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IrepChrist:
1 Timothy 3:2-2
King James Version
2 A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach.

I have come to realize that we so much love titles in Nigeria without having ready to pay the price of the office.

Rozross:
Some people are not just reasonable, were you supposed to tell your mother-in-law on what to do in this type of situation? Let her leave till your wife’s godmother is gone since she’s just staying for few days. Dem no even pity you sef

Makowonda:
He just left my house about 20 minutes ago.Guy man de drink beer,de smoke any stick that brings out smoke,de club anyhow.But when you mention football?Ah!He's the type that can sincerely ask you if Cristiano Ronaldo and Lionell Messi are siblings or not?That's if he even knows about their existence in the world of football.

pocohantas:
That particular one is a whole lot skewed to me. I believe the man should show responsibility. It is the noble thing to do since the child has been born. It is about the child for me.

But then, if you say your body is your body, it means you should be able to take responsibility to a very good extent.

The reward of sex mustn’t be a child. It could even be HIV and we wouldn’t be having these funny conversations. Let’s all learn to take responsibility biko.

pocohantas:
78 where? They no pass 7 o. The guy is really a good guy and shouldn’t be blamed for giving his BM N5000 a month. He can’t do pass himself!

As at when she decided to have the baby, she knew his income. Even this condom question doesn’t fly. The guy is not denying the baby and if a woman doesn’t want to have a baby, we all know she wouldn’t.

I do not see the sense in a woman saying it is her body when it pleases her, but go ahead to malign the man who wasn’t ready to have a child for not meeting up with her preferred child support.

If you want to be a BM, you as a woman should also be very prepared and the man should support too. Linda Ikeji no get two head.

BigYash:
A woman mustn't be good in bed. But she must not be lazy in bed. If I'm dating a girl and she is directing the kind of styles I should use on her,I see such girl as a hoe,because she learnt from so many coaches before ,she became that good. My opinion anyways..

Fiscus105:
The same way you should overcome temptation of poor skill in bed from ur wife.

I biliv u re a "good man."

pocohantas:
Yea, the traditional ones are quite tricky as you stick to office hours. Someone like the other poster you quoted that has a problem going out because of impromptu meetings, is he supposed to go out? If these meetings are done within the stipulated work hours, then you should be available. That is why WFH requires a lot of discipline.

Cypress042:
Her lifeless body was found at the road side?

It can't be a suicide case, i doubt it.

The husband should be arrested for proper interrogation and investigation

pocohantas:
It may just be her own kind of job.

AdeMoss:
I will describe this list as FEATURES of working from home and not advantages. By the time your home has been conditioned to workspace, it has a mental effect. The absence of physical coworker interaction turns you to a robot.

Bloggz74:
Disadvantages:
1. You work even past 5pm till late in the night most times.
2. You can have unplanned meetings so going for personal issues outside your home could be tricky.
3. You need constant power supply for a perfect work station which could costs alot.
4. Working from home could be boring because you miss that office excitement and banter.
5. You add lots of weight because of less stress and eating too much.
6. Much distraction from kids and family members especially married ones.

Folasadepitan:
5 Advantages of Working From Home

Most times working from home is underrated. Working from home has lots of advantages that it almost feels like a luxury

It can be so wonderful to not have to share workspaces with annoying coworkers and overbearing bosses

Let's talk about the 5 Benefits of Working From Home

1. Being Able to Save a Lot of Time
Working at home helps save a lot of precious time. That means that you can spend more time doing the things that you actually love in life.

If you want to be able to hang out more with your friends and family members, then working at home can open you up to that pure joy.

It is so nice to not have to deal with long traffic in the morning and again at night(Lagos people can relate wella)

Not having to deal with uber drivers or any other form of transportation daily

Not having to leave home as early as 4 am & come back around 11pm


2. Being Able to Work in an Environment You Love:

It can be nice to be able to work as you stare at your walls covered in photographs of the people you love the most in the world

Staring at pictures of family members all day definitely beats being in a cold and sterile office environment with harsh lighting

3. Being Able to Take Breaks Whenever the Need Arises
If you work at home, then you’re in charge of your own schedule. You don’t have to worry much about anyone monitoring you.

It can be frustrating to not be able to nap quickly any time your eyelids feel heavy or go for a refreshing walk any time when you feel overwhelmed with work.

4. Not Having to Spend too much on Food:
It can be frustrating to have to buy food daily from local restaurants and fast food joints or pack food from home.

