018 cry cry
Most likely, you have any of more of the following problems:

1. U installed an antivirus that's using most of the processor resources, hence, leaving u with little power to do your own work eg avg, etc
2. You have no antivirus, hence, virus/malware have built an estate of duplex on your computer ... install free avast! Its been working for me for over 5years
3. Your hard drive is super slow! Consider upgrading to an ssd! I use mine and most times, i am left with 10gb and yet, the speed does not reduce!
4. Your computer is overheating, hence, to protect the hardware, the processing power is being automatically reduced! Clear your heat vents with brush or air cleaner!

Check your task manager to view resource usage or post the screenshot here!
RomanceRe: My Wife Is Too Stiff, Gives Me Timetable For Sex by bigl: 1:24pm On May 19, 2020
delkuf:
Good Nairaland I don't normally do this, bringing my family issue here but this issue is pissing me off.

Here is the story. I got married last year, and I thought I have known her enough that was why I married her. But to my surprise I started discovering that she is too stiff. She is too hard. When she says she is not doing something, that is it, she won't do it.

Sometimes if am broke, and I ask for Small amount of money, most time I want to use that money to get means for bigger money, she won't give.

She gives me time for sex. Presently am down with fever and the only thing she has ever asked me is how is your body. No what will you take or something. Am starting to think of quitting the marriage. The only issue is that she is pregnant and this is my first child.
Eeya, sowie bro!

I feel your pains but this matter is quite easy.

Every woman, once they get married, start churning out some rules (giving timetable for sex etc) that usually spells dooms and disaster for them! So your case is not special!

They will even go to the extreme by not caring about how you feel etc and its always like that so don't get mad bro!

And as regards money, you should be smart enough to create a budget! Once it is exceeded, she should know she is on her own!

If your salary is 50k and every month your total recurring expenses is 20k, budget 10k for yourself and let her know! Keep 10k as something to fall back on and give her 5-10k for her personal upkeep.

She should know your financial upper limit so that u don't end up spending far above your income!

And always have a backup plan for funding business opportunities that comes your way.

Back then when i wanted to start a biz that would bring in money, a silly lady i was dating back then was against it! I didn't mind her. I just went ahead and started the damn biz! When the thing begin bring in some money to augment my take home, then she understood what i was trying to do.

Our ladies hardly understand the business side of life! Hence they tend to hold on to money, even if u wan use 10k do small web design business to make 30k, they will refuse!

As per your malaria thing, bros, you must belong to our AA O+ group! If so, then always ensure u have artemether + lumefantrine based malaria drug(s) always handy! And ensure u treat it once in 3 months or less (depending on how frequent the thing comes).

Sit her down and discuss.

Don't quit that marriage, rather make it work! No relationship is perfect!

Her present pregnancy period might be messing with her emotions so she needs u just like u need her!
FamilyRe: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by bigl: 12:12am On May 17, 2020
samicine:
Greetings one and all. I'll try to make my lamentation as short as possible.

My mother accused me of stealing her 2k, but I assure you, I didn't. The money got missing on Thursday night according to her and my 13 year old brother. I won't do such a thing, because the times are hard and the pandemic is fueling this hard times. I'm not lazy, I kind of work from home, I write for opera news hub and to some extent I get money from there, currently I have 19k in my account. I have no motive of taking her money, but she insists I took it, and is currently threatening to throw me out of the house.

This is not the first time such thing has happened. When I was still in secondary school, money got missing often and she'll blame me, beat me and starve me for stealing her money, but God helped me and the culprit was found, my other brother was caught, he is 18 now and doesn't stay with us anymore. He stays with my dad. She never apologized for what she did and the scars of that emotional and physical abuse still ripples across my body. But this time I'm not sure I will forgive her if the money is found. I'm planning on leaving home and starting my life somewhere, it's hard, it might just be my naivety speaking, but I need your advice.

The only skill I have is writing and web designing, which I'm almost getting good at. I just need help and guidance. I'm a 200level student and I major in psychology. I'll be 21 by November.
Hell yeah! She wants u outta the damn house brova!

