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I'm not a Christian. But Christians should do better in sanitizing their holy places from all these.

Somebody will still come and say it's the heart God sees. No be wetin dey your heart you go exhibit outside.

Some will say anyone is welcomed to the house of God, come anyhow, come looking seductive, yes? Come looking like you are insane.

Untill everyone goes back to the real and original teachings of their holy books especially Christians, your faith will continue to be treated as a joke.

Once your common sense and conscience feels something is wrong, it is wrong, forget what the so called men of God say. We are all men of God jhoor!

You want men to be disciplined and resist temptations, yet you still allow temptations into holy places, shey that one make sense?

If you quote me, make sure you have something sensible to say. I have little time for nonsense.

Iamlakexide:
I strongly believe someday is coming she will need to explain more of this act to her offspring.

I really doubt they care at all

This one started out same time with Funke Akindele aka Jennifer in that I need to know series. Today Jennifer is making a good name while this madam is showcasing booty.

It will not be well with all those ladies that keep making serious decent girls look like a complete joke.

Lyydia:
There's this guy that we have been dating for 6 months, we love each other very well and we plan on marrying each other.

Here is the deal, we plan on no sex before marriage due to personal reasons. I don't ask for money also, we do cuddle and kiss sometimes. But not sex!

Of recent, he has been acting strange and wants to go beyond our normal cuddle level. I cautioned him about this and he promised to change! But he still does this.

Yesterday it happened again as I got furious and asked him to leave.

Did I overreact? I called, he has not picked up since yesterday.

Abeg stand your ground. It's not any body's bloody business whether you are virgin or not.

Is that even a man, if he can't be disciplined with the thing in the middle of his legs? Or you think giving him sex will keep him? you'll look back and wonder what happened when he still leaves you, you'll be more heart brokened.

Pls keep your dignity and let the manipulator leave. You no do be you no do. Sex with a man that's not your husband means you are ready to lose your dignity. Those who don't agree, argue with your ancestors.

The reason earth is earth and life is life is because by observation, by experience, we know that there’s no smooth sailing.

We know good times and bad times take turns in our lives, everything might just be going good and suddenly you are hit by one bad news that could feel like your world has toppled over. On the other hand, you might just be at your lowest and a visit, a phone call would turn everything around for good.

So what are the trials of life and how can we be better prepared to manage and handle them.

THE TRIAL OF ILLNESS

The healthiest of persons suddenly come down with unexpected illnesses. Kidney failure, Cancer, Liver problems. Some will battle this problems for the rest of their lives some will die from it due to lack of funds to help them get their health back. We have all likely had people we know around us, who died from illnesses like this.

Sometimes we are not the ones directly affected by failing health, we deal with loved ones who suddenly have failing health, and the family becomes burdened with the emotional stress and financial stress of taking care of that person.

Let’s not forget medical emergencies too suddenly spring out of nowhere.

How to manage this – Having emergency funds for any eventualities. Having health insurance. Avoiding the likelihood of being prone to ill health in the first place through eating right, exercising and avoiding a toxic life generally.

THE TRIAL OF A WRONG PARTNER

When relationships between couples fail, you hear people begin to ask, didn’t they court, didn’t you see the signs?

Again, we have to make reference to the fact that life is unpredictable, maybe a certain character trait is yet to exhibit itself due to circumstances around you e.g. Coming by some wealth or losing all wealth then you see that partner exhibiting strange behaviors which end up affecting the union.

How to manage this – It still remains important to study a potential partner well, to learn not to ignore the red flags, to observe them under different situations, in moments of anger, moments of plenty, moments of pain how do they behave? Know what you can endure and know when to take your exit. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.

THE TRIAL OF BETRAYAL

Anyone who has given their loyalty and trusted but got betrayed understand perfectly the pain of betrayal. Betrayal from a family member, from a spouse, a friend, a colleague. It hurts us and leaves a mark for quite a long time. We sometimes can’t trust again, we build walls, we push even the good and honest people away from us, and some people decide to become monsters who hurt other people because someone once betrayed them. Trust and loyalty are precious things, when we give it we expect it back, when it’s broken, it breaks us too.

How to manage this – Trusting with caution and not too early. Learning not to shove off questionable behavior till it becomes too late. Most importantly, understanding we can’t control what others do, but how we react is most important, protect your peace.

