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IAmStrange:
I have come to notice that most times when human beings fall in love, we lose our willpower. People mistake it for sense - meaning we lose our sense but it's not true in many cases.

The person who is in love can actually have His sense intact and functioning and in every event, he knows the right thing to do... But he just doesn't do it because he has lost his willpower and his resolve has become weak so he runs around seeking advice from people so that their comments can serve as a sort of motivation to carry on with what he already thinks or knows he should do.

Secondly, you were saying he loves you to a fault. I don't want to dispute that. But I want you to know that "love" is not the only thing to be considered when choosing a spouse. You must not - I repeat - you must not marry someone JUST because he loves you. Love is not the only thing that guarantees happiness in a marriage.

There are more important things to be considered.

Do you really think those husbands that send their wives to the hospital after beating them thoroughly do not love their wives? in fact, they sometimes do that due to extreme love and protective jealousy for their wives?

Do you think all those men who womanize and cheat on their wives do not love their wives? In fact, in many cases, they do love their wives and give her all respect and love she deserves and would never allow any man come near her. Yet, they are serious cheats!!!

You are going to live with the character of your man and the character of your man is one of the major factors that will determine if he will make a good husband, father, in law to your people and if he will make a good "head of the family".

So cancel out that idea that "he loves me to a fault" if you think that that's enough for you to give in to him.

It's better for you to marry someone who loves you averagely and he treats you like the "queen" you are than get married to someone who "loves you to a fault" and he treats you like you are "serving a sentence as a prisoner" in his house.

Then thirdly, I want you to know that, that man has serious issues and if I were you, I will flee from entering into a marriage with such a person.

Please open your mind - that guy is going to cage you. He's probably going to make your life miserable.

- He has anger issues.
- He has trust issues
- He is uncultured (calling your sister a prostitute and hurling insults at you)
- He is a wife beater
- he jumps to stupid conclusions hastily (calling you a prostitute and going to the extent of taking your pictures)
- He checks your phone and wrongly accuses you of different things
- His jealousy is overboard

Believe me, A man who has all the above will probably make life miserable for you.

He may be the kind of man that will make you sit at home and cut you off the world. Then he maltreats you and doesn't take care of you, making you age faster and weaker as time goes on. Then he will be giving outsiders the impression that he is taking care of you and when you try to complain, they listen to him and not you.

And when you now start looking miserable, he ends up cheating on you with more beautiful girls out there while he leaves you at home to your misery.

There are men like this out there - that guy may be one.

So I advise you to flee from him. Do not listen to anyone. Don't let anyone pressure you into accepting him. They are not the ones to bear the pain and when you die and they get to know the true story, they will still blame you for accepting him.

That's life!

Then, please, do not also think low of yourself and pressure yourself into accepting him just because single men are not coming or because of your age.

Marrisge is a beAutiful thing but that's only when it's with the right person.

Being happily single is better than being miserably married

If you listen to the stories of many married women out there, you will thank your Lord and consider your single status a blessing, thanking God for saving you from what those married women have experienced.

I don't know your age but I think you are probably "not too old" yet.

Please, think positively of your God, yourself and aim for good.

Leave that man and after you have done that, pray to your Lord to bring you a good man you can settle down with.

And while you are still waiting, please be patient and understand that our major purpose on earth is to serve God. That's the major and true success.

Being single doesn't mean that you are a failure, don't let society pressure you into believing that.

The one who is married doesn't necessarily have more superiority in the eyes of God than the single one. The level of superiority is measured by how much you are close to God, how much of righteousness you achieve on earth and how much you do things that matter to the whole world - things that affect people positively.

Being single may turn out to be a blessing on its own. I know some people who went to very great heights of which it would have been difficult to achieve if they got married. What matters is your happiness, your wellbeing and how much your Creator is pleased with you.

So pray to your Lord and hope for good and be positive that he will send you a good man. But while you are waiting, try to do other meaningful things in your life that will bring you happiness.

Don't settle for a bad man who will make your life miserable.