So man up!

You have what it takes to sustain a family!

Just try to up your game and make good money from your skills!

MOve out and become a successful person and watch as she will change her testimony!
Nairaland GeneralRe: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by bigl: 10:38am On May 15, 2020
evansjeff:
Recently I've been very bothered about myself. I'm a guy of around 30 but some things that still worry my heart is really disturbing. I will start like this.

1. Something embarrassing happened some time last year when I travelled home for visit. They bought a goat and was looking for who to kill it, me knowing I'm the most senior man at home jejely went into ghost mode, everyone started looking for me, in the end I had to come out but shamelessly told them I can't kill it. They had to call a 16 year old opposite neighbour to do it while my younger ones helped him hold the goat. I couldn't even stand the sight of seeing the goat struggling for life while receiving knife in the throat. I left there immediately.

2. You might think it's normal for goat until I tell you that I can't kill a chicken or rat, last Christmas, I badly wanted to buy a life chicken because I beleive it's more healthy, but who will kill it? Bae was around, I don't want any embarrassment so I jejely bought frozen chicken . There is a wall gecko strolling around my room for weeks now, but I can't kill it, it becomes embarrassing any time I have a visitor

3. The most recent is, there are two birds trying to build a house in my lobby, I kept destroying the house but they didn't give up, it got to a point, I felt bad for the poor birds, what if they don't have a house? what if I'm the one building a house with all my strength and government keeps destroying it? I had to leave them to build. My neighbour said he killed the birds that tried doing that in his house but me can i do that? No. i just tire.

4. Lastly, When travelling and there's an accident, people rush out to watch but I dare not else the trauma will remain for months, I can't stand the sight of blood and body cuts.

Any time I think about killing an animal, I ask myself, what if I'm the one being held by boko haram or killer herdsmen and about to be slaughtered? How excruciating the pain can be.

Any time I think about crushing a cockroach, I ask myself, what if I'm the one trying to cross the high way and dangote trailer crushes me?

So guys, am I normal? Do I need to see a doctor or a psychologist?
Its very normal.

I used to be like that some years ago but i talked some senses into myself and today, i can kill a horse (just joking) but u get my point?

Nobody can help u overcome this shi.t but you & yourself only!

As per seeing a psychologist or something, it might be in order but i'll rather have u face the stuff head on!
RomanceRe: My Girlfriend Physically Assaulted Me Over My Own Money !! Help!! by bigl: 10:03am On May 15, 2020
ken711:
I have been dating a girl for about 18 months now. Very pretty but my brothers, let me tell you... Look before you leap when it comes to pretty girls.

From the minute I met this girl it has been one money request after another. If it was small sums I guess I wouldn't really mind, as I have always worked for blue chip companies and can afford it. The thing is, her requests are always very big!.....20k this, 20K that.....but my brothers, I have to tell you the one that has made me even disappointed in myself.

She lives with her parents and they are the most dysfunctional family I have ever heard of... Everyday one person is fighting the other, and this my girlfriend, as fine as she is, is the most arrogant, prideful, violent & rude person I have ever met. She hounded me everyday that I must get her an apartment of her own, so she can escape her home, and I agreed to but by saving monthly.

Would you believe, one night, when she was working at a bar as an usher for guinness, she gave her number to 2 different men just because of this apartment. My spirit kept telling me that she gave her number out, but she kept lying...only for me to catch her texting one of the men when we were at church of all places.......

She even went as far as going to meet this rich man at a hotel, but the man ran away when she made that request, and I as a fool decided to finally do it for her. (I suspect she cheated on me that night and I always tell it to her face because she has cheated on me twice before)

I live on the Island and tried to get her to rent here as well, as I really want to keep an eye on her..... She has too many guys around her who live in that area and she is this kind of person who cheats out of revenge, even over small things.....this girl refused and threatened to break things off!....bro, as a mumu I sent the money to her to rent the place and for other things, about 400K.....