Paying for food outside can cost a lot. When I was working as a cashier with L.G., I used to spend 2/3 of my salary on T.P & the rest on food. Yes, no savings!

5. Not Having to Pick Out Outfits

Thinking of matching colours of shoes, bags & outfit is a herculean task

Back then, I used to spend my weekends planning clothes for the week.

To think that you have to iron the clothes to look professional

At home, you can wear your softest pair of leggings around. You can even keep your pyjamas on.

It's just bae

Helpout12345:
including 2 year separation ?

Jovialjune1:
How will giving birth naturally be the reason you both had to separate? You are abroad, where there are suberb medical experts, can't you use other options available? Except he is an archiac man, I see that natural birth excuse as weird.

All I'll say is love yourself, value yourself, and find happiness with yourself, no one can make you happy except you, hold yourself in very high esteem and have self dignity and respect, be aware of your breaking point when it comes to marriage and emotions, do not manage, do not endure, do not suffer.

Lastly, ask him what his reaction would have been if you were the one that was involved with another man and got pregnant during your separation period, his answer should determine your next action.

angelfallz:
Whaaat?!!!

ITbomb:
1. Run away from any lady that is control by her pastor.

When married, you as the man is the sole spiritual head of your house representing Christ who is the Head of the Church.
Not even pastor should bypass the established hierarchy. Any spiritual advice must be through the husband.

And for the ladies, you were warned not to be unequally hooked with an unbeliever, so if your husband doesn't grow you spiritually then it is your fault

olowo16g:
1. Good day people, I will make this short as possible. My girlfriend came back from church yesterday and told me that it is compulsory for all executives in each departments to register their relationship if they are not married just for the church to keep tag on them.

2. She told me that she lied to her pastor about me that I haven't been to the church before mean while have been there once and even had interaction with the pastor and pastor's wife... the pastor's wife recognised me when she came to my work place like two months after I visited her church.

3. The way my girlfriend feels after her conversation with her pastor seems there's a brother in her church the pastor wants to hook her up with.

4. She was telling me it's whatever her pastor says is final about our relationship.

5. Now if she later tell her pastor about us and the pastor say I am not the right person for her l, she won't think twice before she ends our relationship.

Zonefree:


Wetin dey pain you this sweet Monday morning??

Zonefree:
The question is, where are we going to find a supportive Nigerian girl for marriage?

The last supportive Nigerian girl died in 1968. We're left with Siofra, Jennyclay and others.

Mindlog:
Marriage by duress indeed!

She is "securing the bag" through her knowledge of bigamy as a crime in the Netherlands and can imagine the man living under fear.

Mindlog:
"I mean, once you are traditionally married to him, having a child for him... you can't easily change your mind again and Look for another man!?".......So wrong, traditional marriage is the easier to end, as in many communities, it entails refunding the bride price paid to the intending ex-husband in comparison to the one done in a registry.

Such marriage is transactional, the man wants a wife and children in Nigeria as back up while the "wife" in Nigeria wants steady income and most times still have sex with other men while still being "married".

I know a Nigerian man who is married to a Dutch and based in Amsterdam, he did go back to Nigeria to marry a lady from his place and now have 2 children. The man got the information that she is steadily sexually active with a guy and she didn't deny it, he threatened to throw her out of his house in Lagos while she threatened to report him to the Dutch Embassy in Nigeria for bigamy as it is a criminal offense in Netherlands, which would get the man prosecuted and spending some time in prison....Uncle, has now kept quiet despite the pressure from his family in Nigeria to throw her out of "his" house.

EnterpriseMan:
This post is annoying!! 100k is more than enough for a guy to take care of himself. Ig he earns 100k monthly, that should be 1.2m yearly. if he has been earning that for 5yrs, If he saves and lives low budget, he should own a house by the time he decides to add problem to his life (the problem being the lazy woman asking how much he earns instead you trying to earn 100k too and double the family budget). Your question shouldn't be what he earns but should be what he has achieved with what he earns. I believe someone who earns 100k, doesn't pay rent and has savings is ready. While someone who earns 100k and blows it on clubs and drinks and relies on the next pay isn't.

Oh and he should live in a budget friendly state. 100k in abuja or lagos is a recipe for disaster

Emdebby2:
It's not about how much you earn. Live your life according to your budget.

membranus:
She is cheating on you.

Send her back to her father's house. Let her go and marry her vibrator.

baralatie:
The husband was the one that rejected the wife first oo
He was the one deny the wife o