May God soften your heart and grant you your desires.

dannyla

Herein are amongst the few who still speak and type well. With logic and wisdom.
This comment be giving me oxygen. Plus I am guessing you are Muslim. The manner of speech?

But why just joining Nairaland. This place needed your likes long ago.

Welldone for a well delivered comment. The OP can find all answers here. The signs are glaring.

So you need a job, you've been trying, you've been applying, you don't have the years of experience, you have never gotten called for an interview, yet you have put out so much applications.

Everyone talks about being an entrepreneur and starting a business, but is everyone good at doing this?

Did we go through all that school and spend all those years, only to come out and still struggle to start a business?

What are some tips and tricks that could help you be a more efficient job searcher who begins to get results?

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RockHard:
Let me explain or expantiate on that point of why it's not that wise (perhaps the term 'stupid' is too harsh) to use your own personal money to do business, and in this case I mean a business that has real potential to scale/become big. Fact is, the businesses that really have potential to scale and be sustainable require a lot of capital. When you are the only one bearing the financial risk of a business, studies have shown that the likelihood of failure is no less than 90%. When you share risk in business, you have access to more funds (and oversight) to enable the venture remain reasonably sustainable for the long haul. Let's assume you have enough money to build that Ebonylife edifice (which won't cost anything less than N250million), it'll be too risky to tie that much money down on a single project that won't enable you recoup your money back until maybe a couple of years. It makes more sense to leverage on other people's money (loans, investors/venture capital) and share the risk (and future profits) while spreading out that personal money of yours to invest in other smaller and less risker ventures (that also involve other investors) that'll bring in quicker returns.

The reason why some (or probably most) people remain stagnant or always fail in business is because they more often than not run out of money/capital at some point in their business's lifecycle -- even if the business is bringing in some decent amount of revenues, you find at some point that you just can't keep up coz (1) the revenues coming in are just not enough to sustain your operations, or (2) if you're unlucky to have only one means of income, you'll find that whatever revenues come in through the business will barely be enough to sustain you the business owner (your own personal financial obligations) and the business entity.

That's mainly why you see [smart] people coming together as a 'team' to raise funds for a startup business idea or venture. These days some people are raising money (running into tens and hundreds of millions) just for having bankable ideas alone, without spending a kobo on the product or service the idea's about. In fact, such businesses go through a series of funding rounds -- there's 'seed money' (which the team will use to develop and launch the idea/service or product), followed by 'series A' (which they raise after launching the idea to pivot it and gain traction), 'series B' (to further scale it), 'series C', and then IPO (Initial public offering). And all of that from other people's money.

It's not because they can't just pool their resources and go right ahead and start the business; actually it's o.k to do that, but there's a 90% probability that such a move will fail within a year than survive because they will certainly run out of money, and sustainable businesses need money/consistent cashflows (and a lot of it) to stay alive in the face of competition (forget how much the revenues might be). It's for this reason that banks/lenders exist. But to exploit such leverage, you must not be the 'control freak' type of entrepreneur who always wants to micromanage every situation or always be the only person to call the shots. You have to be ready and willing to work with other people. In the end it pays off because businesses like that are more sustainable.

If you're a business that has a verifiable addressable market, banks can even be willing to lend you money without collateral, to scale your business in order to meet growing demand. Without such external funding, such business will certainly die within a short time. When banks and other investors get involved in a business, they don't only share the risk, but they become stakeholders so they do their part in ensuring that it's well run/managed and well-funded.

What separates the rich from the poor is the ability of the rich to master the art of leveraging on other people's money (via loans and investors' money) to stay in business. That's what made Dangote and the rest billionaires today.

BUT, if after all is said and done, you still insist on being a 'one-man business', at least ensure that the product or service you are offering has 'offtakers' or a market that is always on ground to consume the product, so much so that you can't even meet demand, else the business won't last. But even in that case, you may still need to secure external funding (via loan or investor's capital) to scale your operations in order to meet demand.

My two cents.