Ever since that money left my account, it's like my eyes cleared!!! I couldn't believe that instead of saving my hard earned money, I went and sent it to a girl that has cheated on me twice (or even more), lied to me, slapped me and done so many things.....but I just decided to leave everything for God, seeing as she was desperate.

The problem now is that the demands for that apartment is now becoming too much!!! The expenses just to get the place finished are such a burden on my financial and mental state...

The worst happened about two days ago, she wanted me to pay 20k. Infact I just got so tired of bills that I kinda was stalling on it, but what happened next truly shocked me. Would you believe this girl started punching me, slapping me and even tore my shirt cos of 20k. She even threatened to break my office laptop (working from home) until I sent the money, after that she left........

Now she is trying to apologize so that I will pay for bed and gas and the remaining things....my brothers, I know u will say am a fool!...I accept...I am a handsome guy, studied abroad, I just don't know why loneliness made me fall in love with such a sadistic user... My only problem is, do I pay for the bed and just finish what I started or just free the whole thing and the nearly 500K I have already spent...

Please help!
You are indeed the King of fools and dumb heads!

How can u do that for a girl you have not married sef?

All nairalanders supposed flog u with 10 strokes of koboko each to reset your black paint coated brain!

Always open your brain bro!

These hoes ain't loyal!

Break up with her right now before i open my coro coro eyes or else .....

Man up bro! She is playing u big time and has your Over-Drive-Mumu-Button!
HealthRe: Masturbation Has Caused Me Erectile Dysfunction. Help!! by bigl: 5:34am On May 13, 2020
junior20202020:
Help Me Recover My Glory

THIS IS MY STORY

I started masturbating partially at the age of 19, I was a shy guy I don't have a girlfriend, everyone taught that I was a virgin. This masturbation became serious at the age of 24. I decided to quit Masturbation.

I said let me visit a prostitute, I paid her 3k, we started romancing each other, but I noticed that my dick did not erect. I was highly embarrassed, I thought because the lady was older than me, she was 33 yrs.

I visited 3 more prostitutes which are young girls in their twenties, it was the same thing, the dick did not erect at all.

Note: I normally have rock erection Even when a lady sit on my lap, early morning waking up I also use to have rock erection before I meet the first prostitute. From there I went back to masturbation again partially. At the age of 21 I made my first 1.5 million naira through business, but I noticed since I started visiting this prostitute my business collapse I could hardly boast of #200k in my account.

Around 2018 I decided to get a girlfriend, because all prostitute I meet my dick cannot rise to penetrate them. My first girlfriend was cute, I love her and she loves me. One certain day something led to something we got intimate, I romance her very well she was already screaming, she wanted me to put my dick inside but I noticed it was flaccid no erection at all. She noticed and got up and dress herself. After that day she started giving me attitude and that was how I broke up with her.

I got about 4 more girlfriend all of them broke up with me when the notice that my dick does not erect. After all this I felt like the whole world is gone, I finally got another girl friend. Anything that would lead to romance I normally tell her that as Christian we must not have sex until we are married. She would say that this is the first time she is dating a guy like me. That she loves me with all her heart. We have dated for one year now without sex, I promise her that we would have sex on our wedding night.

I am currently 27 yrs and I feel dejected. Does it mean that I may never have a child of mine own. I got tired of my situation I went into 3 days dry fasting praying to God to deliver me from sin and to restore my lost erection. ..

On the second day of the fast I was in a trance and I vommitted a lot of poison. I woke up and thanked God. After that fasting I don't normally have bad dreams of evil spirit pressing down my spirit. But I noticed that my erection have not yet been restored. Please I need help. I need God to restore my Glory. I would never use it for masturbation or fornication. Help me on what to do. I am in distress
Your problem is purely psychological and not spiritual if u ask me!

Just stop masturbating, eat good food and take multivitamins and watch it come back.

Anxiety is affecting you from getting erection!

Even guys who don't masturbate and have been traumatised in one way or the other do find themselves in your condition so no biggy!

