Nice one but instead of beating her, you would've sent her packing as punishment. Now you've placed your niece at more risk with your girlfriend still living with you. What if she poisons her to death? A girl who can behave like your girlfriend did can go any length to seek revenge. Beware shaaa
Anigreat: I'm sorry to bother you all this early morning with this my story.
Apologies for any blunders spotted, and sorry for the lengthy post.
I have a niece who unfortunately the mother died when she was barely a month old, and her mother was my only sibling as my mother gave birth to two of us, remaining only me now. Her death was really painful to us, but i thank God for consoling us especially my mother.
During her pregnancy, she never made mentioned of the person responsible for her pregnancy inspite of my mother's threat. When the inevitable happened we had no other option than to adopt the child. We were praying earnestly that the child survive, glory to God she did survive though it wasn't easy, as at now she's 14years old and currently in SSS1.
Last week my mum called me that my niece says she's coming to Uyo were i am staying to stay with me since there's no school for now, which i obliged to it immediately. Prior before this call, my girlfriend whom i intended to marry was staying with me. I informed her immediately that my niece is coming to stay with us for a short period of time, immediately i told her this, her countenance change through out that day. I keep on asking her what the matter was but she keep on saying nothing.
Monday last weekmy niece arrived my place.
My dears ever since my niece set her foot in my house, this girlfriend of mine whom i intended to marry turned to something else. She stop cooking, washing and sweeping, all she does is to ordered my niece around as her house help. I was so hurt seeing this that i confronted her thinking that she will change, but she went from bad to worst.
Yesterday morning i overheard her telling my niece to wash the toilet and mop the floor before thinking of eating. My niece replied that she's too tired that she won't be able to do it(I was actually happy inside when i hear this)
What follows next was a sounding knocked she gave to my niece and the poor girl screamed and started crying.
Truth be said, i was so furious that came out of the room. I didn't asked her anything i just told her your cup is full today. I dealt with her seriously. The beating i gave to her was out of this world, that she was bleeding, though later in the day i took her to a nearby clinic for treatment.
I have learnt alot this few days. Men should be careful of the type of women they intend to settle down with.
As some of them will manipulate you that you start hating your family members or stop them from coming to your house for no reasons if you're not strong.
I want her to get well after that i will put an end to the relationship, all marriage plan cancel, and no going back and no regret.
Imagine if I've gone ahead to marry her. Is this how she will be maltreating my niece? obviously i will forever leave in regrets.
If you ask me if i feel sorry for beating her, truth is, there's no atom of regret in me, and i will never feel sorry for her. If she has the mind to maltreat a poor girl whose mother is late, she's capable of anything.
How do you handle the DNA requirement or what would he claim that you are to him? His son or what?
dayoige: Real quick! I have a uncle in the UK who is a citizen and he assured me that if I can change my surname to his, he will fly me over to the UK.
I'm a 300L student studying economics here in Nigeria, and my name is .... ( This is the name I have in all my documents) and the surname my uncle want me to change to is 'Richard' so after changing my name it will look like this "Dayo Richard".
I want to apply for a change of name (to address the surname)
After doing the change of name I want to also apply for my National Identification Registration with (NIMC) which definitely I will have to do a new Birth Certificate with my new name.
Now my problem is this : Will the change of surname affect my travelling documents if I want to apply for a visa, since the surname I have on my academic documents is different from my new surname?
Instead of reporting and calling out the government on the deplapidated structures in the school which also encouraged the animals going there to graze, you're all about the camels grazing
GuestLog: A Facebook user has lamented about the use of a Government Primary School in Gwong area of Plateau State being used as grazing yard for camels due to nationwide lockdown of schools by the Federal Government in the wake of the Covid-19 pandemic.
1. Dubem is already exploring ways through which you guys can have kids by by-passing the genotype issue. This is an expensive venture and for him to have suggested it means he meant well for both your future and should be given a chance.
2. Denver may not appear tidy or have a considerable high level of education now, but that may be because he doesn't have anyone to give him the push to be a better person. You will do a good job with him if you chose to go his path.
As for the others, ignore them and concentrate on these two. All the best with your final choice.
WomaninherPrime: Good evening house. Kindly read patiently. I promise to be as honest as possible.
I'm a young woman in her mid-20s. I've been in three relationships so far... two were sexual, and one was purely celibate, though it didn't last beyond 6 months.
I recently got out of a 2-yr relationship with Dubem when we discovered our genotype isn't compatible. But the problem is that we're still doing a lot of back and forth. Dubem wants the relationship to continue because he's working on how we'd have our babies via IVF or chorionic villi testing to first determine the sex of the baby.
This has put me in a very confusing situation because I'm unable to move on while he's still holding on for us... and at the same time, I just keep thinking about how life would be a lot easier if I'd just marry a genotype compatible man and have children the regular way without the stress and huge financial cost of an IVF.
