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kangminhyuksho:
Lmao talk about karma

Sharp one

I responded to angelfallz and spambot banned me

Angelfallz, I agree with everything you have said.

Even if I do not agree

NoToPile:
Well maybe he was a coded jaiye jaiye to begin with.

Just saying tho.

Well, she brought it out herself

Samuelnze:
My guy don't warn her yet,
just act like you don't know what she wants from you..
she hasn't made her intention known to you,
when she makes it known,you warn her..
maybe she only wants to be your friend. Nothing more.

@bold:

What kind of friendship is that?

You have really done well for yourself ma'am.

Congratulations for bringing a new dimension to the game of tennis.

kangminhyuksho:
The execution of the episode wasn't great but I was right about the message. A few days later the writers revealed that the episode was based on a true life story of a guy who defrauded autistic women so l guess that was the message they were passing, they just didn't put a lot of thought into it. I do understand your points tho

Interesting, they should have really done it better.

Gathered on Dramabeans that episode 11 or 12 with the adulterous man killed by the truck of doom was a real case (with the truck part) though he wanted divorce after 6mths.

All their cases might be inspired by real events.

Ovems:
Healer
The K2
Devil Judge
Pinocchio
Killl Me Heal Me
Dr Romantic (it's medical)
Tale Of The Nine Tailed
Law School

Currently watching Tale of the Nine Tailed.

Interesting stuff.

Gotten to where the younger brother was asked to bring the stuff most precious to him & it was his elder brother

kangminhyuksho:
1. I honestly think it's sad and they didn't make it wasn't clear if he really loved her or not. He was literally arrested because there was evidence that he played his ex girlfriend.

2. I feel like they should have taken the girl to a psychologist or therapist to figure out why she was agitated and injured herself after being intimate with her boyfriend. It might have been out of guilt for disobeying her mother or it could be because she might not have enjoyed it especially if that was her first time which we don't know.

3. I think she felt bad about sleeping with a "bad boy" which is something even "normal" people go through. I mean you might know a guy is bad for you but you still find him attractive and after konji Don clear, you might feel disgusted with yourself but that's a decision you made without anyone forcing you, so she might have been agitated cos she felt bad about it but I don't think it was rape.

4. But then again like the witness doctor said, due to her mental state she might not know how to reject him cos she craves love but somehow I doubt that's the case. I somehow hope they'll appeal his case but

5. I think the purpose of episode 10 is to dissuade people from taking advantage of autistic people cos I do know a lot of them are sexually harrased/abused even here in Nigeria just cos of how they are, so in that case, I think they passed a message across

1. I think he had affection (not love) for her. They sadly didn't provide details about the first case for further clarity.

2. Her mother was obviously the cause. During the first proceeding, she mentioned she 'didn't like/want it' because of her mother's reaction.

3. It obviously wasn't rape, she was a willing participant. Funny @ bad boy analogy. I think she liked her bad boy like that.

4. I don't think the girl didn't know how to 'say no'. Despite the natural cover of the law, she was very desperate to insist that he doesn't go to jail. Sadly, everyone else apart from the Legal Team wasn't listening to her. And I feel this would draw her into her shell again. Her first shot at love ended with the guy going to prison.

5. While I am not disputing the sexual harassment/abuse some went through, could it be we are dismissing the wants of some of them like the show? If someone stumbled on the ML kissing the FL, the first thought would be 'sexual harassment'. In issues like this, I love a case by case analysis. Except the show is trying to validate their sexual needs by the parallel with the leading couple, I didn't get any 'message'.

truthsayer009:
I get what you're saying & I agree it is not synonymous, Tyler Perry is in show business so he definitely cannot be boring but there are some kinds of "exciting" environments he cannot be seen because of the image he portrays. Your spouse may not want to watch Big Brother or Love Island where people are banging themselves on live television because he deems it unholy but you may find it interesting & think he is acting old fashioned. You may enjoy wearing skimpy stuff out & about, around the house even when visitors are in but he is feeling somehow ontop of that decision.