Hi, I'd emailed you. Do check

So the story is so long I'm tayyad! Amean at first you were deceived by iyawo Ossy. But after understanding the drama u still allowed the thing between ur thighs to make you act up, first time of any mistake can be called a mistake, second time is always a choice u made by doing something with your eyes wide open and knowing the conditions involved. I have nothing to say o. People will keep bringing kids into the drama of their sex lives which could have been avoided. Once these things have happened... Dassit

RockHard:
Let me explain or expantiate on that point of why it's not that wise (perhaps the term 'stupid' is too harsh) to use your own personal money to do business, and in this case I mean a business that has real potential to scale/become big. Fact is, the businesses that really have potential to scale and be sustainable require a lot of capital. When you are the only one bearing the financial risk of a business, studies have shown that the likelihood of failure is no less than 90%. When you share risk in business, you have access to more funds (and oversight) to enable the venture remain reasonably sustainable for the long haul. Let's assume you have enough money to build that Ebonylife edifice (which won't cost anything less than N250million), it'll be too risky to tie that much money down on a single project that won't enable you recoup your money back until maybe a couple of years. It makes more sense to leverage on other people's money (loans, investors/venture capital) and share the risk (and future profits) while spreading out that personal money of yours to invest in other smaller and less risker ventures (that also involve other investors) that'll bring in quicker returns.

The reason why some (or probably most) people remain stagnant or always fail in business is because they more often than not run out of money/capital at some point in their business's lifecycle -- even if the business is bringing in some decent amount of revenues, you find at some point that you just can't keep up coz (1) the revenues coming in are just not enough to sustain your operations, or (2) if you're unlucky to have only one means of income, you'll find that whatever revenues come in through the business will barely be enough to sustain you the business owner (your own personal financial obligations) and the business entity.

That's mainly why you see [smart] people coming together as a 'team' to raise funds for a startup business idea or venture. These days some people are raising money (running into tens and hundreds of millions) just for having bankable ideas alone, without spending a kobo on the product or service the idea's about. In fact, such businesses go through a series of funding rounds -- there's 'seed money' (which the team will use to develop and launch the idea/service or product), followed by 'series A' (which they raise after launching the idea to pivot it and gain traction), 'series B' (to further scale it), 'series C', and then IPO (Initial public offering). And all of that from other people's money.

It's not because they can't just pool their resources and go right ahead and start the business; actually it's o.k to do that, but there's a 90% probability that such a move will fail within a year than survive because they will certainly run out of money, and sustainable businesses need money/consistent cashflows (and a lot of it) to stay alive in the face of competition (forget how much the revenues might be). It's for this reason that banks/lenders exist. But to exploit such leverage, you must not be the 'control freak' type of entrepreneur who always wants to micromanage every situation or always be the only person to call the shots. You have to be ready and willing to work with other people. In the end it pays off because businesses like that are more sustainable.

If you're a business that has a verifiable addressable market, banks can even be willing to lend you money without collateral, to scale your business in order to meet growing demand. Without such external funding, such business will certainly die within a short time. When banks and other investors get involved in a business, they don't only share the risk, but they become stakeholders so they do their part in ensuring that it's well run/managed and well-funded.

What separates the rich from the poor is the ability of the rich to master the art of leveraging on other people's money (via loans and investors' money) to stay in business. That's what made Dangote and the rest billionaires today.

BUT, if after all is said and done, you still insist on being a 'one-man business', at least ensure that the product or service you are offering has 'offtakers' or a market that is always on ground to consume the product, so much so that you can't even meet demand, else the business won't last. But even in that case, you may still need to secure external funding (via loan or investor's capital) to scale your operations in order to meet demand.

My two cents.

Brah! This your 2cents is more like 50 cents. I'll digest this and get back. You seem to be a good financial analyst, advisor or the likes. Well let me just really understand this. Thanks for sparing time.

Mindfulness:
Had Ray minded his business he would not have paid for his brother's stupidity. Cheers!

Norman you meant. How do you mind your business when the person is blood, and in close proximity to you?

Beyond watching a movie for entertainment or what others may call killing boredom, it’s important to see and observe the salient messages from these movies, especially those movies about life altering events, things the characters never expected could happen to them and such similar events. In the end, drama and film is an imitation of our lives and other real life events.

