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Lamanii22:
I literally rinse my mouth after brushing my teeth like I have been doing that all my life... until I purchased one brand of toothpaste that said "do not rinse your mouth after brushing".

So, should you or not rinse after brushing your teeth?

Drop it and buy the brand that is silent about it

Problem solved.

I screamed when the screen fell.

I pray for God's healing on them.

Amen.

GloriousGbola:
dem plenty for this table
like when linda released the story that femi kutis kids are not biologically his.

Femi called her out on the havoc she was unleashing on the children
las las, Linda is like bill gates was, a ruthless business woman with a friendly pretty demeanor that allowed her to get away with a lot

@bold:

Devineee:
Are there still genuine people who help because of God anymore?



Because recently from my observation whenever I seek for help some people they say they want to help me but at the end of the day they will try to take advantage of me.


what is wrong with the world we are living in now?

I'm very confused and very surprised is the world really showing love to each other? are people really helping each other again?

I just want to know cuz I'm confused people don't value life anymore.
people don't get genuine help anymore.
But we can do more as a human being.
is there such thing as humanity anymore?
When last have you received help from anyone?
when last has a total stranger helped you?

When last have you 'helped' someone?

And I hope this help is bit limited to money?

kayperry:
Op didnt posit they fight every day or every minute, there many things couples do to warrant such remark, besides wonderful does not denote Perfection.
There is no perfect husband anywhere, apparently the man lacks anger management, i still believe water can kill a raging fire

You either have an extremely low standard for a decent human being or you are a wicked person.

Or maybe both.

Read the OP again and tell me if anyone possessing the qualities above can be called 'wonderful'.

pocohantas:
I can assure you it is because he pays the school fees, rent and buys bag of rice at home. Isn’t that wonderful enough?

I honestly hope it is not.

pocohantas:
Not easy at all sis. At this point, e suppose follow for 1000 ways to die.

To think some people would justify this madness. Locking ones partner out in the night? You no even send the insecurity? Coldhearted partners are dangerous because they don’t even know when to stop.

Make women dey try marry men whose hearts softens to them. Pharaoh sef no do reach this one. Tufiakwa!

@bold:

100%

Treepower2000:
Then why did she pass out.
Or you don't know the meaning of "pass out"

So people only pass out from 'highness'?

Hmmmmmm.

There are three possible scenarios or a combination of them:
1. The man is insecure because he tied his identity to his earning power
2. The wife is emasculating/ disrespecting the man because she is now the breadwinner
3. The wife is providing the emotional security that he has nothing to worry about.

If your account that they had a building project together while he was working is true, then the wife did not do well building a house separately. She should have completed the current building project which would have addressed point 3 above.

Axis313:
That funke and jjc episode is what is causing concern for the guy, he even told me that a man living under his wife's house is nothing more than a tenant.

The above tells me that point 1 above is also at play. If he did not build him home like Funke & JJC, why is he afraid that his situation would be like that?

I am also curious to know who did the chores while the husband was the major breadwinner and how they handle chores now.

Some husbands feel useless when they don't earn anymore because they honestly do not add any value to the marriage. Their feelings are right however, 99% would address it the wrong way.

If a woman is the breadwinner + house keeper + child carer etc, then honestly ask yourself what value you are to her at that point. What's your input or contribution to the home/relationship at that point?


@holding the house papers: that is almost the crime of wizardry if he wants to reap where he did not sow. While I agree the wife could have handled the whole house issue much better, the man has NO RIGHT to demand for something that is not his.

If the wife decided to do so, that is another kettle of fish.

Hmmmmm

Jovialjune1:
You really have issues

How can you not understand satire?

Even other commentors used same "witch" analogy in their comment based on the Op's context yet you have issues with it? Na wa o.

Please quote me with sense

The OP never alleged that 'A woman who has a voice, says no when appropriate or stands up for herself' is a witch except the thread opener can read his mind.

Except Amber Heard (the only woman cited in the OP) is an example of 'A woman who has a voice, says no when appropriate or stands up for herself.'

In another news, a troll has created an account similar to yours.

JoviaIjune1:
hi i am sorry for the earlier comment i made with my jovialjune1 account.
I retract it.
I'm so sorry