THE TRIAL OF LOSS OF MEANS

Wealthy great people do come to some misfortune. It’s stupid to think anyone is made for life, abeg which life? This same life wey all of us dey inside so?

Anything at all can happen. People make bad financial decisions and lose everything, people lose their assets to natural or man made disasters.

How to manage this – Having good savings. Helping people who need you in your period of plenty for they can lift you up in your moment of loss. Patiently waiting it out and making efforts to regain lost wealth.

THE TRIAL OF WAITING

You are waiting to get a job, to get married, to have a child, to get your health back, to get that visa. You are dejected and just waiting endlessly. The wait seems infinite sometimes hopeless. We’ve all been there. Waiting for something.

How to manage this – Increase Hope. Look for plan Bs. Your plan A is why you keep waiting, so what can you replace with for now to ease your wait? e.g take a lesser job while waiting for your dream job, maybe you could adopt a child or look for other modern day solutions to this child you want, maybe you could try going to a different country since the one you got your eyes on isn’t coming through.

Set your moral codes, values, principles, manners and more right.

Source - themoralcodeng.com

daben1:
The way you girls think self ehn, once you're in a relationship with an average Nigerian girl, it has automatically become your responsibility to be doing the calling while her own responsibility is to be at the receiving end... "He stopped calling as he used to"
Relationship should be a 50-50 stuff.
The relationship failed because of lack of communication: because your responsibility is to wait while he calls while you receive

Are you sure you can read and can comprehend properly. You should read the post again, to understand and not to comment.

Think all the consequences of sexual laxity. Some are not even physical. I used to think that was crap, but you don't keep joining body with just anybody, na so some kain evil spirit or evil destiny go begin follow you.

Also imagine one of your kids having a behavior like this and how you'll feel knowing this, cuz they might start at such a young age. So get rid of the spirit that's making you tempted.

Now more seriously. Even when on a diet, you derail sometimes, get back up, don't follow trails that lead you to what you don't want.

What you feed your mind is very important. Not sure I'm saying anything that hasn't been said. Good enough that you identified you have a problem

temmypotter:
Prince Harry no get sense, walahi. Why do some people love complication, must you be the one to disrupt the status quo - something that has been for countless generations because your wife wants to go back to hollywood.

May we not have sissies like Harry as sons

Ha ha ha! That's how we've been doing it gang.

Why so annoyed by another human beings willing decision? There's more to life than forming royalty.

Fame and money is not what everyone is about in this life.

MrCork:
Muslims always hated Christians anyways... look at iran

abeg shift! Let people with the right facts and understanding speak on this matter, to you this is a religious war which makes you a complete illiterate. Must you say something or contribute.

makydebbie:
I don't even know sef.
Just act normal jare.
And close your mouth when eating so I can't hear those annoying sounds.

That sound can bring out the devil in you.

ProfDview:
When a man make peace with the fact "these wh*ores will always fvck around" , there won't be need for suicide.

If u have a gf make sure you utilise her thoroughly, as in fvck her thoroughly and wait for the D-Day

Say as a woman I have a lot of projects at hand to write or excute, and this is this service you claim to render in your bio.

As a woman I'm supposed to engage your services with a comment like this?

Please show your mother this comment you made or the person who raised you, come back and report here what they said.

Look in the mirror and say the following "I am a completely irresponsible man who will gradually destroy his life with the kind of mindset I have have"

Awon omo jati jati!

Fisher007:
Hmm where do I start from?

He never understood his wife's nature. He never knew people can change especially his wife. Even himself can change.without knowing. This case is just sad. Most men don't even know their so called holy, trustworthy, loyal wives are most likely the same as that woman.

And the day they eventually realise, I pray they don't snap like this pastor and kill their wives. That why they say most women carry a lot of secret to their grave. I always say your legacy as a man is your child (confirm after multiple DNA test). After it the women or ladies or wives in your life are just vessels. It is a hard truth.

Women are fickle like cats. You can never catch or see two cats having sex. Slimmy and full or mystery, which is better for you not to unravel. They change behavior or virtue signal you at most time to give you an image of what you want them to be.

Men are like dogs. Too open and can see them.acting up. Big mistake but that is how they were created. Men cover themselves with a smokescreen of my wife, sister, mother, female friend, girlfriend etc are not like normal female. But pray that circumstance don't arrive that will lead to.exposing their true nature. Most men will nearly snap or run crazy.