To fully move on from Dubem, I started seeing other people..
Nedu is a very great guy... has everything I want in a man, but he's having some financial challenges right now. He's cute, godly, very intelligent, good humour, communicates very well, respectful, sound family values, neat, and seems to me like someone who can take charge of his home. But his financial situation gives me cause for concern... he doesn't seem like he'd be comfortably ready to start a family in another 2/3 years. But that aside, his condition just dampens my enthusiasm to even visit him or start a committed relationship with him. No TV or fridge in his apartment. I feel embarrassed/sorry for him when he has to go watch TV at his friend's or neighbour's... Or I'm thinking of cooking stuff to take to him... but no fridge to store. Joykiller. Or the fact that he can't be a support system to me at the moment...
There's also Victor who comes off as a great guy but I've refused to pay him enough attention all these months because I'm still entangled with Dubem. Victor is doing quite well, and is passionate about his job, but he likes to talk about himself way too much, and seems a bit arrogant. The vibes I get off him is that he tries to be at his best behaviour when he's with me, just to impress, but maybe he's real. While I don't like like him at the moment, I feel if I gave him a chance, I'd see some other aspects of him that would make me love him.
There's Denver on the other hand. Denver is an absolute gentle man... and doing fairly well with his business. I almost said yes to him, but I felt it was coming from the place of pressure. He was putting me under a lot of pressure to say yes... he wants to get married in a minute, but I'm still not resolved on marrying him. Plus he's from a polygamous family, and his plan is for us to live in his disputed family house if/when we get married, and I feel that comes with a lot of drama. Also, he's a bit lackadaisical about his wellbeing. He doesn't seem very tidy. His car always has things strung about. I worry, too about his level of education. He has just a HND and is not in the corporate world whereas I have serious plans to get either a double masters plus lots of certifications or a Ph.D I fear there might be some sort of incompatibility years down the line. Other than these concerns, Denver is a great guy.
Then there's Bright... I've known Bright since I was in uni... he was planning a surprise engagement once, when we weren't even dating. He's the most inconsistent and confused man I've ever met. He's consistent for a aweek or two, then goes off-radar only to resurface again after a few months. But somehow he seems to believe I'm the one who's never agreed to take him seriously. But how do I take a man who's inconsistent seriously? Ideally, he shouldn't be on this list because I long cancelled him... but he called this morning and we had a very long conversation... which was short of him pleading that I calm down and take him seriously so we can move to the next level.
Now the reason I created this thread. I like having a linear focus when I'm in a relationship, but I'm unable to leave Dubem because all these other guys have one issue or the other. No, I'm not looking for a perfect guy. Dubem isn't perfect, but we've come a long way, and we love each other, and we've come to accept and understand each other as we are. I've become impatient... I feel like I'm at the prime of my life as a woman, and I have other suitors to choose from but I'm holding on to a very precarious relationship. Dubem might as well just wake up one day and decide that our genotype incompatibility is a big deal and we should see other people... at that time, one year of my life would have gone by...these great guys would have probably moved on, too. A woman's hotcake period is fleeting. For my personal plans, I'd love to be married by next year.
Ohh. I mentioned the thing about my two sexual relationships because I made a hasty vow to God once that I wouldn't have sex with more than two men before getting married. I don't know ...God is a merciful God, yeah...But that vow still pops up in my mind now and again. So I can't go into any careless relationship, and now I can't choose.
How Orji Kalu is able to keep his family under wrap needs to be studied
AseV: The General Overseer of Mountain of Holy Ghost Intervention and Deliverance Ministry, Prophet Chukwuemeka Odumeje, on Saturday, visited Camp Neya, Igbere Abia State, the country home of the Chief Whip of the Senate and former Governor of Abia state, Senator Orji Uzor Kalu
ABN TV gathered that the controversial Onitsha based prophet arrived Kalu’s hometown at exactly 2 pm.
Odumeje accompanied by his members on sighting Kalu entertained him with his dramatic moves and slangs
He expressed happiness for getting access to Kalu after several attempts.
Exactly ....the worst thing is, he might even have a gen in his apartment but may be fumes from a neigbhours generator filtering into his due to open windows
I don't understand, was the governor relying on the army for Intel or he decided to travel to those towns based in his own Intel? I want to believe he has people in his government who are from
RE: REPORT OF ATTACK ON THE CONVOY OF BORNO STATE GOVERNOR
1. The convoy of the Executive Governor of Borno State, Professor Babagana Gana Zulum came under Boko Haram Terrorists fire while visiting Baga Town on the 29th of July 2020. The Executive Governor had earlier paid a visit to the Commander, 19 Brigade at the Nigerian Army Super Camp Baga where he was fully briefed about the prevailing security situation in the general area. The unfortunate incident occurred shortly after the Governor and his entourage departed the Super Campaign to visit other parts of Baga town. The incident forced the Governor to abort his planned movement to Baga.