Your masturbation was probably at PhD levels so it will take a while for your body to regain energy lost!

Stop bothering your mind and get busy with life!
RomanceRe: At 41, Am I Getting Married Too Late? by bigl: 5:17am On May 13, 2020
manuelreports:
I just clocked 41 and I am yet to settle down.

Please house i want to know if I married too Late if i decide to settle down today.

I never expected to marry this late but you know one thing leads to another son of man is still trying to put somethings in order before marriage, in order to give my children the best life can offer.

Please fam
Your suggestions please
My dear brother, you are doing just fine!

Our timelines are very different!

Seen people marry very early and yet are single today!

I"ve also seen people marry late and they are still married and doing fine!

Learn to run your own race without comparing your life to that of others!

You are unique!

As soon as u get married, make it all count sharply o!

As in give birth to not more than 2 to avoid sending kids to school when you are in your late 60s!
EducationRe: FG Paid Lecturers’ Salary On IPPIS With Discrepancies by bigl: 9:26pm On May 12, 2020
Oh yeah! Welcome to nigeria!

Na so dem dey do us too!

Together, laslas, we go all dey okay na!
PhonesRe: Help With Philip Smart TV Wifi Password by bigl: 9:23pm On May 12, 2020
Risingsunn:
I think there should be a default password. This philip na nonesense tv.

Though I'm loving other things about it.
Check this manual to see if there is a default password and/or how to do a factory reset to default!

https://www.download.p4c.philips.com/files/6/60pfl8708s_12/60pfl8708s_12_dfu_eng.pdf
FamilyRe: Paternal Family Are Against Us by bigl: 8:16am On May 12, 2020
drealdude:
Good morning All,
i will be brief, my Dad hail from south
AS his son, i have noticed that my dad family members are always conniving against our interest
and treating us in such a way that suggest they had an agreement to fustrate us. what is worse is that my dad is oblivious of their plan and treating them nicely like brothers(2)while they plan behind him.

There is an undercurrent of strong hatred towards us and they act in stiff competition against us even when we try to act as one family towards them. they try to show off / compete in terms of who have more money, whose children is better off etc.

i suspect they meet to plan against us.
Whenever we go to family events that brings family people together, there is subtle nuance and body language that suggest strong hatred but faking smile at your face.

My questions are

should i go all out against them, tell them to their face / confront them as enemy and tell them stay clear?

is the paternal family important in events like woman marriage(sibling) becos i know they likely shun?

What should be the best and wise way to act in terms of future?

WILL STRONGLY APPRECIATE ALL ADVISE
This is one of the annoying things parents do.

And they can't seem to define a clear cut line between their sons/daughters and family they came out from.

My dad too did something similar and it was a traumatic experience.

Best thing, concentrate on being a super duper success in life and ensure you are "stinkingly" rich (legit o)!

When money talks, bullshit takes a walk so don't ever bother to confront them bro!

With time, your success will put them where they belong!

And when they eventually get friendly, don't fall for the bait! Cos they might have hidden intentions against u.

As per the woman/marriage thingy, almost anybody can go to court with their wife/hubby and get married!

The law doesn't say "families must be present for them to consummate a marriage".

Above all, pray about it! May God's wisdom guide u
FamilyRe: How Do I Deal With A Weak Wife... by bigl: 7:07pm On May 11, 2020
charles009:
Hello folks, I have to put this here, cos I feel I have had enough. Please nobody should quote me cos I intend taking this post down afterwards.

I have issues dealing with a very weak wife(27), mostly where her friends and neighbours are. Since I married her 4 years ago I have allowed her handle things her way and its always from one issue to another. Always disturbing me with irrelevant gossips that wouldn't put food on my table. I paid heavily for a fashion designer school, still same issue of madam versus students bullshit. In feb I asked her to stop, so I can have peace, thanks to covid 19. When I decided I have had enough, I told her I wouldn't want to see anybody in my house going forward, since they have turned my house to a gossip zone whenever I am away at work. Once, she hears peoples voice, she opens my door and starts hailing people who its obvious are unhappy with my decision, they even teamed against her. I see her actions as plain weakness.

