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Mrsoft3:
As a father you should first understand your duty as a steward and not owner, God is the owner of every child and when you come to that knowledge and understanding you will offload some unnecessary pressure.

Now as a father it is your duty to plan the environment your children grow into, because there is no child that grows above his or her environment, if you claim you want to monitor her virginity(which you can't) best is for you to change environment since you have seen the level of decay in such environment.

Please you can't be policing your child because of sex, talk with your wife to talk about sex education,tell them the good and bad side of sex, by now you people should have that talk she is 15 and has started puberty. You can not monitor her virginity please that's an impossible task you want should not embark on. Thank you

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While, there are exceptions, it is a very great point.

Kobojunkie:
How in the world is a parent a virginity checker for Pete's sake?

Look, your child is a complete and separate individual from you,- she has a fully functioning brain with the ability to make choices, same as you, and also define her world and life same as you - and she has every right to choose for herself what to do with her body and how. That body belongs to her and not to you. Your job as a parent is to teach her the right things, teach her to protect herself should she decide to have sex and continue to nurture her so she grows into a responsible woman regardless of her sexual choices.

Your place as a parent is to love her regardless of her virginity-status. JEEZZZZ!

Is her sexual choice not part of the definition of responsibility?

Or do you mean 'financially successful'?

NOwazobia:
A Christian is a Christian.

There is nothing like water, light, thick or solid Christian

The tenet of your book is what you must abide by, except you have your own rules.

I identify as a Christian but I don't consider myself one because my life is less of what is demanded of the Christian faith.

If you arent ready to be committed, dey your lane and stop denting the image of the Christian faith.

Liberal Christianity is a term generated to feel good about one's immoral state while still masquerading as a Christian.

Rest if you aren't serious and ready yet...

Every business whether one with financial rewards, material rewards, mental rewards, moral rewards, or spiritual rewards needs commitment for one to succeed in it.

Same with relationships.

A lady cancelled a wedding due in two weeks because of a richer man?

What kind of zobo is this?

KingAzubuike:
If it was the other way round, the nigerian army parading a goat, what would you have said ? What would have been your reaction?

Hahahahahaha!

paradiseVirgin:
If they give you an opportunity, you will gobble his dick down your throat

Don't confuse me with your family members.

slam7000:
That’s a military mascot goat. Why are people so blind, so silly, so ignorant and so annoying?

What kind of people come up with this sort of news? What kind of people spread this sort of falsehood? What kind of people believe this sort of nonsense?
The ignorance is disturbing.

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Granted the news is false, isn't the bold even more ridiculous than the lie?

A military mascot goat?

Why aren't the parents of these kids also held accountable?

How can your daughter be out of the house for days and doing all sorts and you aren't punished for it?

Such a shame at R. Kelly's end. Man was a genius and some of his songs are still my favorites.

Anyways, he whom the gods want to destroy, they make mad.

everythinggirly:
The royal family war.

A good movie title.

I am sure Nollywood has something like this already

These people again?

HRprof:
No need to this long episode! What you called adultery has been in practice for both of them before they got married. They did not marry as a virgin. Your definition of adultery could be different from what bible or quora called it.
Female prisons who killed their husband because of cheating are those who don't believe that men are wayad to cheat before they go into marriage when the reality done oin them they couldn't bear the emotional damage and result in killing their partner.
The most important thing is that if God bless you with a good husband who respect you and able to fulfil his obligations as a husband. Leave the cheating between him and his God if you can not take it then leave the marriage. Most women go as far monitoring their husband to find out if he is cheating, what do you expect to see Even pastors are not exempted in this

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Very funny.

HRprof:
All men are promiscuous in nature. If every woman should know this, there will be no problem in most families. Men's cheating on their wife no be today's matter it has been there during our forefathers. Is a normal thing to men, they are wired in that way. women lets focus more on loving our kids and give them the best parenting and keep ourselves busy making money. meanwhile, if you did not visit his office you might not notice what's happening and your marriage would have been without issues. Focus more on taking care of your kids as far as his a caring husband and he doesn't punch his responsibility on you while spending on another woman.

Isn't a single working mother more attractive than the nonsense you put up there?

Or why should a woman pick up the responsibility expected in a committed relationship (marriage) when she isn't getting the privilege of commitment?

I don't believe the current mantra of 'money solves all a woman's problem' but women who believe the above need to earn enough to cater for themselves so they would be less averse to tolerating bullshit.

Because of I ask you the value the man above is bringing, you would say 'he is providing'.

Nice one!

I pray they are both fine in the end.

And the husband doesn't foolishly continue the habit/lifestyle that made his kidneys fail in the first place.

SmartPolician:
I always tell those who care to listen that the biggest casualties of fraud are greedy people.

True.

Imlost:
I never pried into such details as I consider it sinful to discuss such things.

Drama in Church 2

TheWorldNearEnd:
It's not very proper. Especially the part the guy didn't use his hands to insert the ring. It could be interpreted to mean engaging yourself by yourself.

They might be catching cruise.

Dude said 'say thank you'; babe said 'thank you sir'.

Anyways, you don see your cross madam; carry it well.

Don't disturb us with 'my husband behaves like a demi god' in future.

etrange:
This is more than a red flag. It's a red tarpaulin.

foolbuster:
You are talking trash. Most of the men that were very close to God in your Bible were all polygamous.

Rahab (one of the matriarchs) in the lineage of Jesus was a prostitute; another woman in the lineage of Jesus slept with her father in law. Infact, it is the father in law's belle that was part of the lineage of Jesus.