My point is, men who are less likely to give you problems aren't moved by popular fun lifestyle or trends which ultimately shields them from a lot of temptations but some women don't enjoy being with that type of person. They want a lively guy/man who is in vogue.

I totally agree with this.

The next question is if the godly man seeker is godly herself.

This reminds me of a story I heard; I know the actors

Babe was in 'town' and married godly bobo. Nagged him to be jaiye jaiye and as per fast learner, he learnt beyond the syllabus.


Added chronic adultery & abuse to his clubbing & hanging out with 'the boys'.

Madam kuku carry her kaya like that. After all, the man is her creation.

GloriousGbola:
Naija man logic.

You simple minded women cannot understand this

It takes a alpha Nigerian male mind, molded in the rigors of redpillers and high value indoctrination to understand these high concepts

Better get back to your place in the open air cooking area

Yes, my Lord

And who excluded them?

Cognitivereason:
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It N1.4bn..

Even N1m sef is too much.

It is same government suggesting compulsory retirement, increase in VAT/taxes and reduction of salaries to manage cost?

Yet they are gifting N1.4b?

Who cursed this country

truthsayer009:
Lol, it's possible though. At least RMD was one of them, haven't heard anything bad from him all through his marriage. Maybe they just kept his own quiet as he hasn't offended Gistlover yet.

Hahahahahaha @ offended Gistlover.

truthsayer009:
Yes there are Godly men who aren't old fashioned like Pastor Tobi Adegboyega of Salvation Proclaimers Anointed Church & Apostle Suleman, but I'm sure you know the women in Nollywood don't rest from the pricks of such Pastors.

What is your definition of 'old fashioned' and 'boring'?

angelfallz:
Maybe the way I phrased my comment gave the impression that men don't have the capacity to be monogamous, which was not what I was trying to say.
Men can be monogamous, but it requires discipline and contentment

But it not a man thing na.

It is applicable to men and women.

truthsayer009:
This Godly men that Nigerian women seek of is what I don't understand, majority of Nigerian women will completely dislike the idea of marrying a man that is actually Godly, because they are conventional and old-fashioned, similar to a Fuddy-duddy. Most of those relationships doesn't even get to the serious stage because she is already complaining of the whole thing being boring. I don't feel the spark bla bla bla.

You want a Godly man but your crush is Burna Boy & Kizz Daniel? It seems everyone wants a bad-boy that would be faithful. Why is Kirk Franklin or Tyler Perry not your crush instead.

But godly & boring are not synonymous.

For instance, how can Tyler Perry whose mind is imaginative enough to produce his movies be boring?

The fact a man is 'godly' is not an excuse not to develop his mind and humour to be an interesting lover. I can't stand a boring, stiff man myself.

Nor can I stand a 'Burna Boy'.

Besides, these men don't sell sex, the kizz Daniels & Burns Boys sell sex. This is not exonerating the crushers, these are just facts.

Just the way nobody is crushing on Mercy Chinwo or Sinach or even Chiamanda. It is Beyonce, Tiwa Savage & Omotola.

capnies:
I HAVE SAID THIS TIME N AGAIN IN THIS FORUM, THAT A WOMAN THAT DID NOT MARRY A VIRGIN HAS ALREADY CHEATED ON HER HUSBAND AND SO SHOULDN'T COMPLAIN IF HER HUSBAND CHEATS, BECAUSE SHE CANNOT UNDO THE LOST OF HER VIRGINITY BEFORE MARRIAGE. THE BIBLE TELLS US THAT ANY MAN THAT DISVIRGINS A WOMAN SHOULD PAY HER BRIDE PRICE. I DON'T SUPPORT CHEATING BUT THE NOISE THAT WOMEN MAKE WHEN THEIR HUSBANDS CHEAT IS ANNOYING AS IF THEY'VE NOT SLEPT WITH ANOTHER MAN BEFORE.

@bold:

Let me get this straight.

