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Adetayo41:
I think you are right, I am always busy working 24/7, sometimes she called me for intimacy I will sleep off, sometimes she will wake me up, and for me to cooperate. I will sleep back touching her. But now i am less busy, that is when I noticed what she have been doing

Betternext:
Will the plates vote for him?

Klass99:
Madam, please rest!

You read my post since yesterday and didn't respond, the thread has since grown to over 7 pages and is an old topic for me but you felt the need to still bring it up and drag it out, in a new day. To what gain?

Your thoughts/views are yours, mine are mine, the world hasn't fallen apart because of it, so please rest already.

toykathy:
Birthdays :

1. Bona

2. Hong Seung Hee

3. Ahn Sol Bin

kangminhyuksho:
OMG sounds cool. I didn't even know it was adapted from a novel. I'll probably read it someday in the distant future

Klass99:
@ Your first paragraph, I agree that the expectation is burdensome and I don't personally expect it of angry men. What I expect is that you will handle the provocative situation however best it suits you, I am not one to preach or dictate to people how they should react in any situation.

@ Second paragraph, I also agree with you.

1. On your last paragraph though, if you are referring to Zac's scenario it very well qualifies as a potential situation that could have quickly escalated to violence and abuse. It's good that Zac walked away both times, don't forget what the good book says about the tongue on how restless and evil it is. Just one spoken word or a few words would have changed the whole narrative for Zac's household.

lilioj:
Really? Why

Mindlog:
For me, it is about marrying for the right reasons or you remain single for the right reasons and if one has chosen to be celibate for religious reasons (Catholic Priests, Reverend Sisters etc), stick to it for the right reasons.

apple30:
Ezekiel chai, 3 E am deaded

jazon:
Yeah. I'm having a very bad day, in fact the whole month has been the worse ever, since I was born.
I think it can never get worse than this. But I'm still strong. There's always hope. I can never give up no matter what.

I'll keep hoping no matter how things turn up.
Even if it means looking at the devil (smiling) and telling him kill me.

Troubledman:
So this night. I did a horrible thing. I stuck my wife thrice on her back. Yes, I know it's horrible and I should be burnt at the stake. And I am truly sorry for it but... There's always s back story.

I went through university without ever getting into a fight. I swore of physical violence since 2005. I havent raised my hands at anyone ever. Not to defend myself. Not to fight. In those years. I don't even let people fight aroujd me. I am known everywhere as the peace keeper. Which is why I feel very horrible about my action tonight.

Since we got married. I have noticed this trait of aggression in the person I married. Always quick to anger and insults everytime. In the last couple of days. We've had course to stay with my mum.

Earlier in the day. We were arguing about something (not so important to be honest) and my mum remarked that we should do better that were a new couple and we shouldn't be arguing like this all the time. She even joked that she was going to buy a cane for both of us.

Barely 2 mins later another discussion came up and this lady started raising her voice again. This time in full view of my mum. I just kept telling her please take it easy, take it easy. I even mentioned to her that this was what mummy was just telling us about. She would not bulge. Eventually my mum chipped in and said to me to keep quiet. So I did. When she finished shouting she stood up and left for the room.

After a while , my mother went into the room to talk to her. Even asked her not to be annoyed. Invited her to eat. She brought the food to me but I was too annoyed to eat. How is my wife shouting at me in front of my mum ? So I walked away, went out for a stroll. When I came back. She was in the room, she I stayed back in the living room. She came to me, started telling me that I should not let her be angry at me, changing the story that I was shouting at her earlier and she didn't say a word, I was livid but this didn't tip me. I just told her off and went back to do my work. She came back again started off another tirade in the middle of the night btw and ended it with saying "your mother is responsible for this"

Now, that's what made me mad. From the start I have warned my family not to interfere in mine. Not my dad or my mum have ever told me or directed me on how to do in my marriage to her. I imagine that because her display was in public today that's why my mum commented. Even on Wednesday she was talking to me harshly in the car and my mum was there and she never talked.

So anyway I stood up from where I was went to meet her and struck her about 3 times in the back warning her never to involve My mother in our talk again.

Then she shouted screaming at 2 am. Cursing me. Mt mum came out to even try to calm her down. She turned to my mum as well. Saying she knows what she'll say. That she supports me etc. Even when the poor woman didnt say anything. She's gone off now. Milking it. Saying I beat her. Should I add that she came back slapped me square on the face, hit my chest. Even dragged my mother to the floor

But everyone is on me. I'm the woman beater. Domestic violence.

Honestly, I'm just tired of this marriage. I married for peace this woman gives me trouble everyday. I chose to stay in the living room for peace tonight. She brought her madness to meet me.

I agree I messed up. I perhaps shouldn't have hit her. I regret it. It's going to go with me. But I was too pushed. She continues to do this knowing I wouldn't talk and st the time I believed that's the only thing she'd respond too. I know this could probably get me a lot of hate but I'm also hoping someone could see reason in what's happening

Im sorry it's so long. I didn't think about it. I just created this account and started writing. Apologies for likely typos too

TroubledMan

Klass99:
This shit really works .

