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endeavor:
Hello, House.

So I decided to post this to get opinions and advice from people with experience.

I met my Fiance 4 years ago in Abeokuta during a business trip. She was good and lovely then. Fast forward to this year, I'm beginning to see a whole different person in her.
She gets angry when corrected of her mistakes.
She gets angry when questioned on issues.
She does not pray.
She has never advised me on anything.
She is not encouraging.
She never gives suggestions or opinions when asked.
She's never appreciative. (Do today, and you don't do tomorrow, na wahala)
She is not supportive.
All these traits I got to know since she moved in with me for a year now.
Though I'm still a hustler, I do my best to provide.
I assist her financially for her upkeep.
I even enrolled her in a vocational training program to learn a craft.
to cap it all up, her addiction to movies had made me given up.
She can fight you for talking while watching movies on her phone.
I'm not allowed to tune to my favorite channels.
You mustn't send her to get a glass of water while she's watching a movie.
I have talked, complained, advised and even reported. But it's getting worse.

Please, your advises..

I've been in your shoes before brova!

Move your flat ass as fast as possible from that girl or you will live to regret it!

What u saw was just a pre-episode!

When u get married, u go watch the tin for 100 inches smart tv!

And u would wish to press control-z to undo your marriage to her!

Wphomie:
Greetings fellow Nl'ers,

I have an issue which many people may consider irrelevant at this time as a result of the pandemic causing lots of pain around the world, this I know and I hope things get back to normal soon.

Now, back to my issue. My fiancee and I have been engaged for about 3 months and plan to tie the knot by July hopefully. So we been engaging in romance and kissing, and recently we've been trying to push it further by getting intimate. Here comes the issue; my fiancee is a virgin. In the last few days we have tried to get intimate but she feels so much pains and she is barely wet so I am unable to go through. She once had a near rape experience, and I'm beginning to wonder if it is a psychological issue or it's normal for virgins not to get wet.

NB: I am not a virgin and I have had s3x with just one lady (my ex who wasn't a virgin), so I don't have experience per say.

I'm just very concerned and I need matured counsel. Do we need to go see a doctor, keep trying or try using lubricants?

Your inputs are well appreciated.

Hmmmmmmm.... anyway, getting wet and being a virgin are 2 different things.

Get a lubricant na and ensure u do enough pre-intimacy before u try to "breakthrough".

Although i heard (but not verified o) that if she's been a virgin for a very long time, the "door" can get stronger; hence, breaking it might not be easy. Some people had to do surgery to get it opened!

Sweettea9:
These pimple-like outbreaks scattered all over my body most times no fluid inside and itches me seriously at night...have carried out all sort of test(HIV, MCs , yeast you name it,ALL OF THEM..the nurse said it was a bacterial infection) have been on drugs and topical creams since last year and it refuses to go..

it's still proves stubborn( go n come) I have been using a ketoconazole cream it would go n surface on another skin site but since last week HV gotten no response, I think my body system is now used to it now

Please and please I would like your suggestion on how to stop this once and for all, am really scared it's freaking me out beginning to think it's a CURSE

I don't know what to do any longer with myself and going out is a BIG problem. I have been suffering from depression for as long as I can remember

You could know how many times I pleaded showing our serious it really gets to me and I don't plan on visiting the hospital because of this pandemic...please help!!!!!

Its most likely a fungi infection!

My neighbour's boy had same issue but his was on the nose. They show up and become yellowish! Could be as much as 20 on the nose.

She got a particular anti-fungi cream which has solved the issue after using all sorts of antibiotics.

I'll ask my wife for d prescription and update this post

kayo80:
I'm tired of my Glo... Sometimes it will be okay (not fast), and sometimes it will be annoyingly slow.

After midnight, I can download a 100 mb movie within 2 minutes, but it will take 1 hour to download the same movie in the day time.