A woman cheats when she has sex before marriage (even if she has not met her husband)

And her cheating before marriage means the husband is entitled to cheat on her after marriage?

angelfallz:
Majority of what you have said hinges on the premise, that the man's wife is giving him sex on demand. If that is the case, then, i can understand your argument about how many times a can realistically have sex with multiple women.

However, a man can get all the sex he wants from his wife and still desire and lust after other women and girls.

He might have sex with his wife today, tomorrow he sees another beautiful woman and desires to have sex with her, until he is tired of having sex with her them looks for another woman, all the while still having steady sex from his wife.

In the end it is about contentment and discipline, because whether you like it or not, men naturally are not suited to monogamy.

@bold: interesting.

Won't God be wicked if He did not create men with the capacity for monogamy yet expects that from them?

Or do you mean that humans (male & female) are not created to be monogamous?

If yes, my first paragraph still applies.

pocohantas:
My 9months Experience As A Naija-based Remote Worker

Very nice and enlightening thread.

Keep it up.

jesusjnr2020:
One Question You Must Ask Yourself Before You Eat The Forbidden Fruit

"After eating the forbidden fruit, what next?"

Because it's usually regret that follows, hence that's one question we must ask ourselves beforehand, when the urge to eat it becomes so strong as though we won't survive or would die if we didn't eat it.

What next, after we've eaten of it?

What next, after we finally got a taste of that which we so desperately craved?

Would it be worth the trouble?

Would the hype or craving prior to eating it meet up with what follows?

The most deceptive about forbidden fruits is that beforehand it makes people feel like it's the solution to their problems in life, so once they got a taste of it, all their problems would be solved. So they'd damn all the consequences, however only to end up bitterly disappointed afterwards, when their eyes suddenly become opened to the realization that the forbidden fruit wasn't what it appeared to be.

That's how Adam and Eve got us to this miserable point we found ourselves. Of all the fruits in the garden of Eden which God had given them freedom to eat, it was the one which God commanded them not to touch that they thought they couldn't survive without.

But guess what? They finally tasted of that fruit they desperately desired, but after that, what next?

Regrets, regrets, and more regrets as their eyes became open to realize the craving wasn't worth it.

The woman who thought it would solve her problems, was now filled with regret knowing she had been deceived by the lying serpent. Genesis 3:13

The man who was so proud of the woman after God gave her to him, that he called her "the bone of my bones" and "flesh of my flesh" now saw her as the enemy and a stranger, calling her "the woman you gave me." Genesis 2:23, 3:12.

The forbidden fruit at the time meant just one thing to Adam and Eve. It was the fruit of the tree of knowledge of good and evil which God had commanded not to eat of after He made them in the beginning.

Today it means a lot things, but it was from that one thing in the beginning, even the forbidden fruit that Adam and Eve ate that all of them emerged. The forbidden fruit was the seed they sowed into their lives in the beginning which brought about that harvest of forbidden fruits we have today.

So was it worth eating the fruit?

All the consequences, the sufferings, the regrets, the pain, the poverty, the enmity, the complications, the famines, the disasters, the diseases, the deaths, etc?

The next time we find ourselves in a situation where it appears as though we cannot survive without eating the forbidden fruit, let's ask ourselves the question, after we've done that, what next?

Although yours may not have the kind of widespread and devastating impact the sin of Adam and Eve had on humanity, there are still damning consequences for any and every forbidden fruit that is eaten, so it's important that before we make those defining decisions we ask ourselves such a question, so we don't do things in a brief moment that would make us live in regret for the rest of our lives.

God bless.

Nice one OP.

These posters talking about sex, did they read the OP at all?

Mummy should have dressed hotter than this jare.

The husband's ginger na wa.

Congratulations to Arsenal fans.

Finished Pretty Man Part 1 (though I don't know if Part 2) is on Netflix. Part 1 because it can't end like that

I love the story sha. I would have written the male lead to be more 'emotional intelligent and more 'concerned' about people around him although our dear brother kept singing that he only cares what the FL thought of him.

But again, considering that the only thing people told him for about twenty years that he was nothing/wasn't good enough as a human/for the FL, I see why he doesn't care what others say.