Qoute me at your peril. Time will show you and help you accept the bitter truth.

Bla Bla Bla! Why are you afraid of being quoted. Man's nature in general is fickle. It's not a women thing.

But then believe what you want, it's a good road to a miserable life. Time too will tell you that.

Babacele:
hmmmm madam Standing Ovation!

Lolz! So village people have started returning from their holidays.

Abujaexpress:
Ask of what led to it! I had a tender to submit that morning and before I got to office, I gave her a task to make some photocopies. I came back to meet she only made one and I told her to go make the other. She went to the business center (my copier had a problem) and came back without making the copies. She was telling me that the document on the already bound tender document was same thing as the other one. She kept arguing and at this time, time was almost up for the submission. I now opened the document, shew it to her and in that process I discovered that other vital documents removed from the bound copy. I flared and flinged the document. The document did not touch her, madam. Same thing you could have done even to your husband

So you want to return somebody that will make you fling rock towards her this time? Why asking NL this question.

Best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. She only showed you a tip of the ice berg. Better employ competent hands except you indeed have other motives.

And avoid flinging anything towards anybody, no matter how angry, which is also why you stay away from people who can make you act in vile ways.

How difficult is this oga? It's common sense na.

Oga you're not crazy, any other question?[/quote]She had someone, so she said no even though he was far. In an era where everyone cheats now and it's okay, that's rare I guess. Besides things change. You might like who you thought you didn't before or whatever.

smat101:
I Am Planing To Seriously Beat My Kid Sister 2moro Morning

What I was scared of is finally happening...
I've a lot to say but let me try to be brief...

It's been 4years+ since I last went home to see my mum and siblings. I really love my kid sister so much even more than my mum.

There is a lot to say but to cut the long story short, when I came back she had already developed breast but she is just 14 years.
Just today I talked to her about sex, boyfriends, pornography relationship, sex, everything in that area.

Recently she was using my phone for Facebook, then I asked her consent to read some of her messages which she agreed. As I was reading through she dragged the phone from my hand when I wanted to click a particular chat. I became inquisitive but respected her privacy. I then asked her to log out when she is done...

Just this night I wanted to login to my Facebook then I clicked the Facebook icon her account was still logged in... What I saw broke my heart, she was planning to send nudes to a guy and the guy was planning to have sex with her this weekend, she kept on telling him that she was afraid, but he kept on telling her he will use condom, that she should not be afraid...

My problem is that she is a minor and this guy is 27...

So this is what I plan to do, Flog her thoroughly very early tomorrow, then later talk to her again...
Then that bastard beat him up in the evening with two other guys...

I really love this girl and Want the best for her pls parents preferably how should I handle this matter .

Lolz! Now that you've told us you'll flog her, you wnt do that again, hopefully. Do what elder brothers do, the ones that love them sisters. They protect.

And obviously she's not had sexual experience, hence she telling the guy she's scared. She lacks experience. She doesn't understand that people prey on your innocence, she doesn't understand that years later she'll wish she acted differently.

BUT it's also important to stop nonsense from happening, from one thing girl Don turn promiscuous. Let her know the consequences of sex at a young age, physically and psychologically, plus in the sight of God.

Young girls are very naive, she may believe she's in love like that. Let her know, you know and give her wise counsel, you should also know her friends, male and female.

Brendaniel:
I have made a decision to not force any relationship to work, I have worked so much on self love that I plan telling whoever i marry in future that anyday She feels She is tired of the union She should let me know and I will let her be and would never hold anything against her because life to me shouldn't be full of problems, same reason i would let her pursue all her dreams She had before She married me as long as it doesn't affect our union negatively, At the end of the day we are all different human with different purposes in life and will meet our creator differently just as we came differently.

Standing ovation for you Mister. Hope you meet a partner that compliments you and your ideology. An enlightened colleague said 90% of people, don't have sense. Lolz! So imagine what we dealing with out there every day

A305:
Nobody is too busy for the one they love, you just not all that of priority anymore. It wise not not to stick around as you would be easily manipulated by your busy partner. Just leave or don't bother them no more. Just focus more in your life and probably get that cheap 09 corrolla on my page

Woah! This level of salesman skills. Valid points though.

daddycee91:
Informing your friend means you care about his life. She could infect him with some STD that could shorten his life. Don't listen to people saying you should mind your business. If you friend gets aids for an instance from his wife, you would blame yourself for not alerting him early enough

Gbam! Thank you jare. Sometimes, mind your business people are wicked people.