2. Although, details of the unfortunate incident is sketchy and under investigation, efforts are ongoing to comb the area where the incident occurred with a view to track down and deal decisively with the attackers. An investigation is also in progress to identify the circumstances that led to the attack.
3. Regretably, this is an isolated and most unfortunate incident that occurred in a territory where normalcy has since been restored with socio-economic activities picking up. The Nigerian Army wants to reassure the general public that this will be interrogated with a view to forestalling future re-occurance.
4. Additionally, Nigerian Army wishes to inform the general public that it will continue to discharge its responsibilities professionally with respect for the fundamental human rights of all Nigerians and in compliance with the extant rules of engagement. The good people of Baga town and indeed the entire Borno State are enjoined to continue to provide credible information that will assist the security agencies to successfully combat terrorism as well as apprehend and flush out the perpetrators of the attack.
SAGIR MUSA Colonel Acting Director Army Public Relations 30 July 2020
The likes of him are the reason Nigeria is still as it was back then and I tell you why.
In the hood they create terror just to forcefully grab their own share of the national cake and in the course of doing so, aids the government in diverting resources from governance to trying to police these communities. Their behavior also attracts the younger ones who look up to them for inspiration. The cycle is repeated as the years go by.
These thugs are killed in action, jailed, disappeared or they succeed in traveling out but each is replaced along the line by a new one. Imagine this guy now, 2023 he returns home with small cash, he will contest elections in his hood and win, the next thing would be to start grooming more thugs like him. We are in trouble!
Oluwole Owolabi who claims to be among top 10 Notorious Thugs in Mushin area of Lagos State was unhappy that Nigeria hasn't changed after 30-yrs that he left the country.
Yesterday was one of the most confusing days for me. For a moment, I almost ran mad.
Two weeks ago, I didn't even know what betting was like. Never done it, never experienced it. I hardly knew what the numbers meant.
Fast forward to yesterday, Tuesday, 28 July, I was risking a client's money on a game I thought was 'a sure bet.'
It was an eSports game I've been following for a while. I knew the players involved were very skilled and could score for fun. They did so in over 10 successive matches last night. So I thought it was worthwhile betting they'd score at least 2 goals.
I tried to do so in three attempts, but didn't have the mind to follow through, only for the matches to end up with at least 3 goals or more.
Informed by this, I thought it was safe to go on ahead and play this one time. I did. Unfortunately, both matches didn't end like I had predicted.
Over 800k was gone in a flash. I couldn't believe it. Seeing the signs, I attempted a cash out while the match was still live but couldn't, as the option wasn't available.
You may wonder why I had to risk such a huge sum.
It's simple; think I got greedy.
However, my excuse was that I needed money to offset some bills. Faced with so much responsibilities, I thought winning over a million naira would go a long way in helping me take care of stuff since business hasn't been coming in so much. The tile money I used was my first business since March, before the lockdown.
But, of course, my greed overshadowed any excuse I could offer.
To all the young men out there, please, regardless of how sure you are, do not stake more money than you're willing to lose. I've been there. The allure of making it big sooner can be overwhelming, but don't risk it.
If you must, stake little sums and make future bets from your winnings.
@I'm not sure whether this is the right place for this, but pls help push it to the front page so people can learn from my experience.
While I agree with you that the cost may have been over - inflated, but comparing the cost with that elsewhere may not really give the correct value. The steel roads and bars needs to be imported into Nigeria and cleared at a cost. If your comparison is in a country where the steel rods and bars are not subject to importation, then the cost of the same length of bridge would be cheaper.
Omihanifa: 1.36km bridge at the cost of 29billion naira is clearly over inflated but it's still better than doing nothing sha
Ok.but nothing really to apologize about though. It wasn't as if the candidate meant harm it was as a result of current situation of things and the recruiter could've used that as part of the interview asking the candidate.. 'Good, assuming you get a job with the bank, what would you do in your capacity as a staff to help repair the dented image of the bank or something similar'
The candidate did not insult the recruiter to be honest.
godguy: The recruiter actually ended the call because he expected an apology from the candidate.
Notwithstanding, the recruiter should have been patient enough to conclude the chat. The applicant though harsh was right to think it's a scammer cause it's getting too much.
The recruiter should have used a different opening line... My name is xyz and a recruiter calling on behalf of Bank so so... Am I on with candidate xyc?
I recently submitted some resumes for an opening in a bank. I was asked for referrals by one of the recruiters, so i source for candidates from LinkedIn and other sources. The recruiter later shared with me his experience with one of the candidate, below is how the conversation went:
Caller (recruiter) : Hello, good day , I am calling from xyz bank, im I onto Mr X?