Pinkie2018:
Please I have a problem in my marriage. I need advice. Pls no insult.
I got married 2020 and did the court Marriage last month. My husband has been a wonderful husband and by God's grace I have been a wonderful wife and a mother. We have one child.
The issue I'm having in my marriage is anger management. When ever my husband gets angry, he says all sorts of things to me, like leave my house, you are a bad wife, different sorts of insults of which whenever we reconcile he apologizes sometimes.
He's the type that no matter the good things you do, once he gets annoyed, he abuse you verbally of which really hurts me. Last month we had an argument that resulted to a fight, her beat me like his fellow man and locked me out and ask me to leave his house. Neighbors intervened and we settled.
Something happened today. He came back home around 2.am this morning instead of the usual 11-12pm he usually arrive home. I wasn't happy, he tried to explain but I knew he was lying because my sister in-law already called one of his friends before he came back. So I wasn't happy with him but I didn't make trouble with him. So this morning I drank aju mbaise and hot drink on empty stomach, so it was affecting me and making me want to faint. So it happened that he was giving me money for something this morning but I felt like fainting so I threw the money on the floor and quickly fell on the bed. After few minutes, I regained myself and got up, all the while my husband never cared to know what the problem was. I got up and asked him for the money, he started shouting and insulting me that why will I trow money on the floor for him. I tried to explain to him what Happened, he never cared to listen. He started insulting me, saying I will leave his house, that he can't continue with the marriage, that he will kill me. Note, it's not the first time he has threatened to kill me. I don't know what to do. His family members have talked to him about this his attitude about marriage but he gets worse. Pls I need advice because this his "leave my house" and threat all the time is too much. Little issue that couples have and settle, my husband always make it a big deal. If he annoys me and I get annoyed and refuse to talk to him, he will vex and start insulting me and threatening me. Pls I need your advice, what do you think I should do? how can I change him because I don't want my marriage to crash?, we have a daughter and u wouldn't want her to grow in a divided home. Thanks

What makes your husband wonderful?

crackhaus:
Out & about, but never too far from here...

Happy new year to you too Buka.

Have a great year (abi what's left of it )

pansophist:
Only in the media, they are powerful but in real life, people ignore them and trust me, indifference is a different kind of pain. In fact if you ever have the choice of being hated or being treated with indifference, choose hate, because being hated means the person still ''see'' and acknowledges your being.

I live in the western world and all my time here, I have only seen one transgender. They are not that common, only in the media do I hear all this noise about trans. The one I know stays around the city center with loud music and always shouting and singing along reggae music to gain public attention, which at best, he/she/they gets a glance and go back to being invisible as usual. If not for the loud music on his/her/they JBL speaker, most people won't even notice him/she/they.

Trans folks are victims of how fallen morality in the western world has descended, I mean, I wanted to be Hellboy when I was a kid, and I truly believed I am. Now imagine my parents believed my nonsense and carved two horns on my forehead like a goat because I truly believed that I was born into the wrong specie. Lots of kids who believed they are the opposite gender for lots of stupid reasons have been subjected to the brutal butchers of people that should be thrown in jail (trans surgeons), instead of ignoring the kid or at best, taking him/her to a psychiatric hospital. These trans folks can't accept themselves, yet they want us to accept them. For me, the only thing I will give you is indifference. I no ''see'' you.

You are right that indifference is worse than hate.

With time, if they keep pushing, they would be like homosexuals.

It is just a matter of time.

CHoccolaTE:
Yes, its me indeed ooo

I might be feminist but trans ideology is something I will never support.

Don't worry, you will the light even for feminism

Because it is feminism (the thought that men & women are the same hence need same things) that metamorphosed to acceptance (not occurrence) of homosexuality and now transgender.

What we don't see is that these things are part of the war against womanhood and we unfortunately lead the battle against our essence.

Like you rightly said, transgender affects women/womanhood the most. The irony is that transgender men would never access the natural privileges men have.

cococandy:
It was kinda clear that’s my way of saying anyone who possesses the behavior I described is a witch to men like Nick Fuentes.

I think EVERYONE knows the dictionary definition is different. You don’t have to tell us.

I’m setting the tone because I don’t want to go down the path of debating whether they exist or what they look like or any of that inconsequential stuff. But to focus on this monster in the OP

I am not interested in a debate.

The OP only mentioned Amber Heard has an example of a witch. Except you are saying Amber Heard is an example of 'A woman who has a voice, says no when appropriate or stands up for herself.'

While the OP has something going mental in his head, avoid going the opposite tangent by inferring what the OP has not said.

Angelfrost:
Leave him... That's the low standard of living which many now see as normal!

Our parents lived far better on that!

Most Nigerians are living in denial, especially those still supporting these politicians.

It is so so sad.

femicyrus:
This is my major reason for hating the vice president who saw #5000 distribution as a way of lifting Nigerians out of poverty

With #15,000 monthly, you must be leaving in affluence in the eyes of buhari and osinbajo.
Very wicked leaders

I tell you.

What does N5k do for them?

Themez1:
I earn 23k monthly and still pay house rent, buy foodstuffs, go to church rehearsal and Sunday services, pay utilities bills but most times I trek to work and it's kind of far not close.

The thing is just that as long as you're faithful with what you're doing God will always be faithful and he's been to me.
I went for an interview yesterday, I pray to be selected o. Nairalanders please put me in your prayers

I pray it works out for you.

sekem:
Loans.

Loans have been saving a lot of people.

How do you pay back without the intent to default?

Coldie:
Find a shop become close to the seller and start buying things on credit. When ur money big too much pack out run .


They do this is Nigeria a lot

Interesting.

And they don't think that they would wreck the seller this way?

gregng:
U are just extravagant in spending... What u withdrawal wasn't for food consumption but to solve prolem.

Probably u gave ur gf some, u eat out especially fuel ur car and drink alot of beer with isiewu

N50k a week is extravagant?

