₦airaland Forum

Realist5:
You are a liar. As at January 15, this year, one of your topics stated that you wanted a relationship that will lead to marriage. How comes again you're here saying you got married and have a baby already and someone is disturbing your wife? You have already lost your worth with this kind of lies.

Thanks for spotting this. Too many fake stories these days

Contrary to the report, I think Wole Soyinka should know better as he has been on the fore front fighting inequality and injustice. He was sitting on someone’s else seat which he shouldn’t have in the first place. If I was Soyinka I won’t take it dear to heart and even start up a conversation with the young chap because it’s wrong to sit on someone’s else seat.

Now this young chap would face unnecessary backlash if only Soyinka had done the right thing. I think it’s quite unfair to the boy who maybe under emotional trauma for doing what is consider civil. People should learn to respect themselves please - elderly or not; famous or not; rich or not.

Duggedised12:
If you can't get along, then call it off,is it that hard? Why lead her on and even get married behind her back?

That’s what he did by getting married to some one else.

This is sad to see and read. There is a lot of poor safety and traffic controls in Nigeria, especially in Lagos. Nigeria is not the only country that utilize trucks for haulage and logistics. However, time over time, we get to see similar accidents and nothing is being done.

In other countries, safety conditions of vehicle is very paramount. I will not only hold the government responsible even though they have the highest responsibility to ensure safety. However, Nigerians do not care about each other. There is no duty of care. Why would people ply roads with vehicles in terrible conditions?

People go to prison, have the license revoke or cars impounded for violating traffic laws or having unsafe vehicle on public roads. In Nigeria, this is not the case. You see written off vehicles still plying the road and people thanking their God when they escape accidents or traffic safety officers interested in financial gains than the lives of people.

If nothing is being done, I’m afraid accidents will keep happening. We cannot wish accidents away in Nigeria if there is no action to correct the mishaps.

babyfaceafrica:
this is what saraki has been reduced to?

Yea political oblivion for 4 years. He has resulted to step out to remind the electorate that he exists.

Young man this is my second comment on this. Ask yourself this question. If this girl wasn’t pregnant would you marry her, if the answer is no, don’t do it. Marriage is not an accidental discharge. It’s a life long commitment. You also have to confirm if that baby is yours.

I wonder why young men don’t clarify their relationship. All you wanted was company and not marriage. Why did you not inform her prior to sleeping with her. How certain are you that the baby is yours?

FortifiedCity:
I don't get what all these courtesy calls are for.

Looks like Ned is a shareful giver

That’s how star do. They tag along to see what they can benefit. Regina’s mom is now producing movies bankrolled by her in-law.

kenzosky:
Obasanjo is the most disgusting thing that happened to Nigeria.

We have the natural tendencies as Nigerians to hate our leaders and that’s understandable given the wide spread of poverty and income inequality in the country. However, Obasanjo is one president that made remarkable changes within the 8 years he was president. I am yet to see any Nigerian President that has conceived and implemented policies like Obasanjo.

[quote author= post=79238383]This is highly disturbing......

No more shame and dignity in the world!

Shame to the seller and the buyer!!

Pay your customer for the product you bought and both parties go in peace.........[/quote]Sometimes I wonder why it has to denigrate to the level of being naked. I do not want to bash the lady but I feel at least her clothings should be on her prior to chasing for her fee. I don’t know if she considered the consequences and negative opinion afterwards and no amount of money can erase such opinion.

To the man, why embark on a journey without the prerequisite materials. That’s nasty. You deserve the treatment.

The word nigga is a derogatory word

luxy44:
Can you see one of them here!!! That stupid mindset. What is wrong in being a taxi driver? Is it degrading or derogatory?? Is a job that feeds you, come out , embrace it, be proud of it....don't discuss your failed career with your passengers or riders. He/she has issues too. Life is a journey, you encounter your shit, i deal with my mess!!! Grow up!!!

I have told you and would repeat again that you are a horrible disgusting soul roaming the planet. It’s not an insult. Just reiterating what you already know. Try to work on yourself and understand that respect to everyone is important.

FYI - I work with one of the biggest financial institution in North America. Prior to that, I was acting group head with the fastest growing bank in Africa. Prior to that, I was team lead of now the biggest Bank in sub-Sahara Africa. I have managed people like you and I know your kind. I’m also giving you a glimpse of my professional life to let you know that they are older people on this forum. Hence, before you respond to comment don’t presume everyone is your age or work mate.

