Babacele: Painful but thank God you dodged a bullet . Nobody leaves their dogs because of some skin issue talk less of a supposed soul-mate. Truth is dude was not in love with all of you. Beyond the physical attractive mass whose appeal is so temporary and fading, the real ,invisible you;your essence -that inner distinctive traits unique to you alone and which defines your values, philosophies and ideals , part of which manifest in the objective world was alien to him. When two souls truly love, no stupid conventions can come in between them. Don't we all have one malady or the other that we never knowingly and unknowingly brought on ourselves?
That said, is the recalcitrant stuff still there? Who knows if i can proffer a herbal therapy? Yes i am a student of the wonders that herbs can unleash. cheers.
royalads: My advice to any fresh graduate is to get certifications. Go get real certifications. I cannot overemphasize the importance of getting certifications. My friends who are HR managers in big Companies tell me they have vacancies. Plenty lot of them. But they rarely get people with the required certifications and couple of years of experience to take them up. For instance, there is a very high demand for Business analysts, HR analysts and Managers and Project managers with CIPM or PMP, PRINCE2 or SIGMA. These certifications don't come cheap but it sets you ahead of others. Also, the startup pay for them is not bad too.
Another option is to acquire IT skills. You can never go wrong with that. Thankfully, with YouTube, you don't have to pay through your nose to get started. Simply search for 'Skill name + tutorials' on YouTube. Find videos that are over 5 hours long. Take the course religiously. After that, register on Upwork and Freelance to offer your skill there. This is what thousands of 'reasonable' youths are doing to make thousands of dollars month. If you have a smartphone, laptop and access to internet and you are still broke, then your head needs to be checked seriously. Daz all
Great advice. Than all those be an entrepreneur crew. Not everyone will be one.
OP volunteer, or find an Intern placement especially in fields you are certain you want to work. That's how you'll gain experience along with your certifications as mentioned here. Make sure you sharpen relevant modern day skills relevant across a lot of sectors. And you asked the right question. Ignore Nay sayers.
Babacele: Painful but thank God you dodged a bullet . Nobody leaves their dogs because of some skin issue talk less of a supposed soul-mate. Truth is dude was not in love with all of you. Beyond the physical attractive mass whose appeal is so temporary and fading, the real ,invisible you;your essence -that inner distinctive traits unique to you alone and which defines your values, philosophies and ideals , part of which manifest in the objective world was alien to him. When two souls truly love, no stupid conventions can come in between them. Don't we all have one malady or the other that we never knowingly and unknowingly brought on ourselves?
That said, is the recalcitrant stuff still there? Who knows if i can proffer a herbal therapy? Yes i am a student of the wonders that herbs can unleash. cheers.
you are just a different breed of person. Lolz! It just occurred to me I'd forgotten this name. Every thing you said, it's absolutely true, there's more to loving someone than the mundane, but not everyone cares, many are after the shallow things.
Now, I think it's time we talked beyond here, though I'm quite familiar with some of the rules of eating healthy and all, reason why I'd started a health blog. But I believe there's still possibly a way beyond orthodox meds which I'm basically dependent on.
Send me and email Pls. Maybe with your number, so we discuss better.
I attended an interview yesterday, it wasn't my first interview but it was the first time a question caught me off guard. I was always prepared before interviews and do my research on the hiring company. But yesterday, when the interviewer asked me; "are you creative?, (I would have just answered yes, and he would have asked me what creative things I've done) my brain went blank for a second and I started looking for a suitable answer.
Don't get me wrong, I have creative ideas, but have I really done something creative? I can act, write plays, but my guess was the interviewer wanted my answer to be in line with the position I was applying for, so I started fumbling for the right answer, after a while uneasiness began to appear on the face my interviewer, apparently I was wasting too much time on this one question. So I let out only thing bouncing up and down in my mind; "I can act sir, if knowing how to act counts as being creative".
I was applying for a bank job for crying out loud, not auditioning for a movie role. How does acting correlate with banking?
Over to you guys. How should I have done justice to the question?
Although there would have been better ways to answer the question in relation to the job, but believe me, if and when you do get the job, you'll need those acting skills dealing with customers and co workers.
Interviews also add to your preparedness for other interviews in future cuz next time you'll know how to better tackle this. But good luck.
Why is he getting impatient? Sighs. My relationship ended because of a skin issue I'd battled since teenage hood. Nobody shd get impatient with you over what it's beyond ur control. Infact mine was a broken engagement. I manage condition with medications. That's life.
Mac2016: Women palaver be this.. No professionalism attached! But OP am so sorry.. You lacked the sincerity of purpose! You were just playing the school to continue getting paid and still dictating time you wanted to leave in advance so you could stay.. You're always playing a fast card! High level of insincerity! But what I like is that you told the truth to us and was courageous about it! What did you study and what's your highest level of qualification?