The movie A Violent Separation may not be one of those block busters, but it does have lessons for anyone willing to reason. This is a movie set in the 80s in a small quiet town around the characters of Norman and Ray (Brothers) and Abbey and Frances (sisters)

Beyond entertainment here are 5 lessons from the movie A Violent Separation in the light of morality, values, principles, ethics and the likes.

NOTE – You might want to see this movie first if the title interests you, as this post contains spoilers, plenty of them.

THAT THE INAPPROPRIATE AND IRRESPONSIBLE ACTIONS OF OTHERS DOES AFFECT THE INNOCENT

People like to say, what’s anyone’s business what others are doing? If it doesn’t affect you, then you should not be bothered, but indeed the morally lax and irresponsible behaviour of others affect even the upright. Ray and Abbey who is a mother to a young boy are in a dysfunctional relationship, where they both seem to be seeing other people and basically cheating on each other. Ray constantly gets into trouble fighting and appears to have ongoing matters with the police, he just needs to make one more wrong move and would be in prison, his younger brother Norman is a cop who has to keep him in check.

Norman is also reluctant to pursue his love interest who is younger sister to Abbey his older brother’s wife, fiancée or whatever defines their relationship.

Frances, the younger sister of Abbey is level headed and often tries to talk Abbey her older sister out of her destructive cycle of behaviour with Ray.

If Ray and Abbey had just had a grip on their lives, Abbey would not have been shot by mistake and end up dead.

Norman would not have had to cover up for his brother, which is even worse for him as he is a cop. Conflict of interest.

Ray would not have had to live in misery for the next one year.

Frances would not have had to deal with the heart breaking truth of finding out that Norman who later became her husband was aware his brother killed her sister, even if it was by mistake.

Series of actions, series of effects. It’s also not the best of life to be living when one family member is messing up the good name of others, like getting pointed at as being the brother or sister of someone famous for negativity, yet your own life isn’t even about all that. But the shit that hits the fan, doesn’t care about its target, pun intended.

THE QUESTION – WOULD YOU COVER UP MURDER BY MISTAKE OR NOT COMMITTED BY A LOVED ONE?

The guess is many people out there are keeping all kinds of weird secret, including murder they know someone committed, but they cannot say. In Norman’s case, he is a cop having to cover up his brother’s mistake. But the question is, if it was really necessary, seeing he’d warned his brother to quit the wrong life and he didn’t listen. Do we stand by someone who has come to a fatal incident in their lives by virtue of behaviour we had warned them about?

PEOPLE GET STUCK IN THEIR WAYS AND REPEAT SAME CIRCLE OF BEHAVIOUR, ESPECIALLY DESTRUCTIVE ONES.

Abbey and Ray, were stuck in their dysfunctional relationship and other vices irrespective of the voices of reason around them. Some people endlessly repeat the same circle of behaviour that it becomes obvious no one can get them out, except they are ready to help themselves and grow. Abbey and Ray prove that reckless behaviour can indeed lead to death, and make others suffer. Abbey’s young son she leaves behind is another victim of her behaviour.

THAT TIME UNRAVELS THINGS

Ed, the sheriff who was engulfed with unraveling the case when Abbeys body was found was told by a friend that sometimes time was needed for things to unravel themselves, this can be seen as a universal truth as indeed, time did unravel the murder even to those who weren’t really looking for answers. like the Sheriff was.

THAT EVEN THROUGH PAIN THERE IS NEED FOR GOOD JUDGEMENT

One can say the strongest character in the movie is Frances, time unravels her sister’s murder to her, as she uses her intuition as well to figure things out, however, by the time she gets to know her husband was in on the murder of her sister and helped his brother cover up, she of course is hurt and angry at first, but we see she is not going to kick him out of her life forever, rather we can say she probably came to understanding that in the end, they were more like collateral damage from the actions of her sister and his brother.

Hope we can all learn to see movies beyond just entertainment, and keep finding life lessons that can come to mind when we are also making our real life decisions.