I also have Airtel line, and it is a bit faster than my Glo, but they zap data like crazy. Sometimes, they don't even warn you before your data finishes... You can have 400mb one minute, and the next, you get message you don't have data again.

I don't know how Etisalat and MTN are. Guys, which Network do you think I should go for? I really need fast internet connection cos of what I do on Instagram... Using Instagram with my Glo can be so frustrating. Sometimes I feel like throwing the Sim away, but they give some really good bonuses when you recharge a lot.

100mb in 2minutes ke? That's slow na!

When i download 2gb in 4mins!

Anyway, it all depends on the network, location, access (internet) device!

For me, Mtn is no 1. Airtel is doing fine but their connection times out and corrupts my downloads! And their data charging rate is questionable but they are the ones giving mtn a run for their money, hence, bringing down price of data due to competition!

9Mobile, i'm yet to use their 4G network! Glo? No way! Even their 4G LTE sim isn't working with my 4G lte mifi!

You get faster internet access if u use a 4G LTE mifi and access via wireless! Its far better than using the 4G mobile network on your phone!

So, get a 4G LTE (not just 4G) mifi, make sure it can use any sim from any network then note which telecomms provider is best in your area! U should have improved speed!

I use the Alcatel mw40 mifi shown below!

And by the way, that's my speed! I'm in abeokuta, ogun state!

ace1:
Good day fam,

I need advice. I want to get a new mattress but Making a decision is a problem. Experts in the House please help. Below are my options:
1) Vitafoam Haven 6 x 4.5; 10inch - 54,000
2) Vitafoam Grand 6 x 6; 10inch - 55,000
3) Mouka Mondeo 6 x 6; 10 inch - 58,000

I’m want something durable. I weigh about 85kg and I’m also trying to put an additional person into consideration (just Incase Friends visit). Which of the above will you advice I get?

Get a 6 x 7, 12 inches or more!

Consider when u start a family!

And as per weight, we are about same weight!

I use Sara Super Flex by Sara Foam and its about same price range as shown up there!

Well, to improve your communication skills, get this book by Kevin Hogan. Once u learn the secrets of how to communicate, you can apply to every form including your relationship.

I was a bit bad at communicating while growing up but i knew i was bad and searched for solution till i came across that book!

Here's the cover below!

successmatters:
Just stand in front of them and try to shout "I disown you!"

You will be shocked when they scream it together in your own face while throwing you out.

You don't know how hard it is to raise someone till age 30.

I think you're being rash, but you can give us the whole story so we can make more informed suggestions.

You know, you should consider taking comedy seriously as a career!

Yours response really cracked me up! But you raised a valid point!

Stay blessed!

asco15:
The Chadian army says it has killed 1,000 fighters during an operation against the Boko Haram armed group in the Lake Chad border region.


https://www.aljazeera.com/news/2020/04/chadian-troops-kill-1000-boko-haram-fighters-lake-chad-200409183528130.html

Is this also in 2015 or a lie?

At least we all trust Aljazeera

You dey mind dem wey dey talk 2015?

I knew someone will try to cover up someone!

Thanks for digging this aljazeera post up jare!

implementing:
how do I unlock mine bro, it's an airtel Vida m 2 mifi, I need to be using other sims in it

I googled for the procedure and stumbled on something some months ago!

I'll try and check for a link i found online!

I did try it for a friend and i used another sim (mtn) on it and it worked!

Mine was the old alcatel mw40! That one was easy to do but this one requires u plugin the modem into a computer before u can unlock

swazee:
With the current situation not just in Nigeria but in the world at large, it has been advised that we stay indoors. Internet is 2nd to food during this lockdown period as the rate of data consumption has skyrocketed.

This thread is to share our current data plans and to know which is the best and most cost efficient.

I use an Airtel 4G MIFI. I think the best Airtel subscription now is their 6gb for #1500 valid for 7days.