Romanoff:
Issues like this are very sensitive.

The woman might have covered her tracks so well that it will only take being caught redhanded before you can have a case.

2. You should have greeted her and called her husband on the phone immediately to say "guy, I just stumble on madam now now for so so so and so".....



3. If you and your best friend are very close, you shouldn't have an issue telling him what you saw, you can also advise him to be vigilant. If you don't, it means you're enabling her infidelity if she's unfaithful.

you always make sense. People like to say mind your business. How do you minds your business when it concerns someone close to you.

Maybe a friend like a brother. One that has rescued you in times of trouble. It's simply wicked not to find a way or diplomatic way to reveal this. Especially if you are sure.

TheLaughter:
Some are saying there isn't, others say there is...

I have prayed on my own but I am not getting any revelation...

Now I am scared, I have asked myself what if spirituality is true and all they are saying is true?

I don't want to make any mistakes, but when it comes to compatibility, we are really compatible...

See eh! You just want to control things not in your power, the skies will not open and give you a sign, it's hwt you feel in your heart about her that matters, and what you know of her character. And have it in mind that marriage must and will experience crisis, it still doesn't make the person the wrong person, just makes you all human.

Besides what if it's actually you that's wrong for her? Lolz! Just saying. What if it's you who starts experiencing mid life crisis one day and break the poor woman's head.

Jokes apart, I understand you are just concerned. Prophets and seers and 90% of the times plain liars. Trust your own judgment and handle any negative situations as they arise, in your marriage.

Think about the curse that will follow you when someone's daughter who has been dedicated to you in name of relationship is jilted because of some mumu prophesy. See, be a human be who trusts your own judgment. Goodbye.

2019 was undoubtedly an eventful year for most Nigerians. However, the last year of the decade was rocked by so many controversies. From the entertainers to the common man, to so called celebrities that like running their mouths saying the wrong things, everyone seemed to be in the news for one reason or another.

This post, however, points towards those who hugged the headlines for the wrong reasons and made many question if our morals as a nation, still stands strong.

In no particular order, The Moral Code takes a look at some moral shocks around Naija in 2019.


HAVING BIG BOOTY IS BETTER THAN MASTERS DEGREE – NAIRA MARLEY

In the month of October, controversial Nigerian rapper, Naira Marley made a statement that ‘Having a big booty is better than a master’s degree’. He then went on to pray for his female followers that their butt will get “fatter” and their stomach “flatter”.

In a generation where ‘school’ has been referred to as ‘scam’ on various occasions, this particular statement got many Nigerians talking. With many left on both sides of the divide. But what is to be expected from a so called musician who has a song promoting masturbation. That’s just filthy.

To think that a lot of youths and some celebrities supported this statement, goes a long way to show how much we have failed as a nation, as regards morals. But fact remains, whatever message anyone has to pass, they will always have their audience. Psychological decadence is the reason anyone would see this as the right message.

BLOGGER, BLESSING OKORO ARRESTED OVER CLAIMING MILLIONAIRE’S HOUSE ON SOCIAL MEDIA

Popular ‘fake it till you make it’ preacher, relationship expert and Instagram blogger, Blessing Okoro, AKA Blessing CEO, was arrested after she tried to pass off someone else’s house as hers and took a photo in front of it.

On the day she turned 30, Blessing unveiled a new 7-bedroom duplex which she claimed she built.

But the owner of the house, Onye Eze, an Igbo business man based in China, got wind of her deception and exposed her online. Yet Blessing kept insisting the house was hers and she shared the plan of a house as proof. She also shared a video of the house to try to salvage her reputation.

Unfortunately for Blessing, she went too far with the scam as she was arrested and was forced to confess on camera.

Please guys, if you don’t have it, I beg you, don’t fake it! Nobody is tensioning you, na you dey tension yourself, people are thinking of their own lives in doors and you are trying to impress folks who don’t matter.

The event went to show how far we can go to be fake.

MOTHER OF QUEEN’S COLLEGE STUDENT FIGHTS SCHOOL’S SECURITY GUARDS FOR ALLEGEDLY TURNING BACK HER DAUGHTER WHO FIXED EYELASHES

A parent standing up for their child is often expected and regarded as the responsible thing to do. However, it appears some parents take this expectation to the extreme and as is with this case.