Source - www.themoralcodeng.com

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RockHard:
Yes it is madam. There's hardly anyone that can take on such a project as the one in question without funding from somewhere (it will be stoopid to use one's personal money to build such an edifice, even Dangote has other investors that share the risk of his many business). Beside, that's what banks are there for (not just to save your money but more importantly to lend to businesses that they consider viable). Business is a risk, and both banks, investors, and other lenders are aware of this fact, so they only put their money into businesses that they adjudge to have a high probability of survival, but even at that a lot of businesses funded by banks and venture capital still end up failing anyway. It is what it is.

To qualify for huge loans first you must be deemed 'credit worthy' by lenders. There are different strategies that one can deploy to achieve that.

Thanks. Insightful enough. Kind of means the wealthy are always in some debt or the other. But why do you consider using one's own personal money stupid? What's wrong with that, atleast the whole risk will be only on your own head. Just saying.

Greenbirth:
you too has been a born bastard since child birth. If you can support someone who invade court room without considering the thought of the masses shows how foolish you are. Intolerant people with fish brain. Accept the truth and be free.

lolz! E pain am! I know my parents. So maybe na you need to go find you paapa. Yours is just blind hate, and it'll eventually kill you. If not for the hate, you'll have read where I said I'm not a Buharist and you'll have understood better than saying Muslims this and that. Cuz that has never and will never be the point, we can have good Christian or Muslim leaders. Now, Let the hate consume you, Muslims will still be here till you take your last breath.

itswell10:
Lol.
Naija sha.. Someone is crying for help and I dey see adverts of installations, sure winning.
That's why the white man will forever be better than us. We have no empathy at all

and the people who have been offering solutions are what? Red men? After colonization some of us are still suffering mental slavery of seeing so called white men as superior or better. Go on any forum like Nairaland for whites, you'll see same.

Stop all these talking down on blacks Puhleease!

RockHard:
Heard she collected a huge loan to execute the project. Kudos and goodluck to her.

Hello, now I don't know if you mean this or not. But the question, is it ever possible to go into huge projects without loans?

Cuz I'd thought this too when I saw her building. All these loans, property seized later, huge interest are worrisome.

Dictator. Yes. General Buhari yes. Let everyone refer him as that. Not only the papers

Greenbirth:
It is unfortunate that most nigerians never understood the power of a Muslim president, especially in Africa and Arab nations.the Muslim president is power drunk, tyrant. Violation of human rights and creating tribal war. Pushing other tribes against their will. Meanwhile their side or region has nothing to offer, humanly or resourcefully. nigeria is in big problem with the presence of these Islamists. Quote me I am here.

I'm quoting you and telling you that though I am not a Buharist, but you are a fool. A special breed that's often not aware of their foolishness for typing this. Muslims will continue to exist and even increase, live with it or find the nearest lagoon.

Source

When your lack of decorum comes to bite you in the butt.

Richnerd69:
All these are based on assumptions but it's also good to view the two sides of the coins and analyze the "maybes and what ifs". Well my younger sister stays with me also and she's usually in charge of my house but I've informed her I would be bringing someone over and it doesn't mean she would have to relax in executing her normal domestic duties, tho there would be times they both have to divide the labor amongst themselves but that would be much later.

I want them to be friends as my sister is very accommodating and humble. It was one of the reasons I wanted this girl to come stay, cuz she has some of my sister's traits and I think they would both make a good team .

Haahahahha! I laughed in my house. Is this dude serious? Or delusional! Your village people have finally gotten you and you allowed them.

Lolz! Ur friend pressed buttons and is living kontry with big geh! You too press button for 23 year old to come stay with you and serve in PH! Corruption everywhere.

Her sister is also comfortable with her going to live with man in PH? Because you talked to sisters husband who's from ur state. Lolz!

Next thing, you wonder if you are moving too fast, everything is wrong with this post from the first word to the last.

Welcome to your self imposed husband duties. I laugh at the folly of people.

We have enough problems in this country they brought an entity called CArdi B to comman add to it. What had her presence done for us exactly? Increase slay queens with empty brains. Iranu.

NICOGRAVITY:
I don't have devil in me.
I'm a BORN AGAIN CHILD OF GOD.
I chose my battles wisely.
I'm very wise and full of wisdom.
House that you will eventually die and leave behind.
Peace is very important.