Do you know his standard of living or bills he has to pay?

You think N50k would give girlfriend, eat out a lot, fuel car & visit bar a lot in this economy?

AmazingELixir:
The security personnel at work in one of our project site...I keep asking them that ...their response has always been " its God oh" those guys task the living day light out of me.

My people take it from me...Nigerians are suffering as in people are seeing hell on earth in this country.

@bold:

Hits the nail on the head.

That's how low income earners survive especially in 'high cost' areas.

Someone said he earns N20k monthly & pays N3k rent/mth.

That would be a very low cost area & he might be able on survive on his salary if he lives very very close to his job/has free transportation & food is very cheap there.

Then we look at Education, healthcare facilities and other things.

It is really sad.

Good one sir.

Gosh234:
I will go straight to the point and make this brief. Recall this thread https://www.nairaland.com/6990203/should-marry
On March this year I got a job as ICT officer in a firm which made me move to Lagos ,we are super excited about this development and everything working out fine (No relationship is perfect, understanding kept us going)

I served in a university, towards completion of my service year, I accomodated a guy who got to know about us
One day we were in a arguement of dating or marrying someone older than you.
I stood my ground that I can marry irrespective of age, provided it is what I want
The guy came to conclusion that it seems my spouse is older than me, we laughed over it (That ends it)

Secondly my friend Davidson that live in the same compound who is done with his studies, working while waiting on NYSC.
I told him about my woman , how I love her and ready to settle down as soon as things go as planned for me (he have seen her visited once but they never met)
He asked me if she work, I told him
He asked of her age, I JUST TOLD HIM THAT SHE IS A BIT OLDER THA ME.

While discussing with my woman last night , I was assuring her how much I love her irrespective of anything then I pointed out the two above incidence
To my greatest surprise she became angry eith me
In her words
a) She detest dating underage, how she found herself in this mess she can't tell

b) I should go ahead and tell my mum and elder brother (they just talk via phone) and even all my friends

c) I make her look desperate, that she is loosing interest already

d) I insulted her and she can't trust me again

NOTE
a) I promised her that no one will know of the age difference even if they know she is older

b) I never mentioned her age to these people or the age gap

My crime is that I admitted that she is older and I am proud and love her wholeheartedly

I don't see this working out again
I feel so belittled
Gosh

@bold:

If you have any iota of self respect, you will address the bold before moving forward or backward.

She also need to get a grip on herself. If she doesn't want people to know she is dating a younger man, then she shouldn't.

Since she doesn't like you telling people about the age difference, don't tell them.

If you feel the urge to, drink water or eat sand.

Maxymilliano:
Lol ... You mean the same wife he initiated divorce proceedings against is the same one in bed with him ?

As in.

The lawyer should drop the case. The client is obviously not serious and has no respect for himself nor his wife/babymama/ex-wife.

cococandy:
Who’s a “witch”? A woman who has a voice, says no when appropriate or stands up for herself. It’s far right religious propaganda used to promote violence against women.

Sign the petition:

https://www.change.org/p/arrest-nicolas-j-fuentes-for-illiciting-violence-against-witches-and-women

@bold:

This is not definition of witchcraft though.

Except the OP has a different definition of witchcraft.

So ugly a watch.

PHYTECH:
The rate of Religious sentiments on Nigeria, is of serious concern.


Osun state won a Christian-Christian ticket

When a presidential candidate picked a Muslim as his vice, the noise of Muslim-muslim ticket was everywhere. Today, Out of the 6 SW and SS/SE states. There is no single Muslim Governor, not even 1. While no one is even talking about this. This is absad state. Even in some states like Ondo state, there's barely a Muslim ssa, commissioner or director.

Even when it's obvious that muslims are majority in SW.

This is a call if concern to everyone and all hypocrites.

How many Christian Governors do you have in the North?

Oga, process things before you start spewing them out.

And the fact there is no Muslim Governor NOW doesn't mean there has been no Muslim Governors.

Politics & representation at the state level is different from federal level.

otomatic:
Some churches give the couple a marriage list of items to provide.
Some, you buy suits for the officiating pastors and their team.
You even power the generators for that occasion which will last the whole day.
They even collect church offerings and do launching of church projects during weddings.
Such churches can afford to wait because you have paid them and they will make money out of your event.
Winners Chapel does not collect shishi. Not diesel money, no church offering, no project launching, no list of things to give the church or pastors, nothing.
And they would have stressed this issue of punctuality and what the bride and her girls will wear during narriage classes.
People should learn to follow rules.

Let's assume the pastor had other business after an hour; the couple still have 25mins. The pastor should have joined them and other stuffs till the 25mins mark.

unyimecc:
Dont mind all the hypocrites, the business pastor fixed wedding 9am and burial 10am the same day and intend to attend both so that he won't miss offerings to a junior pastor.

Oh!

Toktee:
I am more than a conqueror.


This is not mosque where some arrives when others are leaving cos them don finished prayers.

What kind of Christianity are you practicing?

Do you think Jesus would have done same if He were the presiding pastor?