Mr X (candidate): You want to ask for my BVN abi?, SCAMMERS
Caller (recruiter): We are actually calling for a chat after reviewing your cv
Mr X (candidate): Oh, i actually thought is all this scammers
Caller (recruiter)): ended the call
I hope you can pick some lesson(s) from the conversation, though there are scammers out there, but we should still be careful.
This is what feminism should be all about not the vile some show all in the name of being feminists
EBMedia: 17-Years-Old Girl Who Trended Online For Repairing Heavy Vehicle Forklift Gets FG's Scholariship (Photos)
IgbereTV reports that the Federal Government has promised to sponsor a 17-years-old girl, Popoopla Esther who went viral on the internet on Saturday, July 25, for repairing a forklift.
A Twitter user @ThepreciousAda who said her dad saw the girl at work posted in a series of tweets:
Later on, the Nigerian federal government through the minister of youth and sports, Sunday Dare, on Monday, July 27, said the federal government will give her a scholarship. Sunday asked @ThepreciousAda to quickly share her contact details for the facilitation of the scholarship.
Negotiate something higher like 100-150k then outline plans to help improve the station's income through other means other than sale of petroleum products
dosage150: Thanks so so much The owner asked me to meet him tomorrow to discuss how things will go so I need to be guided on what to say about my pay Thanks for the clue still a new station But sited in a very strategic place,along the road side
Truth is, what bonded you guys together must be very strong such that it extended to your own sister.
My advise is, stop flaunting on social media if you do, next use the current pandemic as an excuse anytime they come to you for money.
If you can may be later try and settle them for a business and cut them off. There are several government sponsored unemployment schemes they can enroll to and be getting free monies, you are not their weekend ATM card
I will really appreciate if moderator can help push this to front page.
Firstly, insults are welcome. I reside in Europe. Two of my friends they are biological brothers, they've been sucking me. I have been sending them money regularly for years, yes years, but I now realised that these people are not ready to work or learn any skill. Even their own biological brother in abroad reported them to me and doesn't take them serious anymore except their mum. Infarct, i used to send money to their mum too. But they just keep asking me for money everytime. Imagine I just sent you money when you said you are sick, two days after you sent me voice record asking me for money to rent a shop. Then the younger one who's chat bellow asking me for 100k for three of them as if I am picking money on the floor here. To some people in Nigeria who always think all nigerians in diaspora think we always think you're begging for money whenever you say hi just to hear from us, it is not the case. How about this too?
I am really tired. My wife who always agree I should help them have started complaining too. These two friends suddenly changed because I used to send them money even before they ask. It's like every week one problem must happen to them that require money. They will just send account number and the deadline time. They keep coming, coming, coming back again after giving. I have paid hundreds of thousands of naira for visa processing for one of them maybe at least they will stop asking me for money and one will be able to help his brother, but the visa was unsuccessful.
Few days ago one of them ask me to give him my sister's number that he just want to greet her since it's been years he saw her last. Behold, the next day my sister called to ask when did I hear from my friend last and did he mention about financial problem to me, I told my sister that he called me two days ago and asked of her number which I gave him. My sister said he requested for money to support his house rent and she sent him some money. I was shocked. Can you imagine guys? My friend. I am not saying it's a crime for him to ask my sister money but why lie to me that you just want to greet her when you asked me for her number? Whereas I just sent him money too not even up to a week.
See another demand again, see my reply, see his reply.
I know one or the two of them will start gossiping me around that I am proud, but they won't tell them about the good I have done for them, I have been doing. They won't. Some friends are not worth it anymore. I am very upset now that it's affecting me mentally and with my wife. Even my children were asking me last night "dad are you alright, you're not happy".
You know what again, one of them sent messages to my wife asking for mobile phone. I saw it but my wife didn't know that I saw it not until I responded to him myself and told my wife to never bother. My wife later sent the phone to him. Since then he's been using that opportunity to demand from her. Though he eventually stopped it but continue asking me only.
I have sent so much money but they just never stop asking. And I am not the time that take pictures and flaunt them on social media. I live my life on low-key.
I need your honest opinion.
Insults are welcome I promise I won't react to any insult.
I wanted to block them on my social media especially on WhatsApp but I had a rethink so they won't feel like I am proud because I am in abroad.
Go pay stamp duty first before you sign agreement? This one don mental.
1. No landlord or landlady will give you agreement to sign before paying (do they give agreement for face-me I face-you so? 2. You go to FIRS to pay stamp duty, their staff will first turn you left, right and center 3. Nor bi when the landlord/landlady allow you to go pay at FIRS sef ....will they not corner the money?
Family › Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by bigtt76(f): 12:43am On Aug 06, 2020