Not about being born again sir, I respect your beliefs. However, speak carefully about situations you have not thoroughly experienced yourself.

sassysure:
Thank u my dear. Just look at how people are advising him to call police or go to court.
Really?
And pursue them out to live where?
That his dad should have pursued them away when he married. Just for one old house. They don't have the money to build. They see the house as family house irrespective of who built it. In my place u dare not try it. It's a taboo to pursue your brothers out of the house because u fight everyday. Nobody will ever support u. Even if they are a pain to you, u dare not tell them to move out. Look for the root of the quarrel and settle it.
Now as the son, instead of u to hustle more and build another house, carry your papa to the new house, u are continuing with the useless mentality. Everybody want to assume he is right. I wouldn't be surprised if u call these two guys, they will give a diff version.
Also, it's our house mentality is overriding their reasoning. Mum behaving like typical naija landlady and dad telling them they they can't even raise money to build a house of their own. We all know what we say when we are all worked up. The 3 families quarrel and shout and the kids take sides. Now he has grown,he should start reasoning like an adult with sense but her he is making the same mistake his dad made. I wish him luck. But this might trigger the children of the other two to make it in this world and at a point, him.or one of his siblings or children might need them desperately for one thing or the other

We all have mad people as parts of our family members.
It can even be us. But we learn how to manage and abide with them. Sometimes it pays to be the fool so that peace will reign.

Everybody, here is one of the uncles on Nairaland o!

like1:
I have to say this again, the selfishness we brew these days in our Igbo families, I really don't get it. I am sure the problems between your father and the brothers arose because either your father or mother is trying to be Lord over them just because they live in your house and they resisted.

Your parents should learn to tolerate his brothers. As you said, they can't go and live in the bush, the so called ancestral land till they build theirs and you also know they are not capable to.

Imagine, what your father and his siblings are going through and you think later it will not be the same between you and your siblings. Let me tell you what will happen, if you guys succeed in pushing your uncles out. The next fight will start between you and your siblings over same house. I am telling you from experience, it is psychological. I has happened in many families I know, even mine.

Moreover, which relationship do you want to maintain with your cousins when through your parents you chased them away from the house.

This is the same problem that happened in my paternal family and now happening between my maternal uncles. People will never learn. The level of selfishness these days is really overwhelming. I don't get it.

My story;
If you like learn from it.

My uncle built an up-stair (big house) in the early 80's. Both families all live in the city, so we just come back to stay in the village house during Xmas and sometimes Easter. Within the few days in the village, their mum and mum will always quarrel. I mean sometimes even physical because both women were always at loggerheads with flimsy things. E.g one of my brothers (a kid then) 'pooed or peed' in the compound, my mum was cooking here and not there. So this quarrel has been there for years when we were kids till our late teenage years when it escalated. My Dad even though not buoyant, started to build a house but then they were not even patient enough for my Dad to near completion of the house before we were sent packing. My Dad had to sell a small property in the city to even roof the building. Then we moved. Of course the relationship dwindled, everybody started minding his or her business.

Now, in less than 7 years, we are better of. Completed my Dad's building, built another with complete finishing and live better and bigger. However their house remained uncompleted as it has been, no fence, not tiled, no paint and all that. Now, they all want a closer relationship but naturally it can't happen, the discord is there already. The news around the village now is that my cousins (now adults and married) are quarreling on who will occupy upstair of the house and who will stay down. Imagine.

Don't neglect people. Nobody is God. Everybody fit pick.

Shaaaaaaarrrrrraaaaappp!