I have tried dialogue, yet no improvement. So I decided to go very hard on her. I told her that anytime I see her with those click of friends, I would not hesitate to embarrass her outside. This morning, she had gone to get mop then begins the regular gist, I had to immediately shout her to go inside.

Its obvious that my mode of life contradicts her way of life, I have decided to bend a little bit to accomodate her. Once I drive out, kapish my house becomes a meeting ground, all sorts of gossips in the estate are disclosed.

Am I going too hard on her or is there any better way to handle this.

Please DONT QUOTE ME..
I think you should have known the person you were getting married to in the first place!

And now that you had married her, you should have considered the fact that you don't want her gisting up and down and rented a flat.

Above all, the same way you were able to woo her, use same technique to talk to her about this issue.

Women generally are fond of this "gisting" stuffs ... except u married a nerd who would prefer to be in all day long.

Just go with the flow. Going hard or soft sometimes don't produce the effect u want unless your message is well understood
ComputersRe: Universal Mifi by bigl: 1:23pm On May 11, 2020
pabllov53:
Thanks boss, but please which specific 4G?
Ensure it is 4G LTE. Just check that!

Also, buy a 4G sim for full speed!

4G LTE is a type of 4G technology. LTE stands for Long Term Evolution and isn't as much a technology as it is the path followed to achieve 4G speeds. ... 4G LTE is about ten times faster than the older 3G technology, so the difference in speed is often quite noticeable when users switch from 4G to 4G LTE Copied ooooooo!!!

U can buy huawei universal modem but most times, some branded 4G LTE that can be unlocked or has been unlocked are better!
ComputersRe: Universal Mifi by bigl: 11:42pm On May 10, 2020
pabllov53:
Hi bosses, pls recommend a universal mifi for me.
Thanks
Buy a 4G LTE mifi (not just 4G o cos difference dey).

U could get the alcaltel mw40 (sold by airtel back then)!

Its super fast and easy to unlock!

That's what i use and i've unlocked it to use any sim!

U can get the used if u check online for 4-7k
FamilyRe: My Partner Lies Too Much About Money. Let's Talk. by bigl: 12:43pm On May 10, 2020
stillwerise:
I think that any woman or man who lies about money to their partner has experienced something bad with the person .
That's not always true.

Some people are just like that! And majority are transferring stuffs they experienced from their past relationships to their current!

That's also why most relationships fail these days!
FamilyRe: I Feel Like Quitting My Relationship Because Of This by bigl: 12:50am On May 10, 2020
endeavor:
Hello, House.

So I decided to post this to get opinions and advice from people with experience.

I met my Fiance 4 years ago in Abeokuta during a business trip. She was good and lovely then. Fast forward to this year, I'm beginning to see a whole different person in her.
She gets angry when corrected of her mistakes.
She gets angry when questioned on issues.
She does not pray.
She has never advised me on anything.
She is not encouraging.
She never gives suggestions or opinions when asked.
She's never appreciative. (Do today, and you don't do tomorrow, na wahala)
She is not supportive.
All these traits I got to know since she moved in with me for a year now.
Though I'm still a hustler, I do my best to provide.
I assist her financially for her upkeep.
I even enrolled her in a vocational training program to learn a craft.
to cap it all up, her addiction to movies had made me given up.
She can fight you for talking while watching movies on her phone.
I'm not allowed to tune to my favorite channels.
You mustn't send her to get a glass of water while she's watching a movie.
I have talked, complained, advised and even reported. But it's getting worse.

Please, your advises..
I've been in your shoes before brova!

Move your flat ass as fast as possible from that girl or you will live to regret it!

What u saw was just a pre-episode!

When u get married, u go watch the tin for 100 inches smart tv!

And u would wish to press control-z to undo your marriage to her!
RomanceRe: I'm Finding It Hard Getting Intimate With My Fiancee by bigl: 12:13am On May 07, 2020
Wphomie:
Greetings fellow Nl'ers,

I have an issue which many people may consider irrelevant at this time as a result of the pandemic causing lots of pain around the world, this I know and I hope things get back to normal soon.