Learn to work on yourself and your attitude. You are not better than a taxi driver and the same goes for me. We need them and they need us. We must respect them and respect the service they offer.

Just because you can afford an Uber ride doesn’t mean you can afford the driver. If you consider yourself too highly and have respect for yourself, it would be better to utilize alternative means of transportation

luxy44:
I am on koko side on this issue. The grammar the uber driving was blowing showed he is a frustrated under achiever. He took on that girl. I have experienced lots of them in Nigeria. They have complex issue and have a mind set. Most time, i need to engage them jokingly to cool their nerves so i can enjoy my ride...

Frustrated uber drivers everywhere....even on their useless thread here on nairaland. You will read/hear things like, i have MBA, i have MSC, i was a manager, i was in the bank etc...abeg drop that for house and act like a taxi driver!!

You are a disgusting human being. This is not an insult. It’s to mirror your attitude so you can work on it. You are not bigger than taxi drivers. They work and earn a living and also contribute to society.

xjiggy:
Even on instagram she's saying the driver believe he's better than a "mere" driver. How condescending. Some of these uber drivers are well educated and humble. These so called celebrities are scum. Even in her narrative, she used insulting words on the driver before the issue gone blown out of proportion. Stupid narrative. I was tired, I was tired. As if she jog reach airport. Nonsense

How is she any better than the Uber driver and what is she being celebrated for? Appearing on an immoral tv show.

Nigerians are disrespectful people. I know this and I don’t believe both of them.

These people can lie for attention. It’s a disease.

Madam Chinasa you have many witness against you including your pastor. Let the man go. If you already have a fiancée, concentrate on that relationship

Let me say this due to experience. Never allow external parties live in your house. We tolerate our kids when they act up because they are our kids. We tolerate our spouses because of the same reason. We may not tolerate other parties because we may not be emotional attached to them.

Having external parties stay with you creates problems even when these parties are not as strong willed as your MIL. In your case you are wise in anticipating these inevitable problems.

Some people here have offer good advice such as your husband offering to rent a place for them in Maryland and continue to support them. You may also consider supporting too financially because both of you are in it together.

I’m quite disappointed with your husband’s decision and attachment with his family. I agree he feels obligated to his mom but not to a point of being subservient to her. It seems your MIL is running your husband’s affairs and that certainly not good for a man.

Your husband needs to start acting as a man with family and not a man in a family.

Please respect the Legend

Mbakuthegreat:
Again polygamy and cheating is not the same thing, if he actually believed in polygamy himself and thought that it was the way to live then why was he keeping it a secret that he was sleeping with another women? That was an random excuse spewed out for his bad behaviour and its such a bad excuse that i cant imagine any man using it which is why i have my suspisions that OP may be here to batch african men and their way of life... What is she implying then saying that african men need to know that women have feelings, are we emotioneless unlike european men? That is basically what she is saying. She shouldn’t try to use her bad husband that she choose as the representation of african men. Did i say that polygamy is not practised in africa? And polygamy is not the problem here, cheating is. And OP has not responded to any of the comments, if she doesn’t after a day it probably nothing more than a fake person here to spew shit and not genuine.

I agree with you completely. Had my doubts with the story. Bashing men seems to generate online traffic especially from women.

oluwamile:
Woman are actually the source of there own problem,so u knw this man is ur neighbour who has a wife and a kid,u still going out with him,no sense of dignity
Ur hubby is under attack,he doesn't even knw what he is doing and this is a plot by the devil to devour ur marriage..
Just leave the house for him for now,and begin to pray fervent prayers,if possible go for deliverance and start praying hard

First I’m skeptical about the thread. Don’t know if it’s true or not. However, some women can be crafty and her aim is to kick the wife out. The wife is already considering that option and if she’s Hell bent on that, I wish her the best.

The husband messed up. You don’t bring your shit home. Respect your family.

BitmapStudios:
I tried sending you an email but I don't understand this Nairaland system. Can you send me email or what's app number to +2349023548199?
Did you know there are much better ways to this than your initial resolution? Let's talk, please.

Have you considered if this story was fake and written because the aim is to generate traffic.

Three (3) years of constant issues and no remorse or change from her. Chief, your wife has lost interest in you. At this point, initiate a peace process. Talk to her to find out what’s wrong. However, you must begin to prepare for the worse. Her behavior are warning signs that a divorce proceedings maybe initiated.