NICOGRAVITY:
My honest advice to you is this.
1 Make peace first before involving the Police, lawyer or any other institutions.
2 Tomorrow is pregnant, nobody knows what it will give birth to. You might be in need that only your cousins can solve.
3 Ask your father to call a meeting with his siblings. Let him make peace with them. And if he can help them build or rent he should do so.
4 For your father to have given them rooms, means that the entire family used to be in harmony, peace, joy and happiness and they all wished your father well.
5 Go and find out the Genesis of the problem and resolve it from there.
6 Remember, it's just an ordinary house. Don't let it take anyone's life. People can do anything possible when under pressure and without alter.
7 Be the person that unites the family. Always speak PEACE. Don't ever speak derogatory to any party involved so you are not quoted tomorrow.
8 Ask your mum to love and keep peace with other wife's, their children and the family.
9 Prayer prayer prayer prayer prayer prayer prayer
10 PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE PEACE

This one doesn't know what is going going on. Watch the devil in you come even when you thought and believed yourself to be the most peace loving person

baby124:
He’s supporting them because he knows that if they chase them out, they will face his own house. Lol. He’s the smartest of them all.

Haahahahha! Indeed the smartest of them all

AceOfRed:
Lol. My dad is the first son and he built the house solely on his portion of his inheritance as first son. The ownership of the house is not in question. It's just that they do not want to leave, saying that they will take their time to build their own house, and that's only when they'll leave.

Hi, I beli this story will help many people learn. Siblings can be thr real enemies, sometimes you find a family in complete strangers.

But apparently, you have all grown up and left, and were able to live under the condition all these years, how did you manage?

The best bet to me, is selling the house and ur parents moving, a move no one must know about. Otherwise what is the fear for your parents back there, that they'll be harmed?

No need to force anything, other than do what's good for you and what will keep you away from danger.

dairykidd:
Wtf is ummunna or wtv.. except ur dad isn't as clean as u think. I love my own dad for one thing especially, when he puts his foot down fvck whoever u think u are. Same thing happened in my house but the compound is large and thier free apartments were fenced off from ours but the trouble with my dad's younger brothers was they couldn't live with each other always fighting because of their wives and even their kids hot involved. One day when it got worse and so bloody my dad arrested them (the husbands) and they were given time to move out. Them no born u well to do otherwise. Even after that some of his church members who took advantage of his magnanimity too started misbehaving planting juju in their quarters and running his business down because he also employed them. My guy no fail to discharge them shapperly. I think your dad is afraid of their threats and they know. He better toughen up before them take over his properties. Anyone can be wealthy but if ur not strong enough to keep it then its a pity.. I hope he knows God because that's the real strength. You can't fight devil with devil. Las las na deal them go use ur head do.

Thank you jare, not every time diplomacy, force has it's functions. So long you are not the oppressor. Ummunna nonsense!

Nlearn:
Yes.. This is family. Bro
Yes we pray for family unity and progress

But on this issue.. Both u and ur dad. Has to be patient until they build their own house. Even if is going to take them a life time.. U have to be patient.

Just stay away from they problem. And focus on making a living.. Ur dad has done great in building a family house in the 80s


Plan to build urs

And here is the truth.. Even after u build urs

If ur uncle and they family. Has not build theirs.. U will still provide an accommodation for them


That is the fact.

Don't go to the police or get lawyer on this.. U will lose the case..

And the memories will out live for ever..

Find ways to unite the family and be on a vigil of peace and progress

Good luck

Something is doing you. Best find the solution so you stop saying this kind of nonsense.

tomdon:
There are things you aren't disclosing. What is the root of the problem. If your father is the sole owner of the property then he just has to tolerate his brothers and let them be till they leave on their own even if he doesn't outrightly make peace with them because blood is thicker than water.
If the issue of ownership is not well ironed out now I think the problem will never end. Enquire from your mother if your father doesn't tell you everything.
How could they have successfully raised their families in one room each?
It is even doubtful these ones will agree if your father gives them money to go elsewhere

Are you one of the uncles? Cuz what you are saying sounds ridiculous. God punish that blood wey no dey grateful.

So you doubt they raised their families in one room, you haven't seen really entitled and lazy relatives?

The father simply made a grave mistake, letting them stay all those years.

9jaRealist:
Did your Prophet say anything about the “character” of the man?
(and hopefully this is not the same prophet that was a paedophile)
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The best amongst you are those who are good and kind to their wives.

Men are protectors and maintainers of women.

You can research where those quotes came from if your question was genuine and not an attack.