I have also heard about MTN 20gb for #3500. I guess that is better although I cannot use it because my MIFI accepts only Airtel sim.

Please share the current data plan you are using this period.

Mtn N500 for 2GB plus 512mb LTE bonus! 2 days validity and i use it with my airtel (alcatel) mw40 mifi!

I download mostly videos so i could subscribe like 4 times in a day!

By the way, why not unlock yours?

LewsTherin:
I guess it doesn't. It ends up on the street.

Now where does yours go to?

Congratulations!

haaaaaaaaa:
Hello Nairalanders, please come to my rescue.

My neighbour and I have been sharing one prepaid meter for about 3 months now. We recharge 5k worth of units expecting it to last for months Unfortunately, it doesn't last more than a week. My neighbours regularly use their twin hotplates to cook, water heater jug, one fridge and a freezer, they iron frequently and also failed to replace their bulbs with energy saving bulbs.

Please Nairalanders, what can I do about this? I'm sick and tired of everything.
Please I need suggestions.
Thanks.

Kindly help to fp mods

Sharing prepaid meter is the mother of all bad ideas!

For instance, i use LED bulbs that are rated 10w but pump out 1300 lumens which is quite bright. Infact i had to lower my generator speed cos it would be a waste of money.

Meanwhile, my neighbours are using the ever green 100 watts bulb and some flimsy 25 watts energy saving bulbs but obviously energy consuming along side some other equipments which consume much.

But still, we will be paying same amount when it eventually comes and that will start issues; Despite me using very less energy!

Best thing, get your prepaid meter to avoid wahala jare!

LewsTherin:
Why the bile? Triggered much?

Where does the waste water for the kitchen and bathroom go to? Into its own special non-soakaway storage?

And if a machine is rated to handle a load of 15kg, does that mean 15kg of water or 15kg of laundry?

Bros, ignorance isn't bliss.

Bros, stop arguing over what u don't know.

Does water from your bathroom and kitchen end up in your own soakaway?

Ours doesn't, ok?

Leave bile or whatever u call it! Na u start am!

Francis609:
I will be brief with the narrative . Am 33 years old engaged to be married. I live with my fiancé in a single room ( she started living with me since February due to some issues she had with her senior sister she stayed with). We both are working , we are not financially ok just managing. My mum doesn’t like my fiancé for no reason , her reasons are , 1. my fiancé is dark skinned and ugly , she said I am a man but i looks more beautiful than my fiancé , she is worrying about her giving birth to ugly kids lol , mum preferred me marrying a fair woman like her , 2. She is not from the same tribes as her , she wants me to marry a girl from her village because she doesn’t want me to end up a divorcee like her ( my mum and dad are not from the same village , they had so many issues in the marriage that led to their separations). My mum thinks marrying her will not be a very good ideas. As for me I told my mum , I love my fiancé , she is the most beautiful woman in my eyes , she is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with . My mum not happy and still disapprove of our relationships. She was not aware that my fiancé is staying with me , it was when my younger sister cane collecting money for her school fees , she met with my fiancé and has seen some of her stuffs in the room , she went back to telling my mum. She called me shouting at me , I’m stubborn like my dad , I don’t want to listen to what she is telling me about not marrying her, she will kill me , she has said a lot , no need for me to write everything on her . Then like a week later she has came to my place with my nephew only 1 year 6 months that she want to spend time with me because she misses me , according to her she was supposed to stay for a week but with this lockdown , things did not go according to plans , it will be 3 weeks on Wednesday , the space is not even big , I have been spending the day with them and when is evening I’m squatting with friends , while I leave my mum and fiancé in the house and she had been giving my fiancé lots of problems that today she has told me , she cannot stand my mum anymore and she want to leave and go and squat with her friends , I have been begging her to stay but she refused. I really feel sorry for my fiancé , I know how manipulative and controlling my mum can be , she is the type of person that can frustrate you till you commit suicide , I don’t even want to talk about what I went through living with her , I pity my fiancé , I don’t want her to go and stay with friends , she has nobody else apart from me. My mum has 5 children and a house , I just want her to go back to her house but I don’t know how to tell her without hurting her feelings. I need help, I can’t take it anymore

Well, i know that feeling... I think as a man, you have to come to terms with yourself about what u want in life! Your mum will eventually grow old and die! That is a fact but if she misleads u, can u live with the consequences?