From this day, start to work on yourself, your finance and begin to study on how to protect yourself in the case of a divorce. Use the temporary peace to strategize. You must have an exit strategy in place. Any man married and living in the western world must have an exit strategy in the case of divorce eventualities.

I wish you the best and I hope you can sort your marital issues.

kingkakaone:
This lady should stop disturbing us please.
Imagine him collecting money from you and also impregnated you.
How did business deal lead to pregnancy?

Most people insult Ubi without asking the necessary questions.
How did their business ended in the bedroom?
Besides, didn't she know about his children from different ladies before?
Ubi has been a major media guy for years now.

That being said, Ubi is irresponsible somehow. How can he just be on a pregnancy streak without fear of diseases.

Ubi is a philanderer based on popular discussion. Have you thought of both of them being in a relationship prior to any financial relationship got involved.

Cutebabiesmum:
The lady is married and having accommodation issue. She live with her parent and her parent are not really old like that. My husband can go after anything on skirt, I am 100% sure of that. It is just a pity I end up with such man and the most annoying part of it is he's 1min man. I swear to God he can't do more than 1min and can't also do more than 1 round in a day

Madam - you are a bad wife. I’m not saying this to insult you. Your husband is your family. Whether you divorce him, separate from him or kill him. He would remain a part of your life.

Stop divulging family issues with the public, your neighbors and your friends.

Richy4:
U are partly to be blamed in this anyways ie if u were the type that can handle the truth ... U collected recharge cards that u never worked for.. In this world, there's no free lunch... U payback one way or another...
But next time if she gives you attitude, politely explain to her that reporting your boss to her was not in your job description..

If only he has another job or there is one he can readily get

kennybabs1980:
Honestly you're very correct. What should be my business with whatever happens in their home? What I don't like is the way the woman wanted to cunningly drag me into what doesn't concern me. See me see wahala sha.

She is an insecure woman - that’s what they do.

I would advise you consider looking for another job. Do not test the emotions of a scorned woman. They will go at all length to get what they want and don’t mind burning bridges. I’m shocked she is calling you just to say “Hi”. I don’t think your Boss would like such coziness and it maybe misinterpreted.

Get yourself out of that situation. Trust me, that woman would get rid of you either deliberately or otherwise. You are no longer her friend.

patani:
I think you should tell the boss what his wife is doing. Otherwise, you will be the biggest looser in the game she is trying to play

Not a bad idea but still sensitive. The poster is in a serious dilemma and should consider looking for another job. The wife knows the husband is cheating but wants evidence. What she wants to do with it - Only God knows (women and their ridiculous ways).

She deliberately courted the poster to divulge secrets and it appears there is no headway. She would dispose of him in order to get someone to do her biddings. Her next move is to begin to poison the husband’s mind and highlight the poster’s mistakes whenever the opportunity comes.

I can only tell the poster to get out of that situation because he would be the grass that would get burnt.

Cutebabiesmum:
Good evening beautiful people, not like am suspecting my husband but I want to hear people opinion. There's this lady with 2 kids that is staying with her parent in our compound. I heard their landlord evicted her and her husband and they have not been able to raise money and get another apartment so she brought her two kids to stay with her parent while her husband squat with someone else.
I normally hear this lady greet my husband "good morning sir" "afternoon sir" I mean she always add sir anytime she's greeting him. But recently she stopped greeting him even if she come to our apartment to charge phone(their apartment light was disconnected and they haven't pay their bills). Just some months ago, someone from our compound told me my husband is giving this lady feeding money(a married woman o) I didn't believe the amebo because I have been the one financing almost everything in that house including paying my son's school fees because oga said he's broke which I believe him.
Is it possible he's dating the lady or am just getting worried over nothing? Please don't mind all my grammatical error because am not in good mood now at all

The real enemy is the SOMEONE who gave you the information. Where was this person when the money changed hands? How did this person draw the conclusion the money was “feeding money”?

IdreamOfUnicorn:
people would only love you when its BENEFICIAL

True word

taiwolomo1:
coz he'd using the gals popularity for his ambitious political gain!!!....All na show off! Dt man has motives! Dnt be surprise he might start thinking of contesting for delta state governor or even president

Very possible. Hence, he wasn’t just marrying her for beauty, youth or what she has to offer below. Ned seems like a smarter man in all this and the party actually gaining more from the marriage