One area Asian dramas shine for me is convincing me that X is in love with Y for z years because you see that person pinning for the crush/loved one for that period. I can't wrap my head around claiming to love someone else passionately while dating A,B,C.

Some scenes really touched me positive/negative:
1. Everytime someone told the ML he wasn't worthy because of his background

2. When the ML convinced/confused himself to yield to the FL's sexual advances when he thought she was in love with his step-brother;

3. When the ML won his first trophy & was going to woo the FL and his step mom intercepted him

4. Everytime the FL overheard the ML say they are just 'friends'

5. When the ML overheard the FL's friend/agent insuinate that she gave her the big role because she slept with him

6. When the ML asked the FL if he was worthy of her love

7. Every little smile the ML gives when it seems he is winning in his relationship with the FL. He was so cute after kissing the FL for real during the series

8. When the 2nd ML slapped his ex/girlfriend when she said he dated him for the doe & she moved on to a richer man. That was a scene done right. Same with when the two male leads practically proposed to the FLs to be their sugar daddies since that's what they want. Gave P-Square's 'Chop my money vibes.


I liked the ML's assistant/agent. He knows his boss wella. I chuckled when he told the FL that she always brought the ML trouble.

I also loved the ML's step brother; he really worked to make their relationship great.

The FL's family.... Especially step mom, na wa.

GloriousGbola:
Hijab and skin tight leggings

You can't make this up

Ghetto gangsta chick

Hahahahahaha!

Kilode!!!

I can't recall blocking anyone I know. It is only those random WhatsApp messages talking about investing N5 to get N1m in 2 hours I block.

For you to have my number on a non-work related level, there is a 90% chance that I want you to have it.

sarang60:
Big Mouth

Thanks

Cognitivereason:
Nigeria has benefited a lot from grants as well...we have received more than N30 billion in one day from a single country in aids and grants..those countries were in the heat of covid at that time..sending N1.4 to another is no biggy..but that contract is filled with a fireball of corruption who buys 10 vehicles for a billion plus

Spending N1.4t is a biggy for Nigeria today.

We don't even have a tenth of that to spare.

The issue is not the gesture, it is the timing.

angelfallz:
All these romance people. She said, "build up to the kissing scene". abegi!!!
I know some better series that would blow your mind. It would make you to keep coming back for more.

Not really the romance, but the angst.

Series such as?

angelfallz:
Lol, take a break from Korean drama and watch stranger things instead

Stranger things

Even the name has discouraged me.

Asian dramas have the right mix for me.

Gerrard59:
There is a thin line between hypergamy and polygamy. My theory states that: "as long as women are hypergamous, men will continue to display polygamous tendencies". You cannot use hypergamy to get a man but expect him to be monogamous. If women are hypergamous, it is only fair that men should be polygamous. However, some men are faithful and stick to one partner, but they are a rarity - when discussing societal issues, you look at the majority.

Another reason our men cheat with wanton abandon is because there exist no consequences for their actions. Consequences here mean outright divorce solely based on infidelity. When people face consequences for ill-actions they make, such actions reduce or are made secret. Poverty, cultural and religious factors make the vast majority of women whose partners cheat remain with them even when they know their male partners cheat on them. Should the economic growth increase in Nigeria and women are included in the economy, there will be a high rate of divorce or women will decline to get married.

P.S. The bold does not negate women's hypergamous nature, rather it increases it.

@bold: true.

Also, most women see nothing 'wrong' in it and/or it isn't a deal breaker for them.

Qinglong:
1. There are, but they are rare. In my place of service (a ministry), the men openly admit to cheating and

2. most ladies there don't see anything wrong with it as long as the man is still taking care of them. Both the corpers and the workers.

3. I was really surprised at how casually they laughed it off.

4. But even if a lot of women see openly faithful men, they will be deemed as boring or unexciting partners anyway.

1. Hahahahahaha @ 'they are a rarity'

2. Sadly true

3. I have realized that people (men/women) are very casual about adultery until they are the victim

4. Faithfulness/promiscuity has nothing to do with boringness.