Now, back to my issue. My fiancee and I have been engaged for about 3 months and plan to tie the knot by July hopefully. So we been engaging in romance and kissing, and recently we've been trying to push it further by getting intimate. Here comes the issue; my fiancee is a virgin. In the last few days we have tried to get intimate but she feels so much pains and she is barely wet so I am unable to go through. She once had a near rape experience, and I'm beginning to wonder if it is a psychological issue or it's normal for virgins not to get wet.

NB: I am not a virgin and I have had s3x with just one lady (my ex who wasn't a virgin), so I don't have experience per say.

I'm just very concerned and I need matured counsel. Do we need to go see a doctor, keep trying or try using lubricants?

Your inputs are well appreciated.
Hmmmmmmm.... anyway, getting wet and being a virgin are 2 different things.

Get a lubricant na and ensure u do enough pre-intimacy before u try to "breakthrough".

Although i heard (but not verified o) that if she's been a virgin for a very long time, the "door" can get stronger; hence, breaking it might not be easy. Some people had to do surgery to get it opened!
HealthRe: Please Help Me Am Really Really Scared!!!! by bigl: 2:15pm On Apr 30, 2020
Sweettea9:
These pimple-like outbreaks scattered all over my body most times no fluid inside and itches me seriously at night...have carried out all sort of test(HIV, MCs , yeast you name it,ALL OF THEM..the nurse said it was a bacterial infection) have been on drugs and topical creams since last year and it refuses to go..

it's still proves stubborn( go n come) I have been using a ketoconazole cream it would go n surface on another skin site but since last week HV gotten no response, I think my body system is now used to it now

Please and please I would like your suggestion on how to stop this once and for all, am really scared it's freaking me out beginning to think it's a CURSE

I don't know what to do any longer with myself and going out is a BIG problem. I have been suffering from depression for as long as I can remember

You could know how many times I pleaded showing our serious it really gets to me and I don't plan on visiting the hospital because of this pandemic...please help!!!!!
Its most likely a fungi infection!

My neighbour's boy had same issue but his was on the nose. They show up and become yellowish! Could be as much as 20 on the nose.

She got a particular anti-fungi cream which has solved the issue after using all sorts of antibiotics.

I'll ask my wife for d prescription and update this post
PhonesRe: Which Network Provider In Nigeria Has The Fastest Internet Connection? by bigl:
kayo80:
I'm tired of my Glo... Sometimes it will be okay (not fast), and sometimes it will be annoyingly slow.

After midnight, I can download a 100 mb movie within 2 minutes, but it will take 1 hour to download the same movie in the day time.

I also have Airtel line, and it is a bit faster than my Glo, but they zap data like crazy. Sometimes, they don't even warn you before your data finishes... You can have 400mb one minute, and the next, you get message you don't have data again.

I don't know how Etisalat and MTN are. Guys, which Network do you think I should go for? I really need fast internet connection cos of what I do on Instagram... Using Instagram with my Glo can be so frustrating. Sometimes I feel like throwing the Sim away, but they give some really good bonuses when you recharge a lot.
100mb in 2minutes ke? That's slow na!

When i download 2gb in 4mins!

Anyway, it all depends on the network, location, access (internet) device!

For me, Mtn is no 1. Airtel is doing fine but their connection times out and corrupts my downloads! And their data charging rate is questionable but they are the ones giving mtn a run for their money, hence, bringing down price of data due to competition!

9Mobile, i'm yet to use their 4G network! Glo? No way! Even their 4G LTE sim isn't working with my 4G lte mifi!

You get faster internet access if u use a 4G LTE mifi and access via wireless! Its far better than using the 4G mobile network on your phone!

So, get a 4G LTE (not just 4G) mifi, make sure it can use any sim from any network then note which telecomms provider is best in your area! U should have improved speed!

I use the Alcatel mw40 mifi shown below!