Secondly, you shouldn't have allowed her to come in the first place! See, me and my younger sister, from same father and mother, we don't see eye to eye about a lot of things! How much more, my mum? Same goes with my dad! We disagree on a lot of things but the fact is, they are my parents and will always be!

They are entitled to their opinions and so am I. Everyone stands to be corrected over time.

Decide what u want and stand by it!

What is the guarantee that you and this your fiancee will get married and stay married?

On the other hand, what is the guarantee that the so called lady your mama wants u to marry will end well?

The decision is yours!

As things are, allow your fiancee to stay with her friends till your mama leaves! You obviously can't chase her away!

But be very diplomatic and objective in all that u do and also pray along!

Life has a way of messing with us all and can also be very funny!

Olayinka777:
Thanks Baba!

You are welcome jare!

U are very much right! Don't mind those who are shouting upandan!

Inform your landlord about it if things don't change before Govt Agents in charge of environmental affairs begin disturb u!

LewsTherin:
And where does the waste water from the kitchen and bathroom end up?

7kg of water? Is that a ship's balast? The 7kg written on thw machine is the weight of clothes the machine can carry and still operate.

OP, your soakaway is bad, poorly constructed, absorbing ground water or someother matter. Get a professional to work on it. The washing machine has nothing to do with it.

The only issue with your neighbour seems to be his unwillingness to be understanding of your fears, enough to try to allay them. And I am not surprised. Your complaints must sound extremely silly to his ears.

Learn to read to understand not just read to answer! How u take pass for school?

I already stated it in my post where the water for the kitchen and bathroom goes to na!

Where i dey, we don't channel kitchen and bathroom water into our soakaway so OP was right!

How will u even know, when na house with pit latrine una to dey rent!

See, U don't channel waste water into soakaway for toilet! That is meant for faeces!

Hell yeah, if u buy washing machine with larger capacity, so u would put 6kg of clothes and 1k or water, abi? So that the motor can get spoilt easily?

Have u heard of washing machines that can handle 15kg or more?

Bros, go siddon! And stop trying to pick on me!

Rather, help the OP solve his matter!

Olayinka777:
Good evening FAM,I need so clarifications to an issue.

We stay in a semi detached flat where we share the same average sized soakaway with our neighbor.

The challenges we always face is that the soakaway get filled easily and whenever it's been evacuated by waste management truck am always surprised that what they evacuate is over 80% of liquid.

Now the bone of contention is that my neighbor bought a washing machine last year and I discovered he connected the discharge pipe straight into the soakaway.

I had a dialogue with him that should connect the pipe out instead of fixing it into the same soak away that gets full quick,he said oh there is no issue with that that the washing machine doesn't use more than 1 litre of water and besides they only make use of it once a week.

Pls FAM is it true washing machines don't consume more than 1 litre of water?

The last time we evacuated the soakaway was on the 27th of December 2019,as I am typing this the soakaway has already showing a sign that it is full again.

Washing machines shouldn't be connected directly to soakaway na!

It should be connected to the normal drainage pipe for kitchen and bathroom water!

Meanwhile, an average washing machine can use up to 7kg of water depending on the capacity!

fagbalex:
Hello beautiful house,
Pls am planning to buy Toyota Avalon 2002 model. Though I knew the car isn't well use in town like the likes of Corrola and Camry but am about to get it for my own personal use.
Pls I will like your professional advice, uses, defect and maintenance of the car.
Furthermore, the car engine is 3.0l v6 so the fuel economy might not be favourable but I don't know if it share same consumption rate with that of 3.3l and 3.5l engines.
Your advices and recommendations will be appreciated.
Thanks.