Alaye seriously! How did you come by all these conclusions, did you read that post well or you are the said boss undercover.
So what is sincerity of purpose to you, than all that's said here.
Smiles. You'll get over it. It's typical of one man businesses. They didn't need to do that since you had a good rapport. But then one can't explain why people do what they do. One day you might sit with them at a negotiating table and you'll have the upper hand, the advantage. Make the best of your art talent.
burggerx: I'm not stupid man! The reason why I have stayed this long with her is that I don't know if the next person I will jump to would be worse, which I doubt
why do people say things like this, I don't know if the next person would be worse?
Hence stay in what doesn't work. Well good luck. All your answers were already in the original posts.
J111333: I don't think I can or will have time to always pay the fees, I reside very far away from them right now. I thought of stipend but the thought of them depending on it made me had a rethink because I know my cousin.
Sometimes being toxic is not the famous negative things. Sometimes being toxic is helping too much in the name of loving someone.
Their are people you need to love from afar without helping, because you are not helping them. How can a couple be unable to stand on their two feet. It's ridiculous.
How do you invest 10million in someone and there's nothing to show for it. Hian! Bros comman invest in me, you'll be proud. Lolz,
Jokes apart, sometimes to help someone they need to be helping themselves. 5th baby on the way, maybe they shd turn to the church too for help.
Mindfulness: The problem would not arise, had nobody published the video. This is what should be condemned in the first place. Tomorrow it might be you going viral, maybe not because you had sex but it could be something else similarly damaging to you and your family.
To you and your family, amen!
Don't do today what you won't be proud of tomorrow, in private or in public. My mantra.
anslem04: You must know for men ... our best chances of getting a lady is showcasing our romantic side n financial capacity becos that is the requisite for most ladies heart, if yu notice wen men meet to discuss it is different compared to wen with d ladies. the case is only different with sapiosexual beings. so even when an intellectual guys meets any lady he minimizes that side of him, becos he doesnt want to bore or freak the babe out .... so these men just av to wait on luck esp. when u understand d scarcity, konji no b joke The bitter truth is we all can't have or get want we want, jus creat a 2nd choice u can work with @least.
Nah! I disagree with waiting on luck! You can get close to what you want, except you are in such a hurry or the konji is more important to life. Choices and decisions.
foyeks2001: My brother, pls run. Someone I know was like this b4 she got married and she's still the same even worse. Her husband provides everything in their house even including pencil, despite her having 2big shops in Abuja city center. Do you also know that she uses her maiden name in all her properties Properties that we know her husband contributed large amount for her to get Her husband also finances her businesses, something we her siblings are in the know but to her, the man hasn't done anything. If you see the way she talks down her husband to people, even Satan will be surprised. We her siblings can't go to her for ordinary N 100 paracetamol... Her response has only being... I haven't sold anything since morning but ask her husband for the N100 if that man comes around that moment. Despite her millions( someone that travels to USA, UK, Dubai, Senegal, Turkey, etc to buy goods) cannot eat N2000 food at a sitting but she will gladly collect from you if you give to her.
Note: That kind of woman cannot see you go broke o, else you and your children are in hot soup.
I'm shook. Abeg! Can somebody tell me what exactly she does with the money then? Like she's hoarding it for what in particular. I feel like this can be a sought of mental problem cuz this is not normal.
Guyman02: Let me share a personal experience, when I was dating my wife, I didnt take time to observe that I was basically doing everything in the relationship and it was a one sided affair. I was buying things for her because money was flowing and she was earning little from her work place. I deluded myself that she was stingy because she earned little and since I was making a lot of money outside my salary there was no issue, I was simply in love. Then we got married and she got a better high paying job. After sometime my company redeployed me to another unit where I was forced to depend solely on my salary, no more access to vendors and suppliers who tipped me regularly to facilitate procurement under my control. We had our baby and the salary alone could no longer carry all our bills, the rent which I could afford to pay without touching my salary back in the day was now a burden. I kept asking my wife for assistance and it was not forthcoming, it was then I started thinking backwards and realised that I didnt take note of her stinginess. The pressure continued growing and frustration started setting in, I was calculating what her salary can do for us but she was not ready to assist, frustration due to mounting financial pressure started getting hold of me and in the process katakata burst. She will even tell me that the bible says that any man who cannot feed his family is worse than an infidel.
We had fights and nothing has changed in her attitude, she spends her money however she likes including buying cars of her choice, trinkets, sending to her family etc while my own money in her eyes is for the Federal Republic. Whenever I send money to my own relations or people in need she gets angry and will remind me about outstanding school fees, gas, light etc so I have to resort to doing things for my own people without informing her.