The polygamous men committed adultery, murder, lies, stealing of birthright, sleeping with maids, favoritism amongst their kids etc. yet nobody does these things because 'they did them'.

If you want to be polygamous, agree with your wife before marriage and leave the Bible out of it.

advanceDNA:
What is yes.??...the problem here is that u think having multiple wives will automatically make a man not see other women outside.
Greed is human nature....having plenty doesnt stop greed....only self discipline does...ask tinubu amd other theíving nigerian politician

There are men and women that have slept with more than 30 people....why ddnt they stop at two, three, or four ?? Its becos sexual immorality is fun...

Recognized Marriage doesn't make people holy or stop them from fornicating or committing adultrý.....its self discipline that stops people from jumping around..before and after mareiage...

... sadly large population of people dnt have discipline when it comes to sex...if u like give men and women right to polygamy.... same outcome nááníí

100% on point.

Polygamy doesn't stop adultery.

Graduate2015:
No one is comparing anyone to anyone. I just mentioned that to indicate that even if u are not capable of doing chores, atleast be buying gadgets or be good in any other things. Time has gone when men only go to work. If he was single, won't he clean his plates or his room or even cook food, wash his clothes and pay his bills?
My dad cooks, wakes up at night to check up on us and when we were sick he was there at night with us.

In addition to his mental/health issues, you married a traditional man and he is living up to his end.

Unfortunately, you like a 'modern' man so your love languages are different.

If you are really serious that you prefer his help/presence to his gifts, then appreciate &reject them while telling him what you want.

You can't collect his Range Rover and start complaining he is not giving you what you want.

prof0fficial111:
From all I read I think you're the problem in your marriage. You don't give the man the respect he deserves. Telling him to clean the table...Telling him not to use toilet he wants....getting angry because he messed the toilets

All you have said are clear descriptions of a wife with bad character. Sorry to say.

Maybe western life has affected your behavior negatively. Try and seek advice from Home.

The things you listed are not worthy points of anger especially the bold?

babzo:
Africans and blacks, a completely confused people.

You say with the same mouth, you are equal to whites and the West and later you will say they have been perpetually oppressing you. One can only perpetually oppress another if they are superior.

You say you hate these people, yet it's their land you go for vacation and school. You speak their language sometimes exclusively.

You fall all over their culture, food, clothes and despise yours.

Without their technology, medicine and science, you wouldn't even be able to survive in this world.

Even your leaders choose their lands to do private meetings of a few hours instead of your own land.

You guys need to make up your mind, it's like you are perpetually confused.

Total post on point!

The bold is gold. I wonder how peeps never understand this:

The moment you want to be like someone/ something; use them as a benchmark of what is ideal or what you should be or complain about their oppression, then you have automatically conceded that they are the standard and superior to you.

Hmmm, the end of an era.

God console all she left behind and help the new King to uphold her legacy.

Would all of us currently alive see a British Queen again?

The next three line of succession are men.

Ilekokonit:
You are one of the FEW good ones left.

This was hilarious!

Rozross:
Very soon some women will no longer need men, I’m an exception because as a strong dependent woman I’ll need a man by my side to perform his duties.

Hahahahahaha!

Which one is strong dependent woman again?

A quality man who brings more than money & sex to the table has nothing to fear.

Bullets, money and vibrating panties can't build a life with you.

Helpout12345:
I don't agree that he should just give her house help because she wants it. If she is overwhelmed, and they can afford it, yes.

Giving her house help just because she wants will lead to maltreatment of the house help. Such people that are lazy or have time management problems themselves will turn the house help to a slave in the house.

Klass99:
At the bolded, I have reservations about a help because the matriarch hasn't mastered her home, she doesn't have a firm grip on a routine that works for everyone, she's not staying on top of things, but a help will now be hired and expected to achieve a feat even she hasn't been able to achieve, on top of how much?

Sooner or later the help will start to look overused and abused from being overworked, because madam would have practically left 95% of home chores to her, I've seen this play out in different households I'm familiar with. Some women will sit in the living room watching TV and ask the help to make them a meal, while she's in the kitchen doing that, they start shouting Grace come and carry Junior he is disturbing me.

Does it not make sense that while Grace is cooking, you mind the child you gave birth to? But no, they want to offload that responsibility to the help as well. A help in some instances means a complete hands off from house work and motherhood duties for some women.

And for women who have not shown care or effort in reasonably managing their homes, premium tears awaits someone else hired as a help, they do all the work for very little benefit. If I were her husband she must adjust and create a workable routine for our home first, before I consider bringing on a help and if I do her duties will mostly be limited to laundry and house cleaning.

I agree with both of you.

Shebbs:
Better Than Yahoo, Funny Enough Our Leaders Will Not Allow Her Abled Men Have This Privileges With Their Unquenchable Taste For Corruption.

"One Man's Food Is Another Man's Poison." What We Are Craving For As Means Of Survival Is What The Gambian Government Is Trying To Stop. Last Last This Life No Balance.

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This life is sure turning on its head if sex tourism is a 'privilege'.

pansophist:
The old men goes to Thailand, and women to Jamaica/Gambia, while the young ones are busy wasting away their lives with stupid ideologies that guarantee singledom and sexual starvation when they get old.

How ironic.

Even if he is self controlled enough not to ask you for sex, ensure that:
1. He is very sexually attracted to you
2. He has no sexual issues

And most importantly, he is coachable and open minded which would naturally reflect in your sex life when married.