And by the way, that's my speed! I'm in abeokuta, ogun state!

FamilyRe: Help Me Make A Decision On What Mattress To Buy (vitafoam Or Mouka) by bigl: 9:42pm On Apr 17, 2020
ace1:
Good day fam,

I need advice. I want to get a new mattress but Making a decision is a problem. Experts in the House please help. Below are my options:
1) Vitafoam Haven 6 x 4.5; 10inch - 54,000
2) Vitafoam Grand 6 x 6; 10inch - 55,000
3) Mouka Mondeo 6 x 6; 10 inch - 58,000

I’m want something durable. I weigh about 85kg and I’m also trying to put an additional person into consideration (just Incase Friends visit). Which of the above will you advice I get?
Get a 6 x 7, 12 inches or more!

Consider when u start a family!

And as per weight, we are about same weight!

I use Sara Super Flex by Sara Foam and its about same price range as shown up there!
FamilyRe: What Book Will You Recommend For Me To Improve Communication In My Relationship by bigl: 9:40pm On Apr 17, 2020
Well, to improve your communication skills, get this book by Kevin Hogan. Once u learn the secrets of how to communicate, you can apply to every form including your relationship.

I was a bit bad at communicating while growing up but i knew i was bad and searched for solution till i came across that book!

Here's the cover below!

FamilyRe: Disowning Family In Nigeria by bigl: 11:11pm On Apr 10, 2020
successmatters:
Just stand in front of them and try to shout "I disown you!"

You will be shocked when they scream it together in your own face while throwing you out.

You don't know how hard it is to raise someone till age 30.

I think you're being rash, but you can give us the whole story so we can make more informed suggestions.
You know, you should consider taking comedy seriously as a career!

Yours response really cracked me up! But you raised a valid point!

Stay blessed!
Foreign AffairsRe: Chad Soldiers Killed 1000 Boko Haram Fighters - Aljazeera by bigl: 8:20pm On Apr 10, 2020
asco15:
The Chadian army says it has killed 1,000 fighters during an operation against the Boko Haram armed group in the Lake Chad border region.


https://www.aljazeera.com/news/2020/04/chadian-troops-kill-1000-boko-haram-fighters-lake-chad-200409183528130.html

Is this also in 2015 or a lie?

At least we all trust Aljazeera
You dey mind dem wey dey talk 2015?

I knew someone will try to cover up someone!

Thanks for digging this aljazeera post up jare!
PhonesRe: Which Data Plan Are You Using On This Lockdown? by bigl: 11:59am On Apr 09, 2020
implementing:
how do I unlock mine bro, it's an airtel Vida m 2 mifi, I need to be using other sims in it
I googled for the procedure and stumbled on something some months ago!

I'll try and check for a link i found online!

I did try it for a friend and i used another sim (mtn) on it and it worked!

Mine was the old alcatel mw40! That one was easy to do but this one requires u plugin the modem into a computer before u can unlock
PhonesRe: Which Data Plan Are You Using On This Lockdown? by bigl: 1:02am On Apr 09, 2020
swazee:
With the current situation not just in Nigeria but in the world at large, it has been advised that we stay indoors. Internet is 2nd to food during this lockdown period as the rate of data consumption has skyrocketed.

This thread is to share our current data plans and to know which is the best and most cost efficient.

I use an Airtel 4G MIFI. I think the best Airtel subscription now is their 6gb for #1500 valid for 7days.

I have also heard about MTN 20gb for #3500. I guess that is better although I cannot use it because my MIFI accepts only Airtel sim.

Please share the current data plan you are using this period.
Mtn N500 for 2GB plus 512mb LTE bonus! 2 days validity and i use it with my airtel (alcatel) mw40 mifi!

I download mostly videos so i could subscribe like 4 times in a day!

By the way, why not unlock yours?
FamilyRe: .. by bigl: 6:58pm On Apr 06, 2020
LewsTherin:
I guess it doesn't. It ends up on the street.

Now where does yours go to?
Congratulations!

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