According to the gist, she got involved in the altercation with the school security guards, after her daughter was sent away for wearing eyelash extensions.

One has to wonder, why couldn’t she fight over her daughter making better grades. What business does a teenage girl have with fixing eye extensions to a secondary school? Rules are rules for a reason, obey or get out of the place within which the rules apply.

For those who could open their mouths to ask if the lashes would prevent her from learning? Yes, it would, her aim is to get attention and not education, and a school aims to give you education, character and morals.

SENATOR CAUGHT ON CAMERA ASSAULTING WOMAN AT intimacy gadget SHOP

In July 2019, a video surfaced online, showing senator Elisha Abbo, Nigeria's youngest senator, physically assaulting a supposedly pregnant woman.

In the video, Elisha Abbo, representing Adamawa North Senatorial District, was seen descending on the woman after she pleaded with him not to physically assault the shop owner whom the senator had accused of insulting him.

The worst part of it all was that the attack happened as an armed mobile police officer looked on, and instead made attempt to arrest the victim.

This particular incident sparked a lot of debate and trended on social media platforms for some time, with some people calling for the senator to step down . Senator Elisha however apologized on public TV days later, shedding crocodile tears.

We are clamoring for not too young to run bill, and our youngest senator embarrasses us like this, he was also given an award somewhere with a title beacon of hope. One has to wonder what type of hope.

SEX TAPE OF BABCOCK STUDENTS LEAKS ONLINE

A sex tape featuring two students (the girl a current student of the institution and the guy ; An expelled student in rehab) was leaked and subsequently went viral, leading to the expulsion of the lady in the video by Babcock University.

Although most criticized the judgment of the school authority claiming the act did not happen on campus.

FBI ARRESTS NIGERIA’S FORBES LISTED UNDER 30 BILLIONAIRE,  OBINWANNE OKEKE  OVER $12M SCAM

Sometime between the 2nd and 6th of August, 2019, the U.S Federal Bureau of Investigation (FBI) arrested the CEO of Nigerian firm Invictus Group , Obinwanne Okeke, for conspiracy to commit computer fraud and wire fraud

The 31 - year - old Nigerian was , in 2016 , celebrated by Forbes as one of Africa ’s “ most outstanding 30 entrepreneurs under the age of 30 .” He was described by the magazine as “ proof that there is hope for Africa .”

To all the youths out there, 'not all that glitters is gold'.  Do not be swayed by the immense wealth of others. Hustle hard, but make sure your hustle is 100% legit. Process is good, but get rich quick? Well, you can see where it lands people.

MY EX-HUSBAND LASTS FOR 40 SECONDS IN BED'--TONTO DIKEH

In an interview with Daddy Freeze on YouTube. The actress said that her ex-husband Churchill Olakunle had a serious sexual problem and can’t last more than 40 seconds in a woman. Daddy Freeze was trying to stop her from revealing the serious sex problem, by saying “Tonto stop”, but the stubborn Tonto Dike splashed it out, saying that her ex-husband Churchill Olakunle had premature ejaculation.

We are also saying Tonto stop, because nobody asked you and it’s an irrelevant point to splash in the media against your ex-husband. She also needs to stop a whole lot of other behaviours.

OUTRAGE AS ACTRESS USES BIBLE AS ASHTRAY, THREATENED TO USE QURAN NEXT

Controversial Nigerian actress, Etinosa Idemudia while on a live Instagram video used the Bible as an ashtray as she smoked to the view of her followers.

In a post she made on Instagram, the actress said nobody can blame her mother for the way she choose to live her life, and she also mentioned that the part of the Bible that talks about training a child is a scam. In her post, Etinosa mentioned that her mother trained her and she is still training her, but she is obviously derailing from the training.

Too many celebrities using their popularity the wrong way, in a country like Nigeria where people’s religion is a touchy issue that can lead to loss of lives, you come out and do such nonsense. To prove what exactly?

SCHOOL FATHER, FEMALE STUDENTS GANG UP TO BRUTALIZE 100-LEVEL STUDENT IN FUTA

In November, video clips had emerged on the internet, where a group of five students of the Federal University of Technology, Akure (FUTA) — one male, four females — were seen beating a female 100 level student in her room,

The management of the institution however took swift action, following the release of the video online, announcing the suspension of all the students involved in the assault.