A friend's friend (Zac) has done it to his wife. During a heated argument that was going no where Zac bounced for a night out with his guys. On getting back home his wife and mother in law started to give him lip. Zac just packed a bag of clothes and vamoosed for 3 whole days.

Wifey and mother in law were the ones calling, texting and pleading with him to come home. Since then everybody around Zac arranges themselves well. Nothing speaks louder than actions, abeg .

Every time I hear communication is key, sit her down and talk to her, or have a heart to heart talk with him, I smile and shake my head. Non-verbal communication can be just as effective as verbal communication, if not more powerful sef.

Your post and signature has me thinking you are a jackass but a likeable jackass.

RealAdewole:
That's when you read your Bible with one eye closed

descarado:
Hello house

Longest time.
Hope everybody is doing well.

Is any of you a fan of bl?

I have been following this thai bl . Infact, saw a clip on my YouTube feed and curiosity made me check it out.
Phew.

Name is kinnporsche.

Spoiler, make sure you are alone or with one that matters when binge watching
Just that it's only one episode every Saturday.

Read the novel. Not finished yet. Drama toned everything down cos it's explicit +18.

lilioj:
If I get you properly, you said we should fry the pepper and spices in vegetable oil before adding to the grinded beans? Thanks

Godmother:
Yes, people need to be wary, which is why I felt I just had to come back to drop that last post.

Years ago, I was a young lady tormented by great fear of the marriage institution. Every marriage I had seen was plagued by pain and sadness (or maybe I focused too much on the bad).

I avoided relationships as best as could and when I entered any, jumped out within six weeks.

I was tired of that life and the loneliness it brought. I knew there had to be something beautiful out there and so sought help for my irrational fear.

My first post was a cry for help.

I remember the day I posted it clearly. I sort of wanted married folks to come out to allay my fears and assure me I was so wrong in my beliefs and ideas of marriage. Instead, what I got were married children who decided to turn this place into a playing field.

There were a lot of sensible responses too though, ones that allayed my fears enough for me to take that plunge and I'll forever be grateful to those guys.

Posts on nairaland rank well in search results and this one do too. I'm hoping one woman out there who has the same fear of commitment and marriage from the negative experiences she's had growing up sees this and comes to realize and understand that, like all things, marriage also has the good and the bad.

We can choose to focus on the bad and end up with a warped view of it, or see the good too (the many examples of good marriages out there) and see that marriage can be a balanced, beautiful union between two souls who are committed to each other and are ready to face the world as a squad.

It took me several years to get to this point (endless pain and confusion, not to mention the missed opportunities) I'm hoping it takes her just a day to see the truth of marriage

czarr:
He just saw you as a loose woman based on how you carried yourself, that is what you should be worried about, why did he feel so comfortable asking such of you if you didn't carry the aura of a runs girl.

lugado:
Stupid story
So fake.
All she needed to do was to just sleep with the guy thats all

UptownVibes:
Mumu! Fantasy na em this one dey call love She is just 15.. By the time she is 25,she will definitely regret this act. If the table is turned, will her partner do same? This life na per head o.. Na only you waka come o..

Ishilove:
Conventional wisdom which should have been applied long ago. Instead, she came here to be yarning dust

Ishilove:
Wos wos wobi, Mrs Ogbeni, shut the fvck up ke koshi danu. I had soundly ignored you previously, but i see you edited your post to add the last line. You think I have the time for useless e-fights? You may have the time but I definitely do not. You say if I should 'come at you with nonsense', you will reply in double measure or whatever rubbish you spewed. It is like you are high on your own potently stinky fart. You wrote nonsense many years ago and till date, even after seeing the light, you have not edited what you wrote. You started out saying marriage is bondage, and yet you still went into the same 'bondage'. Meanwhile, some foolish people will get their misguided inspiration from your original point of view. It reminds me of when Tonto was manless and she was calling herself 'king', but when Kpokpogari came into the picture, she remembered she is a woman and her son needs a father figure.

Wo, all of you should fvck off jare. Don't bother replying because I am going to ignore you so hard, you will doubt your own existence. Shior.

Godmother:
I just went through this thread again and couldn't help shaking my head at pdude and skills.

Those guys were immature and silly, and to think one was even married at the time. Makes you wonder about the caliber of men we have these days.

I asked a simple question and they went on a rampage showcasing their stu.pidity and low IQ.

I'm married now; for over seven years. I finally got over my fear of marriage and took the plunge.

Marriage is not what I expected; it's so different from what I thought.

It can be beautiful if you marry the right person, stay committed to it; work hard at it, give as much as you get, laugh together, and pray.

I just thought to update this thread so any young lady currently having that irrational far I had will know not to.

TenQ:
So you believe in the Spectacular Miracle that everything that exist including their programmings came out of NOTHING!?