Well, i've never used a Avalon before but i know they share same platform (engine) with Highlander and Sienna.

Just ensure u buy one with engine and gear in good condition.

For comparative fuel economy, check this site:

fueleconomy.gov/m

Then select the first option: "find and compare cars".

Select the year the car was manufactured and other options, and u will see the required data and also, u could compare its fuel economy with that of other models

franklingud:
1 week sub only

Na one month i think

festacman:
If I would have my way, Abba Kyari will not return as Chief of Staff as punishment for his flagrant act of carelessness that exposed Nigerian President and his entire cabinet to a possibility of viral attack. Failing, wilfully, to self-isolate was unprofessional and treasonous in some sense. Something must give.

Na so! But will uncle bubu or the powers that be allow that?

If dem no dey careful, they will all be re-infected again and again!

pocohantas:
I like the colour. My favourite colour of drinks. Like fayrouz and one flavour of chivita that I can’t remember now.

Nice one, sis.

Please, if you want men to drink it, tell them it would boost their libido.

If you want women to drink it, tell them it would give skin glow.

That's chivita exotic coconut na.

Lovely colour

squash47:
Universities and Polytechnics that are classified as "Research Institutions" have been shut down because of Coronavirus�

Now, I'm beginning to ask my self, where and when will SCIENCE STUDENTS and their PROFESSORS IN NIGERIA, come together to embark on a critical research process that is targeted towards finding the cure or at least a remedy to this disease ?

Or, are they still depending on the advanced nations to conduct research and find answers to every problem for them ?

Is it that we only have Professors whose expertise are efficient only when it comes to preparing "difficult" questions for students in exam ?

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If you're a science student or a scientist and you're not doing anything to help solve this problem that is about to set the globe on fire, Shame on you!

The world needs you now, prove to us that you're really a scientist!
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Are you talking about same people who are busy using "research money" to buy "toyota camry" and build houses?

HopeSpencer:
My wife said she doesn't believe her mother is her real mother. How can she politely ask her mother for maternity test?

When the eldest child in a family of 6 children was to go for marriage introduction, my wife was not informed despite still being with her parents at the time. Other siblings knew beforehand. My wife was informed on the day of introduction. My wife demanded why she was treated that way but was told that prophet asked them not to inform even the siblings, but was sure only her was kept in the dark.

There are other things that can't be described accurately here. Her mother is close to us as we are now making babies and she has to come and stay with us for a while, but my wife weeps in the closet everyday for setting her eyes on her mother after remembering her atrocities.

Make she maintain jare! Na her mama she be!

See, i experienced same thing as the first born and no hard feelings!

When dem wan come dey blame me say why i no go know, omo, i rake ehn, everybody kept quiet!

When yawa gas, dem no get the balls to tell me and i love it that way!

Madam, leave your mother/father and their prophet alone! Dem go learn the hard way!

Meanwhile, they have just saved u a lot of headache na!

nelsoooooo:
I got married as everyone , we lived a quite life , because I grew up in family that we had enough money but we hardly allow the money to get into us , I have a business that I was doing and I got my wife a shop where she sales groceries . In the neighborhood where we leave , it happens that I had to build our own house in a new settlement and my wife was not doing anything anymore and she said she wanted to go into fahion design and I paid for her to start ,and all of a sudden my own business begin to have problems because of the new place we parked to , my wife after visiting the elder sister that leaves in another state she changed her attitude she no longer wants me to touch her , she talks a.ny how to me , last year December I usually give her #150,000 to shop for her self and the childen but because of the way things I gave her ₦60,000 to manage . She started complaining that I am a poor man that she would leave me and go and stay with the mother , only for me to wake up on 1st Jan she had left the house with the kids and I called her she told me she was not coming back again and I called the mother the mother said it's better she stays with her , I called the elder sis she went visiting the last time , she said it's high time I allow her sister enjoy her self that I have been a blocking stone to her , ppl would want to help her when the find out that she is married they will not want to help her , as it is now I have not called her and she has not even called me it's getting to 2months now pls I need advice from u guys ,should I go ahead and call her or should I just wait .