It was quite a painful video to watch. It’s a lesson to other students to stop misbehaving and face what took them to school. Everyone must also think of their actions properly, because it would have been a different story if the girl being assaulted had died at their hands.

'SEX FOR GRADES': UNDERCOVER IN WEST AFRICAN UNIVERSITIES

Kiki Mordi of BBC investigative story began the #sexforgrades trend against University lecturers. It was discovered that there was a ‘cold room’ where lecturers of popular University of Lagos had sexual interactions with some of the female students for disdainful reasons.

This particular undercover act led to the sacking of some University lecturers and brought to prominence, how rampant these events occur in our institutions today.

Hospitals, Police Report & The Tragic Death of Moradeun

In December,  Moradeun was stabbed in the neck by robbers in  Gbagada area of Lagos while returning from work.

It was gathered that the victim was rushed to the R - Jolad Hospital, where she was allegedly not attended to because a police report was not presented by the good Samaritans , who came to her rescue.

Aggrieved Nigerians showed dissatisfaction over this act of papers being more important than saving lives.

It is morally wrong that a young promising soul was left to die, just because a report was not presented first. But sadly, this is a reflection of the deep rut in our nation as a whole.

BUSOLA DAKOLO REVEALED HOW SHE WAS RAPED BY PASTOR BIODUN FATOYINBO

One of the most difficult crimes to prove in court is rape because it is

a crime that rarely boasts of eyewitness accounts. And many rape victims feel too shocked and ashamed to speak of their ordeal hence more often than not, the rapist walks free while their violated victims die in shame and anguish. No thanks to a society flawed against women.

Although this particular case was dismissed in court, due to lack of evidence, but the fact that a celebrity could come out to tell her story, made a lot of women who had undergone similar circumstances, share theirs also.

The accused still remains the center of many controversies in the past.

DAYO AMUSA DESCRIBES HER LOVE OF SEX AND CALLS NAY SAYERS HYPOCRITES.

Dayo Amusa, an actress in the last days of 2019, came out to talk about her love for sex and how she doesn’t care or see why people should care about how many persons a person has slept with and why women are shames for having sex.

When asked where her decency was and if she wasn’t supposed to be an advocate of Yoruba culture by a fan, she was quick to say she was not a role model to hypocrites.

Question is, who asked you madam? We need celebrities to use their fame to promote more sane topics, enough of sex. Keep your opinions about it to yourself and keep such matters for private where it belongs.


MOTHER, SON AND PASTOR MURDER LASU STUDENT – EAT HER HEART

Mother, Son and a so called pastor in the last days of 2019, were in the news for the murder of a final year student, with the aim of making money rituals. Her heart was used in preparing concoction for the mother and son to eat. Mother claims she was not informed about what she was eating by her son and pastor.

They claim to be in financial crisis, and the best thing they could do was brutally kill another person’s beloved child, a whole human being.

Evil is out there, and sometimes evil comes from the most trusted to us.

The Moral Code is here to talk about our societal issues of moral decadence, psychological and reasoning decadence.

Have a basic set of moral codes for your personal life, it only makes you a decent human being.

Source www.themoralcodeng.com

demsy21:
Space

Lolz! Who's this monitoring spirit.

Book can't even contain the things. All sane tho.

Chikicaka:
You go girl, one piece of advice, as much as you use whatever pain he may have caused to propel your hustle, never let "peppering" him be your major driving force, because revenge is for the Lord, karma would catch up with him herself and when you finally get to the point you dream of you may have no more ginger because getting back at him was the sole purpose for your intense hustle, for example in my case my driving force was my parents esp my sweet mama, I needed her to enjoy and my future kids I needed them to know mama is no push over but a boss chick...

I get you. Not sole purpose. Never will be. I've always had a drive to excel anyways, his is just extra ginger. I have a purpose, know it and that equally drives me. Thanks.

RisenPhoenix:
Your mistake was permitting her to become the breadwinner. When you experienced a downturn, you should have adjusted your family's standards of living down to comfortable levels accordingly, instead of using her own money to maintain that standard. Because you couldn't relinquish the good life, you have effectively relinquished control over your home. No matter how little you make, adjust your expenses to stay within that income. Do not touch her money under any circumstances.

Lolz! Are you speaking from experience. A partner is a help mate. Who is your supposed to be trusted to help without any drama.