GraGra247:
Just clearly tell us you will slaughter her by the demands of your religion.

You have said nothing new.

You guys should simply stop claiming you aren't terrorists and your religion preaches peace and love. Cos it doesn't!!!

Bla Bla Bla! Quit blabbing! If Muslims were as evil as your likes like to think, or if the Quran indeed instructs violence and killings I doubt you'll be alive too. But then, your opinion doesn't count, it's just an opinion.

We do not exist to try and convince you otherwise. Anything more you say will be nothing more than blaabs!

Inyaka:
A Manager in one of the top notched new generation banks made me hated my life. He liked my younger sister, and wanted her. Therefore, he tried to bully me into having his way to her.

I was just a contract staff relieving someone in the branch. And one of the tellers had a shortage of 50k, he(the manager) said I stole the money because I was the first to leave the banking hall(with due permission from the ABM).

Because I was a new contract staff, Obafemi thought I didn't know my right and was daft. He threatened to froze my account, I bluntly told him he had no right and proof against me.

I got fed up and wrote a resignation letter, because it was a three weeks contract, and I had already done 1.5 weeks. It wasn't worth it. The pay was so small. My parents advised me to just let go, before he implicated me further.

I reported the case to the regional manager, but because they were all Yorubas and I wasn't, they spoke in their local dialect and sold me off( Reasons for sudden hate on Yoruba Muslims from Osun).

He wrote on my resignation letter that I stole, hence, I wanted to resign. When I saw that, I told him "Obafemi, I would fight this to the last drop of my blood, it has just begun".

I went straight to the headquarters and reported the case to compliance. Compliance said they were not aware of any shortage from the branch. That it was a case of witch hunting or artificial shortage.

I told them about the conspiracy between Obafemi and the yoruba boss. Compliance pulled out their secret chats and realised the boss and Obafemi had something fishy going on.

I went straight to the bank portal and whistle blew Obafemi. Showing proofs, and I uploaded the letter where he claimed I stole money. He was doing this without the consent of compliance, and without the knowledge of the bank. It wasn't in his power to write such on my letter when the case hasn't been investigated.

The case was investigated and Obafemi was the guilty one. Headquarters nearly suspended him. I left the bank. My account wasn't frozen. I got my full pay. I hate bank jobs today.

This made me vow never to work in a bank. Today, I'm self employed and earning 10x their paltry sum.

P/S
The regional manager was also witch hunted and he resigned one month after.

PLEASE ignore the errors.

Dear Obafemi, if you're reading this, please change your ways. All those girls you set up because they refuse to date you, all the times you use official bank cars for clubbing, all the times you frustrate young men like me with dreams, remember God is watching. Your cup go soon full.

I like people who fight back oppressors. But hope you are a good boss too? Are you saying you can never employ an Osun Muslim, now that you hate them all? Well let's ignore tribe and religion, who people are shd matter more to us all.

GIDIBANKZ:
My boss is Something Else.... He always Shout at His Staffs in presence of His Frnds and Costumers makinq People Around Our Organisation LOOK DOWN ON US..... Not Encouraging Us... ANY LITTLE EFFECT YOU MAKE TO MAKE THE WORK MOVE FOWARD WILL LEAD TO INSULTING US.......THE LAST TIME I WANTED TO TAKE SOME WORKING TOOLS TO OUR SMALL OFFICE... THE NEXT THING HE SAID WAS THAT... I LIKE WASTING TRANSPORT........AND EVER SINCE I RESUME OFFICE IN THAT PLACE....I HAVE NEVER ASKED OF TRANSPORT FOR ANYTHING.......... Yesterday Evening... He was Even telling me that, he will SLAP ME.....I FELT BAD SHA...... So this morning when he Came, I Told Him to expect my SIGNING OUT/RESIGNATION LETTER VERY SOON

SO WORIKING UNDER PERSON IS BAD AND FRUSTRATING......I WILL SOON GO AND START MY BUSINESS

sorry about this! If he slap you, use ur last penny, hire area Boyz to escort you back. Return that slap, go back home and eat a good meal, then believe in a better tomorrow. Starting a business isn't easy either