So sorry for you bro! I can feel your pain!

Don't try reconciliation pls cos it may be disastrous! She might do same thing again on a bigger scale!

Try file for divorce, get the custody of your kids and if possible, get your ass faraway from such a woman and family!

She always had that attitude before u married her! U either didn't notice or u decided to ignore it!

The signs are always there brova!

Its a damn cold world! It is well!

[quote author=destiny10 post=86787318]Pls what should I do? Do I need to scan and reset code. Help needed. [/quote

Just run a scan, get the error codes then bring it back for interpretation!

Contact Gazzuz on nairaland here! He is a pro!

Nn3muka:
She doesn't want to hurt his feelings
The man is IMPOTENT and may not know

How can you be married, knacking every night and not score atleast one goal?
chukwuaju

Olodo! Its not impotence but not fertile!

And even at that, can't they both discuss it and find a way forward? He is not the first and won't be the last to be infertile na!
Does "not wanting to hurt his feelings" justify bringing another man's pregnancy to your hubby?

And wait sef, the man wey get the pregnancy, what if he shows up and wants his kids?

Are u telling me u can do the same?

I'm sure if DNA test becomes free for 1 month, a lot of homes will be shattered to pieces!

fineboynl:
it's not a clone. original.

I lose it and not tighten it. I mean the string now stretch out. should I have tightened it?

I guess we are talking about 2 different things!

What u are adjusting is the governor!

The stuff i'm talking about is on the carburettor!

Lemme see if i can send u a pix of what it looks like on my gen!

But that would be tomorrow o!

Meanwhile, drop the pix of your gen!

Psalme91:
It is almost 4AM my husband hasn’t come home yet, just because we found out that I am carrying another baby girl. I’m in pains. I don’t know what I have done to deserve all this .

Please help me beg God if I offended him unknowingly to please forgive me and blessed me with baby boys ( triplets). Please

My dear sister, weep no more!

You and your husband can determine the sex of your child!

Google and read about Dr. Shettle: How to determine the sex of your child!

Or get the book! Here's the book cover!

fineboynl:
I went to where I bought it today. the man told me not to tempered with it.

the screw with spring. I loose it a bit not clock wise. now it's even worst off. should I have tightened it?

i'm confused already.

I'm also not sure but on my own elepaq 1.8kva, it turned it fully clockwise! Tightened!

I suspect your generated isn't original. Maybe a clone! that's why u are experiencing that!

Why can't they fix the issue for u na?

This is not 2015 corolla na!

uboma:
That's a 2.8KVA generator.


Why did you lie that 1k fuel runs from 6:00pm to 6:00am the following morning?

Its very possible bro!

1k fuel is about 6.9 liters! Most gen will run 2-2.5hours per litre! 2 x 6.9litres = 12 hours so its very possible.

Especially if not fully loaded and u turn down the speed!

fineboynl:
I have only run it for lesser than 5 hours 30 mins. and have lost half tank already. I bout fuel N1600 10 litres.

I only power my small fridge and ceiling fan.

it's not economically viable as I will spend like 1k everyday alone just to power it from 6-7 o'clock to 11-12 o'clock.

Adjust the fuel intake valve .... clockwise i think (find out which one to turn o)! Cos most likely, your gen is running super rich: pumping more than fuel needed into the cylinder!

Had same issue with a 1.8kva i bought back then till i invested some time into some youtube videos!

Today, the fuel consumption is better! It does go down if i use it to run my deep freezer though!

If that does not work, then change the carb as suggested above