Now you say relinquish your comfort, do u really have any idea how bad his financial situation is? You want the children to start drinking garri from bread and tea? My point is, it's easier said than done. Circumstances can make you helpless for a while.

internationalman:
worked like magic when i once used it on my shakara girlfriend....

and i made sure i used a profile picture more beautiful than my girl's own..

i lay the phone where she could have easy access to it and she did and read the chat i orchestrated thinking i didn't know she saw it as she refused to confront me with it..

i made sure to make it look like the girl was begging me to leave my girl to date her...but since i knew my girl was gonna view it, in the chat i reiterated how much i loved my girl and how i could never leave her for anyone...


my guy you need to see the love this girl was showing me afterwards en.

if you want to be successfull with ladies you have to beat them to their manipulative game

worked because you were dating a shallow, unintelligent, obviously manipulative child woman.

You too get time Sha, wetin be all these one? I see part of why everything is going wrong with relationships these days o.

Chikicaka:
It would come, sooner than you expect, stay strong, keep praying and work hard, stuffs like this go both ways, my ex back then we both had nothing only our dreams, we prayed together, hustled together and worked hard together, I gave up a lot and supported him more than I even supported myself and he hit it, came home one day and said he needed space, that he needed to mix up with the same crowd he now rolls in, no sugar coated words but he gave me hot hot, I was crushed, I was battling with my weight and felt inadequate, but I moved on today if you see me you would not recognize me at all, God has restored in a million folds all that i felt i had lost, he came back begging i forgave him but couldn't stoop so low again this time he was truly not my level anymore, I took that pain and it propelled me, thankfully he was just a boyfriend and not a hubby, as in this case she is your wife, zone in on her good qualities and forgive her, tell her how much her attitude hurts you,, hopefully she changes, may God bless us all.

I love you. I love so much. Lolz! No homo! Why? Cuz this is an almost identical experience, we share.

I'm certainly on my way to surpassing him in all he stands for.

strungup79:
You are just like my wife. If marriage is about control, why marry? Why not stay on your own? Making money is not about hustling, if it was i'd be earning over three times what my wife earns. Luck, favour also plays a role. Maybe God just wants to show me who I married.

Sad you are experiencing this. It doesn't look like one of those sit down and talk it out situations. Indeed money and power often shows who people truly are.

Even after years of marriage, someone can suddenly start acting up and showing unusual behavior. I guess nothing is certain.

Pls sit and reflect and you'll come to a good way out of this

Efewestern:
Happy new year to you all, special shout-out to my people, cc: Sanchez01, dermmy, Brightgem, Zoharariel, fratermathy

God sent brother from heaven. Happy new year.

empirebosscrew:
Good day everybody. So I have lived with poliomelythis for more than two decades now. I have strived so much to achieve alot for myself because I never allowed my situation deter me from achieving my goals in life.

Everything has been going on smoothly: Education up to MSc level, a job, a car and things a man can acquire and say he has reached a level of comfort.

The one thing I'm yet to get is to be in a stable relationship. 99% of the girls I've dated never took me serious and we never lasted long. Some will even take advantage to chop my money and bail after a while. It got to a point I had a bitter negative stereotype thinking all women are mainly out there to exploit a man.

It wasnt until earlier this year when I met someone who changed the horoscope. Like she is so down to earth and actually loved me for me, without even looking at my paralysis. Things were going smoothly until she started becoming aggressive and emotional over little issues.

It took a while but she was able to open up to let me know how her family vehemently told her they dont want to see her with someone like me. They also threatened to disown her if she insisted on being with me.

Currently, we decided to stop seeing each other for the sake of peace to reign in her family. We do keep communication on a 100. We both love each other genuinely and we do not want us to split just like that.

What do we do?

Really sorry about your ordeal. It's painful being stigmatized over a matter that was no fault of yours. Humans will be human. Right now, it's up to her. Sometimes when so called family don't have bases you as an individual consider relevant enough to keep off a good partner you have to stick to what u believe. Same family will still come around. Besides you yourself may not have the heart to allow her tear away from her family. It's a tough one.

Welldone with all the achievements.

ubunja:
well telling a guy straight up you like him is application to be rejected.

Lolz! You see. Na una. Well I'm just answering to the OP and you have confirmed naso. Some men feels it makes them emasculated. I think 80% of the time, ladies that try are rejected.