I had to accept the situation and live grudgingly with it since I cannot divorce her but decided to hustle harder for the sake of the family including her. At this point its no longer about love in marriage but survival, that her beauty and other 'traits' wey being dey shack me then is no longer the key element in the relationship after some years because there are several bills to settle. Financial consideration is a very key point for any relationship to be successful and stinginess (which is tantamount to selfishness) causes crisis in marriages. Guy I will not advise you but I am sharing my personal experience of several years in marriage to help you decide.
nawa o! This is serious. Deep indeed! I dnt know what else to say.
Starlight10: Guy dont miss her ooh, my big Sis is stingy, she was like that till she got married to the Guy, guess what!, now her family comes first, she no send us. She spends all her money on her kids and home. The guy is practically not doing much at home. This kind of wife will put her marriage and her nuclear family first. Don't listen to the people here telling you that you are dating yourself. No body has come to say anything about a stingy wife. Women are sometimes like that. Some girls give as a way to tie a man and when she enters the marriage you won't see anything again. Be wise.
But his girl is not your sister? Also, if he has showed her he wants to take this to the next level but postponed it and she knows why, and that the relationship is on the edge, yet she is isn't willing to change, that says a lot.
Remember her brother has testified to the stinginess too, so she doesn't do at all for anyone.
Quality20: just continue with her, this isn't really a bad quality, even at that guess she has other better qualities u admire so much n like. She might change gradually. Ladies by nature are like babies, babies wanna keep everything to themselves and are stingy but do grow out of it at different times. This isn't enough reason to break up Mr man.
I read this and laughed, sometimes I wonder what kinda ladies y'all roll with. Babies act illogical and with time they have to be taught sense. Well you added "might" change.
This one bad trait is really bad. You have raised all the valid points by ya own self. Life being give and take. If you sure you can do this, she wnt cross a gutter for you, while you'll cross river.
Plus u have spoken to her and nothings changed. Wait. Even on special occasions you have not received a gift from her? Like birthdays?
How does anyone function without being a giver sef, there is no joy in giving.
If it's a deal breaker for you. Walk away, if she values you very much, she'll knowA she needs to change.
2years is better than life time of you almost dying, and stingy partner won't be bothered to help. Not making sense.
Not sure OP isn't contradicting himself. I'm pissed at all these they are adults talk. Adults still paying their own school fee? Or living alone. Or still answering to some other persons.
smeag0l: That's cos a lot of these men have tried, in the past, to hold intellectual conversations with nigerian ladies only for these ladies to tell them that they're boring and behave like their dad, pastor or teacher.
lolz! Well, Once it happens. Next them.
What men should know is, once majority of them raise their standards too and they expect and demand better of these women, women will sit up too.
bukatyne: One of the reasons the guy is not on the radar is because he was the one that released the video and he has nothing to lose.
He was no longer a student at that point.
Anyways, I agree with you.
Nothing irritates me like 'they are adults, they are free to do whatever' like they fell from heaven and their actions don't affect others.
The illusion of liberty without responsibility is just that: an illusion.
Every right has a responsibility attached to it.
Nobody is free to do whatever they like: you pay the consequences sooner or later and every decision has a price you must pay.
When the consequences come, stop whinning, suck it up and handle it like an adult that you are.
And funnily, this 'freedom' to do whatever is always expressed negatively. Nobody says they are adults and free to go to Church or Mosque as many times they like. It is freedom to party, freedom to do sex videos, freedom to have numerous sex partners, freedom to drink etc.
I almost pitied Lai Mohammed when during an interview he said he was sad the day his grandson asked why people called him 'Liar Mohammed'.
Do you see that even his grandson is ridiculed for his outrageous statements? Imagine people calling your grandpa a liar to your face.
That every right has a responsibility attached to it. Wow! That got me thinking! That's food for thought.
Every other thing you said was very apt. Like freedom to do only ridiculous things. That too, only when it comes to these do some seem to find a voice.
Olalan: Good you are considering the shame this will bring to the parents, can't imagingbthe kind of trauma they will be going through now. For the girl she needs people to be around her so she doesn't slide into depression, if possibly a relocation out of the country will help her.
it's infact my most concern. The trauma of the parents
Meeloreh: This just aired my thoughts, I was thinking I was the only seeing it from another angle and always been in disagreement with the "we are all hypocrite " talk.
Meeloreh: [code][/code] As clearly stated, she's an adult. See ehn, we make choices everyday and we live with the consequences. If she was bold enough to make sex tapes, what was she thinking?? Hasn't she heard of leaked sex tapes ? Just like someone that had sex and is getting traumatized by pregnancy! People that are saying its hypocritical should all present their sex tapes. Home training isn't only parental or societal, it's you setting a moral standerd for yourself and putting into consideration the consequences of your action on yourself and others. We are allowed to mess up but then, mess up pass mess up.
Mess up pass mess up got me. I'm glad to see comments like this which prove that people are still thinking straight
Romance › Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Brightgem(f): 1:34pm On Dec 03, 2019
Properties that we know her husband contributed large amount for her to get